Tuesday, April 24, 2018

One of the hoaxes that have been perpetuated on people is muscle testing.

   Why would anyone believe that you can simply test your muscles about any topic, mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical: it boggles the mind.

I first noticed that simple muscle testing is totally and utterly unreliable, when I was trying to pick a hand position when I was doing The Healing Codes.


Eventually concluded that I make a better decision about that by flipping a coin, or just doing any odd hand position. This last one proved a winner: it turned out that the hand positions don"t matter... what matters is looking at the issue underneath the spiritual blockage.

If you think that this is a harmless hoax... you should have to talk to people who are no puffed up with pride how wonderful they are, how they have this archangel walk with them, or some other absolute untruth.

My second time to suspect that muscle testing is harmful unless it is truthful is at the chiropractor.

My chiropractor habitually muscle tested his clients and advised them to take Magnesium for leg cramps. I also muscle tested them and they lacked Potassium, not Magnesium.

Adding Magnesium destroyed their health... Yes, you need Magnesium, but you need a whole lot more Potassium in supplement form.

So either his muscle testing was stuck on Magnesium, my chiropractor"s, or he was simply lying. And if he was inaccurate or lying in this: what else was he lying in?


Your body can only answer things that are your body related. Not mentioning the fact, that the answer relates to that very moment. You cannot ask your body: is this butter good for me, and expect an accurate response. The body will answer the question: is this butter, right now, a good thing for me... But you interpret the answer as a future answer... the body doesn"t know about the future... The body is always in the present moment. Moment to moment to moment.

I started to get reliable answers to my questions when I connected to Source, and I asked Source, not my body. In that context my body became a sign language, the answer came from Source.


Source comprehends complex questions, and can answer a question about anything you can connect to.

Ideas is a tricky thing. Your level of clarity will be a strong factor there: you likely have low clarity with ideas... and therefore your answer, even if you connect to Source, will come to answer a question you didn"t mean to ask.

In my conversation with people I have been testing their understanding of words, and it"s disappointingly low. Consistent with the clarity numbers in the Starting Point Measurements.

But Sophie, haven"t you been teaching to become a seasoned umpire: it ain"t nothing till you call it?


Very good question. I have. But things don"t change with you saying what you are saying, only the interpretation. The ball doesn"t move on a different trajectory because the seasoned umpire said: ball. Same trajectory, different judgment!

You are free to say whatever... reality won"t follow suit. Only what you say about it... and your actions following the "speaking".

For example if your rookie umpire, the resident umpire in your head says: I can"t, the seasoned umpire can override it, and say: yes you can and you will. And then you either will or won"t...

You didn"t get smarter. You didn"t get more prepared. You didn"t get more skilled. You respond to a different interpretation of reality... and then either succeed or not.


Your feelings will respond.

But if someone says: You are the best human alive. God walks with you. Nothing can harm you... and you consider that a sage saying by the seasoned umpire, you"ll get killed, you"ll get shunned, you"ll get lazy. And very very very miserable.

Back to muscle testing: if the muscle test says that your IQ is 500... or your vibration is 550... or some other measurable but hard to prove aspect, your behavior will change, and you"ll start walking as if you sh*t didn"t stink... and you"ll be sorely disappointed.

I have many students who practiced connecting to Source. I have found that one of them, ONE, can reliable test something that she can touch. Ideas? She cannot. Not reliably.

And if the question is dubious, Source answers the "this very instance" question, and even she, the ONE won"t know what question was answered.

I have found that the unhappiest people are the ones who have a big gap between their puffed up, delusional "I" and their real "I". The two selves everyone has.

I have also found that the people who escape into their Plato"s Cave, the mind, and live out whole scenarios of life, are very miserable too. Because life happens on the outside, and every minute of every hour you spend with fantasizing, gets you more hooked on unreality, and prevents you from being in reality.

The main job of the seasoned umpire is to create your beingness, not to lie about where you are.

The moment you declare yourself, for example, to be generous, you have to start dealing with your miserliness, your competitive nature. There is no generosity outside of the straight and narrow.


If you do generous looking acts but are competitive and want to be above other people, your act will serve desire for the self alone: you"ll want to be above the person you seemingly were generous with.

Parents do that. Spouses do that.

Real generosity thinks not of what you"ll get out of what you are doing, but of how you can allow another to shine.

The world we live in, the current humanity, is fake. And the number of people who don"t have an agenda is so small, I can count the number on one hand.

Please know that about yourself and about the people who you "hire" to be your seasoned umpire.

They will lie to you because it is in their self-interest. 100% of the time.

Honestly, because you are just like they are, you expect it, and you earned it.

What defines anything is its boundaries. Not what"s inside, but what is outside. The "not that".

That is what you want to be masterful at. That is how you can increase your vocabulary clarity. If you add a thousand "yes" values to anything, like generosity, your clarity will still stay low. Only when you increase the number of "no"s", the stuff that is NOT generosity, will you increase your clarity.

And because life seems to be truly behaving in agreement with The Anna Karenina principle, if you want to be more effective, happier, grow in all areas, especially physically (get healthier, have more energy, live longer), emotionally (react less and feel more), intellectually (see more and be more astute), and spiritually (be able to be in tune with all of it), you need to practice the "no" method.

Muscle test is the opposite... it takes you away from the strait and narrow... and ultimately leads you to deteriorate in all areas, physically, emotionally, intellectually and spiritually.

I know you don"t like it. It seems like I am tearing down your delusions... the nice world you built for yourself in your head... But really, how is it working for you?

PS: Suddenly I get a lot of requests to muscle test people"s eating style.

Some time ago... about 10 years ago... I paid $97 to get my eating style from Human Design Institute. I still have the recording.

