The unanswerable question trap: it holds you by the balls

Creativity comes from the "other than conscious" activity of the brain. The part that is neither linear nor word based.

I spend a large chunk of the day allowing it to do what it does...

It is allowing whatever is going on in the brain and in the body to go on... The best way is to make yourself busy.

Washing the dishes, vacuuming, doing the laundry, walking, or playing Freecell...

One of the useless things Tai teach is what he calls armchair meditation. He wants you to do serious linear thinking... which is proven to be a lot less accurate than your other than conscious brain doing the work unattended.

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Do you know what no feelings mean? You are dead...

Do you know what no feelings mean? You are dead... While you are alive life is ups and downs, good feelings, bad feelings, neutral feelings.

The fact that you can"t feel your feelings doesn"t mean they aren"t there...


Yesterday was a weird day.

First I fell victim to taking things personally. I"d like to say it was funny, but taking things personally is not fun.

The whole day passed without a single email, and also without most of my regular clients and students visiting my site. I was checking.

Late afternoon I started to contemplate that I have lost my customers.

Then I looked if I could handle that...

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An experiment that backfired

 

I"ve done a remarkable experiment.

It"s been remarkable because I didn"t mean to do it.
It"s been remarkable because what I"ve seen.

A week ago I got a "message" from Source, whatever that is, to stop doing the 67 steps. It suggested that something else should be started, but no indication of what that "something else" was going to be.

It"s just one week after.

Nothing has replaced the practice of doing the 67 steps.

I am sitting by my computer, and suddenly the thought floats up with the all too familiar feeling: "I should die. It"s not worth living."
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Sunday Rants - Be a fly on my wall...

Sunday Rants

Want to get inside my head? What I think in my privacy? What I say to my faithful talking partner of nine years?

The calls last about 90 minutes, and you can have access to them.

Will you understand? Who knows? But they are really the politically incorrect thoughts and utterances of a "mystic", whatever that means.

Are they interesting? I think so. Some calls more than others.

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If you want to raise your vibration to feel better... you are barking up the wrong tree.

People who can"t tolerate negative, unpleasant, ambivalent feelings try to resist them, which is the surest way to make them permanent, or at least last.

What you resist persist... Carl Jung (1875-1961) says, and it is true. ((Psychologically speaking, resistance and resolution are at opposite poles. For resistance has fundamentally to do with not being able, or willing, to deal with the negative experiences in your life. And ultimately your happiness depends a lot more on handling—then letting go of—such adversities than it does, self-protectively, denying them, or fighting against them. In addition, so does (unwittingly) holding onto their associated feelings of hurt, sorrow, anxiety, or anger.

Jung was talking about his research into what he called, The Shadow. He found that patients who resisted aspects of themselves would have those aspects persist, or actually enlarge. This would draw much energy into the cycle of resistance – problem – more resistance – more problem. The constant resistance to aspects of self could fracture the psyche. His focus was to have the person be whole, rather than fragmented pieces or perfect.

Wholeness means integrated. Good, bad, and ugly are integrated into a whole.))

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=95EH9G1c_4o

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How to have the wind in your back? How to have a Silent Partner with immense power?

Yesterday"s article was the tree that fell in the forest that didn"t make a sound. No one was there to hear it. Many read it, no one heard it. No echo. ((And I predict the same will happen to this article... lol. Catch me giving a hoot...))

Why? How come?

Probably because you were reading it from the rarefied air of positivity. Or some other filter blocked the genius and the simplicity of the blueprint I was so very proud of.

I actually knew that this was the best article I have EVER written. But it made no echo.

Why? Really why?

In my last Talk to Me call I asked one of my students to get angry. And do it in any language he wishes.

Because without anger you can"t activate Ego to give you the energy you need.

It was hard for him. (can you feel that just using the word "hard" you are already turning away from this article? Did you catch it?). So he did what he always does... Pretended. In Polish. But to his dismay, I know enough Polish words to catch him.

He was begging, complaining, whining Why Why Whyyyyy?... and then used some curse words, that I also know. Sounded like a pansy... (( I was thinking the other day that pansies really got a strange and undeserved reputation.

Pansies, in Hungarian, are called the little orphans... lol.

In colloquial terms, a pansy is a sissy, a mama"s boy, a frail, unmasculine, unathletic male child who may grow up to be ::gulp:: gay. A group of young boys may say, "Let"s not ask Johnny to play football, he"s such a pansy, he"s always afraid he"s going to get hurt."

