Playground: it is never too late to have a happy childhood... but how do you change the past?

The full title of the Playground course is: Playground: it"s never too late to have a happy childhood.

Why is that significant? And what the heck does even mean?

The past is the past, and you cannot change it, they say, but if you look in history books, you"ll see that it does... depending on the point of view of the historian... ((Here is a 10% truth value video to explain this phenomenon. Cynthia Sue Larson"s vibration is 200.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTh1qgk1Jyw
))

In the Playground we re-write your history. Not in a fancy, inventive, "you create your life" kind of way... we actually go back to the root incidents, and look at them through different filters, through learning about different invisible dynamics.

This looking, looking through distinctions, reliable changes the past... and it changes the present moment... because it changes the future... ((What actually happened you can"t change... but before you jump into conclusion: the whole first module of the Playground is to distinguish reality, from all the interpretations, and meanings YOU have added... and although what happened cannot be changed, the interpretations and meanings are in no way part of what happened... and still, they carry 99% of the "what happened" for you... So the secret is distinguishing... Always.))

And what gives your beingness in the present moment is the future you are walking towards. So by changing the past, you whole life, including your future can be changed.

• One of the integral parts of the Playground programs is the weekly one-on-one partner calls... Without that there would be no results.


• And the 20 day learning challenge... without that you wouldn"t necessarily see how you are not even willing to learn anything to make your life work, to make your life better.


• And, of course, it can include email coaching, although it is not mandatory, and the ones that don"t ask for it are normally at a distinct disadvantage.

I listen to every partner call... and give a little or a lot of feedback, depending whether the participants asked for coaching or not.

90% of the work of the program gets done in the partner calls if the participants opted for coaching. Much less if they didn"t.

Why do I write articles that seem to be only for the eight participants of the Playground program?

It"s a good question... and it is a dumb question. What participants deal with can shed light to what a non-participant is dealing with, because my job is to shed light to the invisible. To name what hasn"t been named. To reveal the dynamic.

And even just knowing that there is a dynamic there can save some lives, but more importantly, allow curious people to opt to look deeper, and take back their power from the machine...

That is why I am writing these articles.

The Playground partner calls give away a lot of the "how" in the how you do anything is how you do everything.

I just listened to a partner call, two men, two continents, two different lives, two different soul corrections, two different vibrations.

The conversation reminds me of the book "What do you say AFTER you say hello?" Transactional Analysis book.

Depending on the percentage of the "it is all about me" score in the Starting Point Measurements, you listen to the other person"s example, the other person"s life, for the similarities or the sameness, and have no interest in their differences.

Your vibration is a number. It tells me how much of reality you see. What limits your view are

• 1. The height from which you look. You see things from a skyscraper, for example a traffic jam, is a whole different view, than being stuck in it on street level... same traffic jam, just viewed from a different vantage point.


• 2. Your astuteness: your astuteness is a function of how many distinctions you can tell apart. I measure it in your vocabulary, accurate vocabulary, but really, if I wanted to be exacting, what i am really measuring is how many things you can recognize accurately, and tell them apart from similar things.


• 3. Your about me score. As I have said in another article, the size of that is like a carton cutout, that occupies the center of your field of vision, and you see, if you even look, reality over its edges.

So, every person has those three aspects that influence their "how" and "what"

Another aspect is their soul correction.

Each soul correction has a main linchpin.

Life happens to us all. What we do with what is happening to us is, on the other hand, quite individual.

Most children have early experiences where they find out that life is not fair, that not all of us get the same things, that what works for another doesn"t work for us.

This is where the similarity ends.

What we decide from our experience, our conclusion, our "therefore" will be consistent with our soul correction.

I have a minuscule number for "about me", and I can therefore see fully what is going on for the participants, while when they listen to each other, depending on their vibration number, and especially their about-me score, they will see or misidentify what is going on for the other.

I have to sit on my hand... I want to "tell them" what they didn"t see, what they could change, etc... but it is out of integrity for me... I have committed to provide no coaching that is not paid for... and some people pay, others don"t...

But there is another factor: sometimes helping people to see what they are not ready is akin to cutting the cocoon open to help the not-ready butterfly "applicant" to save them from having to break the cocoon and the pain it implies.

So I don"t....

