Knowledge is not enough...

• Unless it"s accurate knowledge... i.e. true, tested, from an accurate source.


• Unless you know what you learned... unless you know what you know... you didn"t learn anything.


• And unless what you leaned changes your behavior, inside or outside, nothing will change.

All learning is behavior modification, modifying behavior to become more fit to life, to play the game of life better, for yourself and for the human race. ((As a coach, unless I modified your behavior, I didn"t do anything.))

So how do you modify behavior?

The process starts with an insight. The more energy is in the insight, the more energy you can or are willing to bring to the insight, the easier it will be to make the modification.

• Disgust, hate are strong energies, and can fuel fundamental change. This is my favorite energy source. I hate ugly, I hate inefficiency, and this hate gives me the courage, the incentive, the TLB to face the tiger and make the change that is necessary.


• Desire, love, niceness are weak energies and fizzle out as fast as in a day or two.


• Enthusiasm, dedication, and other positive energies are somewhere in the middle... may last a week.


• Commitment, accountability and planning are probably the most reliable allies if you really want to change some behavior. Especially commitment you base on another strong energy: idea sex!

The most important missing, after having witnessed thousands of fizzled attempt at lasting change, is "existence." as in "staying in existence"...

Existence of an idea, existence of a conversation... aka shelf-life of an idea...

Existence is a weird invented phenomenon... unless you create it a staying power for what you want to do, the only thing that will exist and keep on existing is the same old, same old. Same people, same triggers, same thoughts, same attitudes. The same miserable life, the same results... The valley of the shadow of death.

What you want to create existence around is the new commitment and the new attitude.

The powerful why and a new trigger will create staying power for your new commitment to cause change, lasting change.

Because positive ideas disappear while you sleep... insights are a dime a dozen. And the beautiful why"s you coupled with them...

By the next day all beautiful plans become chores... Because...

No one wants to be told what to do...

so putting the kind of reminders around, or being reminded by others in a "do this" way is counter productive. ((

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pSdJJPMbUE

))

I have had a note on my reminder system for about two years to do something... it comes up every day, and I refuse to do it.

On the other hand, I do dozens of things I am reminded with questions, or requests, or some other way that trigger my "I want to do this" reflex and I do it. No resistance.

No reminders, or "do this" reminders, and the project will disappear from view, remaining just a nagging bad feeling in the back or my mind.

OK, what is an insight?

You get a glimpse of some higher truth than what you have been considered the truth.

We could also say: once you have an insight, your job is to make it an upsight... Allow the insight to alter your world view.

What is an upsight? An insight turned into a behavior modifying, world view modifying practice.

In an insight you see that reality is not the way you had been seeing it... How it"s different? You saw one way it"s different...

For example, my first insight, 33 years ago, was that things weren"t happening to me, I was an active participant in them, by virtue of what I said about what was happening.

That is an insight that people normally refuse to get, because people like to be victims, and they hate even the idea of them having anything to do with their misery.

But I got lucky... that was my first insight.

My job with that insight was to take that "co-creative" mindset to every memory I had, to every relationship I had, to every happening in my life.

That I always had a part in what was happening by virtue of what I said about it.

I teach this in my Playground program. It"s the most transformative program ever...

The trick is to not have this practice as an event that passes, but a continuous practice... practice it until it becomes like muscle memory, until it truly alters your world view. I am still practicing it, and have been for 33 years. When I forget about it, life turns into sh*t.

The practice is to pay attention to what you say about things, and learn how to say something different.

NOT like positive thinking. More like getting out of the automatic judgment of things.

The automatic judgment is almost always a systemic judgment. A systemic judgment is a two-pronged judgment: something and its opposite.

Reducing reality to the simplistic, pedestrian, primitive and unintelligent, unseeing children"s drawing summary.

It is good... it is bad... it is right... it is true... it is this and it is that.

And then you are done. Your world is reduced to its manageable format: as simplistic as you are... Two dimensional. No person there. No complexity. No human or not really.

And you judge everything, everyone, including yourself... And what gets lost is the complexity, the beauty, the magnificence, the myriad of facets of everything.

