How do you end up in the quadrant of Beauty, Truth, Goodness, or Power?

How? You choose it... and you choose it by your early life experience.

Of course, it is not what happens to you, but what you say about is, is what is your life experience. And it is influenced by your intangible capacities, even at that early age.

Let"s see an example or comparing two similar incidents, with two different choices.

• Little boy wants to go left in the street, parents want to go home, which is straight... parents go straight, little boy is left on the corner.


• Little girl goes too slow for mother"s taste, or maybe she is running late. But the mother decides to go ahead at her own pace, and leaves the little girl in the street.

Obviously both kids were picked up and taken home.

• The boy said: there is no truth. I have no power. I have to manipulate them better... I will choose beauty.


• The girl said: I am heavy, I am worthless... I choose goodness. I don"t need to be carried. I"ll go it alone if I must.

Makes sense? No. It made sense to the kids... and they set out their path in that decision. Set out what is important, what is worth it, what they will invest their lives in.

• Here is a third story, another little girl. She has an even younger sister who probably misbehaved. The father banishes the little one from the house, and hour later sends the older girl to fetch her.

The 4-year old said: there is no justice. there is no love. there is no truth. I have no power. I choose beauty, and I choose dutiful.

I have a lot more examples... ((Here are a few more:

• The little boy calls for his mother to wipe his a**. His father comes instead, and makes him stand up, all the "stuff" for the world to see. He decides that it"s important to keep people controlled... He chooses power over others.


• A little girl, third girl in the family, envies all the attention her older sisters are getting... in her world, at her expense. They get the attention she should be getting. She decides that the way to live life is the hog everything of everyone... she chose power over others.


• Yet another little girl defies her father"s instructions to not go out and play with kids outside. She goes, and gets caught. She decides the way to live life is to exercise power over everyone.


• This little girl defies her mother"s instruction to not go into the ocean so she won"t be carried away by the current. She gets carried away by the current. The mother almost kills herself to save her little girl. The girls decides that this power thing works... and makes it her life.

By the way, these power people are no longer students. Why? Because they wanted to overpower me. Fat chance.

My job is to stay free and clear so I can coach you... But that is not what they wanted.))

So what is the fundamental distinction between the choices?

I say the need for other people... or not.

• Goodness says: I can stand alone. I don"t need anyone to approve of me, I don"t need anyone to like me, I am enough alone.


• Truth says: I need people to agree with me. Beauty says: I need people to like me to approve of me. And Power says: I need people to own, I need people to turn to my will.

Some famous power people: Benjamin Franklin, Jeff Bezos, Steve Jobs, Charlie Munger, Sam Walton
Some famous goodness people: Warren Buffet, Mark Zuckerberg

• Truth people are mostly campaigners, for justice, for the "truth"


• Beauty people... surround themselves with a lot of people, and in my humble opinion, don"t get much done.

Obviously I have just been scratching the surface of this topic, and haven"t been able to get deep. The truth value of what I am saying is 60%... and it"s because 40% is not visible yet.

One of the questions, the 64000 dollar question is: can you change your decision?

20% chance, according to Source, that you are able to. Most of you are stuck with what you have: good, bad, ugly.

Your job is to make the best with what you"ve got.

And that, my dear, is the best advice for everyone. If you look closely, only 10% of the best starting point, of the best given becomes anyone worth listening to, or watching.

How does the saying go? Be Someone Worth Reading Or Writing About. And you can accomplish that with any quadrant... I promise.

The distinction is: You can, but will you?

And a bonus assignment for those of you who know him: What quadrant is Tai Lopez in? Please comment below, or if you are stingy, email me. You can put Anonymous for your name, and no one but me will know who made that comment.

What do you want, really? or asked differently What do you really want?

The answer is in the values you choose to love...

I have been harping on values... and it is as if I were speaking in an auditorium where my voice doesn"t, can"t carry... there is no echo. ((My very first assignment as a newly minted architect was to create the acoustics for the rooms of the Academy of Music in Budapest. The requirements were: let the people in the room have good acoustics, while nothing to be heard outside of the room... tricky but can be done.))

