Friday, August 17, 2018

Have a mind like a sieve?

It takes more than just insights, or reading, or listening to audios to become a fully equipped person who can live the good life. But what is the fundamental missing piece that so darn few ever benefit from in ANY of the activities they undertake?

With life spent in cars and buildings, our eyes stopped looking and assessing our environments. And with smart phones and computers, our eyes became like stationary search beams, not seeing anything outside of the beam...

But more importantly: out of sight - out of mind: the brain does not connect what you see with anything... nothing is ever written on your brain"s hard drive... only into its RAM... and once you look away, it all disappears...

I have noticed that none of the seniors I do exercise with or go to grocery shopping with ever remembers what conversation they had with you a previous time. Their brain hasn"t retained it.

The other day I had a hair cut while shopping. No one noticed. An hour or so ago they saw me with bushy hair, and suddenly I showed up with closely cropped hair... nothing.

Yesterday the driver of the community van forgot about me (a PhD by education) and left me sitting in the parking lot of a store for two full hours. Nobody home.

I was OK. Listened to the 67 steps, and waited for him to return. But he wasn"t well... Felt guilty, felt scared that I was going to complain about him.

And I understand: with a search light like vision, that would be the natural outfall... anger, vengeance... taking it personally.

Because of my earlier observation that people can"t retain anything... I saw clearly that what the driver did wasn"t personal... I actually stopped existing for him the moment he dropped me off at the store.

Very funny if you can see more than just what is in front of you.

One of the reasons my life is so much more enjoyable nowadays, compared to 10-15 years ago, is my ability to see the big picture without effort. Be able to see all the elements in one single glance instead of being forced to change "frames".

So let"s look how it looks from your vantage point, living in the world?

 

Insights are a dime a dozen


You read an article, and you suddenly see something you hadn"t seen before, and you are excited: the insight is revolutionary and will change your life, or your finances, or your health.

but...

Insights are like gold nuggets not valued, not captured, not put to use... even though for a moment maybe admired. The brain did not record them.
Admiration and appreciation aka valuing are two different things. Unless you see the value in something, you"ll leave it where it was, never really getting the value.

In my view, this is the cornerstone of your soul correction: not seeing value and therefore not getting benefits. ((I wrote this note to a client whose soul correction is "Silent Partner"

Many of the soul corrections are blind to value or maybe simply refuse to see it?

I am not sure.
))

The question is: how do you value something? And if you do: what do you value? And what do you take for granted, something that is your due, therefore it has no value. And how do you do that with a brain that refuses to record into hard data what you think, what you decided, any of it!

Before I dig in deeper into this topic: let"s set down a principle that is not well known:

The more capacity you have to value anything or anyone, the more capacity you have for the beautiful life.


When I measure all kinds of different things about people, including their vibration, I find that there is a watershed that contains a number of capacities... that when those capacities are present, people go upward, and if they are not, they go downward. Reliable.

1. Whether you are willing to own what"s happening to you and around you and to what degree?
2. Whether you have a Self... or you are split. Without a Self there is no chance for integrity... because how could you be true to a Self that doesn"t exist?
3. To what degree you think of yourself. Until this number gets small, less than 30%, you don"t have access to personhood
4. Whether you can see value in things, people, activities, whether they are your values or others".

WTF Sophie!

Why is it that you cannot just work on your vibration, or on one something, and get a watershed result?

That is what the spotlight vision person asks... and from their vantage point they make sense. When you have a hammer you are always looking for a nail to hammer.

But these numbers, these phenomena are connected and move up and down in sync, never behave like a nail.

A human has hundreds of moving parts, while a car has only tens. If you interviewed a car designer you"d find out how much work goes into designing a new car, one that is fast, and solid, and fuel effective, and easy to steer, light enough to move fast, but heavy enough to be solid... lots of stuff that need to move in sync.

Humans are just more complicated, but ultimately they are a machine.

Given your current level of ability to see and to work on several things at the same time is between zero and none.

Developing the ability to see many things accurately in the same glance should be your number one concern, if you ever wanted to raise your vibration, and your effectiveness in living the beautiful life.


As I have written in many of my articles, the biggest problem is that the moment you take off your eyes something, it disappears for you... as if it never happened.

Many reasons your brain gets wiped clean many times a day.

One main reason is: your brain is untrained.

Your brain is uncoordinated like a clunky ((awkwardly solid, heavy, clumsy and outdated)) adolescent stumbling every few steps.


You need to train your brain through your eyes. The current ineffective state of your brain is ultimately a lack of agility and lack of coordination issue.

You want to get to a state where you are dancing... that is when life starts to become manageable, beautiful, and an adventure.

The training I prefer, the training I have done, the training I recommend is Infinite Mind Brain Enhancement Technology.

I did it myself, and I am going to take it back on. It"s a few minutes practice a day with your computer, and it causes a disproportionate awakening of the brain that after a while makes you able to grow into the person who you were meant to be. ((When in 1998 I suffered a massive brain damage in an unrelated surgery, almost all of my elementary school skills shut down, all in all 30% of all my brain was darkened out. I felt I was moving in a dark tunnel, I was reduced to the intelligence of a young child. Using this eye training was 80% responsible for returning me to the world of the living, for returning me to be able to live and earn a living.

It"s very interesting that when you encourage your brain to go to bat for you, it always done at least a 150% job... and I came out of that "tunnel" brighter than before, and with a whole lot more awareness than I had before... Even though I am still having a lot of problems with numbers... that part never came back to full function.))

The magic of EyeQ


What is special about this program is its simplicity as it makes you move your eyes and do certain things. This causes the brain to become, eventually, a higher functioning brain. You"ll learn easier, you"ll retain more, you"ll be more present, and with that comes a lot of joy. But what no one says: you"ll learn to control your eyes... aka your attention, which is the biggest issue in today"s hectic, too many distractions world.

It"s either YOU move your eyes, or it will be moved for you by your "desire trap", by social media, by your family, your "friends", by whatever looks the shiniest.