It was in the ballpark... but it wasn"t accurate. How do I know? I experimented with it.

The woman said: the eating style names have changed since 2007... that I was a Separator. And then he explained that I can eat any single food, as long as two foods don"t meet in my mouth.

That wasn"t accurate for my body. I cannot be well, even if I have an hour long break between two single ingredient foods.

I have, since then, muscle tested that the accuracy of the Human Design method is 20%, meaning that 80% of what they say is NOT accurate.

My eating style muscle testing accuracy is 91%. Meaning: there is a 9% chance that it"s not accurate what you buy from me. The error is coming from the categorization... there is a style they, the Human Design people haven"t considered.

I used to use only three categories: separator, cat and dog. It sounds so unsophisticated, but the results were phenomenal.

The Human Design categories are more sophisticated. If I combine the two systems, there are people who need to eat by their appetite, not by the clock, or by feeling hungry. Other people need to select food by taste, yet others by smell (the cat eating style). My hunch is that when a food tastes good to you, you know if it is right for you to eat then and there...

I am a strictly by appetite person. And I get sick, physically and especially mentally when I mix foods in my meal.

Interestingly most of my students are like me... Maybe because misery is most apparent for "MY" type of eating styles? Oh well.

Event calendar for the rest of April

this week has a lot going on:
  1. Talk to me. A free webinar. Ask questions. Ask me to clarify. Ask me to teach. Wed, Apr 25 4 pm.

  2. Days of Power: April 29. I"ll upload the recording as soon as i download the energy and it will be posted on the subscribers" site

  3. How you block money: your money attitude April 30 2-5 pm EST free workshop. Recording will be available for people participating on the whole call

Monday, April 23, 2018

Can depression be alleviated with coaching? A coach reports...

Life wants more life... and when it can"t... when it is not forthcoming, it puts you into depression.


I had a small private workshop yesterday to test out a methodology that works for me to unstuck me every time.

Without a reliable, count-onable, potent method to unstuck yourself, you may get stuck in misery, inactivity, depression, for a long time.

What moves life, what gives a sense of living, is movement. Upward movement.

What many of us experience is deadness, or the dread of downward movement. It feels that movement, action, is futile

The depression resulting can last days, weeks, months... Depression recreates its cause... no movement.


  We can call it "blah"... or The Blahs... it is all the same. Or you like to call it melancholy? Fine.

The purpose I had in mind is to get people unstuck... get to a place where they can move, or at least see that they can move.

I have been depressed about 40% of my life. I don"t know about you, but that is an awful track record. Deep hopelessness, with no end in sight.

The hallmark of depression is a sense that it"s not worth it. That no matter what I do won"t bring a better future.


Weak and short periods of trying to move... but it always ends in disappointment, failure, falling back to no movement.

I learned and mastered a methodology of getting out of depression... this deadness, and I wanted to see if it can be taught.

I am a coach first and a teacher second.

Before anything can be taught it has to work when I do it to you.


If it doesn"t dislodge you when I do it to you, then it won"t be worth teaching: the technique may work for me, but it is personal.

So I wanted to find out... I wanted to find out if it is worth teaching it, if it really works for anybody.

The three participants in this call share the tendency to not be in movement, to have an experience of low level, and sometimes high level depression.

All three were also in my free workshop on Monday, so this common experience will also help me see clues.

About the technique: The technique, as all my techniques, all my teaching, all the moves I teach, work with the invisible.


What is the invisible?

The invisible is the part of all knowledge that is invisible to you. It may be visible to me, to your mother, to your boss, but it is invisible to you.

Here is an example of mine: Back in 1987, the great stock market crash created a situation where suddenly people were let go of their jobs... I was an architect, I was let go.

I had not reserves, I needed a job urgently to eat.

I had a coach at the time, and he suggested that I reinvent myself, and then practice being that new person to be more attractive, more hire-able.

I invented myself as Brilliant and a Contribution.

I had a job interview scheduled for next morning, so I practiced all night. In front of the bathroom mirror.

The goal was to see the person in the mirror as brilliant and a contribution.

Instead what I saw is a person full of contempt, arrogant, and needy. Bad combination.

I didn"t feel contemptuous, or arrogant, I was needy. And desperate. And hopeless. I could not see why anyone would hire me.

It took me all night to see what made me look having contempt. I habitually licked my teeth (and still do) as a nervous tick.
I saw that if I can control that behavior, I actually look self confident, kind, personable, and maybe even smart?

I got the job. And I learned about the invisible.

The invisible has the roots, the causes of phenomena that without knowing it, makes no sense to you, and renders you ineffective in the world.

One of the symptoms of ineffectiveness is no movement... and thus depression.


With that said: the technique"s job is to take you to nothing... a space of no thing... a space of empty... a space of level ground, where whatever put you into no movement is not. What you have is you, and a sense that you can move... if you choose. None of what put you to the state of no movement. And then you make a small, doable promise that can put you in movement again.
In 1987, looking and talking to the person in the mirror allowed me to see what other people see... but would be invisible to me. That I was frowning.

To translate this to something more reliable, and faster, the technique involves a conversation that goes a lot deeper than a normal conversation.

We are using the distinctions from my teaching: the voices that are not you, and the Playground method...

1. The voices:


I have written tons of articles about it: it is the Amish Horse Training, where you desensitize yourself to what you hear in your head, or the emotions that come up: they are all the voices that say those horrible things about you. They are not you, and they are not your friend. They are short-sighted, opinionated, vindictive... and you need to let them do whatever they are doing, and not allow them to get to you.

My successful students can say: it is not me... therefore I can ignore it.

There are many voices, some you can hear, some you can"t. But you know they are speaking because you have fear, shame, regret, resistance, and other horrid emotions come up. All emotions are marker feelings.
A marker feeling is an automatic response to a set of words...