Not that there"s anything wrong with that; it"s a wise child who avoids dangerous activities, even in the face of public ridicule. But it doesn"t describe the actual pansy, which is really a robust little thing, for all its showy prettiness. Pansies are the hockey goaltenders of the plant world. You can dump them in your beds and your window-boxes and they"ll be fine, even if it snows.

So why did the sissy type of pansy get associated with the flower?

Well, it didn"t. Or at least not directly.

The insult "pansy" actually comes from the French "pensée", which is the past tense of "to think", but is also a feminine reflexive. This term came about in the mid-fifteenth century, and essentially, it was used pejoratively to describe a man who thinks too much (like a woman is the intimation). Thinking men were not brawny, active, robust men, therefore they were thought to be slightly effeminate. It wasn"t until 1929 that the term "pansy" came to mean sissy boy, or homosexual male.))

Did he release any energy? Of course not.

We live in a society where getting angry, getting mad is a politically incorrect action.

But practicing getting angry, and being appropriately angry is a very useful skill.

My landlord kept me checked for a decade with anger. It worked... I haven"t had my apartment painted, repaired, and anything breaks, I have to pay for it, because he won"t.

If you want to cause action,
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Why do we have an ego, and how can we make it really useful? You don"t have any part that is not useful!

I just had a "conversation" with a student, where I suggested that she uses ego to support her growth.

From her answers it has become clear that "using ego" is not a commonplace conversation, and that it needs instruction.

So let"s see what ego is, and what it isn"t.

Ego is a lot like a kitchen knife: you can use it for good, for useful, or for harm... kill with it. You can also use it to clean it under your nails... somewhat useful, but not the right tool...

You can also call it bad, and ban it from your house. ((It is also a lot like a nail. It concentrates the energy so it can go through thick planks of wood... or thick planks of resistance...))

I was looking for pictures for this article... in vain. All memes, all pictures said: do away with the ego, it"s bad.


You can see that this is a big conspiracy to strip you of your power. To turn you into powerless limp d-i-c-k. Without the go you are soft, with high aspirations and no power, no bones, no muscles, no strength.


Recognize yourself? Good... now get to work. Strengthen and direct ego to help you become worth a damn. It is never too late. Those who laugh last laugh best.


By the way, the people who are enlightened: got the joke played on them. Maybe that is what enlightenment is? Do you get the joke played on you?

Hey, I never said that ignorance is bliss... someone else said it. I believe that ignorance is not bliss, it is a hindrance.

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I cracked up and laughed for minutes

I feel that this is true about me... It feels that my life is 99% insulting people... and 1% of acknowledging people.

This is proportionate to their accomplishments. Sigh...
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And to up the mood a little, here are a few more funnies...


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Where did this humanity-wide phenomenon of being so weak... living like a putz come from?

Putz: putz
noun
1. a stupid or worthless person.
2. vulgar slang: a limp dick.
verb: putz; engage in inconsequential or unproductive activity.
origin: 1960s: Yiddish, literally ‘penis.’
I meant to share student essays on how self-created rules keep them alienated from themselves, keep them playing safe and dead... not joyful, not accomplished, not living a life worth living.

Then I changed my mind.

I had two calls, where I was training, each, a person to take on a practice to activate the capacity to be with unpleasant, bothersome, disturbing feelings and actions. To be a MAN...

This capacity used to be active in humans... but because of the widespread positive thinking and comfort: society now deems these situations, these feelings, these actions undesirable.

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Skeletons in your closet... suppressing them suppresses all your life

I completed the third round of the 67 steps, and my intrinsic Self told me: it is time for another kind of practice.

So I have been curiously waiting for the "thing" to show up, and today it did.

Actually it started two days ago, but I noticed it today.

I need to get on the chiropractic table periodically to adjust my hip, or it goes out of shape to the degree that my thigh bone jumps out of its socket. That is very painful.

So I got on the table today... and it"s a long process... and somehow I was looking into what started my hip pain, when it started, and what was the "original cause"... or it.

I went down memory lane and got to a period of my life I am not proud of.

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You want it effortlessly... Want thrilling, want pleasure, want abundance...

I read a lot of books. About 100 books a year. Cover to cover. I don"t subscribe to Tai"s reading method...

I left a 2000 book library when I left Hungary. that was 34 years ago.

Every book is an opportunity to shatter my view of the world. And many do. Sometimes not directly... sometimes through the effect the book has on other people.