The program is called EyeQ... "eyeQ™ was developed over 30 years. Scientific studies have shown that our technology dramatically increases brain activity. This increase improves the mind"s learning capacity. It increases critical brain functions such as reading speed, comprehension, memory, focus, and overall mental and visual acuity." ((It seems that there are individual eye-brain exercises on youtube. I haven"t looked, but my hunch is that they are not a system, and therefore you"ll do it or the ones you like and nothing will happen. I like systems, and this one, the EyeQ I have used, I have benefited from, and one of my students has been testing it and I can see his numbers go higher, his comprehension, his ability to interact, to ask question, his retention, his grasp... EVERYTHING are going up. So there you have it.

You"ll do what you always do... your own thing. It got you where you are now, and it will also keep you there. Guaranteed.))

It gives you what you are lacking... builds you a brain that can do the things you need it to do so you can become a higher functioning human who can grow, and get to self-actualization.


Unfortunately Infinite Mind doesn"t have an affiliate program... so I will only benefit from you becoming a lot smarter and easier to train. But that is really all I want.

The program works over the internet, nothing to download. The cost is $99 for a year. If you are not committed to do it for a year, you are probably not going to do it, so don"t even start... your priorities lay elsewhere...
As your mental and visual acuity grows, you"ll comprehend more, you can use guidance better, you can move your attention at will... and the benefits are staggering.

The makers of EyeQ don"t know... but the real benefits happen in the invisible paradigm... where it matters the most.

Because, I don"t care if you read faster if the moment you put down the book you already forgot all that you read. If your brain gets wiped clean every night... if you never grow.

Being able to grow and build a network of knowledge, abilities in that head of yours so you can do more, be more, enjoy more... that is my goal, and EyeQ is the best in building you a brain that can do all that.

Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Liking

I have been very sick, but I am feeling a little better. I can stay with a thing now a little longer, I can take an idea a little further.

I have been working out the toxins from my poor battered body, slowly, and somewhat effectively. Three weeks it has been since I gotten myself poisoned.

And one of the signs that I am coming back to myself is that I am noticing more.

The role of liking in following guidance, following coaching.

I have a few "clients" that keep on coming back, show up on my webinars, want stuff from me, but when I look: they follow maybe 1% of what they got from me, and the rest: they go to someone else to get guidance from.

It feels weird to me. A cognitive dissonance. But maybe it isn"t.

So let"s look what is going on?

Liking... You have no control over your liking something or someone. It has no permanence, there is nothing that you like all the time, and no one.

I still like it... is a stupid statement... liking is checked for every moment by the complex set of feedback mechanisms of any living organism, including humans.

The few "clients" I mention above don"t like me... And to take guidance, teaching from someone you don"t like is nearly impossible for a living thing.

Like and trust... say the marketing teachers all the time, and they are right. You need to be liked and trusted by your constituency to buy from you AND use what they bought.

Buying can be impulsive, but putting it into use isn"t.

I am not a particularly likeable person... I have never done anything to be liked... whereas a "normal" person does up to 90% of what they do to be liked.

Relationships between men and women, maybe even friendships are based on "if you like me, I"ll like you, even when I don"t" which is most of the time. Liking uses energy you can"t afford to spend...

The tragedy of marriage is that the couple planning to marry has no idea that they are basing a supposedly lifetime long relationship on such a flimsy concept: I will like you as long as you"ll like me.

So what do we consider being liked?


Our main concern is to be able to wear our masks in public, and our lowest self in private... and we want the other to let us do it without giving us a hard time. We want to live like we have been... with our split selves, ugly private, and pretty, heroic, etc. public persona.

And if our spouses don"t do it for us, we"ll find a willing third party who will... whatever is their gain: we don"t care.

So, as you see liking is important, but not reliable. And you can"t expect someone who liked you yesterday to like you today.

Liking is one of the cognitive biases... a feeling that if you like someone then they are good people.

Are you good people? Maybe sometimes... the more you are not good people the more you pretend that you are good people...

And then look for people who do what you do: pretend.

So you pick someone who will support your self-image that you are good, smart, and whatever the hell you want to believe about yourself.

I have a whole bunch of people sending me to videos and articles... they found good.

My hunch is often that they are telling me something totally different: that those videos and articles are good while I am sh*t... Or that they know what is good, and i should listen to them!

Whenever I check out what they send me, I find again and again that they are attracted to people pretending just like them, having about the same slow vibration, the same level of inauthenticity, and very very very low truth value.

Boggles the mind, doesn"t it?

Tuesday, August 14, 2018

What you don"t know that you don"t know... and can"t "know" because we don"t have a word for

I am working to take some of you back to the place where we abandoned the evolutionary path that would have taken up higher, to the promised land, and made a wrong turn.

From being guided by our feelings to being guided by word.

By feelings I am talking about the sensations our bodies give us, not about the emotions that are exclusively marker feelings, created by words.

The article I have found for you is very closely related to what I am talking about, even though it talks about words... but words are not necessary if you have allowed yourself to feel what you feel.

Working with clients, and working on myself, I can see that for much of the time what I am asking of you doesn"t make sense... meaning: the words, the mind, has no idea what I am talking about.

But some of you will trust me, and you"ll manage to retrace your path to a time where inner guidance was reliable.

Why isn"t it reliable now? Because your current "inner guidance" is all words, and words are the main tools to enslave you and separate you from yourself.

Here is the article...

I am expecting some of you raising your hands saying you want to work with me on this.

Unknown Unknowns: The Problem of Hypocognition ((Hypocognition, in cognitive linguistics, means missing and being unable to communicate cognitive and linguistic representations because there are no words for particular concepts.))



We wander about the unknown terrains of life, complacent about what we know and oblivious to what we miss

By Kaidi Wu, David Dunning on August 9, 2018

Unknown Unknowns: The Problem of Hypocognition


In 1806, entrepreneur Frederic Tudor sailed to the island of Martinique with a precious cargo. He had harvested ice from frozen Massachusetts rivers and expected to make a tidy profit selling it to tropical customers. There was only one problem: the islanders had never seen ice. They had never experienced a cold drink, never tasted a pint of ice cream. Refrigeration was not a celebrated innovation, but an unknown concept. In their eyes, there was no value in Tudor’s cargo. His sizable investment melted away unappreciated and unsold in the Caribbean heat.

Tudor’s ice tale contains an important point about human affairs. Often, human fate rests not on what people know but what they fail to know. Often, life’s outcomes are determined by hypocognition.