Even in this article I am trying to not say anything that cuts someone"s cocoon open: what makes a butterfly fly is the effort they needed to break the cocoon open.

Sheer torture for the "emperor"... or in this case, the teacher/coach.

What else can I see from the partner calls?

Life is full of rackets. Every unpleasant feeling is a signal for the underlying iceberg, the invisible parts of the racket.

Payoff is what perpetuates the machine: without some perceived benefit, no one would go through the pain and turmoil of the racket.

Payoff sounds good, right? Like a salary... but in fact it is the biggest criminal in all. It is what corrupts people, makes them sell out, makes them do unimaginably evil things... betray their country, betray their family, betray their best.

When it comes to rackets, the most frequent payoff is never having to show up in life, measure up, produce, really know.

So rackets are really what are the underlying dynamic of procrastination, underachievement, and never amounting to much in life. Not a lack of intelligence, a lack of talent, a lack of opportunity, not even lack of character, but the payoff from the rackets.

Not having to, not having to be the one who causes, instead being the one who is an effect. No one can blame you... but...

But this is where the cost of the payoff, received under the table, undeserved and unearned will attempt to create a choice... and unless you bring full consciousness to the racket, it can"t and it won"t.

Unless you value something more than you value something else... it won"t.

In yesterday"s Playground I measure what is the vibration of the ability to see value... and to my dismay it is 300 vibration. Under 300 vibration you may see individual values, but not value as a distinction. Same for any distinction, by the way. You will see examples of it, but not the distinction as a distinction.

So the goal in the Playground is to hit 300 vibration, where the distinctions, where the values can USE YOUR LIFE, instead of you having to look for them, analyze them, and try to use them.

The Cost: the most expensive cost is affinity, more specifically self-love, self-affinity, and the ability to live from the "higher power" or North Star of "If I am not for me, who is for me?"

The saying, the adage, that when you love yourself you love your life has been true for me, and I have seen instances where it was clearly true for you.

One student, when he could see for a while, that even though he does things he doesn"t like, he is not wrong, he is just doing things he doesn"t like.

And his enthusiasm, and joy was indescribable... he loved himself, suddenly, and thus he loved his life and the people in it.

But when you see yourself selling yourself out for some puny and disreputable payoff... you cannot respect yourself, you cannot love yourself... and thus you cannot love your life.

And the sadness, when people get in touch with that is thick and heartwrenching.

Before you can choose to say no to the payoff... you have to go through that sadness, occasionally shame, or you won"t choose a racket-free life.

Arrgh, that puny payoff is the only thing most people have... not results, not rewarding relationships, not health... no. the payoffs. And that is their life.

It"s a catch 22: in order to learn anything, in order to do anything useful for your life, you need to be saying no to the payoff... at least a little bit of time... or you won"t be allowed to learn anything, do anything for your life.

You see the trap?

Not every soul correction, and not every person with a certain soul correction is caught, fully, in this catch 22 trap... two of the 8 participants in the current Playground are caught in this trap fully, and two are caught somewhat... My heart goes out for them. But the ball is in their court.

Read again: Is your inability to say what happened a type of mental illness?

This morning something pulled me back to bed after I got up.

I considered it guidance, and I got back to bed.

What came next was amazing: trips down memory lane, all centering around mental illness, mental stability, your TLB, and what was in common among the many people I remember so clearly, people I spent time with in mental institutions.

As an empath, other people"s feelings, emotions tend to tug at me. today 99% of what I feel is not mine... But before I became conscious, before I started to climb the consciousness tree, 30% of the feelings I felt were mine. I also had a lot more noise in my head... all talking at the same time.

The only reason I know, with 20/20 hindsight, that I was hospitalized not for what I felt, is that none of the medication worked... I wasn"t the person who was crazy, I just felt the craziness of others.

My theory of mental illness has always been that it is an escape... a hiding place.

It"s a sign that what seems to be coming at you is deemed too much by your brain. A little bit like losing consciousness when the pain is too big.

I only fainted twice in my life. Faint, as in losing consciousness... And of course I slept many times more... that is also losing consciousness.

I fainted when I was raped at age 3 and a half. And I fainted when my ovary burst open. Both times the brain decided that experiencing the pain was not of any benefit, so it shut down the consciousness.

Since then I learned, little by little, to become the eye of the storm. To be that... To be the place where nothing is happening. Utter peace and silence.