This is what is happening with this book I am currently reading, The Upside of Your Dark Side. And previously with the book "Curious: Discover the Missing Ingredient to A Fulfilling Life"

My view of others got turned upside down... sideways... OMG. Talk about upsetting my apple cart! lol.

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The Upside of Your Dark Side... How your shadow is your biggest gift

I am reading the book "The Upside Of Your Dark Side".

It"s about living a full life, being a full person, being fully in your power.

This is not the norm of the day... We have become comfortable, and comfort means the elimination of discomfort... duh.

It sounds wonderful, but it isn"t.

It leads to an "un-full" life, where you have no tolerance, no use, no place, no room for unpleasant things, unpleasant thoughts, unpleasant feeling.

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Some weird health and eating questions that defy common knowledge... or how I got well and thin

One of my clients is unwilling to take Omega 2 capsules, because he says: "I don"t want to get fat"

I first started to experiment with the fat burning metabolism some six years ago.

I liked the idea of eating sugar free ice cream from real cream...

I packed on 30 lbs, 13-14 kilos, in 10 days.

I have been eating a stick of butter a day, fatty lamb, and eggs... for two months now.

I am dropping between half a pound to a pound a week.

I feel good. I do have some carbohydrate cravings and I satisfy it by eating peppers, and almonds. Both slightly sweet. just enough to stop the cravings. A gram here and there...

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Intelligence... what is intelligence, and how can you become more intelligent?

The quality of your life depends on your overall intelligence... intellect, body intelligence, emotional intelligence, social intelligence, the ability to lie a full life, with a range of emotions, and to conquer difficulties, adversities successfully.

You are born with certain DNA defined potentials. No doubt about that. Your ancestry and its habits lead to your DNA being allowing and restrictive, and yet, all human capacities are encoded in your DNA... but what is not needed, what was not needed by your ancestors is dimmed out... "not needed", Nature decided...

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You need to be astute to know when to pursue a goal and when to quit

My site gets a lot of hits... people looking to find out how they too could become astute...

Astute people are happier, wealthier, more popular than others.

Of course they are looking for a quick fix to what the opposite of astute is: blindness, unawareness, cluelessness, being a bumbling idiot, or not being able tell their elbow from their ass.

I am not talking down at anyone... I was looking at myself to come up with those opposites.

We are clueless some of the time, most of us: most of the time.

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More about what is using your life... prepare to be surprised

I am continuing the work of gathering all my products on one site... More than 200!

It"s amazing how much I have to offer... I am embarrassed to tell you that with more than 200 products that work, I am barely scraping by on what I earn.

But, this is how it goes.

If you don"t know what you have, if it is all over the place, if people don"t know what you have, or how to get it from you... you"ll be poor.

This applies to most of you, maybe all of you.

You have a lot more to offer than what you are offering.

Why? Mostly because what is using your life isn"t interested in you being rewarded for your talent, skills, or products.

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What causes you turmoil has a strong connection to your intrinsic Self, either positively or negatively

Continued from the previous article...

Sometimes the turmoil is caused by some inner pressure that is societally driven.

When being true to yourself is not politically correct.

Your ability, your capacity to hold controversy and ambivalence comes really handy when you have a turmoil.

Why? Because the urge to call the turmoil wrong, and the urge to look for a fix is overwhelming if you don"t have that capacity, that emotional and spiritual maturity.

And most people don"t.

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When you suddenly are in a turmoil... why do I say: Oh goodie, it"s a good sign!?

I am in a turmoil, right now. Have been for a few days... I think since Sunday night...

Some people use milder language. They say they are out of sorts... Same thing.

What happens when you go from a relative cease-fire, stand-still, contentment, to a state of "what is going on? Why do I feel so bad?"

Remember, the Selfish Gene is interested in ess... evolutionary stable strategy.
The Selfish Gene is what we could call Ego...
It is not interested in You.
It is interested in the ess... at your expense, if it must.

Doing the same thing... an unfulfilling life. Being unwell. Being dutiful. Working for a living. Wondering about. Being hooked whatever you are hooked on... all this and other ways, you can be in an unsatisfying ess.

Unsatisfying for the intrinsic Self. The Real You.

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What is using your life? The process of "wondering about" and how to stop it.

This will talk to everyone... including you.

Chances that you escaped this 0.3 percent. Slim.

OK, this is how it works in the world of the mind:


Something happens. Puzzling. Scary. Something that doesn"t make sense.