They are connected like the front of your hand to the back of your hand. There is nothing that you can do about it. Resistance is futile.

The only thing that is effective to protect you from the marker feelings is to declare that it"s not yours.

I know you are feeling it. But it came from a voice that is not you... so it is part of the environment, not part of you.

It takes a lot of practice to create this separation, and create autonomy from the voices. But without it you cannot even be a person... you are like a dog wagged by the tail... not pleasant.

2. The Playground method is easier to explain:


you look at what masquerades as reality, and you separate what is real from what you added: the story, the interpretation, the meaning.

If you do this well, you can get to empty and meaningless... using Landmark Education"s terminology. The space is empty of drama, "just the facts, madam" and the facts carry no meaning.
This empty space is the launching pad for movement.

I like to call it the space for starting starting.

Every movement has this stage... that everyone ignores.

And this leads us to see what meanings, what stories, what interpretations stopped these students cold on their track, and push them into depression.
1. Always/never

I will never succeed... I always do this... etc. These are the voices accepted as facts. They lack any insight, any details, any definition. They come and wound... Typical voices behavior.

2. No clarity, no process


You cannot act unless you are clear about the process. You can"t even start starting... you are paralyzed. It is so normal, you never suspect that you got tripped up by that.

In my experience, no one bothers to point you to the first step, except some exceptional teachers. So, without being pointed to the first step, you think you are supposed to have a home run... and, or course you can"t.

We are socialized through schooling where there is a curriculum. So we actually never had to learn anything on our own... and consequently hardly anyone I know knows how to start something.

Most likely one of the reason I"ve spent so much of my life in depression is this weakness in creating a process: do this first, do this second... etc.


I am still weak at that. And because doing recorded courses takes me to this place... I don"t know what to do!... I hate watching instructional videos, and waste my money on many courses that I don"t do because I don"t know how to start, and how to get into motion.

This seems to be a universal issue.

The truth is that you could start anywhere, but humans want to do the right thing... and the fear of doing the wrong thing is a paralyzer agent.

We ended the mini workshop with making small promises.

Looking back, I can see that I made a mistake there: I allowed two of the three participants to set a first action too far out, instead of finding something they could do right now.

Looking what would be the best structure inside which I can both teach and provide the assistance, I am thinking: a mastermind group with instruction...

What has made me depression-free for the past 10 years is a mastermind partner I talk to every Sunday. Almost every Sunday I manage to get to that magical empty and meaningless space... And then I can look to see what action can return me to the world of the living... into movement.

We can say that for humans movement means alive... and no movement means dead.


Return someone into movement is the biggest expression of love and caring i can imagine.
PS: Can this methodology work when you have a loss?

In 1995 my mother died. I fell into a month long depression...

In a conversation with a coach I managed to go through the steps I teach above, and could see that the depression was started and kept in place with self-blame, a sense of regret, a sense of loss of a hope. The loss of a future that probably would not have happened anyway. And yet the sense of loss was very real.

For the first time every I needed to deal with the reality that my mother wanted to do nothing with me... that we were strangers. And I was alone in the world... unless I create relationships with strangers.

In that one conversation with that coach I snapped out of it, and could resume life... Losing a month is difficult. I can see that had I had my weekly calls established then, I would not have lost so much time, so much money, so much credibility by the inactivity caused by the depression.

Now, here is the interesting bit: The coach wasn"t coaching me. My Sunday mastermind partner doesn"t EVER coach me.
Because i know what the steps are, I only need a pair of ears that doesn"t want to help, doesn"t want to console me, doesn"t want to fix anything.

Fixing comes from "there is something wrong here..." or "there is something wrong with you".

The methodology above is effective because it happens inside the space where there is nothing wrong with you, or with anyone or anything.

Wrong is an interpretation, and therefore it is relegated to the "not reality" area... it is removed from reality...

You cannot get to empty and meaningless through wrong, you cannot get to empty and meaningless through fixing.
Nothing to fix.

This is the most revolutionary concept, and the most freeing too.

In the mastermind I envision, the one person who needs to get clear... who needs to get out of no movement, already knows the steps, he/she only needs the other person to witness.

No junior coaches are allowed...

That will weed out all the people who want to coach because it makes them feel better about themselves... makes them feel ABOVE other people.

PPS: I read somewhere, maybe 30 years ago, that depression is like being in a dense fog where you can"t see where you are going... so you don"t move.


This is as good an interpretation as any. The technology is used in the coaching yesterday can be seen from that vantage point too... pulling apart the fog-curtain, so you can see far enough to start starting... and get into movement. Movement is life.

PPPS: This methodology, creating a clearing (as in a clearing in a forest) works even if you are not depressed.


When you remove the cobweb (aka fog) from your view, you make better decisions... which is always a good thing

PPPS: People who have a very high desire measure, get mostly trapped by the unclarity, by wanting to go for a home run, but not having a path.

Occasionally their desire is unreasonable... but even if it isn"t, they cannot see, by virtue of the desire trap, the small steps that make it possible for them to start starting. The methodology is a perfect tool for these people as well.

Sunday, April 22, 2018

How does your speaking create reality... a reality you don"t want?

I am a watcher. I watch people... I keep a tab on them. I am like a watchdog.

I watch about 30 people. Why? I keep my finger on the pulse of the world this way.

One of these people has been my hero for about a decade. I won"t say his name.

Recently he got married. His vibration promptly dropped 120 points. His reality is now shaped by the new wife and her speaking.

Interestingly while they just lived together, she held her tongue. But once there was a ring on her finger, she started to talk.