You declared yourself the judge and by gosh you"ll judge.

And unless you learn to look at things differently, from different vantage points, I have nothing to offer you. Not a thing. You"ll remain a thing, a two-pronged switch, and I promise you"ll never find fulfillment, love, passion, compassion, beauty, adventure, or anything that is worth being alive for.

You are a robot, a simplistic robot without a soul, without a spark.

Now, there are several exercises that you can employ to loosen this machine-like behavior...

Don"t kid yourself, this is not a task for little children who cry when they drop their ice cream...

Unless you toughen up, this is not going to work for you, so you might as well resign to remaining a simplistic robot.

Really.

I am not interested in pretending with you that you are going to become a person... pretending is YOUR world... I am interested in real tangible measurable results... and that requires some toughness, diligence, consistency, and some energy.

I use hate as my motive power. I hate mediocrity. I have victimhood. I hate desire for the self alone. I hate apple-polishing. I hate pretense.

Why hate? It works for me. When I choose something inspiring to give me energy, I wake up every morning, and the inspiration is gone... it needs to be re-created. Too much work just to get the energy source to work. ((I just understood why all that fancy software I buy is never used. I bought from inspiration, seeing a glorious future. But by next day INSPIRATION disappeared. Had I looked for what I have a burning hate for, I bet I either would not have bought the software or I would be using it. Hah... that is brilliant. lol.))

But hate is always ready for me...

Today I woke up blah... ready to say: I am done.

I HATE THAT!

But had I thought for myself: I want a life I love... that is as wimpy as it can be... I wanna... baaah... gimme...

Not mentioning the fact that when you have a "positive" energy source, you can go a thousand different ways.

Hate is clear: go away from it.

That is the definition of strait and narrow... outside of that narrow path everything is a no.

They are teaching you hogwash... and that hogwash makes you a wimp.

I am not saying: hate people. Hate ideas. Hate ways. Hate what you don"t want to be like.

I know I am now talking to one out of 100,000... the rest have left the scene. The want nice-nice...

But if you are still here... there is still hope for you. Make the hate burning hot for yourself.

And ask for a practice that addresses that hate.

If you want to become someone who is not judgmental... then have burning hate for judgment, for primitive, for a life of good and evil. Ugh.

By the way, unless you can have tens, hundreds of interpretations of most things that happen, choices you make, you are a simpleton, and you need to start using that brain of yours.

You are intellectually slothful... and the only way to change that is to start becoming diligent... intellectually diligent...

One of my students is using the idea-machine model, and is becoming brilliant in the process, after decades of being dull: intellectually slothful.

He hated being dull...

And believe it or not, he is enjoying the process. And now I actually enjoy talking to him, ask his advice, and we have become a co-creative system in his coaching.

He still needs some nudging, but it"s a process... He still doesn"t do it automatically... he still needs assignments... but with time it will become who he is... a brilliant idea machine.

If you are plodding, then using something like the idea-machine practice will slowly re-activate your slothful brain.

Another sticky point for most people is lack of humility.

We don"t know what humble is... or not really. But a definition I now use in my Starting Point Measurements is as good as any:

Humility is not thinking yourself less, it is thinking of yourself less

If and when everything has a self-referential aspect, if everything seems having something to do with you, then your humility score is low. And when your humility score is low, then you cannot change because you cannot learn.

And you remain worthless... for yourself and for the world.

This is a tendency that needs to be fought with all the energy you can muster, all the energy you can summon. Because it is a total misery maker.

The exercise I gave in the comments section of yesterday"s article is a great little exercise for this... will not eliminate self-centeredness, but at least will start this process.

The world view underneath is that you are an object in a world of objects, and the world is about you. About your interactions with the other objects and about what you think.

It is a world view that won"t allow you to be a person...

Everyone says: you are a spiritual being having a human experience.

This is a total b.s.

There is no spiritual being present in the world view of "I am an object in the world of objects"...

The spiritual is only possible if you become a "conversation", meaning a product of all the stuff you say, and all the stuff in your backdrop: the statements you have said, accepted, or resisted.

