The Majority is always wrong and how to make decisions the majority doesn"t make

I am republishing this article so you can see how much my truth value have risen in the past 10 months with the current Playground... It is not just you who grows... I grow too.

In the noise of the world, an orgy of misdirection, it is hard to feel, see, hear the guidance...

Awareness, especially Self-awareness is missing...

You have been methodically and systematically trained to be unsuccessful

Who trained you? Other unsuccessful people. Your parents, your teachers, your PhD"s, your blog writers, your youtube Heroes.

And of course you buy their b.s., lock stock and barrel, as if it were the god honest truth.

I was somewhat lucky: my parents didn"t talk to me... so they could not mislead me. My teachers didn"t talk to me, there were no blogs...

But, unfortunately, as an empath, other people"s feelings that felt like mine, did mislead me and I paid for it dearly.

When you don"t know where a guidance comes from, it can wreak havoc on your path, and make you waste decades of your life doing the wrong thing, working hard at the wrong thing, trying to succeed at the wrong thing.

You see, everyone has one, maybe two "right things" that they have a chance to become successful at, where their aptitude and their inclination meet.

But because we spend so little time with ourselves, in our own counsel, we miss it.

In my case, my mother had wanted to become an architect, and her desire was so strong, I took it on as my own. She NEVER spoke about it, by the way... So I could not identify it as her desire trap that finally entrapped me.

When I was 15-ish I participated in a talent show, somewhat like American Idol, and did well. Then I got accepted to be a guitar major in college... But I knew that a career in music would be boring to me. And even though later on the Hungarian Television wanted to me to host a talk-show, or whatever it was going to be, I could say no... and never regret my decision.

Eventually I became an architect, and I hated it. Why? Because I am a brainiac... and architecture uses only about 5% of your brain about 5% of the time, the rest is mindless, mind numbing b.s.

My main access to the mysteries of the beyond was language, and it needs none of that. So I felt like I would have felt with being a musician, or any profession that uses language only sometimes.

They tell you you can be anything, they tell you you can become successful at anything if you invest yourself.

What they don"t tell you is that 99.99% certain, that you"ll be also unhappy... because what you"ll be both good at and happy at is a single line, a narrow path, and anything outside of it is a dead zone... for you.

This is the main issue most of my clients/students has to deal with: they became good at the wrong thing.

It"s not too late, but almost. Because now they have a family to support, they hardly have any time to invest in a new path.

When I was writing the articles about the paradigms, or quadrants through which the Divine reaches you, I didn"t talk about the two-way connection. But in a happy life, a divine match, the connection is two-way: the Divine reaches you, and you reach the Divine.

My "quadrant" is goodness, also known as "community" or language, meaning language is my "Self"-expression mode.

A student of mine came alive when we settled on a spiritual practice that utilized language (words) as its expression... in his "job" he is a numbers person. He is also a goodness quadrant person.

I have and had a number of chatterboxes who talk and talk and talk some more, but their way to the divine is through their hands, even though the quadrant they are trapped in is the quadrant of power over others. But their native quadrant would be beauty... creating with your hands.

Most people have arrived to a certain level of proficiency in the wrong profession using a "modality" that doesn"t stir their soul.

Almost all power over others people natively belong to the Beauty quadrant... but it feels, I guess, pedestrian to earn your living with your hands? I don"t know. So they redirect their energies to an area where the only way they can succeed is through using, duping, maybe even abusing people.

Here is a quote from Warren Buffet who is and has been one of the most consistently successful people:

"I was genetically blessed with a certain wiring that"s very useful in a highly developed market system where there"s lots of chips on the table, and I happen to be good at that game. Ted Williams wrote a book called The Science of Hitting and in it he had a picture of himself at bat and the strike zone broken into, I think, 77 squares.

And he said if he waited for the pitch that was really in his sweet spot he would bat .400 and if he had to swing at something on the lower corner he would probably bat .235. And in investing I"m in a ‘no called strike" business which is the best business you can be in. I can look at a thousand different companies and I don"t have to be right on every one of them, or even fifty of them.