Nothing and no one indicating that they are hearing me, that they are pondering, that the question is heard and taken on as a quest to answer, to ponder, to be taken with you to sleep, to your meditation, to your walks, so you eventually come up with something you value.

Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.

Community cannot for long feed on itself; it can only flourish with the coming of others from beyond, their unknown and undiscovered brothers.

During times of war, hatred becomes quite respectable even though it has to masquerade often under the guise of patriotism.

- Howard Thurman (1900 - 1981)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cUsG4B8VKqQ

There are two kinds of values, temporary/transitory and eternal.

Nothing wrong with either of them. but if your life is about chasing temporary, transitory values (systemic values and extrinsic values are all transitory) your life will be, meaning your experience of your life, a roller coaster. No permanence, especially not where it matters, on the inside.

The purpose of religion in its most benevolent form, is to give some sturdiness to your insides, so you have something beyond the momentary pleasures of eating, sexing, or the ego. ((Ego is a tricky word. I should have used "selfish gene" instead... but I am still a little confused, so let"s leave it at that.))

Obviously (to me and to Source) only two percent of religious people get the eternal values guide their lives, because what you need, the pre-condition to be guided by the eternal, is to surrender yourself to something greater than yourself: the eternal.

Three of the four ways the Divine gets to you, beauty, truth, and power are transitory, temporary, change with the culture. Goodness, on the other hand is eternal.

So people who are goodness influenced have an easier time to surrender. I am not saying all do... Donald Trump is a goodness person... do you see any signs of surrendering to a purpose larger than himself? I don"t. Stalin... ditto.

I have muscle tested many of the billionaires I know of... it"s a mixed bag... Half are goodness, the other half power over others. A very few are beauty or truth.

I just had a conversation with a client/student of mine. He guessed only about 20% right what someone"s quadrant was.

It turns out that we are not born into a quadrant, but by about 3-year old we choose one. I chose goodness, in a family of Power-people. I stuck out like a sore thumb.

When my mother came to visit me in the USA when I was 45, she had a puzzled look every time she looked at me. I seemed to her to be of a different species... and in essence I was.

Here is the most troubling piece: you have no Self if you are beauty, truth, or power. You live your life, do your work, not from your Self, but from some outside element, mostly other people, or a concept like money or success.

Where Self is supposed to be, you are empty. And that is frightening.

The good news is that you can build a Self... although your outward focus will be a real obstacle.

Do all Goodness people have a Self? Muscle test says: no. Only about 1% of them.

Why is that? Because we live in a culture where it is not hip to be an individual with a Self.

I am continuing this inquiry

It is obvious that certain cultures are more intent on killing individuality, your Self than others. Canada is one of these cultures. California is another.

New York where I live is second after New Jersey that is the friendliest to individuality, followed by New York and Massachusetts. Why? I don"t know. I lived in New Jersey for 16 years, but didn"t know to look.

This should clue you in that you see more of what is through distinctions. No distinctions: you walk around with empty eyes... that is pretty much most people on the planet.

This article has been in the making for a few days now, given that I can work on it a few minutes at a time before I get so sick that I have to go back to bed again.

The most alarming thing about these few days isn"t that I am very sick... it is the lack of curiosity my readers show, including my students.

The distinction: how the divine gets through to you is one of the fundamental distinctions that will show you how your machine operates, and what to do to become someone with a Self, that can have Self-confidence, Self-respect, Self-regard, Self-esteem, Self-governance.

Without those you have empty eyes, you can never be happy, and if I were you, that is an opportunity I would never want to miss.

I had a call yesterday with a Beauty person whose mantra is "it"s too much work for too little", in essence "it"s not worth it".

The expression comes to mind:

You know the price of everything, the value of nothing.

Because most of you have never had a Self, you actually don"t know what you are missing.

A simple test: ask yourself what you want for or from your life. If it"s something transient, puny, non-eternal... you are a dog that is wagged by the tail... a clear indication that you don"t have a Self.

When Thoreau said: the mass of men live a life of quiet desperation, he meant living without a Self. Living without an inner core. Being empty inside.