What alerted me is the sharp change in his business behavior, in the new way he runs his business. He has gone from hard working, high vibration, high dynamic behavior to someone playing with his kaka. Playing small. Not inspiring to me. If he continues this way, he will have no business.

In this article I will look at this phenomenon... It is not rare, in fact every time someone forms a new alliance, they change... and so far they mostly change to less. I"ll help you look at the principle.


One of the most important sentences for my personal evolution has been: Every speaking is committing.


The Communication Course leader who said that 30 years ago, mis-spoke from time to time... she complained, or passed an opinion. Then she caught herself, and said: Universe, please cancel that!

She said that every speaking puts a lie (a promise a commitment is a lie until you fulfill on it!) in the Universe. It is your job to deliver on it...

Yesterday"s article, maybe, didn"t make sense, but with this addition, I hope I can round it out, so it can become one of the most important articles in your personal evolution.

If every speaking is committing, then every speaking that says "it is", "I am", "I want", "I need", are commitments you send out into the universe. These are declaration, commitments.

You speak this way, unsuspecting then watch life turn into crap: your integrity plummet. You didn"t know that every speaking is committing.

You didn"t mean it as commitment, thinking that commitment needs to be conscious and intentional.

But the Witness, and the Self is watching on the inside hears every speaking as commitment.

One moment you say "I am miserable", the other moment you say "I want to be happy", or "I am stupid", or "I can"t." Or "I need to do this and this and have that and that, before I can be happy."

We all have two selves inside, the one that listens is increasingly confused.

Integrity is the relationship between the two selves. If it works, your life works. If the two selves in harmony with each other, you are at peace with the world, you like yourself, and you love your life.


But when I measure people"s integrity, it is less than 10%. You are not at peace with yourself. You don"t like yourself. And your life doesn"t work.

60% of this misery is caused by this sloppy speaking. The words that slip through your mouth. I am so miserable! I am tired! I can"t! I want to be happy! Baaah, baaah, baaah.

Which means that only 40% of the unworkability comes from other aspects of violating your integrity, sloppy work, cutting corners, disempowering context. You lying. You stealing. You not being true to yourself.

Every time you speak, there is yet another lie out in the universe.

Some people lie more than others. Some people are more unaware than others.

I think you can see that T. Harv Eker"s single most valuable sentence really applies to this area.

He said: Whenever life doesn"t work, there is something you don"t know.


Yet, you behave as if you knew pretty much everything, don"t you?

You, your parents, your peers, everyone speaks as if speaking were cheap. You are thoughtless, and casual with your word, and then you are surprised that life doesn"t work.

Remember the three umpires and their answer to the question: how do you call ball or strike? the rookie says: I call it the way it is. The journeyman says: I call it the way I see it. The seasoned umpire say: "It ain"t nothing till I call it"

For the rookie to become a journeyman, he would need to say: It ain"t necessarily so. To soften the rigid "is-ness" of the thing. Maybe yes, maybe no.

The biggest jump is between journeyman and seasoned umpire.

This jump involves an evolutionary shift that involves responsibility and integrity.

When you are wholly conscious that you have no idea about reality... but you can create it.

Schroediger"s cat will be dead if you say so, and will be alive, if you say so.

You create life, you create reality as you go about life, with your word. Every word.

Your children learn reality from you, and you are building a reality for them that makes them limited, and miserable.

In my coaching the enemy I fight is that reality your parents created and create for you... your peers maintain for you... your stupid internet memes create and maintain for you... It"s not enough that you change your speaking pattern!

Everything you hear and hear as the truth is also speaking that creates reality. Lots of speaking, lots of reality.

You need to protect your reality, the reality you create. Physical, emotional, intellectual, and spiritual reality.


Yesterday I measured the Starting Point Measurements of a woman. Then we got on the phone. In the hour between setting up the call and actually talking, and then during the hour long call, her vibration dropped 80 points.

She spoke herself into a ditch. She intended to inform me, give me an accurate picture, etc. about what she was dealing with, and with her speaking she made it her reality... An hour earlier it wasn"t... An hour earlier she was an amazing person... until she opened her mouth.

Beware... you need to learn to manage your speaking, manage your headspace... Most people speak like rookie umpires.

And you"ll find yourself like my one-time hero. In the ditch.

PS: As I was looking for images for this article, I was again shown what mainstream people teach you.


They say it"s your thoughts that create reality. But your thoughts are in Plato"s Cave, in the mind. So they can only create the imaginary reality.

You want to create your reality? Only your spoken words do that. Your thoughts don"t... until you put them on loudspeaker, until you honor them as your own speaking.

The Amish Horse Training Method is to desensitize your self to the voices in your head, you call your thoughts. They are NOT your thoughts... and you can safely ignore them.

On the other hand, what comes out of your mouth, unless you cancel it, will shape your reality, out there... where it matters.

Saturday, April 21, 2018

What is the difference between "I am" and "I have been"? They both create yourself... but which is the right you?

As I am continuing giving long and substantial "strategy sessions" to people, I am learning a lot.

I am seeing stuff that cannot be see through feeling. I am seeing stuff that won"t come through in the Starting Point Measurements, no matter how good a tool muscle testing is. Some things won"t even become clear in a short call...

I love the expression: "in the limited perspective of the human mind" and now I am inclined to add that even inside the human mind, you can look at things through different perception organs... and you"ll see more if you use more than just your favorite.

Most people"s "perception organ" is to turn to, habitually, to what they have already decided. The mind.

This gives you the least true-to-reality perception, obviously.

But my method for the Starting Point Measurements has been limping on one leg as well: Using feelings only.


The combo of feeling, hearing and time (unfolding) is a whole lot more accurate, true to reality.

But...