And then look at life, look at events, and consider them a conversation as well.

You are a conversation in a world of conversations.

Then you can start having some power over your life, because conversations can be altered, objects can"t.

I will stop here... because this article is getting too long...

If you have questions, the comments section is for that.

Knowledge is not power... unless

Unless you know what you learned... you didn"t learn anything.
And unless what you leaned changes your behavior, inside or outside, nothing will change.

All learning is behavior modification, to become more fit to life, to play the game of life better, for yourself and for the human race.

So how do you modify behavior?

The process starts with an insight. The more energy is in the insight, the more energy you can bring to the insight, the easier it will be to make the modification.

• Disgust, hate are strong energies, and can fuel fundamental change.


• Desire, love, niceness are weak energies and fizzle out as fast as in a day or two.


• Enthusiasm, dedication, and other positive energies are somewhere in the middle... may last a week.


• Commitment, accountability and planning are probably the most reliable allies if you really want to change some behavior.

The most important missing, after having witnessed thousands of fizzled attempt at lasting change, is "existence." as in "staying in existence"...

Existence of an idea, existence of a conversation

Existence is a weird invented phenomenon... unless you create it a staying power for what you want to do, the only thing that will exist and keep on existing is the same old, same old. Same people, same triggers, same thoughts, same attitudes. The same miserable life, the same results... The valley of the shadow of death.

What you want to create existence around is the new commitment and the new attitude.

The powerful why and a new trigger will create staying power for your new commitment to cause change, lasting change.

Because positive ideas disappear while you sleep... insights are a dime a dozen. And the beautiful why"s you coupled with them...

By the next day all beautiful plans become chores... Because...

No one wants to be told what to do...

so putting the kind of reminders around, or being reminded by others in a "do this" way is counter productive. ((

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5pSdJJPMbUE

))

I have had a note on my reminder system for about two years to do something... it comes up every day, and I refuse to do it.

On the other hand, I do dozens of things I am reminded with questions, or requests, or some other way that trigger my "I want to do this" reflex and I do it. No resistance.

No reminders, or "do this" reminders, and the project will disappear from view, remaining just a nagging bad feeling in the back or my mind.

OK, what is an insight?

You get a glimpse of some higher truth than what you have been considered the truth.

We could also say: once you have an insight, your job is to make it an upsight... Allow the insight to alter your world view.

What is an upsight? An insight turned into a behavior modifying, world view modifying practice.

In an insight you see that reality is not the way you had been seeing it... How it"s different? You saw one way it"s different...

For example, my first insight, 33 years ago, was that things weren"t happening to me, I was an active participant in them, by virtue of what I said about what was happening.

That is an insight that people normally refuse to get, because people like to be victims, and they hate even the idea of them having anything to do with their misery.

But I got lucky... that was my first insight.

My job with that insight was to take that "co-creative" mindset to every memory I had, to every relationship I had, to every happening in my life.

That I always had a part in what was happening by virtue of what I said about it.

I teach this in my Playground program. It"s the most transformative program ever...

The trick is to not have this practice as an event that passes, but a continuous practice... practice it until it becomes like muscle memory, until it truly alters your world view. I am still practicing it, and have been for 33 years. When I forget about it, life turns into sh*t.

The practice is to pay attention to what you say about things, and learn how to say something different.

NOT like positive thinking. More like getting out of the automatic judgment of things.

The automatic judgment is almost always a systemic judgment. A systemic judgment is a two-pronged judgment: something and its opposite.

Reducing reality to the simplistic, pedestrian, primitive and unintelligent, unseeing children"s drawing summary.

It is good... it is bad... it is right... it is true... it is this and it is that.

And then you are done. Your world is reduced to its manageable format: as simplistic as you are... Two dimensional. No person there. No complexity. No human or not really.

And you judge everything, everyone, including yourself... And what gets lost is the complexity, the beauty, the magnificence, the myriad of facets of everything.

You declared yourself the judge and by gosh you"ll judge.

And unless you learn to look at things differently, from different vantage points, I have nothing to offer you. Not a thing. You"ll remain a thing, a two-pronged switch, and I promise you"ll never find fulfillment, love, passion, compassion, beauty, adventure, or anything that is worth being alive for.