I don"t care what your gurus tell you: if you are empty inside, you try to fill it with pretty images, but still no Self.

Even though 10% of humanity has the capacity to surrender and become an individual, only 10% of those actually realize that.

When you look, we are born with a ton of capacities, and few turn capacities into abilities, functional and operative abilities. The same is with the capacity for being and individual. It takes courage, it takes trust, it takes turning your life over to a single integrated principle. That is an individual... And only an individual has a Self.

And if you know the real meaning of integrity, the sentence where it says: Being true to Your Self cannot be fulfilled unless you have a Self.

I have people who argue with me on their Starting Point Measurements, saying that everyone says their strongest attribute is their integrity, while their integrity number is under 10%.

You cannot have integrity without a Self.

I learned a lot of distinctions in my 26 years in Landmark Education. With this new distinction, I suddenly understood why only 1% of participants are ever able to live the life that is available from participation.

Only 1% of humanity has a Self... and to live a life you love and to live it powerfully needs you to have a Self.

The cornerstone of Landmark"s teaching is to invent a new possibility for yourself and your life.

Once. And then live it, allow it to guide your actions, your thinking, your life.

Instead all the people I knew there, invent something bombastic every few days, and then forget it. Without a Self, without the capacity to surrender, it is band aids, soothing salve, temporary relief.

This number includes staff as well... Even Werner Erhard is a man without a Self.

You can have a Self no matter what is the method the divine has to get to you. It takes work, it takes new abilities, it takes sometime all you got... and it"s worth it... if and when you realize that walking around empty is a guarantee that you"ll live and empty life.

Of course if your access to life, if your mantra is "It"s not worth the bother" you won"t do it. You will remain a second-hander, a looter, a moocher, an person with empty eyes.

One of the billions of "men" living a life of quiet desperation.

Arrogance.

I have been dealing with arrogance in my students.

Arrogance is unearned boastful superiority.
Most people don"t know, don"t care because they themselves are not achievers... but you can have confidence that is justified by your accomplishments, your superior knowledge.

To the uninitiated, they look and sound the same. But they aren"t. You only need to scratch the surface.

I have detected a certain ancestral commonality in that behavior.

And have been pondering why and how and for what purpose are certain nationalities arrogant.

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Are you trying to use what you know to be well, healthy, vital, vibrant, and intelligent?

When you are trying to use your mind to be well, healthy, vital, vibrant, and smart

Your mind is good for mind stuff... but being well, being healthy, being vital, being vibrant, and even being smart are intrinsic values, and the mind cannot wrap itself around it: they are above mind.

Mind is concerned with what mind is concerned with, and it is never the whole; it"s the pieces, it"s the spot cleaning.

Mind thinks that if it put together the parts it can see are needed, the parts would create health, vitality, etc... but the mind, the mechanistic systemic organ is sorely mistaken. In the paradigm of the mind two plus two makes four... same level where you started: parts. No life.

Life is an intrinsic value... impenetrable by the mind.
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Are you healthy enough to have meaning to your life? Purpose?

Meaning: Following THAT Star. The alternative is Meaningless
This is my quest: to follow that star, no matter how hopeless, no matter how far.



Humans are strange animals: they need meaning to make their lives to feel more than just existing. They need purpose to give a backbone, to give direction, to transform a life of prose to poetry.

But life is, in itself, empty and meaningless... so how do you find the meaning, how do you find the purpose?

I was 38 years old when meaning first entered my life. It was dramatic, and it was life altering.

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How do you use the three levels of value in your "real" life to fall in love with yourself?

How do you use the three levels of value in your "real" life to fall in love with yourself?

The article asking: where do you look to define your value got a lot of "hits" and comments.

Reading the answers I saw that some fundamental distinctions are missing, in spite of the fact that I have written about all of those before, on this blog.

So after reading the article about the three levels of value, you probably start to see a little bit the difference how the different levels of value change what assessment you make, how your appraisal, evaluation, estimation, measurement, judgment will be, looking from that level.

So let"s look a little deeper and see with examples how that looks.