The more certain you are that you see the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, the harder it is to look differently or to look elsewhere. This is why there are so many who are accused and condemned by others, in court... a total disaster. This is why so many people are treated for cancer who don"t have cancer. For example...

The challenge is this: when you want to add malleability to your convictions, first you need to consider that you were mistaken, maybe even wrong...

Then, you probably, have to tell about this to others, or your authenticity level will drop to very low.

Authenticity is "there is nothing in the unsaid"... This doesn"t mean you tell everyone everything... It means that you don"t withhold important things, to protect your image.


Today, both my strategy calls had me say: I was wrong.

It is mighty hard to trust that people I tell this to will trust me after that. Experience says that the more you are willing to tell the truth, the more they will trust you... but not everybody. this is not a rule, this is not a formula.

People will do whatever they will do... you have no control over it. You have only control over yourself.

More precisely: you have control ONLY over your speaking.


Many, most people I speak with want to find themselves. This supposes that there is a you already... but that you, if it exists, is only a potential.

I am leaning to agree with the "meme", a George Bernard Shaw quote: that says: Life is not about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself.

If you look at that through the lens of the Anna Karenina principle, the principle of the strait and narrow, you"ll see that when you want to find yourself, everything seems to have the same relevancy score... you have a wide open field of good, and bad, and ugh ugly...

But if you look what happens when you choose characteristics of the person you are... as in committed to be, life becomes simple, and your brand spanking new self-image creates clarity.

Clarity and power... they always go hand in hand.

Being willing to hear stuff that flies in the face of all your certainties is a threat to the person who has not created themselves.


But the person who has... they are not afraid to investigate the new information. It does not threaten their self-image: in fact it will not touch their self-image.

Not everything means something about you: in fact very few if any do mean something about you, if you have already created yourself.

Here is the language of someone who already has done the work to create themselves:

I have been X... I am...

And the language of someone who hopes to find themselves, hopefully someone nice (lol) is to attempt to accurately describe themselves, using "I am" language.

They hope that if they could, ever!, accurately describe what they feel, what they think, they finally they would know...


The result is the opposite of what they hope for. Because in this accurate "I am" description everything and the opposite are featured with the same weight.

I"ll be crass for a second: If I wanted to take this "I am" approach to ad absurdum, I would say: I am a woman, my sh*t stinks, I drool at night... I make mistakes... etc. etc.

Now hear the difference in the "I have been" language: "I am a visionary. I have been known to make mistakes that expand where I can look. I haven"t been afraid to admit when I see something different... Every conversation, every experiment, every mistake recognized takes me closer to be able to help humanity to ascend to the next level of evolution: human being."

Which, when I translate to ordinary descriptive language, the language most people speak, which says: I am not my mistakes. I make mistakes... I have been, and will... I actually want to make mistakes: you learn more from your mistakes, than from "smooth sailing".

OK, I don"t know if this article is clear or not. If you find that it isn"t... please let me know.

All writing is re-writing. All thinking is re-thinking. This is the nature of life, this is the nature of reality.

The straight and narrow is the narrow path between a million of mistakes, errors, misconceptions, sins, not this and not that misconceptions.

The more you define the straight and narrow by what it isn"t, the happier you"ll be... Guaranteed.

 

What is the difference between "I am" and "I have been"? They both create yourself... but which is the right you?

As I am continuing giving long and substantial "strategy sessions" to people, I am learning a lot.

I am seeing stuff that cannot be see through feeling. I am seeing stuff that won"t come through in the Starting Point Measurements, no matter how good a tool muscle testing is. Some things won"t even become clear in a short call...

I love the expression: "in the limited perspective of the human mind" and now I am inclined to add that even inside the human mind, you can look at things through different perception organs... and you"ll see more if you use more than just your favorite.

Most people"s "perception organ" is to turn to, habitually, to what they have already decided. The mind.

This gives you the least true-to-reality perception, obviously.

But my method for the Starting Point Measurements has been limping on one leg as well: Using feelings only.


The combo of feeling, hearing and time (unfolding) is a whole lot more accurate, true to reality.

But...

The more certain you are that you see the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth, the harder it is to look differently or to look elsewhere. This is why there are so many who are accused and condemned by others, in court... a total disaster. This is why so many people are treated for cancer who don"t have cancer. For example...

The challenge is this: when you want to add malleability to your convictions, first you need to consider that you were mistaken, maybe even wrong...

Then, you probably, have to tell about this to others, or your authenticity level will drop to very low.

Authenticity is "there is nothing in the unsaid"... This doesn"t mean you tell everyone everything... It means that you don"t withhold important things, to protect your image.


Today, both my strategy calls had me say: I was wrong.

It is mighty hard to trust that people I tell this to will trust me after that. Experience says that the more you are willing to tell the truth, the more they will trust you... but not everybody. this is not a rule, this is not a formula.

People will do whatever they will do... you have no control over it. You have only control over yourself.

More precisely: you have control ONLY over your speaking.


Many, most people I speak with want to find themselves. This supposes that there is a you already... but that you, if it exists, is only a potential.

I am leaning to agree with the "meme", a George Bernard Shaw quote: that says: Life is not about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself.

If you look at that through the lens of the Anna Karenina principle, the principle of the strait and narrow, you"ll see that when you want to find yourself, everything seems to have the same relevancy score... you have a wide open field of good, and bad, and ugh ugly...

But if you look what happens when you choose characteristics of the person you are... as in committed to be, life becomes simple, and your brand spanking new self-image creates clarity.

Clarity and power... they always go hand in hand.

Being willing to hear stuff that flies in the face of all your certainties is a threat to the person who has not created themselves.


But the person who has... they are not afraid to investigate the new information. It does not threaten their self-image: in fact it will not touch their self-image.