So I can pick the ball I want to hit. And the trick in investing is just to sit there and watch pitch after pitch go by and wait for the one right in your sweet spot. And if people are yelling, ‘Swing, you bum," ignore "em. There"s a temptation for people to act far too frequently in stocks simply because they"re so liquid. Over the years you develop a lot of filters.

But I do know what I call my ‘circle of competence" so I stay within that circle and I don"t worry about things that are outside that circle. Defining what your game is – where you"re going to have an edge – is enormously important."

– Warren Buffett, in the 2017 documentary, Becoming Warren Buffett

PS: One of the reasons most people don"t have a Self is because of this mismatch. The Divine is talking to them through one modality, and they try to talk back through another... never being in real, intimate contact with their source... which I call "The Divine".

Beauty is anything (in this context) that has an innate structure of patterns, structure, and innate beauty.

Higher mathematics, music, song-writing, feeling the heartbeat of a machine (including engineering) are all beauty occupations. Feeling the beauty...

Interestingly, Truth uses seeing as its main perception organ... I don"t have any Truth people in my circle of influence.

And even though I am an empath, I think I am strongly guided by words and echo... which is auditory, and yet you feel... like a sonogram...

Power, of course, is not a real quadrant, it is the consolation prize for those who missed their way.

And here is a TED talk that will shake you to your core... and shows you the secret I have been trying to point you to... and you"ve been resistent... at your own detriment.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VNGFep6rncY

The Majority is always wrong and how to make decisions the majority doesn"t make

In the noise of the world, an orgy of misdirection, it is hard to feel, see, hear the guidance...

Awareness, especially Self-awareness is missing...

You have been methodically and systematically trained to be unsuccessful

Who trained you? Other unsuccessful people. Your parents, your teachers, your PhD"s, your blog writers, your youtube Heroes.

And of course you buy their b.s., lock stock and barrel, as if it were the god honest truth.

I was somewhat lucky: my parents didn"t talk to me... so they could not mislead me. My teachers didn"t talk to me, there were no blogs...

But, unfortunately, as an empath, other people"s feelings that felt like mine, did mislead me and I paid for it dearly.

When you don"t know where a guidance comes from, it can wreak havoc on your path, and make you waste decades of your life doing the wrong thing, working hard at the wrong thing, trying to succeed at the wrong thing.

You see, everyone has one, maybe two "right things" that they have a chance to become successful at, where their aptitude and their inclination meet.

But because we spend so little time with ourselves, in our own counsel, we miss it.

In my case, my mother had wanted to become an architect, and her desire was so strong, I took it on as my own. She NEVER spoke about it, by the way... So I could not identify it as her desire trap that finally entrapped me.

When I was 15-ish I participated in a talent show, somewhat like American Idol, and did well. Then I got accepted to be a guitar major in college... But I knew that a career in music would be boring to me. And even though later on the Hungarian Television wanted to me to host a talk-show, or whatever it was going to be, I could say no... and never regret my decision.

Eventually I became an architect, and I hated it. Why? Because I am a brainiac... and architecture uses only about 5% of your brain about 5% of the time, the rest is mindless, mind numbing b.s.

My main access to the mysteries of the beyond was language, and it needs none of that. So I felt like I would have felt with being a musician, or any profession that uses language only sometimes.

They tell you you can be anything, they tell you you can become successful at anything if you invest yourself.

What they don"t tell you is that 99.99% certain, that you"ll be also unhappy... because what you"ll be both good at and happy at is a single line, a narrow path, and anything outside of it is a dead zone... for you.

This is the main issue most of my clients/students has to deal with: they became good at the wrong thing.

It"s not too late, but almost. Because now they have a family to support, they hardly have any time to invest in a new path.

When I was writing the articles about the paradigms, or quadrants through which the Divine reaches you, I didn"t talk about the two-way connection. But in a happy life, a divine match, the connection is two-way: the Divine reaches you, and you reach the Divine.

My "quadrant" is goodness, also known as "community" or language, meaning language is my "Self"-expression mode.

A student of mine came alive when we settled on a spiritual practice that utilized language (words) as its expression... in his "job" he is a numbers person. He is also a goodness quadrant person.