Where you are speaking from is as important as what kind of value you are judging.
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The three levels of value: an amazing process to fall in love with yourself

In this article I"ll teach you something that has the potential to turn you into a happy, joyful person. No kidding.

Also, it can serve as the bridge between human and human being...

From that you can guess: the distinctions in this article are advanced.

At present, if you are a "normal" human, you are judging yourself and others. You are miserable, wretched, prone to get happy, get sad, get depressed at the drop of a hat.

I assert that you are judgmental, because distinctions are missing, and there is nothing wrong with you. Or them...

You are judgmental. You can"t help it. You may try to control yourself, suppress it, but it isn"t going anywhere. It is there. It"s vicious. You judge yourself as much as you judge others. This is how you learned to be by modeling your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your church, your politicians.

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How to get things done, even if you don"t quite know what you need to do?

This used to happen to me all the time: I"d get an email with a link. I"d go to the page, I"d love the results the guy is having, I"d want it. I"d buy it... then... I can"t use it. Even the tutorial videos don"t help: I lost my "vision."

How come we buy things. While we watch the sales video, we feel clear about our need to have this, we feel clear about how it"s going to fit into what we are already doing, we feel clear about what to do.

Then the magic moment comes: we are sitting in front of the product, and we have no idea about any of that.

I hear that only one to two percent of buyers, on average, use the products they bought. Whether it is a software, a marketing method, a workout regimen, the Water Energizer®, a meditation program, a spiritual practice... whatever it is, the results are the same.

What happened? They nodded.
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Osho on Knowledge and Knowing

ASCENDING TO THE HIGH SEAT, DOGEN ZENJI SAID: "ZEN MASTER HOGEN STUDIED WITH KEISHIN ZENJI.
ONCE KEISHIN ZENJI ASKED HIM, JOZA, WHERE DO YOU GO?"
HOGEN SAID. "I AM MAKING PILGRIMAGE AIMLESSLY."
KEISHIN SAID, "WHAT IS THE MATTER OF YOUR PILGRIMAGE?"
HOGEN SAID, "I DON"T KNOW."
KEISHIN SAID, "NOT KNOWING IS THE MOST INTIMATE."
HOGEN SUDDENLY ATTAINED GREAT ENLIGHTENMENT."
ZEN IS JUST ZEN. There is nothing comparable to it. It is unique -- unique in the sense that it is the most ordinary and yet the most extraordinary phenomenon that has happened to human consciousness. It is the most ordinary because it does not believe in knowledge, it does not believe in mind. It is not a philosophy, not a religion either. It is the acceptance of the ordinary existence with a total heart, with one"s total being, not desiring some other world, supra-mundane, supra-mental.

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Osho: The art of walking the tightrope

In this series of Osho talks he examines stories from different ancient cultures. This is an excellent companion to what I teach. Enjoy!



ONCE, WHEN THE HASIDIM WERE SEATED TOGETHER
IN ALL BROTHERLINESS,
PIPE IN HAND, RABBI ISRAEL JOINED THEM.
BECAUSE HE WAS SO FRIENDLY THEY ASKED HIM,
"TELL US, DEAR RABBI, HOW SHOULD WE SERVE GOD?"



HE WAS SURPRISED AT THE QUESTION,
AND REPLIED, "HOW SHOULD I KNOW?"

BUT THEN HE WENT ON TO TELL THEM THIS STORY..
THERE WERE TWO FRIENDS OF THE KING,
AND BOTH WERE PROVED GUILTY OF A CRIME.

SINCE HE LOVED THEM THE KING WANTED TO SHOW THEM MERCY,
BUT HE COULD NOT ACQUIT THEM BECAUSE EVEN A KING"S WORD
CANNOT PREVAIL OVER THE LAW.

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How could you become ready to grow?