Not everything means something about you: in fact very few if any do mean something about you, if you have already created yourself.

Here is the language of someone who already has done the work to create themselves:

I have been X... I am...

And the language of someone who hopes to find themselves, hopefully someone nice (lol) is to attempt to accurately describe themselves, using "I am" language.

They hope that if they could, ever!, accurately describe what they feel, what they think, they finally they would know...


The result is the opposite of what they hope for. Because in this accurate "I am" description everything and the opposite are featured with the same weight.

I"ll be crass for a second: If I wanted to take this "I am" approach to ad absurdum, I would say: I am a woman, my sh*t stinks, I drool at night... I make mistakes... etc. etc.

Now hear the difference in the "I have been" language: "I am a visionary. I have been known to make mistakes that expand where I can look. I haven"t been afraid to admit when I see something different... Every conversation, every experiment, every mistake recognized takes me closer to be able to help humanity to ascend to the next level of evolution: human being."

Which, when I translate to ordinary descriptive language, the language most people speak, which says: I am not my mistakes. I make mistakes... I have been, and will... I actually want to make mistakes: you learn more from your mistakes, than from "smooth sailing".

OK, I don"t know if this article is clear or not. If you find that it isn"t... please let me know.

All writing is re-writing. All thinking is re-thinking. This is the nature of life, this is the nature of reality.

The straight and narrow is the narrow path between a million of mistakes, errors, misconceptions, sins, not this and not that misconceptions.

The more you define the straight and narrow by what it isn"t, the happier you"ll be... Guaranteed.

 

The rudiments of integrity... without mastering kindergarten and elementary school, you can"t go to high school or college

One of my struggling students sent this to me so that I can share it with you.

I take this concept way beyond this level in my programs... but I can"t build on air...

So if you want to do my courses, and succeed with them, do this first. It"s half hour instruction and weeks of practice... like everything worth having, it takes practice, it is a process, and you cannot jump.

I did everything he suggests about 30 years ago... when I first did the Communication Course...

I paid $530. This is about 30% of that course, and you can get it for free.

I listened to it... and it is valuable. I don"t teach as well as this guy... so I don"t mind that you"ll learn this from him.

Watch the videos. You"ll love them.










All three videos are here https://www.mimicmethod.com/integrity-guide/

Remember, without integrity nothing works.

This course covers the "doing what you said" part. In the money workshop we are working an the bolded aspect: working from an empowering context

Integrity Statement


"Nothing hidden, being truthful and honest, doing complete work, working from an empowering context, and doing very well what you do; doing it as it was meant to be done or better, and without cutting corners.

"In other words, HONORING ONE"S WORD: Doing what you know to do, doing what you said you would do and on time, doing what others would expect you to do even if you haven"t said you would do it, and saying when you are not doing this as soon as you realize you won"t be doing it or won"t be doing it on time."

In one word: honoring your word as your self.


PS: to master this level of integrity, you need no special level of vibration. I would say, you need to have the level of 150. If your beginning vibration is lower, with the practice he, Idahosa Ness (this is the guy"s name!) teaches, you can raise your vibration to 200.

Interestingly, teaching and doing are two separate things. Often, while I coach, I catch myself, and tell the client: ok, just lied. Do as I say, not as i do... and we laugh.

Then I make a commitment/promise to practice what I taught. It happened today...

The rudiments of integrity... without mastering kindergarten and elementary school, you can"t go to high school or college

One of my struggling students sent this to me so that I can share it with you.

I take this concept way beyond this level in my programs... but I can"t build on air...

So if you want to do my courses, and succeed with them, do this first. It"s half hour instruction and weeks of practice... like everything worth having, it takes practice, it is a process, and you cannot jump.

I did everything he suggests about 30 years ago... when I first did the Communication Course...

I paid $530. This is about 30% of that course, and you can get it for free.

I listened to it... and it is valuable. I don"t teach as well as this guy... so I don"t mind that you"ll learn this from him.

Watch the videos. You"ll love them.










All three videos are here https://www.mimicmethod.com/integrity-guide/

Remember, without integrity nothing works.

This course covers the "doing what you said" part. In the money workshop we are working an the bolded aspect: working from an empowering context

Integrity Statement


"Nothing hidden, being truthful and honest, doing complete work, working from an empowering context, and doing very well what you do; doing it as it was meant to be done or better, and without cutting corners.

"In other words, HONORING ONE"S WORD: Doing what you know to do, doing what you said you would do and on time, doing what others would expect you to do even if you haven"t said you would do it, and saying when you are not doing this as soon as you realize you won"t be doing it or won"t be doing it on time."

In one word: honoring your word as your self.


PS: to master this level of integrity, you need no special level of vibration. I would say, you need to have the level of 150. If your beginning vibration is lower, with the practice he, Idahosa Ness (this is the guy"s name!) teaches, you can raise your vibration to 200.

Interestingly, teaching and doing are two separate things. Often, while I coach, I catch myself, and tell the client: ok, just lied. Do as I say, not as i do... and we laugh.

Then I make a commitment/promise to practice what I taught. It happened today...

Friday, April 20, 2018

Manifestation... what is it really? What can you manifest? Money? Love?

I got an email from a student of mine this morning.

He was sick, lying in bed all day, listening to the Money Workshop he could not come to.

I think he got the workshop better than the people who were participating in it.

He got that the secret to create your life is in being able to say, like the seasoned umpire: "It ain"t nothing till I call it"

The participants were too busy looking at their life... that looking rendered them, at best, a journeyman umpire, who says: I call it the way I see it. But if you scratch the surface, if you watch them act or not act, they honor the situation as something real, something solid, something physical: so they are really a rookie umpire: "I call it the way it IS"

We are born with the abilities of a seasoned umpire...