In my case, many cases! my mother calling me a whore at age three... Or not taking me to the funeral of my little sister. Or stop the conversation when I entered the room. Or beating me up for a reason invisible to me.

You don"t know why. You are young, or you just can"t see everything. Because this can happen at any age. But mostly it happens when you are little.

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What is digestion, and why you should know that, intimately?

Are you planning a cleanse? purging? A drastic change of diet? Based on what? Ignorance?

You can"t be well, you can"t be happy, you can"t be sharp if you are not well inside!

One of the reasons today"s human suffers is this: you have delegated most if not all decision making to "experts"... and you hoped that you would never have to know anything about those areas of life and you"d be safely and nicely taken care of.

A step on delegation in the 67 steps begs to differ.

Unless you have at least cursory and accurate knowledge in what you are delegating, you are setting yourself up to being the sucker...

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Case study: how to have spiritual growth with practical results

I am completing the third cycle of the 67 steps.

It"s taken me seven months and 10 days...

Lots have changed since I started.

I have, so far, dropped 23 pounds, about 10 kg. My bone structure is starting to show... starting. I didn"t diet, but I completely overhauled my diet, removed everything that doesn"t agree with my body, and added all the nutrients that are essential. I feel good, I have no cravings, and it is very sustainable... I can live like this till the day I die.

I have gone from completely sedentary, because of pain, to sprightly, as some people called me yesterday. I now only have pain when walking.

I am in better mood than ever, I laugh easily, and feel good about my life, about life itself, about being alive. Big change.
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What is the intrinsic role of commitment... making a commitment, committing to something?

Ever asked the question why people get engaged? Engaged to be married...

Engagement is making a commitment...

But commitment is tricky.

Real commitment comes from the Intrinsic Self, and you don"t need to make it. It is what the Intrinsic Self wants you to do...

Most things you call commitment, are impositions on the Intrinsic Self, impositions on you. Duty, obligation, drudgery.

They come from either an outside goal or an ego goal... and they don"t get the support of the Intrinsic Self.

The engagement period drives up the real sentiments, and if there is any honesty, will prove or disprove the authenticity of the commitment.

Authenticity means: coming from the intrinsic Self.

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Look for it where it is, not where the light is on

Everyone is looking for the lost key under the lamppost...  The Streetlight Effect ((The streetlight effect is a type of observational bias where people only look for whatever they are searching by looking where it is easiest.[1][2][3][4] The search itself may be referred to as a drunkard"s search.

Taken from an old joke about a drunkard who is searching for something he has lost, the parable is told several ways but typically includes the following details:
A policeman sees a drunk man searching for something under a streetlight and asks what the drunk has lost. He says he lost his keys and they both look under the streetlight together. After a few minutes the policeman asks if he is sure he lost them here, and the drunk replies, no, and that he lost them in the park. The policeman asks why he is searching here, and the drunk replies, "this is where the light is."
David H. Freedman apparently coined the phrase "streetlight effect," but the story and concept were used in the social sciences since at least 1964, by Abraham Kaplan, where he refers to this as "the principle of the drunkard"s search"))

Science is divided. There are the Creationists who say that god created the universe, designed everything and all we can do is go with it.

And then there are the scientists who say: man is a machine, life is an accident, and their inquiry and methods are consistent with this context.

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Capacities are like doors: they can be closed, they can be open.

Closed door, closed capacity: that is clear. No traffic is possible. Open, that is a whole other ball game: the door can be open anywhere from 1% to 100%

I activated the Unconditional Love capacity: the degree to which the intrinsic Self and the invented, the fake self can interact and bring peace, joy, fulfillment, creativity, curiosity to one"s life.

Watching people, I am more than certain that they think: I"ve done it...

But...

My capacity is 70% open... Not 100%. I have done this activation a 100 times. I have the activator in every glass of water I drink. And in five years I got to 70%.

Matsa, my very first student is at 50%.

And another old student of mine is at 10%.

What is the difference?

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The inner jail keeper...

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The reward system that robbed you of your Self... and made you a pig that doesn"t want to fly
As a Jew, I have, firmly rooted, a conviction that I am a chosen one. Not The Chosen One, but A chosen one.

This may be the secret to my attitude that I hear guidance in so many things.

And because I expect guidance, it shows up.

This may be the secret...

It is Monday morning, and of course, the Monday Morning Memo has arrived.

This morning I chose to listen to the memo, instead of reading it.

