Is negativity in the words, or somewhere where it is hidden from the speaker"s point of view?

In Aldous Huxley"s book, Brave New World, written 88 years ago, we see all the elements of humanity being a puppet, unable, unwilling, incapable to face reality today, in spite of the fact that natural birth is still the norm.

If you haven"t read it, here are the salient points of the book: in the time the story plays out, natural birth was discouraged, although sex was rampant. Birth was in vitro... in tubes.

The embryos were brought up in five different conditions, creating castes, Alphas, Betas, Gammas, Deltas and Epsilons... if I remember correctly.

Alphas were individuals, Betas were clones, Gammas were hundreds from one egg, etc.

They were also fed differently: Alphas were fed nutrients, Betas: less nutrients, some poisons, and Gammas"s mostly poisons that effected their brain only.





They were, all, also fed words... words to live by, words that make any human become a weakling, crave only good feelings, be a positive thinker.

To support that, the born specimens were fed "soma", a drug that makes pleasant feelings in the body and the mind.

Otherwise, those Alphas and Betas and Gammas weren"t different much from your life: they worked, they sexed, they ate, they loved entertainment, and they needed their soma very frequently. Because without the soma life was unbearable.

Life is nearly, or wholly unbearable, depending on your expectations.

If you expect your every experience to be nice, and "POSITIVE", then it is hell.

Being brought up in a test tube, or being brought up by a mother who wants you to be as little trouble, and as much a clone as possible, is very similar: your permission to be an individual is between zero and none... if you continue living the way your mother has conditioned you.

It takes courage, and the practiced ability to take hard blows, irritation, unpleasantness, fear and danger, all that comes with LIFE to become a person, to be an individual, to become a producer, to live a life where the hard blows, the irritation, the unpleasantness, etc. won"t render your life hell.

The difference between people who live in perpetual misery and people who live in life the way it comes, with occasional moments of misery, I call it TLB. TLB is an acquired ability, the ability to "dance in the rain", and not allow any of that unpleasantness to run and ruin your day.

Life happens to everyone. And one takes it and has a great life, the second... meh... lives a humdrum but bearable life, the third suffers.

The biggest difference is, in addition to your TLB, and maybe the cause of your TLB, is the words you repeat, whether in your head or audible. Because you are listening to those words... and they become your reality.

I listened to the recording of a Partner Call yesterday.

Both partners are mothers, both daughters are difficult people, whether by nature, or by how they have been treated before this course, I won"t decide now. My hunch is that the mothers" behavior made the girls difficult people... But we are creating a new reality in this course, so it won"t matter much whose mistake it has been.

At my suggestion, both mothers have taken on the challenge to consider their daughters a person.

One has been able to have fun and love as a consequence, the other: not.

The still unhappy mother shared that she simply doesn"t like her daughter. That she would not want to be friends with her.

She said, repeatedly, sentences, like "You know, I have such a hard time playing..." "There is nothing fun about me... I am not fun..." "I am too serious..."

These and similar sentences about self, about her ability to enjoy, her utterings about life, I bet, she repeats a lot, enough for her to have a life of one of those Gammas, maybe even Betas, but definitely not one of those Alphas...

The words you repeatedly and unconsciously say limit who you can become to who you have been.

Given the way children are brought up today, the parent"s main concern is that they don"t get in the way, that they don"t get into trouble, that the parent needs to teach them, using TV as babysitter, buying hundreds of toys... all moves are intended for the parent to be able to feel that they still have a life, because the parent can"t tolerate any unpleasantness themselves.

I had a huge turning point in my life in 1996. I was 49 years old. A client recommended that I try to get behavioral eye treatment to deal with my narrow cone of vision, and my agoraphobia.

I did that treatments. It lasted six-months, had once a week session in the doctor"s office, and had to promise to do certain exercises every day.

The hardest exercise was crawling on the floor, exploring the world from that eye level. It wasn"t comfortable, but I did it. It also turned out that I have Hip Dysplasia... don"t ask, it is not fun.

Looking back, that crawling was the single most significant exercise I have ever been asked to do. I explored the underside of things, the parts that are invisible when you walk or sit in a room. I saw things from up close, from far, and I remember crawling closer to see... wondering what it is... altering my whole relationship to reality. ((I occasionally, 2-3 times a week, do something similar while in bed. I look at the bookshelf in my bedroom, that is just out of range for my nearsighted eyes to be able to read the titles... And I practice zooming in, and restoring the titles from the shapes, the length of the words... Never get tired of it. Still in discovery mode, after all these years.))

I started to look at life as discovery, adventure, that didn"t offer up its pearls until I went and explored them.

I stopped blaming life. I started to see how I can be cause in my life, my life experience, even in what happens in my life, and how I look at it.

My vibration, in hindsight, was 100 when first went to the doctor. 180 at the end of the six months.

Behavior modification effected my vibration, my whole attitude towards life.

My hunch is that without that behavior modification I would still have a vibration of 100... And this program you are witnessing would have never happened.

I am posting the part of that Partner Call that talks about crawling and the behavioral changes it causes...

http://evp-50116959de4b9-dd521b5ed563ee25508422182c681a30.s3.amazonaws.com/crawling.mp3


PS: I hear myself saying quite a few times on any given day: "I don"t feel well"

I stop what I am doing, and I am looking.

I muscle test the question: is this mine? 90% of the time it isn"t. And when it is, I use it the see what of my behaviors has lead to me feeling crappy... I ate something, or in some way that didn"t agree with me is what happens most often. I use it to guide me to avoid repeating that behavior. ((Refer to the eating style article... the "how" and "when" of your eating is even more important for your well-being than the what. https://www.yourvibration.com/35159/testing-your-eating-style/))

Once I diagnose my role in the feeling, I can safely return to what I was doing, and my activity was barely interrupted for a minute...

I use my feelings to guide me in life...

What you can"t do - if your world view is that life should be pleasant at all times - is use your feelings as guidance... And you get stuck in a perpetual complaint that life isn"t providing you with the pleasant feelings you so want.

As George Bernard Shaw said so eloquently, “The weak may not be admired and hero-worshipped; but they are by no means disliked or shunned; and they never seem to have the least difficulty in marrying people who are too good for them. They may fail in emergencies; but life is not one long emergency: it is mostly a string of situations for which no exceptional strength is needed, and with which even rather weak people can cope if they have a stronger partner to help them out.”

and then somewhere else: “This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of Nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.”

and a third quote: “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds, cannot change anything.”
~ George Bernard Shaw

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