Just watch children play. You say "make-believe" but they don"t say that. They create the scenarios, the box is the boat, and then the box is the fortress. The broomstick is the gun, then the broomstick is the horse.

They have no fear calling it.

In the excellent movie, The Knights of the South Bronx, the youngest member of the chess team has no problem seeing the chess pieces as cougars, and hunters, and knights...

School, parents, "educate" that out of us... be reasonable, they say, and you become dull and slavish.

I remember when in the Wisdom Course we needed to make collages on our Seemings... how the world occurs to us, how we occur to us in the world.

I remember how jarring it was to say "I seem to be not liked by people"... or "It seems that my mother doesn"t like me" or "It seems that I am alone".

I had to lie for a while. I had to force the words out of my mouth... for me these weren"t seemings... they were the truth. They were solid, unchangeable, and that was that.

With practice and with the collages, I started to see that I can go from rookie umpire (I call it the way it IS) to at least a journeyman (I call it the way I see it).

And if you see it one way, maybe it looks different from another way... I could massage what I saw so that life can become more open to my input.

I also saw, that there was one "thing" that definitely wasn"t fixed in all those pictures, me.

I could see that I could call myself a winner, I could call myself a lovable entertaining clown, I could call myself a leader, and I could follow suit: become that.

That part of my reality was wholly under my control. And that began my journey upwards, to the place where I could speak butterfly language, the language of gods, the language of creation.

You may be on the rookie level in all areas of life. But remember that as a child you could... which means that dormant the ability is still there.

An atrophied ability is not gone, it is just weak.

And it may be weak because of false beliefs false prophets are teaching you. Or they are teaching you the thing you need to know, and when you misunderstand, when you misinterpret the teaching, they don"t call you on it.

I am talking about the manifestation teachers.

If you paid attention to what the god-ability, what the butterfly language can do for you, you can create where you have power... with yourself.

You can create yourself, you can create with your language. The seasoned umpire language.

It ain"t nothing till I call it.

But no one, I repeat: no one can create stuff from thin air.

It is not the nature of reality, it is not the nature of the universe.

Even in Harry Potter, the witches and wizards in that book can only work with what is.

You can manifest yourself... and you can manifest that reality is not fixed. It is you calling it makes it seem fixed.

That is what they should teach you, because that gives you all the power you need for a life that is glorious.

That is the first thing we"ll learn in MY butterfly language course... that reality becomes fixed when you call it.

The second step is to enter seeming, interpretation, story, you will see what you added to it to be fixed, dark, and not so happy.

And the third step is to choose what to call it... and what to call yourself.

Society, the culture, likes you with your fixed view of reality. They can talk you into anything, especially fear, and stinginess, and handing over your power, following a guru, learning to manifest, and other happy horse shit.

I am interested in turning you on to freedom. Turning you on to your power to call it.

That is the Human Being way... the gods" way, the butterfly way.

And it"s OK if you remain a caterpillar... you call it... you live it.

You have free will to call it what you want to call it. Really.

PS: As I was looking for suitable images for this post, I suddenly saw that "they" tell you to manifest what you desire, what you want, not the who.

You can manifest the who... that is the nature of reality. But manifesting the what... that is sorcery. Even the Biblical god didn"t do it.

The Biblical god used what was and called it... like the seasoned umpire. It never created anything from nothing... because there are physical laws that say: it is not possible.

Thursday, April 19, 2018

The most important questions you should ask yourself before you buy something... anything

The most important questions you should ask yourself before you buy something... anything

...ask them, answer them, and then know that you"ll forget what you said...

Am I driving you mad? lol

OK, here are the questions:

    • 1. Can I get enough value out of this product... comparable or larger than what the money I pay for it is worth to me... right now? ((Yesterday I attended a webinar that sold something that I could answer yes to all these questions, except... the money I"d have paid for it would be missing from my rent money. Ever since I have been under psychic attack, I haven"t felt like working... and now I am short on cash... So I promised myself to buy that product (a marketing course) as soon as the attacks stop and I recover from this slump.))

    • 2. Will I be happy with the product and myself if I only get as much value as much money I paid plus 50%? ((Breaking even is not very satisfying. When I buy a product I ask a slightly different question: can I make my money back for at least six months, ever month?))


  • 3. Will I do what it takes to get that value out of this product? ((This is the question where knowing yourself is really useful. I decide to not buy at this question, 90% of the time))

  • 4. Will I have the time, the energy, the willingness to put in the effort to get the value? ((Your delusional self will interfere here. The desire to get the results override your rationality. If your ambition number in your starting point measurement is low, the probability that this answer will be a yes is very low. I have warned you!))


Each question is crucial... unless you can answer yes to all four questions... you should not buy the product.

With my own products, I like to check ahead of time, myself, if I want to sell you my stuff...

Especially courses... And audios... that once you had access to it, now you have it, and I have no recourse... So I am quite mindful... Albeit often too optimistic and trusting.
Question One addresses two things:

  • 1. is the value advertised real... or b.s.? How do you decide? If you trust your muscle testing... then with muscle test. If you trust your gut feeling: put your hand on your gut and ask this question...

  • 2. can the value be realized with your current level of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual capacities?

Here is a question of the pricing, i.e. the monetary value of a product:


I learned a big lesson on Tuesday. The student who paid half price for a house because it had problems and potential... the house needed repair and work. It was worth every penny he paid. He knew it at the time. The value of the potential, when he made the buying decision, was worth the additional investment: time, effort, work, etc.

But by the time we spoke, a month after they moved in, his value system flipped: now he wanted nothing to do with repairs, with time, with effort. He felt cheated, shortchanged, unhappy, vengeful.

And you may do the same, whether it"s a house or a course.