I have and had a number of chatterboxes who talk and talk and talk some more, but their way to the divine is through their hands, even though the quadrant they are trapped in is the quadrant of power over others. But their native quadrant would be beauty... creating with your hands.

Most people have arrived to a certain level of proficiency in the wrong profession using a "modality" that doesn"t stir their soul.

Almost all power over others people natively belong to the Beauty quadrant... but it feels, I guess, pedestrian to earn your living with your hands? I don"t know. So they redirect their energies to an area where the only way they can succeed is through using, duping, maybe even abusing people.

Here is a quote from Warren Buffet who is and has been one of the most consistently successful people:

"I was genetically blessed with a certain wiring that"s very useful in a highly developed market system where there"s lots of chips on the table, and I happen to be good at that game. Ted Williams wrote a book called The Science of Hitting and in it he had a picture of himself at bat and the strike zone broken into, I think, 77 squares. And he said if he waited for the pitch that was really in his sweet spot he would bat .400 and if he had to swing at something on the lower corner he would probably bat .235. And in investing I"m in a ‘no called strike" business which is the best business you can be in. I can look at a thousand different companies and I don"t have to be right on every one of them, or even fifty of them. So I can pick the ball I want to hit. And the trick in investing is just to sit there and watch pitch after pitch go by and wait for the one right in your sweet spot. And if people are yelling, ‘Swing, you bum," ignore "em. There"s a temptation for people to act far too frequently in stocks simply because they"re so liquid. Over the years you develop a lot of filters. But I do know what I call my ‘circle of competence" so I stay within that circle and I don"t worry about things that are outside that circle. Defining what your game is – where you"re going to have an edge – is enormously important."

– Warren Buffett, in the 2017 documentary, Becoming Warren Buffett

PS: One of the reasons most people don"t have a Self is because of this mismatch. The Divine is talking to them through one modality, and they try to talk back through another... never being in real, intimate contact with their source... which I call "The Divine".

Beauty is anything (in this context) that has an innate structure of patterns, structure, and innate beauty.

Higher mathematics, music, song-writing, feeling the heartbeat of a machine (including engineering) are all beauty occupations. Feeling the beauty...

Interestingly, Truth uses seeing as its main perception organ... I don"t have any Truth people in my circle of influence.

And even though I am an empath, I think I am guided by echo... which is auditory.

Power, of course, is not a real quadrant, it is the consolation prize for those who missed their way.

And here is a TED talk that will shake you to your core... and shows you the secret I have been trying to point you to... and you"ve been resistent... at your own detriment.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VNGFep6rncY

How do you end up in the quadrant of Beauty, Truth, Goodness, or Power?

How? You choose it... and you choose it by your early life experience.

Of course, it is not what happens to you, but what you say about is, is what is your life experience. And it is influenced by your intangible capacities, even at that early age.

Let"s see an example or comparing two similar incidents, with two different choices.

• Little boy wants to go left in the street, parents want to go home, which is straight... parents go straight, little boy is left on the corner.


• Little girl goes too slow for mother"s taste, or maybe she is running late. But the mother decides to go ahead at her own pace, and leaves the little girl in the street.

Obviously both kids were picked up and taken home.

• The boy said: there is no truth. I have no power. I have to manipulate them better... I will choose beauty.


• The girl said: I am heavy, I am worthless... I choose goodness. I don"t need to be carried. I"ll go it alone if I must.

Makes sense? No. It made sense to the kids... and they set out their path in that decision. Set out what is important, what is worth it, what they will invest their lives in.

• Here is a third story, another little girl. She has an even younger sister who probably misbehaved. The father banishes the little one from the house, and hour later sends the older girl to fetch her.

The 4-year old said: there is no justice. there is no love. there is no truth. I have no power. I choose beauty, and I choose dutiful.

I have a lot more examples... ((Here are a few more:

• The little boy calls for his mother to wipe his a**. His father comes instead, and makes him stand up, all the "stuff" for the world to see. He decides that it"s important to keep people controlled... He chooses power over others.


• A little girl, third girl in the family, envies all the attention her older sisters are getting... in her world, at her expense. They get the attention she should be getting. She decides that the way to live life is the hog everything of everyone... she chose power over others.