It is not that I can"t hear the storm, or that I don"t see the storm, or even that I can"t hear the voices: I have, through constant observation, distinguished that none of it is me...

Whereas the people who were in those wards, were considering everything they heard in their head, whatever their IT said, saying things and the opposite, they considered it something they could not escape.

This is why the Amish Horse Training Method is the foundation of every and any success with raising your vibration, and moving your life to a life worth living.

Some people have more skills in "doing it", than others.

I am learning to recognize the talent.

I have a few unusual pen-pals (I call them pen-pals because they aren"t students per-se, even though they did buy some products, read my articles, but our relationship is not father-child, it is more like i am their confidant).

They write down, straight quotes, what "IT", the voices are saying, instead of talking about it.

Here is an example of the two types of presentation:

1. the voice in my head says that you are crazy... and I am crazy to listen to you
2. I kind of feel like it may be a good idea to trust you.

When you have the mental habit of missing completely what is said, and you only remember the meaning you gave it, you are the talking-about type, and you are going to have a hard time doing the Amish Horse Training Method.

Why? Because as you hear it, you immediately switch to the interpretation, the meaning, the "therefore", which means: you considered listening to the voice, and you considered it actionable...

Your life is a puppet"s on a string... and until you listen and not interpret, you"ll remain a puppet.

The missing capacity, by the way, is humility.

In humility you listen fully, or not listen fully... but don"t push your interpretation and meaning to replace what is said.

When you have a conversation, I can feel you having a private conversation about it in your head... you are not in a conversation with the other... you are really not present.

You have that when you read, you have that while you listen to me. It is all about you... you are the center of the universe, and it renders you ineffective... and stuck.

Do I have an exercise for you to liberate yourself from the second conversation? Yes and no...

I once had a friend/client who complained that no one wanted to hear what he had to say.

I recommended that he starts listening in a way that any moment he"d be ready to say back the last sentence...

It"s wicked difficult if you are the "talking about" type of listener. But you can give it a shot. He did and he improved his experience with others... by a lot.

Is this how I listen?

No.

I listen as an immersion exercise: I immerse myself and I get wet.

I am fully with what you are saying, and I don"t think about it at all. I am there with you. It is very physical for me. I get what you say, I get what you are not saying, I get it... Nothing "about" in it for me. But I admit, I have a harder time to be there with you when you are the "talking about" type, because even YOU are not where you say you are... you are outside, looking in.

You are withholding reality, and dump on me your limited perspective of the human mind opinion... as the truth.

Now, when all my mental resources are used to imagine what you are not saying... I have hardly any resource remaining to coach you.

And even if I did... your map of reality (your interpretation) is so removed from reality, that hardly any coaching would work.

So what should you do if you are one of these "talking about" lacking humility types?

Practice, practice, practice. First in writing.

He said: "whatever"
She said: "whatever"
It said: "whatever"

It will be painful at first, because your huge ego will feel neglected, and pushed to the background.

But if you do it enough, you may be able to be one who can raise your vibration, because you"ll be able to do the Amish Horse Training Method effectively.

And suddenly you won"t be a lot like my mental ward friends...

No insult is intended. if you are insulted then you have already interpreted what I said...

Because humans are meaning making machines.
Human beings aren"t.

PS: Reading is one of the practices that can cause the biggest changes in your life... but you need to read the same way I listen to you: no commentary, no meaning, no private conversation.

Why? because instead of the book, you are left with, always, what you said about what you read...

Reading is one way you can change from "talking-about" person with little overlap between your map of reality and reality, or someone who is astute: you see what is there... no commentary.

Another practice is how you listen to the step in the 67 steps... are you staying with it? Or are you in your own conversation, because what you have to say about it is more important than the step?

Just notice. And then gently change how you listen, how you read...

Your life depends on it.

Cancer: The unexpected results of positive thinking

Whoever thought that the well-meaning positive thinking will become a prison and a sentence to a "no joy life" for most who become a "practitioner" of it, about 80% of humanity at this time.

Whether you know it or not, your powers of comprehension depend on your powers of distinguishing.

In the old est training, the trainers came to the room on the first day blasting: "for you Everything is the same as everything else ... except not always" and they were as accurate as accurate they would be today: you can"t tell your ass from your elbow.