The memo was dramatized, much like a radio advertising... Radio advertising I haven"t heard in many years.
http://goodies.wizardacademypress.com/MMM161017-RightWay2Criticize.mp3
I was cringing. I hated it. But it made me think:

What people are saying isn"t so much in the words, but it the attitude that is fueling them.
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The real reason why you are not happy, not fulfilled, not peaceful... and how to turn it around, maybe

If you found out that all the wrong turns, mistakes you made in your life... probably thousands, you made them because you didn"t see what there was to see.
A number of years ago, one leader in Landmark Education said: Most people either don"t sign up or quit as soon as they see it.

See what? You ask...

See that the solution to the issues of their lives, the decisions that would have taken them to success were there, but they didn"t see them.

I didn"t see them, and you didn"t see them.

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How to master your attention... because wherever attention goes, energy flows

First off, let me set something straight: mind has nothing to do with attention. Though has nothing to do with attention.

Attention is an energy, and it"s NOT operated by the mind or your thoughts. Not and never...

Never mistake mindlessness for mindfulness. "We have to move from passive absorption to active awareness. We have to engage."

Everybody wants a silent mind. So much so that they consider being unconscious a blissful state. But going unconscious, being unconscious, is not the purpose of training yourself to have control over your mind...

What you train is your attention.

Attention is, surprisingly, an energetic phenomenon... I see it as a vector: it has a base, and it has a direction. It has a certain energetic, penetrative quality.

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They tell you to read... so you go and read junk! What does it do to your life?

The Belly-Fat of Ignorance
If you feed your body processed food... you get belly fat, sluggish, and your body won"t be a fine-tuned machine, serving you.

If you feed your brain with processed information, your brain gets the same way: clogged, filled with junk... huge belly fat of ignorance.

What is processed information? It"s second hand information, Tree of Knowledge, filtered through someone else"s brain, for a purpose...

In food you need unprocessed food: so you can be sure what you are eating is an original. You process it and make your own body from it.

In information, finding the very few people with Tree of Life knowledge will give you unprocessed information that will nourish you.

Nearly everything you find freely on the internet is processed information.

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Look for guidance in the true and tried: The Art of War can be said is the Art of Life

I watched this hour and a half long documentary on Sun Tzu"s lessons, and real historical wars America fought inside and outside of America.

I wept throughout.

I value, overall, human life. Even if it is the life of someone I don"t like, don"t respect, or who is the enemy.

So it was painful.

If you are one of those who doesn"t have the stomach for real life, who only wants to know about the nice things in life... You are stupid. Life is life, people are people, and life is war.

Whether you like it or not.

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October special... Can the Power of this special day break through your resistance?

New experiment: Can the spiritual power of the Days of Power be used to power an activation?
Activation of a spiritual capacity?

I am thinking of combining the Day of Power on Sunday, October 16, with the Unconditional Love Activator live activation.

If you have the activator already, then you are welcome to the call. If you don"t: you can buy any version between now and the session, and be eligible to be on the call.
Here is how the call will go:

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How to use Charlie Munger quotes to get insight that are totally hidden from your view

“The iron rule of nature is: you get what you reward for. If you want ants to come, you put sugar on the floor.”
~ Charles T. Munger

Let"s reverse engineer this quote.

You could look at it straight... and see nothing.

You look at it in reverse, and a whole world opens up.

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Are you tough enough to deserve the good life?

"To get what you want, you have to deserve what you want. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward a whole bunch of undeserving people."
I am continuing the inquiry into curiosity... the intrinsic motivation of humans... how you lost it, how to rekindle it... and what might be in the way.

I am going to use myself, because curiosity is so rare, and so relatively unconscious, unobserved, and unacknowledged, that I don"t even know who I could ask about their own experience... Let"s hope that this state of affairs will change soon.

The hectic, information driven culture in which we live, where everyone considers themselves eligible to post on the internet and be heard, where people talk louder and louder, where people have extra money to spend on stuff that is not needed...
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To the degree that you are curious to the degree you have a Self

Curiosity

Remember when I told you, in an earlier article, that the opposite of fear is curiosity?

Curiosity is that, and more. ((The important thing is not to stop questioning… Never lose a holy curiosity.
Albert Einstein))

I have found that curiosity is the main component in aliveness... so it is also the opposite of dead, deadened, alienated, dull, and foggy.

It is also the main sparker of intelligence.

We are all born curious. Most of us kill our curiosity. Curiosity, what I call curiosity, is open ended.

Finding THE answer to a question is not the curiosity I am talking about.