What is hypocognition? If you don’t know, you’ve just experienced it.


Hypocognition, a term introduced to modern behavioral science by anthropologist Robert Levy, means the lack of a linguistic or cognitive representation for an object, category, or idea. The Martinique islanders were hypocognitive because they lacked a cognitive representation of refrigeration. But so are we hypocognitive of the numerous concepts that elude our awareness. We wander about the unknown terrains of life as novices more often than experts, complacent of what we know and oblivious to what we miss.

In financial dealings, almost two thirds of Americans are hypocognitive of compound interest, unaware of how much saving money can benefit them and how quickly debt can crush them. In health, a full third of people suffering from Type II diabetes remain hypocognitive of the illness. They fail to seek needed treatment—despite recognizing blurry vision, dry mouth, frequent urination—because they lack the underlying concept that would unify the disparate warning signals into a single alarm.

Hypocognition is about the absence of things. It is hard to recognize precisely because it is invisible. To recognize hypocognition requires a departure from the reassuring familiarity of our own culture to gain a grasp of the unknown and the missing. After all, it is difficult to see the culture we inhabit from only within.

Consider this: how well can you discern different shades of blue? If you speak Russian, Greek, Turkish, Korean or Japanese, your chances are much better than if you speak English. The former groups have two distinctive linguistic representations of blue. In Russian, for example, dark blue (sinii) and light blue (goluboi) are as distinct as red and pink. But in English, we know blue as a single concept. The deprivation of finer-grained color concepts poses a great perceptual disadvantage. English speakers more easily confuse blue shades, not because we have poorer vision, but because we lack the more granular distinctions in the language we speak.

Hypocognition also lies in the muddle of emotional experiences that we encounter but fail to explicate. We are hypocognitive amidst the rumbling moments of frustration when we are at a loss for words to describe how we feel. If there is any consolation, we could look to other cultural worlds to acquire an emotional lexicon that acknowledges these emotions. Ever felt the unspoken but mutual desire when looking into a loved one’s eyes? That’s mamihlapinatapei in the Chilean Yagán language. Ever felt the irresistible urge to pinch a baby’s cheek? That’s gigil in Tagalog.


But no single emotional repertoire can encapsulate the multitudes of emotional experiences humanity has developed. Picture this scene:

A man acts clueless and clingy to get his wife to cook breakfast for him, even though he knows she is in a hurry. She cooks for him anyway. What is the man feeling?

The wife reciprocates by arranging a private social outing, making her hubby obligated to come along. The man comes along anyway. What is the wife feeling?

The emotion in play is amae, which you, like us, might have a difficult time parsing, unless you were brought up in Japanese culture. Amae is a pleasant feeling the man experiences when he basks in the indulgence of his wife, and vice versa. The man feels loved, not because his wife cooked for him, but because she cooked for him despite his ill-mannered demand—one he masterfully orchestrated in the first place. Amae, an emotion with no equivalent counterpart in English, may feel befuddling and Machiavellian to a Western mind. But it makes perfect sense to the Japanese. It welcomes intimacy, fosters affection, and invites vulnerability. It is the cement of social relationships in Japan.

Perhaps herein lies the greatest peril of hypocognition. It is facing a concept that captures something we cannot fathom, an exotic emotion we cannot grasp, a certain idea that arouses in others fervor and enthusiasm but strikes us as nothing but foreign and bizarre, a certain principle that must, against our own reason, be unreasonable.


Amid pitched political battles, partisans see only the concepts associated with their own side, hypocognitive of the principles that support the judgments of their ideological opponents. Liberals, for example, construct moral arguments primarily on two principles, harm/care and fairness/reciprocity, failing to recognize additional principles, such as in-group loyalty, respect for authority, and purity concerns that drive conservative opposition.

Amid the heated discourse on bad sexual experiences, the English journalist Caitlin Moran points out, “Men’s tabula for women is completely rasa.… There are no templates for how to approach a woman in a jolly and uplifting manner, discover her sexual preferences, get feedback while you’re rolling around naked, and learn from her without feeling oddly, horribly emasculated.” In our most intimate attempt to understand the opposite sex, how much of interpersonal misunderstanding, of social faux pas, of frustration-turned-aggression is because of hypocognition? How much are we hypocognitive of each other’s mental worlds?

If hypocognition impoverishes our knowledge and understanding, how do we become free of it? The attempt to reduce hypocognition should be a delicate pursuit, because going too far against hypocognition makes us vulnerable to its opposite—hypercognition. To suffer from hypercognition is to over-apply a familiar concept to circumstances where it does not belong. Psychological stress, for example, has a real yet complex relationship to physical illness. But people often overextend the concept. Despite what many believe, stress does not cause ulcers or irritable bowel syndrome. It might exacerbate an episode of eczema, but in no way is it the cause of the malady.

And who are most likely to fall prey to hypercognition? Experts. Experts who are confined by their own expertise. Experts who overuse the constricted set of concepts salient in their own profession while neglecting a broader array of equally valid concepts. Given a patient, a heart specialist is more likely to diagnose heart disease than an infectious disease expert, who is more likely to see the work of a virus. The bias towards what is known may lead to wrong or delayed diagnoses that bring harmful consequences.

But let’s give credit where credit is due. The human mind is an amazing organic hard drive of information. The typical English speaker will know the equivalent of 48,000 dictionary entries by age 60.


Nevertheless, even with that capacity, hypocognition is unavoidable. The vocabularies we gain in a lifetime pale against the 600,000 entries contained in the Oxford English Dictionary, and that is even before we turn to the myriad of concepts residing in other languages.

Over the past decades, social science has catalogued numerous knowledge gaps in the human mind. Perhaps we can start to gain insights into these blind spots by adding the notion of hypocognition to our cognitive arsenal. It will not cure our fallibility, but it might just invite us to seek out our personal unknowns and lead us to a wiser and more enriched life.

Our original review of hypocognition can be found at: Wu, K., & Dunning, D. (2018). Hypocognition: Making sense of the world beyond one’s conceptual reach. Review of General Psychology, 22(1), 25–35. [PDF]

Why are you not able to sustain sustain a new mindset? Sustain Change? Sustain Evolution? Sustain Growth?

Yesterday I spent 90 minutes with my coaching client.