This is true for everybody, including yours truly... the difference is only in degrees. No one is exempt from it.

The capacity to see differences clearly is called astuteness. The capacity to tell apart similar things, to name them and claim them.

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When it comes to thinking positive or being positive, 99.99% of you thought that what it meant is to suppress the negative, both thoughts and feelings.

It seems so clear, doesn"t it? If you suppress those, then what you are left with is positive...

But reality isn"t as simple as your simplistic thinking.

One of the most fundamental facts about the human brain and about Life is that they are ambivalent.

Ambivalent means that each feeling comes with an opposing feeling. Love and hate. Frustration and joyful expectation. Life and Death.

Always. It is the nature of the human brain. Everything and its opposite.

Maddening. I remember dealing with that in psychoanalysis some 35 years ago. I wanted it to stop.

Psychoanalysis is a weird beast: the therapist doesn"t say anything. In fact they are not allowed to give you any feedback... if the two therapist I had over the seven years are any indication.

So you are on your own. And you can either distinguish or not, you are either astute or not... and if you are not... bummer.

I was astute, I inherited the spiritual capacity of astuteness from my father. I saw that the two feelings are seemingly always together, inseparable, like the front of your hand and the back of your hand. You suppress one, the other one get suppressed with it.

So I decided to leave it alone, and look at other issues.

Example of ambivalence: different or same as everyone else

One other issue was, not surprisingly also ambivalent, is wanting to be different and wanting to belong. Mutually exclusive futures... You can either have one or the other.

I obviously chose being different, and grieve what I lost: belonging.

Human genes make you accepted when you are similar, rejected if you are different... including being better.

The moment you see how reality is, including the reality of the human brain, you have a chance to have it all, and moreover enjoy it all.

Enjoyment is another ambivalent issue.

The world, your world, is full of pleasures. Feeling your body, your muscles, breathing. Your first cup of tea or coffee in the morning.

The coolness of the water as it passes through your throat. Stretching. Reading. Writing. Speaking. Being heard. Meeting someone"s eyes and feeling that you are seen.

All unforbidden pleasures... available to all, ignored by most.

The same suppression phenomenon applies here: you have forbidden pleasure desires. You suppress them. And now you can"t feel any pleasure...

The two wolves that fight for dominance need you to want to suppress one of them. When you allow both to live, there is no struggle: you just feed the one you want to feed, and you have peace.

Having an urge doesn"t mean you have to act on it. Even if it is the machine-like urge of your genes. Or the machine-like urge of your soul correction.

Example: Judgment and assessment are very similar, but also very different.

Of course ask anyone, and they don"t know the difference.

You say something in both. But the context is vastly different.

In judgment it is all about you. Your motivator is "desire for the self alone". You say what you say to make yourself look better.

In assessment there is no you. You see and you say. It has no reflection on you.

My vibrational reviews are assessments, not judgments.

My vibrational reviews are assessments. You or your guru being low vibration doesn"t make me feel better about myself, doesn"t make me look better. It is just what is so.

Same in my workshops.

If you can"t tell the difference between judgment and assessment, you"ll be mortified by the things I say about the participants. Sounds even nasty. But nasty is judgment. It intends to put the other down... nasty is all about the speaker.

I am not nasty. I am compassionate. I tell you the things I tell you so you can calm down and stop hiding it. So you can take a deep breath and look at it and say... "ugh. ugly."

Once you do that, without self-judgment, you are on your way to power. Power is impossible when you suppress. Suppression is force. Violence.

No power. No enjoyment. No flow. No abundance. Only death. Only violence.

If you take the time to observe the inner dynamic, if you learn, little by little, that you are not a ticking bomb... you may become someone who I can work with, who can start living an invented life.

Where all the unforbidden pleasures more than make up for everything.

Where work, learning, solving puzzles, breaking through barriers is pleasure.

Really.

Ambivalence, the feeling of the opposites, is like alternating current.

If you slowed down a video showing a lit light bulb, you"d see that the bulb being "on" is an optical illusion, the light bulb goes through on and off, sixty times a second. And it goes through positive and negative, sixty times a second.

If it stayed on all the time, it would burn out in minutes. If it stayed with the positive only, it would burn out in minutes.