I am using Rob Brezsny"s words here... maybe his English communicates better than mine:
ANTI-INSTRUCTIONS

Exaggerate your flaws till they turn into virtues Pretend your wounds are exotic tattoos Refuse the gifts that infringe on your freedom Shun sacred places that fill you with boredom Keep in mind it"s bad luck to be superstitious The official story"s always fictitious Pump up your karma with idiot laughter The promised land"s here, not in some hereafter

We are searching for the answers so we can destroy them and dream up better questions

Here are two attitudes that will be useful, invaluable, and mandatory if you want to grow through my programs

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It"s hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts occur when you open your mouth.

Some days I have nothing to say. It doesn"t feel like there is anything to say that needs to be said.

Some people never have anything to say and they talk all the time. Others think that they have to first formulate it in their heads to say it, and it never comes together.

Professional thinkers, writers know that "it is hard to be silently brilliant. Lots of thoughts occur wen you open your mouth."

Thinking is a lot like digging for gold. Someone or something has to hold the dirt, or you can"t get beneath it.

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Can you feel energy? I mean you, personally... Different energies?

When I put the word "energy" into the search box on google, most listings are about electricity, and the rest are about woo woo sites.

People still don"t understand energy. Why? Because our receptors for energy are not differentiated enough, and not connected to the conscious mind enough for us to have more words... and without words there is no understanding. ((Some people, example are the crime lab in Criminal Minds, have machines to connect between energy and our senses... spectrometer (an apparatus used for recording and measuring spectra, especially as a method of analysis.) where spectra/spectrum means: a band of colors, as seen in a rainbow, produced by separation of the components of light by their different degrees of refraction according to wavelength. Here, energy is translated to what the human mind can perceive and demonstrate: colors of light... But everything is spectrum, i.e. energy, measurable, and precise))

I have always been weather sensitive. You know those insufferable people that know what weather is coming, where the wind is coming from, the pressure and the magnetism, and don"t stop talking about it.

I didn"t talk about it, but that"s it. The rest has always been true to me. I"ve felt it, I"ve known it. Insufferable for myself... lol.

And I paid attention, so I wasn"t merely an "I am suffering" type of insufferable, suffering from the bad feelings that others could not believe I was feeling.

If I can feel it, you can feel it, but you have no distinctions, the building blocks of perceived reality, and I do.

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More on activating consciousness to guide you: what are the abilities you use for that?

It is human nature to want to be smart. The feeling is: the smarter you are the better life will be.

But being smart from the mind isn"t very smart, except to the people who put the stuff in your mind.

In my readings about different cultures, the Chinese culture is a good example of that kind of smart. For hundreds and hundreds of years, the Chinese has been encouraged to repeat, not think.

For two years I had three Chinese students live next door: no thinking, no emotions, was my experience. If any emotions were felt by me, it was the emotions of visitors and guests... never the occupants.

Problem-solving

The evolution of the species requires people to be problem solvers.

There are two kinds of problem-solvers

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Doctor Who... how the doctor lost sight that he is the doctor only once.

Why I love all the Doctors
I love Doctor Who... My favorite thing about the doctor is that he never forgets, never loses sight of the big picture... almost never.

In one of the episodes he does... and it is the episode I go back, and watch it again. To watch the transformation back and forth from doctor to stupid earthbound human back to doctor.

The Doctor is the best illustration I have for living out of the Observer, the Watcher... the part of you that doesn"t get entangled... that doesn"t lose sight of what you are about, what it is about. Brilliant.
1: Because he’s adorable when embarrassed, he’s always learning and growing, and he’s still very much a Time Lord.  Because he’s got precisely the reverse of Matt Smith going on: he’s young by the standards of his own species but old by ours, and it creates the most fascinating dynamic.

2: Because he’s kind, considerate, demonstrative, loving, whimsical, playful and childish, but you do not want to cross him.  Because he believes in the potential for goodness in everyone, even the Daleks, but doesn’t let that blind him to the dangers of the universe.  Because he likes music and funny hats and coats and bow ties.  Because he’s still such a boy, but he’s growing older, too.  Because his departure story is heartrending, and marks a major turning point in who the Doctor is.

 

3: Because Venusian aikido and reversed polarities.  Because of every single thing about his relationships with the Brig, Jo, Liz and Sarah, not to mention Benton and Yates and the Master and Bessie.  Because he’s a man out of his element but stronger than ever.  Because he’s a consummate gentleman.  Because he will kick your ass in velvet and lace.  Because now he’s learned something about loss and pain, and yet it’s taught him that where there’s life, there is always, always hope.