You are a robot, a simplistic robot without a soul, without a spark.

Now, there are several exercises that you can employ to loosen this machine-like behavior...

Don"t kid yourself, this is not a task for little children who cry when they drop their ice cream...

Unless you toughen up, this is not going to work for you, so you might as well resign to remaining a simplistic robot.

Really.

I am not interested in pretending with you that you are going to become a person... pretending is your world... I am interested in real tangible measurable results... and that requires some toughness, diligence, consistency, and some energy.

I use hate as my motive power. I hate mediocrity. I have victimhood. I hate desire for the self alone. I hate apple-polishing. I hate pretense.

Why hate? It works for me. When I choose something inspiring to give me energy, I wake up every morning, and the inspiration is gone... it needs to be re-created. Too much work just to get the energy source to work. ((I just understood why all that fancy software I buy is never used. I bought from inspiration, seeing a glorious future. But by next day it disappeared. Had I looked for what I have a burning hate for, I bet I either would not have bought the software or I would be using it. Hah... that is brilliant. lol.))

But hate is always ready for me...

Today I woke up blah... ready to say: I am done.

I HATE THAT!

But had I thought for myself: I want a life I love... that is as wimpy as it can be... I wanna... baaah... gimme...

Not mentioning the fact that when you have a "positive" energy source, you can go a thousand different ways.

Hate is clear: go away from it.

That is the definition of strait and narrow... outside of that narrow path everything is a no.

They are teaching you hogwash... and that hogwash makes you a wimp.

I am not saying: hate people. Hate ideas. Hate ways. Hate what you don"t want to be like.

I know I am now talking to one out of 100,000... the rest have left the scene. The want nice-nice...

But if you are still here... there is still hope for you. Make the hate burning hot for yourself.

And ask for a practice that addresses that hate.

If you want to become someone who is not judgmental... then have burning hate for judgment, for primitive, for a life of good and evil. Ugh.

By the way, unless you can have tens, hundreds of interpretations of most things that happen, choices you make, you are a simpleton, and you need to start using that brain of yours.

You are intellectually slothful... and the only way to change that is to start becoming diligent... intellectually diligent...

One of my students is using the idea-machine model, and is becoming brilliant in the process, after decades of being dull: intellectually slothful.

He hated being dull...

And believe it or not, he is enjoying the process. And now I actually enjoy talking to him, ask his advice, and we have become a co-creative system in his coaching.

He still needs some nudging, but it"s a process... He still doesn"t do it automatically... he still needs assignments... but with time it will become who he is... a brilliant idea machine.

If you are plodding, then using something like the idea-machine practice will slowly re-activate your slothful brain.

Another sticky point for most people is lack of humility.

We don"t know what humble is... or not really. But a definition I now use in my Starting Point Measurements is as good as any:

Humility is not thinking yourself less, it is thinking of yourself less

If and when everything has a self-referential aspect, if everything seems having something to do with you, then your humility score is low. And when your humility score is low, then you cannot change because you cannot learn.

And you remain worthless... for yourself and for the world.

This is a tendency that needs to be fought with all the energy you can muster, all the energy you can summon. Because it is a total misery maker.

The exercise I gave in the comments section of yesterday"s article is a great little exercise for this... will not eliminate self-centeredness, but at least will start this process.

The world view underneath is that you are an object in a world of objects, and the world is about you. About your interactions with the other objects and about what you think.

It is a world view that won"t allow you to be a person...

Everyone says: you are a spiritual being having a human experience.

This is a total b.s.

There is no spiritual being present in the world view of "I am an object in the world of objects"...

The spiritual is only possible if you become a "conversation", meaning a product of all the stuff you say, and all the stuff in your backdrop: the statements you have said, accepted, or resisted.

And then look at life, look at events, and consider them a conversation as well.

You are a conversation in a world of conversations.

Then you can start having some power over your life, because conversations can be altered, objects can"t.

I will stop here... because this article is getting too long...

If you have questions, the comments section is for that.