The full value of anything assumes that you can and will do the work, have the necessary foundation, the necessary capacities active. And that you remember your part...

My courses will do what it takes to take a person with the necessary foundation, willingness, and capacities to the state it promises.


You can guess your capacities, willingness and foundation in your Starting Point Measurements.

If I had more people with the willingness, the foundation, the capacities, I would charge 10-20 times more and it would be still a splendid deal.

Every person will realize a different amount of value from a course, depending on their willingness to do the work, depending on their foundation, depending on their capacities. ((When I did Landmark Education courses, I realized 10-20 times more value than other people... for this very reason. I worked my "ass" off... and had a better foundation thank to the work my father did during World War 2.))

But just like the house my student bought, the potential of each course is way bigger than what you pay.

So what does this look like in the Butterfly Language ((may rename it later, if I find a catchier name)) Course:

All my current students, all the people I have measured their vibration and starting point measurements can get commensurate (corresponding in size or degree; in proportion.) value with the price.

Not all the value, or all the potential.

How much you will realize of the available value will depend primarily on the number of spiritual capacities you have open, or you are willing to open with practicing.


You"ll get the knowledge and the guidance. Some coaching. You provide the rest. The elbow grease.

It"s a lot like a test kitchen: I give you the dishes, the stove, the oven, the tools and the ingredients and a course in cooking.


Some of you will prepare master chef level dishes, others food that in spite of the ingredients, won"t be so good...



You should know yourself.

This process will hammer at your limitations like the buttefly"s wings hammer at the inside of the cocoon, chrysalis in another name ((chrysalis. noun: chrysalis; plural noun: chrysalises; noun: chrysalid; plural noun: chrysalids

a quiescent insect pupa, especially of a butterfly or moth.
the hard outer case of this, especially after being discarded.
a preparatory or transitional state.))

Here is a tale that explains why my attempts at activating DNA capacities was a disappointment:


By Paulo Coelho

A man spent hours watching a butterfly struggling to emerge from its cocoon. It managed to make a small hole, but its body was too large to get through it. After a long struggle, it appeared to be exhausted and remained absolutely still.

The man decided to help the butterfly and, with a pair of scissors, he cut open the cocoon, thus releasing the butterfly. However, the butterfly’s body was very small and wrinkled and its wings were all crumpled.

The man continued to watch, hoping that, at any moment, the butterfly would open its wings and fly away. Nothing happened; in fact, the butterfly spent the rest of its brief life dragging around its shrunken body and shrivelled wings, incapable of flight.

What the man – out of kindness and his eagerness to help – had failed to understand was that the tight cocoon and the efforts that the butterfly had to make in order to squeeze out of that tiny hole were Nature’s way of training the butterfly and of strengthening its wings.

Sometimes, a little extra effort is precisely what prepares us for the next obstacle to be faced. Anyone who refuses to make that effort, or gets the wrong sort of help, is left unprepared to fight the next battle and never manages to fly off to their destiny.

And then tons more on the internet. Here is one:
Two things immediately came to mind.

The first was the Growth Mindset and how energy and hard work are the answers to success. The man in the story had no understanding, actually no knowledge, of this concept. This butterfly had no opportunity to survive for it was denied the opportunity to use energy and hard work to escape the chrysalis on its own.

My second thought was that this man had acted out of concern, thinking he was being helpful. His intentions were honorable, caring, maybe even loving.

But how misguided, even wrong, were his actions when he witnessed the result.

There is such a fine balance to be struck in the role of parenting. How much is enough? How much is too much? What do parents do to support their child’s learning and when do they take it on as their own?

Struggle builds confidence!

Struggle builds self-esteem! Struggle allows us to actualize our possibilities! Ultimately, struggle is good! Don’t steal the struggle!

and yet another one
After caterpillars have spent the requisite amount time wrapped up in their cocoons and are ready to emerge into the world as a lovely butterfly, it takes a tremendous amount of time, effort, strain, pain and agony for the butterfly to get out of the cocoon. After several hours of watching the butterfly struggle in his bonds, you think "I can help you out of there, little friend" and you cut a bigger hole for the butterfly to get through. Compared to another butterfly, one that went through the suffering of breaking free, he might look as beautiful, but there is one key difference. The butterfly who was cut from his cocoon and did not struggle to break free on his own, is unable to fly. He will never be able to fly. The struggle was necessary to develop enough strength in the wings and without it, he is just a shell of what he is meant to be.

Here is what you want to pay attention to: every caterpillar has it in their DNA to become a butterfly. It uses the struggle to get out of the cocoon to activate these DNA capacities.


Humans are a little more complex... your mind interferes with your DNA. Your parents, your schooling, your peers, what you read all interfere with your DNA.

I don"t have a single student who doesn"t have this issue.

And yet, every single one of you has this path built into your DNA.

To the degree you"ll work it... to the degree that you"ll give it all you got (not your best! your best is puny!) you"ll get more value.

But at the minimum, you"ll learn how to create the butterfly state as you speak it.


The difference between a butterfly state and a butterfly life is how long the butterfly state lasts.

It tends to disappear, but once you know the butterfly method language, you can bring these moments, minutes, hours closer and closer to form the tapestry of the butterfly life.

You can create the state on demand.
An earlier stage of this process was called Brilliance at Will. It was a 36 video course. Everyone loved it. Even me.

But it didn"t cause lasting results. Yet, it was, or would be and excellent preparation for this new course...

Why? Because I won"t teach the whole invisible in this course. And you will need it to be clear what is holding you back.

Therefore I will include this course as a bonus in the new course, at the intermediate level.

If you want to be prepared, buy the Brilliance at Will course now, and get a headstart... I will give you credit when you get to the intermediate level.