 

4: Because he doesn’t take one single thing seriously–except when it really matters.  Because he’s not afraid to lead revolutions, change history, or even kill, but he appreciates the gravity of those decisions.  Because he’s an eccentric bohemian in a twenty-foot scarf with hair as wild as he is.  Because he’s smarter than the universe, and there has never been a Doctor so impossible to defeat.  Because his major companions are absolutely incredible women, any of whom could easily carry off a show of their own, as they have to be to stand up next to him.  Because there’s no sense in being grown-up if you can’t be childish sometimes.  Because he is an unstoppable individualist and proud of it.  Because the universe is his oyster, and he always manages to find the pearl in it.  Because he’s mad as all the hatters and hares in the seven systems.  Because he’s always laughing, and always will.  Because he’ll insult you to your face if you deserve it.  Because it’s never not the right time for a jelly baby.  And because Tom Baker is the Doctor, and has always said so himself.

 

5: Because cricket, tea, cele
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What is your self-image? Are self-image questions, personality profiles, Kolbe test give you a correct answer?

There is a fundamental built-in error in tests that involve answering questions about ourselves.

I have found that personality tests that rely on your knowing yourself and to predict what you would do in certain situations, are profoundly flawed. ((Some tests I have an experience with: Kolbe test
Hartman value profile
other personality tests your coaches create. ))

I say this after working with thousands of people, one-on-one, observing them, feeling them (I am an empath) and comparing who and how they are compared to what they say about themselves.

The gap is significant between the two.

You believe yourself different, and you fill out your questionnaire. But your actions will still be consistent with who you really are, how you really behave, your real attitude, your real self, and you"ll be way off in your test results... ((And your coach will be way off... if they even look at it your profile at all))

You"ll be like the mad hero, Don Quixote, who lived in a world of his own design, unaware that he was out of sync, and that his actions were mad in the real world. ((Today"s equivalent is the religious person, or the Law of Attraction person, the conspiracy theorist person etc... duped, mistaken, fighting windmills))

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How to ground yourself when everything seems to effect you strongly?

Do you often feel like a leaf that is tossed around by every wind, your thoughts, your emotions, the opinions of others, fashion, urges etc.?

When you give up the big game because it looks, feels impossible, because you succumb to hopelessness

I just came back from my weekly grocery shopping.

I sat down by the computer when a wave of hopelessness washed over me. "Why bother, it"s never going to work, no one is interested... Just watch Netflix..." suggested the feeling.

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Doesn"t work? Let"s do more of it.

MindValley is very encouraged by its results with John Assaraf"s program launch: they sold 1.2 million dollar worth of courses. An excellent way to rid people of their money, people who probably paid with credit cards, and increased their debt load in hopes of becoming a millionaire... by changing their minds about money.

MindValley is so encouraged, that now they are launching a 12 month money belief eliminating course with their star seller, Christie Marie Sheldon. If a little bit didn"t work, you should do more of it, maybe that will work... right? And as a gift, participants may get one or two life-sucking attachments from Marie to remind them of her.

If it weren"t horrible, I would be laughing. But it"s horrible.

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17+14 quotes that will give you chills...

I found these quotes and I found that it is a remarkable collection... Please share. Thank you.

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Teal Swan, John Assaraf, Omharmonics... review: should you follow them, learn from them?

Teal Scott aka Teal Swan aka Teal Bosworth must be making waves again... Frequency paintings ((Can these paintings raise your vibration automatically? Of course not. It is another greed: raising your vibration... without work... hah, gotcha! lol



)) automatically raising people"s vibrations? Or maybe people"s greed glands are swollen due to spring...

So let me write an article that will, maybe once and forever, put this question to bed: is it worth for you to watch, listen to, learn from a guru, not specifically from any guru, and specifically from this
Teal person, whatever her last name may be at the moment.

What should be your criteria? How should you make a good decision?

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