• Yet another little girl defies her father"s instructions to not go out and play with kids outside. She goes, and gets caught. She decides the way to live life is to exercise power over everyone.


• This little girl defies her mother"s instruction to not go into the ocean so she won"t be carried away by the current. She gets carried away by the current. The mother almost kills herself to save her little girl. The girls decides that this power thing works... and makes it her life.

By the way, these power people are no longer students. Why? Because they wanted to overpower me. Fat chance.

My job is to stay free and clear so I can coach you... But that is not what they wanted.))

So what is the fundamental distinction between the choices?

I say the need for other people... or not.

• Goodness says: I can stand alone. I don"t need anyone to approve of me, I don"t need anyone to like me, I am enough alone.


• Truth says: I need people to agree with me. Beauty says: I need people to like me to approve of me. And Power says: I need people to own, I need people to turn to my will.

Some famous power people: Benjamin Franklin, Jeff Bezos, Steve Jobs, Charlie Munger, Sam Walton
Some famous goodness people: Warren Buffet, Mark Zuckerberg

• Truth people are mostly campaigners, for justice, for the "truth"


• Beauty people... surround themselves with a lot of people, and in my humble opinion, don"t get much done.

Obviously I have just been scratching the surface of this topic, and haven"t been able to get deep. The truth value of what I am saying is 60%... and it"s because 40% is not visible yet.

One of the questions, the 64000 dollar question is: can you change your decision?

20% chance, according to Source, that you are able to. Most of you are stuck with what you have: good, bad, ugly.

Your job is to make the best with what you"ve got.

And that, my dear, is the best advice for everyone. If you look closely, only 10% of the best starting point, of the best given becomes anyone worth listening to, or watching.

How does the saying go? Be Someone Worth Reading Or Writing About. And you can accomplish that with any quadrant... I promise.

The distinction is: You can, but will you?

And a bonus assignment for those of you who know him: What quadrant is Tai Lopez in? Please comment below, or if you are stingy, email me. You can put Anonymous for your name, and no one but me will know who made that comment.

What do you want, really? or asked differently What do you really want?

The answer is in the values you choose to love...

I have been harping on values... and it is as if I were speaking in an auditorium where my voice doesn"t, can"t carry... there is no echo. ((My very first assignment as a newly minted architect was to create the acoustics for the rooms of the Academy of Music in Budapest. The requirements were: let the people in the room have good acoustics, while nothing to be heard outside of the room... tricky but can be done.))

Nothing and no one indicating that they are hearing me, that they are pondering, that the question is heard and taken on as a quest to answer, to ponder, to be taken with you to sleep, to your meditation, to your walks, so you eventually come up with something you value.

Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.

Community cannot for long feed on itself; it can only flourish with the coming of others from beyond, their unknown and undiscovered brothers.

During times of war, hatred becomes quite respectable even though it has to masquerade often under the guise of patriotism.

- Howard Thurman (1900 - 1981)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUsG4B8VKqQ

There are two kinds of values, temporary/transitory and eternal.

Nothing wrong with either of them. but if your life is about chasing temporary, transitory values (systemic values and extrinsic values are all transitory) your life will be, meaning your experience of your life, a roller coaster. No permanence, especially not where it matters, on the inside.

The purpose of religion in its most benevolent form, is to give some sturdiness to your insides, so you have something beyond the momentary pleasures of eating, sexing, or the ego. ((Ego is a tricky word. I should have used "selfish gene" instead... but I am still a little confused, so let"s leave it at that.))

Obviously (to me and to Source) only two percent of religious people get the eternal values guide their lives, because what you need, the pre-condition to be guided by the eternal, is to surrender yourself to something greater than yourself: the eternal.

Three of the four ways the Divine gets to you, beauty, truth, and power are transitory, temporary, change with the culture. Goodness, on the other hand is eternal.

So people who are goodness influenced have an easier time to surrender. I am not saying all do... Donald Trump is a goodness person... do you see any signs of surrendering to a purpose larger than himself? I don"t. Stalin... ditto.

I have muscle tested many of the billionaires I know of... it"s a mixed bag... Half are goodness, the other half power over others. A very few are beauty or truth.