This is what I learned:

You are not retaining any of the insights, any of the knowledge you read. And because my site, my programs need you to retain what you were taught, my programs, with you, are wholly ineffective.

I already saw this when I was in Landmark programs: I saw that even seminar leaders don"t retain the knowledge, the coaching, they get.

Change is not enough. We must evolve... evolution is irreversible


Every new seminar they start from zero, or near zero.

I retain everything. But what is the difference between them and me, you and me? Am I superior? Am I special?

So solving this puzzle has been the biggest mountain to climb for me.

It is not that I am smarter. it is not that.

I got the clue from Atlas Shrugged... I knew I had a reason to read it again (third time) I just didn"t know what it was.


One of the main characters, Hank Rearden, realizes that he had been two people with two moral world views: 1. his person at work, where he took pride in his ability to create with his ability to think, and 2. in the area of his body, sex, where he didn"t take pride in what he did. He considered it a sin. Read the update in the footnotes: ((

Update 8/14/2018:

The issue is that you don"t recognize values. Why don"t you? One of the reasons could be is that you were told what is good and what is bad, and what is moral and what is immoral. You weren"t allowed to see, feel for yourself.

When you have values, when you recognize values, they work in you like The Light. In Hebrew the word for it is translatable to compass... The Hebrew word is Matzpun.

It is like a beacon of light, guiding you. In zig-zag, because that is the nature of movement and guidance in reality. So you are always off target, but your next move is correction. A graceful dance, enjoyable.

Whereas morality is rigid. You are bad when you are not good.

When it"s a value, then you are off...

Can you FEEL the difference? Being bad feels really bad. Being off... it"s normal.

So how do you get off this torture wheel of good and bad?

I have no clue. I didn"t have to do it: as a child I was labeled AMORAL, and I still am. No moral rules. It"s not the Jewish way.

Of course I have seen "NEW" Jews behave like Christians, considering obeying the commandments and rules and Shabbat and Kashrut as good, and not quite verbatim obeying them as bad, but that is not the soul of Judaism.

Judaism is not judgmental.

Obviously I am not a religious scholar: I am an atheist and have always been.

So, if I don"t know, how am I going to be able to teach you to become a person: inner directed, value recognizer, personal value directed: flexible and joyful?

You can see that this is the crux of the matter. The difference between a fulfilling life and a life that is a straitjacket. Living for appearances, living a life dictated by the moral majority.

This is an area where muscle test isn"t helping: Source doesn"t know. It hasn"t been done. Yet.

A few months ago, in one of our What"s Missing? workshops, I suggested to a few participants to take on the beingness, choose themselves to be VALUE RECOGNIZERS.

Of course if you live by some bible... you expect someone to tell you what to look for.

But to activate your SIGHT, your inner ability to SEE, pointing you towards a thing will not do it. You have to discover it yourself.

So what are your clues?

One clue is joy. It"s subtle, but it"s obvious. Joy is part of "enjoy"... and all living beings know it, it is a guidance system.

The memory of "joy" isn"t joy.

I used to have this disappointment regularly. I imagined eating ice-cream, and the joy that comes with it. But reality did not match my imagination.

Ice cream... cold, sweet, no joy. Hm.

It took me a long time (and severe weight gain) to realize that I am not wired for joy fro ice cream.

Most foods are like that. Advertising suggest what you are supposed to feel... and you think that you are at fault if you don"t. Often sex was like that... OK, for me, always. Hugs, kissing, new clothes, travel... disappointing.

You need to find your own wiring. What does genuinely give you pleasure?

That is where YOUR values lie... It is separating the wheat from the chaff... you need to come out of the cave, and feel what you feel, not what you are supposed to feel.

))

Now, I don"t know where you are split, but I know that you are.


How, what? What are you talking about?

You are one person, with one set of values when you read my articles, or do my programs. Then the next moment you move to be a different person with a different set of values. No connection, nothing is left from the person, from the values, from what is important to you from the previous "place"... no continuity.

Thus, the brain, gets rid of all the learning.


I am talking to you. I am not talking about other people, I am talking about you.

You have always been split.
You have never had a Self, you have never had a core, you have never had any authenticity.

You are a chameleon, but worse than that. The chameleon only changes its color, you change your whole value system.

Until and unless you become one, you are stuck at the level of your lowest self, the lowest vibration.

It"s not a character issue, although it could be. I think it is an integration issue.


And, between you and me, I don"t care which "persona" you pick to be the you everywhere, just pick one.

Pick the lowest, once it is unified, and authentic, you can start growing in earnest.

So how do you pick? Pick the persona that you are most of the time. The bum, the lazy one, the criminal, the weak one, the stupid one, the pleasure seeker... and stop pretending that you are anything else than that.

Unify yourself, integrate yourself around that persona.

It"s ugly, but it needs to get done. Because what excuses you from integrity is that you can pretend, that you are X, while most of the time you are Y.

Of course if you have a TLB 1 in your measurements, you won"t do it. So this is not for you. You will just keep pretending and be wretched at the same time.

But those of you who are willing to take on to unify yourself around something that is easy, your lowest, you"ll start to see, that unless you have a firm starting point, unless you are the same bum, thief, sniveling creature everywhere, you cannot carry over new knowledge.
  • If you are married, your lowest is who you are in that marriage. [note]Your marriage is based on pretense, his and yours, or hers and yours[/note]

  • If you live with your parents, your lowest is who you are that mooches on your parents.

  • If you have a job you hate, and you think you are worth more... your lowest is who you are at that job.

You are like water. Just because you have spots where you boil... the water that you are is not boiling... and will never boil, unless you accept that you are one.


I don"t know who the f... said "we are one"...

We are not one, and we don"t need to be. But you are not one... and if you want to become a human being, you need to become one.

The level of inauthenticity is indicator of the level of "schizophrenia"... the level of split.


How you do anything is how you do everything is true, because it is the you that is in common. Because, between you and me, you can only pretend to a degree. If you are sloppy, sweep only where people can see it, you"ll do it in your work, in your work with me, in the way you read, in the way you make love, in the way you drive.

And you know it.

The level of misery is an indicator of your inauthenticity... the level of your need to pretend.


Werner Erhard says that you can only be authentic about your inauthenticity.