Thinking that you need answers is the number one killer of curiosity, of aliveness, of intelligence.

Our parents, teachers, like us not curious, not intelligent, so they kill our curiosity.

At least seemingly.

You have the spark... buried, covered up with deadness, but it is there.

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Spirituality uses different tools than the mind, the world

Spirituality, finding your way, finding your self, the path to living a life worth living use different tools from science, schools, the mind, and ordinary thinking.

Not just different tools, but tools used differently.

If you haven"t found what you are seeking... if your seeking has taken you on a wild goose chase only to find nothing of value for yourself... then you owe it to yourself to learn to use the tools and to use them in new ways.



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Apple Cider Vinegar and other interesting stuff

Like so many things, guidance is a blessing... and a curse.

So is coaching, by the way.

You can"t catch what you can"t see, and you can"t correct what you can"t catch...

So, this past week has been, thank you for asking, pure hell... lol.

Why, what went wrong? It would be shorter to list what didn"t... lol

Now, apart from a 10-minute period, while I was on the phone with an overly tired and uncaring support staff this morning... I have been having fun.

Yes. Challenges? Yes. Hard issues? Yes. Expensive... Yeah.

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If you love yourself you love your life.

Good enough, the Pareto principle... how you get tripped up by the numbers

80% of your results come from 20% of your efforts.

This translates to a lot of mischief.

I just read an article, OK, I read 20% of it... lol... about China, and about chabuduo... that is Chinese for Good Enough.

The problem is standards.

Your 100%, the Chinese 100%, and my 100% are not the same.

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Want to find your self? Express it? Be true to it? Be motivated by it?

I started to read the book by Edward Deci, "Why we do what we do. Understanding self-motivation".

This is the first book, that I know, that defines self the way, or similarly the way I do...

To become a person, to have autonomy, self-determination, self-expression, integrity, self-motivation, the most important job is to find the self, by distinguishing what is the driver of all your actions, whether it is inner or outer.

And if it is inner... is it the self, or is it the "not-self"?

Greed, narcissism, hate... area inner motivators, but they are all the not-self. So are all the "negative" emotions, like frustration, haste, the desire to fix, to punish, to suffer... etc.

Your language would indicate that all that comes from within is the self, but your actions don"t indicate the same. You call all that is within "me" or "myself", but your language is sloppy: you lack distinction and differentiation.

As long as there is a discrepancy between your actions and your words, the driver isn"t the self, it is the "not-self"... ego, cultural conditioning, mind, genes... but not the self.

At this point only half percent of humanity has a sense of self, one out of 200.

These rare people are busy doing what the self wants them to do... so none of my students are part of the half percent.

Just like Cinderella needed to separate the wheat from the chaff, you need to do that too.

What you are left with is the Self.

Here is a little insight how one writer has decyphered and separated self from not-self:
You know what else is a mystery? My daughter. When she was born, she was a cipher. An unreadable blob of so-soft-it’s-almost-edible flesh. When she was about four months old, though, she became a very effective communicator. When she was hungry, she’d shriek like a banshee. When she was tired, she also shrieked. When she was bored or physically uncomfortable, she shrieked. She wasn’t crying. She was shrieking, and it was louder, more high-pitched and more sudden than any other sound I’d ever heard a human make. It was painful to the ears and the heartstrings, which made it a remarkably effective form of communication.

She shrieked to tell us just four things – fatigue, hunger, discomfort, boredom. So I was left wondering a great deal about her inner life. When I hold her in front of a mirror, what does she think? When she is gazing into space, how is she processing all that she has been exposed to? And when she shrieks particularly loudly, is she more upset? Or is she just experimenting with varying her mode of communication?

I don’t think I’ll ever know the answers to these questions. But, luckily, her psyche will become more and more transparent as each month goes by, because in each month she will become more and more interested in books. Our selection of books, from earliest childhood through to the ends of our lives, provides a window into our secret souls. And children, who (necessarily, for survival purposes) are mos
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It is exactly 57 times more complicated than that...

The current state of science, knowledge is "one size fits all".

Just do this and this and this... and you"ll be happy, wealthy, healthy, and in love.

Every profession has their "this is the way, this is the truth" postage stamp size area where they dance...

The medical establishment, pharmaceuticals, psychologists, religion, education, and even the "spiritual" or "alternative" people.

I am a people watcher. I watch their behavior. I watch what they welcome, love, what they tolerate, what they avoid.

I remember I was about 30, and I said:
this is exactly 57 times more complicated than that.