How will increasing the accuracy of your vocabulary lead you to a fuller experience of life, joy, purpose?

Yesterday I had a conversation where I had a number of opportunities to see how and what way your unclarity, your vocabulary, shows up, not as a theory, but as a reality.

How it prevents you from seeing reality, or hearing what is being said.

It was somewhat new to me, so if it was new to me, it will be really new to you.

1. You have a  limited relationship to the world that is expressed in word usage

It seems that we have words that we consider bad, or something like that.

Like WORK.

When I ask: what is the opposite of work, a huge big world of leisure, fun, luxury, shows up for you.

The side of work... it is blocked by your world view that says: I should have a life without work.

But life doesn"t agree. Life is empty and impossible to enjoy without work.

There is only one activity in life that you can do almost limitlessly: work. You cannot sleep longer than your body says... You cannot have sex, eat, laugh, speak, watch Netflix longer than your body agrees. But you can work and work and work some more and be well.

This is not specific for humans. Animals work too. Finding their food is their work. Getting their offspring protected and raised is their work.

Animals in captivity are unhappy: they are deprived of their work. Humans in captivity are unhappy: what is bad about jail or prison is that there is nothing to do to fill the time. No work.

One can say: work is your means to become a person. To have a Self. To have a self to express. To say who you are with your actions.

When you are robbed of that by considering work a four-letter word, they robbed you of your self-expression...

If you don"t leave the environment that says "work is bad" or however they say it, or retirement is better, or being rich means no work, you"ll never become a person.

Work is your riches. Not your money, not your stuff. No. It"s your work.

It"s your birthright.

Don"t live a half-life... please. You are wretched... and now you know why.

2. You use words interchangeably, as if they meant the same.

((You even do this while you read or while you listen. You hear one word and then quickly replace it with another you are more familiar with... and you think you got what was said. You didn"t. You got what you have always gotten.

This is the reason I am not afraid to give you 3500 articles for free. You are not able to get the results the articles COULD produce, because of this phenomenon... you cannot get the things Ii say because of this word switcheroo...

Even in one-on-one conversations this is a real challenge to me to keep on hammering away. And with all the hammering, and all the time, and all the checking, I can produce a 10% uptake at best.

Devastating. Especially because you, the "listener" think that you got everything I said... you didn"t.

The Starting Point Measurement (#23) is absolutely indicative of this. I haven"t, thus far, measured a person who measured higher than 10% on that score.

This article and the techniques I give you here can raise your score, your clarity, over time. It"s a process! And like every and any process, it can become a routine, like a dance, enjoyable. I"ll write an article about that next.

1. your soul correction (your machine): https://www.yourvibration.com/sc
2. do you have attachments?
3. the level of your health (1-100):
4. the level of your cell hydration (1-100):
5. your relationship to feedback and instruction:
6. The level of discomfort you are willing to allow w/o trying to fix it. This is your TLB score...
7. The size of your vocabulary: the number of words you can use accurately:
8. To what degree you think of yourself:
9. # of fixed mindset:
10. Ambition:
11. Desire:
12. Degree of inauthenticity overall:
13. Level of integrity 1-100:
14. how enslaved are you to memes? (what percentage of your life is run by memes?)
15. do you have a bridge between your precious "I" and your actual I? What is your level of delusion
16. To what degree you have access to your adult capacities %
17. How teachable/how coachable are you?
18. The level of your awareness?
19. your vibration (1-1000):
20. your overall intelligence, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, body, relationship, etc.:
21. the number of spiritual capacities you have:
22. the percentage of time you spend in the mind,
23. the percentage of input that gets through to you.
24. Recommendations:



))

One example that came up in the conversation was the words: strategy and process. ((Strategy is the what of the accomplishment. What you are going to do... Process is the how. Our goal is to first examine what you are doing, and then what we decide is going to get you there, we keep... and turn into routine. So fine-tuned that it feels effortless and joyous like a dance.

I have turned my life"s "doings" into processes... 90% of my life is processized... made into a routine that doesn"t use any glycogen, so I can use that and creativity where it matters to me.))

They have zero overlap.