What does that mean? That only in the moment that you can say: I am pretending to be X while I am really Y. Meaning that you are always pretending, but you are pretending that you are NOT pretending.

When you need to confront me, and tell me the things about yourself that you don"t like, your slothfulness, or your complacency, or your anger, you are pretending doing that. As if it didn"t constitute who you are. It does. And unless you own it, fully, THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT.

You only have power over what belongs to you. But in your "confession" to me, you are disowning those things... and thus, you are stuck. Stuck being slothful, complacent, or angry.

There are only a few people who are somewhat willing to own what is the lowest in them. How do I know? They actually retain some of the knowledge, some of the growth, some of the capacities I turned on.

If you are not willing to be what you are, who you are, at your worst, you are not going to grow.


Now... do I have areas like that?

Yes. At this point I have one person with whom I am motivated by fear... And I have one habit I consider low: eating to treat feeling bad... feeling YOUR wretched feelings I must feel.

I am willing to own both.

Now, what do you need to own your lowest?


You need courage. Because the feeling is that the moment you own it, it becomes real... it is like the abyss opens up.

But the abyss has been there all along. You"ve been living a life of avoiding the abyss... that is the cause of your misery, not what you claim is... not having what you want. No, it is the avoidance of your own ugliness, your real agenda, your real self.

The second thing you need is to know that the moment you own it, the moment you tell the truth about who you"ve been, you have a chance to not be that.

Your life is used by the effort to avoid being seen for who you are. That is like a concern around which you dance.


Imagine your left foot being nailed to the floor. How far can you go? Can your life be about anything other than that nail? No, right?

So the moment you own that ugliness, the nail comes out.

Complaining about it, speaking of it as a force of nature, speaking about it as if it were happening to you, is not owning it.


That is what you have been doing! And it made no difference.

Owning is an act of courage. Once you own it, you have your power back and you can start growing, and going places.

I know it sounds counter intuitive, but what "they" are teaching you are ways to be a slave...

And that is who you have been: a slave.

Violence may be another clue to guide you away from what is not your inner, what is not YOU... I think I"ll have to write more about violence.

Most "cultures" that preach "love" don"t love... they are violent cultures, enforcing "love"...  I would laugh if it weren"t so horrible. And once you lose your natural ability to be guided by feelings (Read the Feelings book!) you are no longer a potential human being: you are a machine.

Monday, August 13, 2018

What capacity is missing so that you cannot recognize the same thing in a different environment?

What capacity is missing so that you cannot tell, you cannot recognize the same thing in a different environment?

I think this is the main issue for people who cannot grow... even if they keep on having private sessions, do all my courses, or all Landmark courses, or all Mindvalley courses, or use energy stuff... mine or others".

When you put something they know some other environment, they don"t recognize it in a different environment, a different context.

So what is the missing capacity, you wonder... And how can anyone dream up a method to teach it?

A little historical view of how humans evolved (or not) during their lifetimes in previous times...

The capacities, the DNA capacities we are talking about were not activated in schools, courses, and such, they were requirements for life, for work, to getting along, to getting forward, for staying alive. Where nearly every moment of life was an opportunity to learn and adjust or an opportunity to be maimed and die.

Times when learning wasn"t skin deep, wasn"t scanning an article on your smart phone, when eating wasn"t stopping by at the takeout window of a fast food joint.

When I look where I have seen it recently, two videos come to mind:
  • 1. White Fang, Netflix"s animated movie version of the famous Jack London novel... especially looking at it from the point of view of young White Fang.

  • 2. The HBO documentary about Warren Buffet. What surprised me in that documentary is two things: Warren Buffet is a true nerd, awkward, reminds me a lot of my friends from my childhood, socially inept geniuses (maybe I am one of these myself, except maybe the genius part, lol) and the second was that his whole investment strategy changed with Charlie Munger"s advice, to buy good companies that were underpriced. Who would have thought... Without that advice there would not be Warren Buffet as we know him... we would not know him at all... he would be small time. Hm. His friend Charlie Munger came at the world from a whole different angle, and saw something that he, Warren Buffet could not see.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yfOXeH1-7nw

Now, I don"t expect you to see what I see... given that I am on the other side of the "great divide".


So what is the Great Divide?

Seeing.

The number one Metaskill.

There are two things missing for most people: 1. looking 2. seeing.

The first part is all mental.
  • If you don"t see that what you could gain by looking is of any value: you won"t look.

  • If your value system leans towards the special, spectacular, interesting, titillating, trivia direction... you won"t look

  • If you are comfortable... you won"t look

  • If your curiosity is unchanneled, diversionary/diversive curiosity, you will not see anything important, or if there is something important, it will get lost in the unimportant ((I am re-reading the book, Curious by Ian Leslie.See footnote 1 The book"s truth value is 7%, but if you read it the way I read, it will take you to a replenishing, delightful adventure looking at areas of life that you haven"t considered before.


The two kinds of curiosity he talks about are the unchanneled diversionary/diversive curiosity and the epistemic curiosity... the first sucks energy and provides nothing. The second is for knowledge, for depth, for fuel, for nourishment.

You probably leak an awful lot of energy through clicking on click bait... I call it gossipy curiosity... give you nothing but illusion. Uses energy instead of providing energy.))

The second part needs a capacity to shocked into active... seeing.


It is unpleasant to imagine oneself blind, but the truth is even worse. You are blind to what could provide you with all you need to grow, to do well financially, to do well socially, and to feel good about yourself.

In my private calls I teach seeing. And it"s the most important thing I can teach, but unless I teach you somehow to get curious and to see for yourself, it is piecemeal, and takes an awful long time.

One of the reasons I have these private calls, from my own selfish point of view, is to be able to see stuff myself, stuff that is not readily visible unless you experiment.


So I run experiments: the results are telling, and influence my next experiment.

Oftentimes I start out hopeful, only to find out that the "soil" I used to plant seeds is toxic.
Rarely I start out totally hopeless, and find out that the soil was just waiting for the right seeds...

The kind of work I do is unparalleled... so I have no advisers, I have no books I could read, because it is uncharted territory: turn suffering, sniveling, fearful, specimens of the human race into human beings... a whole different species.


On some level we are all suffering, sniveling, and fearful, so please don"t be offended... unless, of course, you are from California or Canada: then it IS offensive... so get as offended as you like.