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The "seven" habits of highly unsuccessful people

As you know it is the 50-year anniversary of my high school graduation.

I had a bunch of extraordinary folks as classmates: they have been meeting every year for the past ten years... and this year they decided to redo the yearbook, which is not a book in Hungary: it is a big board with everyone"s picture and their names.

In addition they decided to ask for a report from each student, to document their 50 years since graduation. I sent in my report, and I made a new picture with my webcam.

I received the report about their last 50 years, from 22 of my still living 33 class mates from the best high school in Hungary. (The school was so good, they wanted me to leave, because I wasn"t good enough, at age 16. My father had to bribe the school to allow me to stay.)
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Taking a multi vitamin... designer supplements? Calcium? is it good for you?

Rarely, (hailing mostly from other countries,) I find people who have all the 90 daily essential nutrients supplied in their diet. Amazing.

Now, the craze of taking supplements, the MLM (Network Marketing) type of sales systems gets to these people through friends and family, and they start taking "designer" supplements, and suddenly they don"t feel well.

They are entering the Western world"s unhealthy habit of trying to fix something that is not broken.

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Where do your questions come from?

I am asked questions, all the time.

Asking questions is a sign. What kind of questions... that is yet another sign.

And then asking intelligent questions... well, that is quite another matter.

I am going to my memory now, and say what I retained about questions from the book Curious... that the better questions, the more intellectual questions one asks the higher level of evolution the person is.

But no matter what question you ask, the answer, if it sticks strictly to the question, will be on the same level where you asked it from.

That is a problem...
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10 ways to be boring... Are you boring?

I was lead to an old article of mine. Controversial, and I bet not very useful.

I wrote it four and a half years ago. I have grown a lot since then.

In the article I was attempting to guide you to detect truth value, estimate the vibration teachers and products... without muscle testing.

In the article I was making the same mistake I have been making, all my life: supposing that you can see patterns, that you can see behind the curtain, that you can see more than you actually can.

Emotional intelligence ((the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one"s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically.)) , seeing emotional patterns, being able to detect lies, not by rigid made up rules, like in law enforcement, but to actually see something that another is trying to hide, or someone trying to make airs, or such... requires a lot higher emotional and overall intelligence than most of us have.

Being able to sense what the other"s intentions are... or even to see your own intentions, it is hard.

But how do you develop this emotional intelligence?

Certainly not through movies.

The other day there was a Netflix outage, and I went to Amazon streaming videos... I am a premium customer...

They had a series, The Man in the High Castle, and watched two episodes. Then I decided to buy the book instead.

I read the reviews of most everything before I buy them. I only read the bad reviews. There were many. They all were bad because someone watched the movie first, and compared to that, the book was boring, dense, nonsensical. Nothing was happening.

This is the kind of book that teaches emotional intelligence. Where the things that matter only happen inside.

You want to learn, through these books, that people think differently from you. It starts the process of taking you out from behind your eye balls.

We all need it, and need it desperately.

Reading books with a lot of actions are actually harmful in this regard.

If you can fall in love with looking the inner happenings, then your whole world can get elevated.

We all want to understand, we all want clarity, we all want certainty.

Without a high emotional intelligence it"s impossible. Without it you are boring, and stupid... because you don"t understand.

If we still lived in hunter-gatherer societies, you would be the dead ones...

Unaware, locked into a limited perspective, thinking that is all there is, the only way anyone can look.

Watching movies will not add emotional intelligence skills to your skill sets, because you cannot see and hear the thought process, the internal dialog the person is having with themselves.

And here is another reason you may want to raise your emotional intelligence:

People who see things only from their own vantage point are boring...

And being boring is not what you want to be... at least I hope.



10 habits of extremely boring people
We fear boredom — that we
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What the Light taught me about YOLO

It"s been an interesting week.

Ever since I"ve started to download the energy of the Days of Power, I"ve been wondering how I am going to know it"s working... how it will manifest, practically, in my life.

Whenever something new comes in, my imagination goes to the known, the familiar, and I guess that is how the human mind works.

So I had no idea what may happen, what could happen, given the energy.

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Taking a break for rest... does it mean you are off-track? That you stopped?

I watched and followed the first Metabolic Prime workout videos.

He said something interesting that I want to expand on: resting is part of working out.

Now, I don"t know much about working out, but I do have some experience... This article won"t be about working out though...

I live on the top of a hill. When I moved here 13 years ago, I could walk down, around the hill, and up again, on a different street, in 12 minutes. I clocked it.