Unless you know that, you won"t amount to much in any area of life... Can"t. Because you need both, but if you collapse the two words then you won"t develop both.

You need it everywhere, regardless of your education, regardless of your profession, regardless of your family status.

It what makes life, work, play, taking care of yourself or your family fun, easy, and a dance.

The distinction is missing, and it is missing that it"s missing. You don"t know why life isn"t working for you, you don"t know why you can"t take on a new project, or change some habits without leaving your life in a sham.

You don"t know why you don"t have time, or energy, or ambition to do new things.

You don"t know that your relationship to life is severely limited by your lack of distinction between words.

And maybe even specifically those two: strategy and process.

Not accidentally, I had two conversations with two people this week who had the same barrier to growth.

3. Living life through judgments...

Judgments are those binary statements you say in your head, that say something, good or bad, about a thing, a person, an idea.

Good/bad, stupid/smart, interesting/boring

One came up really strongly. My client asked himself: What am I excited about?

The question says it all: being excited is good. Not excited: not so good.

Here is the truth, here is what Life has to say:

Looking for excitement is definitely the way to be bipolar, and being a dog wagged by the tail. ((By the way: when you are looking for experiences, you are really looking for excitement. I write about this in this article What you crave is experiences...))

Result: nobody home, no person, no life. Hating life.

Life is best lived by living. Living is not exciting. Excitement is a peak experience that makes you old really fast. And it has its dark side, letdown.

When you consider excitement desirable, your life feels boring. Blah. And we can safely say: you are an addict. And your life is run by that addiction, not you.

No chance for growing, self-evolution, joy, enjoyment... because those need life to be not exciting. In excitement you can"t even look around: you are holding on with your fingertips... risking flying off into oblivion...

So life is passing you by.

You cannot and won"t see the beauty. You cannot and won"t see values in things, activities, people. You won"t have any joy.

Screaming on a roller coaster is not joy. It is fear, really. Terror.

People who are happy avoid excitement. And people who like excitement.

So what can you do? How can you catch that you are living a life of addiction?

I recommended to my client to catch himself when he judges... and add just one thing.

By the way: catching doesn"t mean stop judging. No, catching means, in this real life work, noticing.

So when you notice a judgment, do one thing: add another aspect to the binary statement. Blue, for example.

When the judgment is: stupid... then add blue.

It is a subtle change, but it will start taking you from blocking half of the world out to including a little bit more of it.

Stupid... blue. You cannot avoid but smile... can you?
That"s hard... blue. funny as hell.
I am NEVER... blue.

The jump between systemic judgment, the kind you do, to assessment... where you actually have more than one adjective on the side... is difficult even to understand.

So the mechanical action of adding the quality of blue, an adjective, is our way to create a stairway back to life. A full life. A life where you can see things, not judge them.

You can even do this with the word "work"... add an adjective... blue.

It may make all the difference.

NEW: Soul Correction: You Are Not Stupid, You Are Just Making Your Decisions Emotionally - Updated

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You are not stupid, you are just making your decisions emotionally

"If you want to live with the masses, think emotionally. If you want to live with the middle class, think positively. If you want live with the world class, think critically." --Steve Siebold

I have been impulsive and hasty as long as I can remember. And I have known myself, by my results, stupid, as long as I remember.

My results in any endeavor, any relationship, and the business of life have been anything but stellar. Mistakes, mistakes, mistakes.

The past 4-5 years I have been paying attention, but bad habits die slowly or never, and I am, for the most part, behaving the same way as I behaved all my life, hasty moves, jumping into conclusions, only to discover moments or days later that I didn"t look before I leaped.

I wish I were flawless, but then I would be useless as a teacher: when you are effortlessly good at something, then you can"t teach it: you have no distinctions in the area of your expertise. Only when you can go, through your own awareness, from bad to good, that you have something useful to offer to the world that wants to follow you.

This is the main issue, by the way, with many of the famed and revered teachers, like Osho or Eckhart Tolle. They are really nice to read, very nurturing, but impossible to follow. Because they never went from where you are to where they are... they somehow found themselves there, using none of their own effort.

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