My experiments are taking me in the right direction: the Starting Point Measurements are getting more aligned with a productive, healthy, "seeing" human that before.

What causes this blindness?


Well, for one, the capacity needs to be shocked into active... I am intentionally using the big word "shocked", it is not a smooth progression.

But beyond that, what blocks the view, are mental images created by the "wanting to, having to, needing to, and should", the desire trap, and other traps, like guilt trap.

And, of course, seeing something that you haven"t seen before requires you to be able to see patterns that indicate that there is something there to be seen. A disturbance unexplained.

One of the resources in this last thing... disturbance unexplained... is the book by Hungarian engineer, Gyozo Margoczi... The two books: Feelings, and Words.

Warning: you may have to read it many many many times. Because it deals with things that simply understood will not help you at all. You need to SEE them. The writing is good, and as you awaken your seeing capacity, it will be like a bible to you: you"ll keep the book on your night stand, or always queued on your Kindle.

You"ll always get the book on the level where you are, not deeper. You can track your personal evolution by how deep you get some of it... like the "human needs".

Now, can you learn to see from a book? From a video? From a person?

No. Your capacity needs to be shocked into active. Like mine did in 1996, with my eye training.

If you are doing some kind of eye training now, but haven"t experienced the shock or shocks... that eye training isn"t activating the capacity.

My skill training will have that process as a requirement... It seems to me that one of the things you cannot see without the capacity to see is transferable skills, and without that that whole training is impossible.

PS: When I examine minutely my "stats" software, I can tell where the visitors" head was and is...

Health and money are the main concerns.

Curiosity, the kind that gets entertained by a two-headed child, is close second.

And approximately 25-30 people a month, or one a day, are actually searching for the stuff I teach, the stuff I offer, the stuff I am famous for. One half of one percent.

It is hard to search for something you don"t see, cannot see. One of the "results" you"ll see, once your seeing capacity is awakened, is a different type of search activity, and different questions to ask. And that is when your quest to personal growth, your quest for self-actualization will really begin.

Saturday, August 11, 2018

When all your efforts result in no learning

"It"s easier to evaluate your results through drunken delusion than to gaze soberly in the mirror and face the truth."

I had a conversation yesterday with one of my clients, and as it is predictable in many conversations, weight came up.

Weight is a universal source of grief, effort, disappointment, and self-hate.

But why would that be so?

I can recall, in my life, four "campaigns" to regain control over my body.

The most recent one is successful and is going to last. The previous ones included one or two elements that were not sustainable. for example the first time I was on a starvation diet, and I maintained it for 10 years, until I came to the United States, where the plenty beat me on my a**.

The second one was through using the Greer Childers method, but it was really hard, and as soon as I didn"t do the breathing/exercise combo, I started to balloon.

The third one was the beginning of my experimentation to find what foods I was eating that made me balloon. It resulted in me becoming a whale...

The fourth one was still experimentation, but this time I was mercilessly cutting out stuff from my shopping list, except for purposes of double blind tests... like any and all kinds of carbs, cow"s milk products, even fruits and vegetables that are getting sweeter and sweeter with Global Warming.

I am now at the same weight I was when I got off the plane in 1985.

Of course my health got damaged by a lot of the things I did while I was fat, or while I was trying to get normal.

I am 70 years old for another three weeks, and my arteries are brittle, stiff, and I have symptoms: pain, swelling, and approaching death.

It was like that for both my mother and father, and it is like this for my two brothers.

Our diet has been traditionally void of the nutrients that would keep our arteries young, copper, anti-inflammation stuff, and essential fatty acids.

I muscle tested this morning and in spite of my hopes, this condition cannot be reversed fast. My no-carb diet is good for it, but to soften up my arteries, to make them young again, according to muscle test, I"ll need two years.

Most of you if you heard that anything takes longer than taking a pill, you"d be growling...

But life has its own rhythm, and things take as long as they take.

If you don"t have patience for life, you"ll need patience for death. You may have chosen already.


In every area of life: health, wealth, love and fulfillment.

Now, let me return to the skill-set of managing weight, including getting to your ideal weight.

First off, you need to know what your numbers are.
  • Then you need to know and put it in writing what your starting point is: what you are eating, when, how much.

  • How you do your shopping, by a list or by hunger?

  • What is the specific plan you want to test first and if necessary tweak later. It took me several wild turns to have a diet where I am fat burning, avoid cow dairy, vegetables and fruits, except parsley, spinach, garlic, mushrooms, hot peppers and yellow onions.


Lamb, rarely bacon, some fish, and eggs

For dairy: goat cheese.

I weigh myself every morning right after waking up. On my way to the bathroom I pass the electronic scale, so I never miss stepping on it. There is also a full size mirror right at that spot.

The purpose is to see if the downward direction is holding... if not, investigation is due.


I do my grocery shopping every two weeks, I cut my meat to portions and freeze it a day or two after my shopping day. I have the Energizer Audio playing in the refrigerator on a mini speaker to keep the food fresh and non-rotting.

The rest... not much to learn from, lots of experiments. I make my judgments by the scale and by how I feel.

The essential elements of this whole process are weighing myself every morning at the same time, and watching for the results of the experiments.

Now, listen up, this is the meat of this article:


Depending on who you are, you"ll have an opinion, a story, an interpretation about the feedback.

Which means: you"ll miss the feedback.

Why? the feedback is a fact... weight gain, how you feel.

Your story goes all over the place, celebrating, explaining, feeling guilty.

Unless you can take a feedback and add nothing to it, your experimentation is a scam... and you will never accomplish anything in life.


I teach separating facts (feedback) and story in the Playground program.

But, listen up, many people have done that program, and none of them considered what I taught a life-skill. They thought it was a method to feel better about your past... and yes, it is used for that too. But it is an essential life skill in EVERY SINGLE MOMENT of your life, regardless of the topic or the activity or the pillar of life.

And this is what is my new ambition: to make you live with skills.

What is the most incredible quality of a skill? That it"s portable. That it"s transferable. That it is like breathing: you do everything better if you can breathe... right?

And this is what I found out in that client call: that there is no distinction for you: skill... Your life is fragmented, and not an integrated whole.