Today, due to aging, pain, and lack of exercise, it takes me 3-4 times longer. A big deal.

So when I signed up to the senior exercise class, I was praying that I could get back up the hill, on my own power... but took money with me for a cab for security.

This was three weeks ago.
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Metabolic Prime review -- can exercise alone make you lose weight?

OK. I just spent about an hour destroying my vibration...

What I am willing to do for you?!

OK, what the f... happened, right?

Well, easy.

I got an email from Bill Harris of Holosync fame. The email is about a system that promises to activate your youngifying genes... your metabolically active tissues (????) and it takes only 60 minutes a week... short bursts of workout. ((Here is Bill"s email...
Sophie,

Here"s something for you if you"re struggling to lose weight, based on some quite interesting new research.

I keep up on the latest information regarding diet, health, and exercise, mainly because...

...I want to stay healthy.

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The skill to identify and the skill to overcome your dominant way you avoid to grow

It"s eerie how soul correction that is calculated from your date of birth and zodiac signs, calculated from just your birthday can be so very accurate in their core.

By core I mean your base nature. What you are inclined to do, the attitude you are inclined to have.
My horoscope for the next weeks or so... by Rob Brezsny:
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Pike"s Peak is a 14,115-foot mountain in Colorado. It"s not a simple task to trek to the top. Unless you"re well-trained, you might experience altitude sickness. Wicked thunderstorms are a regular occurrence during the summer. Snow falls year-round. But back in 1929, an adventurer named Bill Williams decided the task of hiking to the summit wasn"t tough enough. He sought a more demanding challenge. Wearing kneepads, he spent 21 days crawling along as he used his nose to push a peanut all the way up. I advise you to avoid making him your role model in the coming weeks, Virgo. Just climb the mountain. Don"t try to push a peanut up there with your nose, too.
As you know, or should know, I don"t teach anything I haven"t tested myself... and mostly on myself.
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Slow down. Most things, maybe everything that is valuable is invisible when things are fast.

The psychologist, Paul Ekman. who discovered the micro expressions slowed down the film to see the emotion that gave the suicidal woman"s despair away.

Slowing down your reactions will show you your real emotions... so you know, so you know what you are running away from.

Slowing down you may be able to find your strait and narrow... your path to your own happiness and fulfillment.

Fast isn"t going to cut it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_ojT2k6Cwss
The fence that is built fast will fall down fast... and it is true for everything.

And interestingly everyone is looking for fast, push button, rapid... and everyone is unhappy. No accidents here.

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Steal back your future

What are you carrying on that weighs you so down that you can never ascend? Or climb the Tree of Life, until you put it down?

Have you noticed that making changes, doing new things, going to places unfamiliar is difficult, near impossible?

Consider that you are dragging a persona with you, that is what makes the going so encumbered...

A coaching client of mine began to build her persona in an incident that happened when she was four years old. There was an escaped serial killer on the loose in her neck of the woods, and her mother left her in charge of her little sister who was in a cast. There was a knock on the front door, and she tried to drag the cast (heavy) down the steps into the basement, and also hold a kitchen knife to protect her...

Can you see the persona she built? "I am supposed to do the impossible."

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Experience junkie? Spending all your money on courses?

I used to be a course junkie. I have recovered... This morning"s incident is a good indicator...
I found myself this morning unable to connect. Connect to Source...

When I closed my eyes, I was buzzing...

I muscle tested: Am I tired? The answer was "yes". Shall I rest? The answer was "yes/no" Shall I meditate? The answer was "yes" Shall I meditate for five minutes? "yes"

I closed my eyes, and within seconds I had this huge upheaval, with lots of tears.

Now, what the heck is that about?

I didn"t forget that I have been downloading the Day of Power energy over the past 36 hours... and whatever is there, spiritually, can spill out, and be gone... really fast.

I don"t care what was in that sob. It"s gone. I also don"t look at my poop and wonder what was in it... unless I do... lol.
But you? are you still a junkie?

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Do you have the moral right to impose your belief system on your children, on your spouse, on your students?

It is Saturday afternoon and Netflix is down... and half of the United States is scrambling, wondering what they should do with their lives. lol...

I have been downloading the Spiritual Energy that is available on this Day of Power, several times today, and it is the nicest energy I have ever encountered...

It"s not physical. It is all spiritual energy, the energy you need to grow, spiritually and as a person, the energy you need to engage in serious self-examination... So here is mine.

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