I just had a conversation with a client/student of mine. He guessed only about 20% right what someone"s quadrant was.

It turns out that we are not born into a quadrant, but by about 3-year old we choose one. I chose goodness, in a family of Power-people. I stuck out like a sore thumb.

When my mother came to visit me in the USA when I was 45, she had a puzzled look every time she looked at me. I seemed to her to be of a different species... and in essence I was.

Here is the most troubling piece: you have no Self if you are beauty, truth, or power. You live your life, do your work, not from your Self, but from some outside element, mostly other people, or a concept like money or success.

Where Self is supposed to be, you are empty. And that is frightening.

The good news is that you can build a Self... although your outward focus will be a real obstacle.

Do all Goodness people have a Self? Muscle test says: no. Only about 1% of them.

Why is that? Because we live in a culture where it is not hip to be an individual with a Self.

I am continuing this inquiry

It is obvious that certain cultures are more intent on killing individuality, your Self than others. Canada is one of these cultures. California is another.

New York where I live is second after New Jersey that is the friendliest to individuality, followed by New York and Massachusetts. Why? I don"t know. I lived in New Jersey for 16 years, but didn"t know to look.

This should clue you in that you see more of what is through distinctions. No distinctions: you walk around with empty eyes... that is pretty much most people on the planet.

This article has been in the making for a few days now, given that I can work on it a few minutes at a time before I get so sick that I have to go back to bed again.

The most alarming thing about these few days isn"t that I am very sick... it is the lack of curiosity my readers show, including my students.

The distinction: how the divine gets through to you is one of the fundamental distinctions that will show you how your machine operates, and what to do to become someone with a Self, that can have Self-confidence, Self-respect, Self-regard, Self-esteem, Self-governance.

Without those you have empty eyes, you can never be happy, and if I were you, that is an opportunity I would never want to miss.

I had a call yesterday with a Beauty person whose mantra is "it"s too much work for too little", in essence "it"s not worth it".

The expression comes to mind:

You know the price of everything, the value of nothing.

Because most of you have never had a Self, you actually don"t know what you are missing.

A simple test: ask yourself what you want for or from your life. If it"s something transient, puny, non-eternal... you are a dog that is wagged by the tail... a clear indication that you don"t have a Self.

When Thoreau said: the mass of men live a life of quiet desperation, he meant living without a Self. Living without an inner core. Being empty inside.

I don"t care what your gurus tell you: if you are empty inside, you try to fill it with pretty images, but still no Self.

Even though 10% of humanity has the capacity to surrender and become an individual, only 10% of those actually realize that.

When you look, we are born with a ton of capacities, and few turn capacities into abilities, functional and operative abilities. The same is with the capacity for being and individual. It takes courage, it takes trust, it takes turning your life over to a single integrated principle. That is an individual... And only an individual has a Self.

And if you know the real meaning of integrity, the sentence where it says: Being true to Your Self cannot be fulfilled unless you have a Self.

I have people who argue with me on their Starting Point Measurements, saying that everyone says their strongest attribute is their integrity, while their integrity number is under 10%.

You cannot have integrity without a Self.

I learned a lot of distinctions in my 26 years in Landmark Education. With this new distinction, I suddenly understood why only 1% of participants are ever able to live the life that is available from participation.

Only 1% of humanity has a Self... and to live a life you love and to live it powerfully needs you to have a Self.

The cornerstone of Landmark"s teaching is to invent a new possibility for yourself and your life.

Once. And then live it, allow it to guide your actions, your thinking, your life.

Instead all the people I knew there, invent something bombastic every few days, and then forget it. Without a Self, without the capacity to surrender, it is band aids, soothing salve, temporary relief.

This number includes staff as well... Even Werner Erhard is a man without a Self.

You can have a Self no matter what is the method the divine has to get to you. It takes work, it takes new abilities, it takes sometime all you got... and it"s worth it... if and when you realize that walking around empty is a guarantee that you"ll live and empty life.

Of course if your access to life, if your mantra is "It"s not worth the bother" you won"t do it. You will remain a second-hander, a looter, a moocher, an person with empty eyes.

One of the billions of "men" living a life of quiet desperation.