There is no chance to have a good life without distinctions... and it is time to wake up and smell the coffee.


You do a lot of work... and it doesn"t all gel into a coherent whole.

Time to change that.

When all your efforts result in no learning

"It"s easier to evaluate your results through drunken delusion than to gaze soberly in the mirror and face the truth."

I had a conversation yesterday with one of my clients, and as it is predictable in many conversations, weight came up.

Weight is a universal source of grief, effort, disappointment, and self-hate.

But why would that be so?

I can recall, in my life, four "campaigns" to regain control over my body.

The most recent one is successful and is going to last. The previous ones included one or two elements that were not sustainable. for example the first time I was on a starvation diet, and I maintained it for 10 years, until I came to the United States, where the plenty beat me on my a**.

The second one was through using the Greer Childers method, but it was really hard, and as soon as I didn"t do the breathing/exercise combo, I started to balloon.

The third one was the beginning of my experimentation to find what foods I was eating that made me balloon. It resulted in me becoming a whale...

The fourth one was still experimentation, but this time I was mercilessly cutting out stuff from my shopping list, except for purposes of double blind tests... like any and all kinds of carbs, cow"s milk products, even fruits and vegetables that are getting sweeter and sweeter with Global Warming.

I am now at the same weight I was when I got off the plane in 1985.

Of course my health got damaged by a lot of the things I did while I was fat, or while I was trying to get normal.

I am 70 years old for another three weeks, and my arteries are brittle, stiff, and I have symptoms: pain, swelling, and approaching death.

It was like that for both my mother and father, and it is like this for my two brothers.

Our diet has been traditionally void of the nutrients that would keep our arteries young, copper, anti-inflammation stuff, and essential fatty acids.

I muscle tested this morning and in spite of my hopes, this condition cannot be reversed fast. My no-carb diet is good for it, but to soften up my arteries, to make them young again, according to muscle test, I"ll need two years.

Most of you if you heard that anything takes longer than taking a pill, you"d be growling...

But life has its own rhythm, and things take as long as they take.

If you don"t have patience for life, you"ll need patience for death. You may have chosen already.


In every area of life: health, wealth, love and fulfillment.

Now, let me return to the skill-set of managing weight, including getting to your ideal weight.

First off, you need to know what your numbers are.
  • Then you need to know and put it in writing what your starting point is: what you are eating, when, how much.

  • How you do your shopping, by a list or by hunger?

  • What is the specific plan you want to test first and if necessary tweak later. It took me several wild turns to have a diet where I am fat burning, avoid cow dairy, vegetables and fruits, except parsley, spinach, garlic, mushrooms, hot peppers and yellow onions.


Lamb, rarely bacon, some fish, and eggs

For dairy: goat cheese.

I weigh myself every morning right after waking up. On my way to the bathroom I pass the electronic scale, so I never miss stepping on it. There is also a full size mirror right at that spot.

The purpose is to see if the downward direction is holding... if not, investigation is due.


I do my grocery shopping every two weeks, I cut my meat to portions and freeze it a day or two after my shopping day. I have the Energizer Audio playing in the refrigerator on a mini speaker to keep the food fresh and non-rotting.

The rest... not much to learn from, lots of experiments. I make my judgments by the scale and by how I feel.

The essential elements of this whole process are weighing myself every morning at the same time, and watching for the results of the experiments.

Now, listen up, this is the meat of this article:


Depending on who you are, you"ll have an opinion, a story, an interpretation about the feedback.

Which means: you"ll miss the feedback.

Why? the feedback is a fact... weight gain, how you feel.

Your story goes all over the place, celebrating, explaining, feeling guilty.

Unless you can take a feedback and add nothing to it, your experimentation is a scam... and you will never accomplish anything in life.


I teach separating facts (feedback) and story in the Playground program.

But, listen up, many people have done that program, and none of them considered what I taught a life-skill. They thought it was a method to feel better about your past... and yes, it is used for that too. But it is an essential life skill in EVERY SINGLE MOMENT of your life, regardless of the topic or the activity or the pillar of life.

And this is what is my new ambition: to make you live with skills.

What is the most incredible quality of a skill? That it"s portable. That it"s transferable. That it is like breathing: you do everything better if you can breathe... right?

And this is what I found out in that client call: that there is no distinction for you: skill... Your life is fragmented, and not an integrated whole.

There is no chance to have a good life without distinctions... and it is time to wake up and smell the coffee.


You do a lot of work... and it doesn"t all gel into a coherent whole.

Time to change that.

Friday, August 10, 2018

Let"s build a high vibration person

Let"s build a high vibration person... let"s build a skill, let"s build some skills

I am starting a new series that also shows a new direction I am taking my teaching/coaching practice.

The new direction is skill-building.


Obviously, if you are like most people, you have no idea what a skill is. You may say some inane things, but you still don"t know. Even if you read the "what color is your parachute" famous book that has been published and every year for 48 years, with over ten million copies sold.

I have taught it. I have lead the workshop. And I can safely tell you that in all those years, there wasn"t one person who learned from me, or from the book what a skill really is, and then develop skills that would take them far on the job market.

Why? Because skill is part of the invisible world.




It is operational, it is determining like everything in the invisible world, but unless you learn how to work that world, you are out of water, you are not going to live the good life.

Most people, quite predictably, don"t have any skills to write home about. Some have skills, but they think they could work for them only if they could use it in the same exact environment as where they learned them... so they are out of water too.

My desire has been to only work with people who actually want to learn. I think by choosing this new theme, I"ll get much less people to my site, but they will be a lot more ambitious, and easier to teach than the people I have now.

So let"s see:

--you can build a tangible skill ((here are a few tangible skills: multiplication, drawing a straight line, drawing things in correct perspective, mixing colors in Photoshop, setting up paragraph parameters in Microsoft Word... etc. etc.)) or
--an intangible skill (something the is not obviously showing up for others... a how phenomenon, a consciousness phenomenon. Because it is an intangible skill, most people won"t see it, or if they see something, the tip of the iceberg, they will mis-identify it.

Warren Buffet"s main "superpower", main winning skill, is to be able to see what "ball" is in his sweet spot, a ball that will pay off, and pay off in spades.

here is the quote for your convenience:
"I was genetically blessed with a certain wiring that"s very useful in a highly developed market system where there"s lots of chips on the table, and I happen to be good at that game. Ted Williams wrote a book called The Science of Hitting and in it he had a picture of himself at bat and the strike zone broken into, I think, 77 squares. And he said if he waited for the pitch that was really in his sweet spot he would bat .400 and if he had to swing at something on the lower corner he would probably bat .235. And in investing I"m in a ‘no called strike" business which is the best business you can be in. I can look at a thousand different companies and I don"t have to be right on every one of them, or even fifty of them. So I can pick the ball I want to hit. And the trick in investing is just to sit there and watch pitch after pitch go by and wait for the one right in your sweet spot. And if people are yelling, ‘Swing, you bum," ignore "em. There"s a temptation for people to act far too frequently in stocks simply because they"re so liquid. Over the years you develop a lot of filters. But I do know what I call my ‘circle of competence" so I stay within that circle and I don"t worry about things that are outside that circle. Defining what your game is – where you"re going to have an edge – is enormously important."

He calls it wiring, I call it a developed skill.

What does it mean "developing a skill?"


I will use White Fang, a 75% wolf, 25% dog from Jack London novel of the same title, to explain it.

In White Fang, the skills were both tangible and intangible. Most dogs/wolves never really honed their skills: they stopped getting better at an early age: they declared themselves done... just like you most likely have done.

White Fang never declared himself done. His main concerns were avoiding pain and the path to that was learning the law of the land... and each land has its own laws.

The most useful part of the book is when he is transported to California from the Arctic Circle, where the laws are different... and his method of learning the new laws so he can avoid pain and enjoy life, love, and prosperity.

[caption id="attachment_45068" align="alignleft" width="300"] A film still from White Fang directed by Alexandre Espigares, an official selection of the Kids program at the 2018 Sundance Film Festival. Courtesy of Sundance Institute.[/caption]

He practiced, tirelessly, he never stopped asking: is this still the law? And looked at and for the feedback.

Unfamiliar, eh? You stopped doing that decades ago. You may be looking at pleasing others, but not obeying the laws, natural or legal.

You are looking at the "finished" result, and you think these people were born with it. That it was easy for them.

Here is another example, my physical "diagnostic" ability


I don"t remember the early years in this regard... I was as unconscious as any other child. The first inkling I had at around age 10, I fell from a tree, smack dab on the top of a paving block. Its corners broke the skin, and I passed out... but I spent time "diagnosing" what happened inside the broken skin... and decided that I didn"t need a doctor, that the damage was going to heal itself.

Around age 15 I started an apprenticeship with a pantomime group and was trained in the art of controlling every muscle in my body.

Long break: when you hurt, you have a hard time being precise... and I hurt almost without any break for decades. I had some notable experiences: my sinuses got washed out by first breaking bones... ugh, and getting liquid iron intravenously to cure a stubborn depression. And exploding ovary, and some other unsavory stuff I don"t want to share.

What was "special" about me is that I paid attention, I observed, I watched, I really watched, deeply.

Decades later I had my brain damage... and I could sense what areas of the brain were dark dead areas. I could sense how the other parts woke up to the need to take over functions that were dead.

And then came the "famous" chiropractic experiments where I could observe, test out which direct and which bone needed to be moved to reduce or eliminate tension. I never stopped... I am still honing my skill. It"s my superpower just like picking the right balls to swing for is Warren Buffet"s.)

I have been working on my awareness and attention (intangible skills)... especially at night. It seems that the enemy of awareness, in my case, is impatience, and boredom, and the desire to sleep.

I am looking at adding another skill-set, a tangible skill to build: setting up a course that won"t lose its appeal year after year so I can sell it again and again, for years to come.

You can pick whatever skill or skill-set you want, but given the "guided" nature of my programs, you will need to work with me to choose the target skill wisely. What will decide what you"ll do is your destination, your current superpower, and what gives you "juice".

Skill building is a lot like nutrition: you can make it expensive and needing a lot of work, research, or you can make it natural, matching your DNA as closely as you can.

One of the most important things I learned from David Allen is this: most people never amount to anything, never accomplish anything because there is something they don"t know.

If you schedule a project that looks like one thing but is made up of several single tasks, you"ll always procrastinate. You"ll always do things in the wrong order. And you"ll never get things done. There is always a first thing, and a second thing... and they build on each other... and so it is with skills.

And one of the secrets of successful people is that they accomplish things. And another one: they have skills that make it easier for them to adjust to the changing world, the changing environment, the changing demands of the markets, the changing technology, etc.

All skills are transferable, all skills are portable...

Like water. Like onions, Like spices... You can make a huge variety of things with them... not just one thing.

Each skill is skill-set that looks monolithical.

I have a distinct feeling that you don’t see what you are doing as having many moving parts… just like you don’t see, for example, Bill Gates’ time and effort as having distinct and varied elements.

But here is an example: to become a chef in France, Julia Childs had to master chopping onions. Breaking an egg. Watching and accurately judging the temperature of the skillet, the amount of butter, the movements of the skillet on the stove, etc. etc. etc.

I have a student who never learned to cook, even though, at my request, she participated in cooking courses.

Whereas I once had a young assistant who needed to learn to cook, and I taught the elements of cooking, chopping onions, cleaning and peeling vegetables, chopping vegetables, the ideal temperature for each, the time to put the spices in the dish, the art of keeping a soup clear, etc. etc. etc.

So by the same token, you can work on an aspect of the task, and increase your skill in it.

The secret of these producers, the secret of accomplishers is this ability and willingness to break up seemingly unbreakable tasks into bite size single action items that each you can get good at.

Also each action item is part of more than just one skill-set

Here is an example: one of my students has had a hard time saying no to hardly anything. So his time was never quite his own... he was used by everyone and anyone who wanted to use his time, his brain, his skills.

The missing skill was saying no... but saying it in a way that doesn"t burn bridges, simply returns you to what is most important to you, and to doing that, instead what others want you to do (including the attempts of your "evil" inclination to do its bidding.)

My favorite skill-building movie is Bob the Butler... it shows you how Bob did become a winner

And it was all through skills he built.

http://evp-50116959de4b9-dd521b5ed563ee25508422182c681a30.s3.amazonaws.com/bob-the-butler-1.mp4