That is why Edison had to do a thousand experiments... because he wasn"t the smartest and most astute person: Tesla was a lot brighter: he saw the nature of reality, that it is ambivalent. And therefore our power source needs to be ambivalent also.

Life and death, always happening, every moment of every minute.

That is life. The one you think would work better is deadly. It is like cancer.

The way you practice positive thinking is cancer-like. Kill everything else and only grow the cancer cells.

Congratulations. You"ve found the opposite of the Philosopher"s Stone. [note]The Philosopher"s Stone is said to cause living forever[/note]

Human culture is known to favor one side of ambivalence and vilify the other.

The book Pendulum says, this goes in cycles, predictable cycles.

We live in the phase of WE cycle. Forcing and favoring the "we are one", cooperation, giving back part of the ambivalence.

Being selfish and wanting to be part of a community are the two sides of this ambivalence.

But both are part of human nature: "no man is an island" is true... "you need to be who you are or you"ll be unhappy" is also true.

While all of humanity cycles through suppressing one side or the other, you can say: "heck with it, I"ll embrace all of life, and all of my nature."

And you"ll be the winner of the prize: a fully enjoyed, fully lived life, where nothing is suppressed, nothing is denied, you choose on a moment to moment basis, by what seems appropriate. In the moment.

That is balance. Heavenly. [note]

‘I DON’T KNOW ANYTHING BUT THIS:
WHENEVER I FELT MYSELF TOPPLING OVER TO ONE SIDE,
I LEANED TO THE OTHER.’Read More https://www.yourvibration.com/osho/walking-the-tightrope/[/note]

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Make your plane go where you want it to go... or what one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth

Make your plane go where you want it to go...

This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.

I literally don"t know anyone who lives that way.

People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that... while their plane crashes in every area.

So what is the difference between who are like that, who are on their way to become that kind of person, and others who never ever land their plane on the landing strip?

One is: attitude. You either have the results or the reasons why you don"t have the results... another one is DNA capacities...

((One huge missing capacity: courage is making you not even declare to what end, what result you really want to achieve. Because if you don"t say it, then you cannot fail. But you cannot land your plane on a non-specific air strip.

The hallmark of a of courage deficiency is to spout some generalities. Tai Lopez"s purpose: spreading good ideas through mass media is a generality... showing that he is a cowardly lion...

Because he is afraid to ask and then declare: to what end?

What end would make you feel good about yourself at the end of life?

• I did all I could do to become the person I could become?


• To have made a lot of money?


• To have had my house clean at all times?


• Look and see...

If you can"t see anything then come, join the 67 coaching program and I"ll help you see the end of the tunnel...

If you don"t have an end in mind then you"ll never accomplish anything worthwhile, and you"ll be like floating storksh*t... without your own motive power, lifted and lowered by the air. This is a Hungarian saying, by the way.))

But there is a lot more to it that no one seems to talk about:

The more distinctions you have, the more astute you become, the more power you have to land your plane where you want to land it (in health, wealth, love and happiness) and the more fun life becomes

Distinction is a fancy name for a frame. A frame through which you can look at life. In every frame life shows up differently.

I teach distinctions, aka frames. That is the secret sauce of my teaching.

The only thing people resist is looking at the puny number of frames they have... The 2-3-4 frames. That they can only look 2-3-4 ways, and then their life is therefore impoverished.

The more frames you have the better life can work. With 2-3-4 frames you come up short in most situations.

I have more distinctions in some pillars of life than in others.

My weakest pillar is social. I have had the least amount of success there. So it seems that I am doubling my efforts in this area nowadays.

• Learning distinctions from others is good... maybe.


• Learning distinctions from movies is good... maybe.


• But ultimately the way to learn a distinction is to use the frame through with you see what the frame says... and most people are just goddamn lazy... or superior... or can"t see.

Some people can"t learn distinctions, no matter what method you offer to them: they are locked into their 2-3-4 frames.

OK... let me say that different: some people won"t learn any more distinctions. Why? My new favorite expression is the cause: theory induced blindness... we could also say, meme induced blindness. [note]It is always the past that gets into your eyes... as one of the Peanuts said. Being right about your past, that you are a victim, that you were mistreated seems to excuse you from having a great life, from having to put out, earn a living, accomplish, etc.[/note]

These two are essentially the same: a theory is also a meme. If you don"t look at it as a theory... but the truth.

So I am learning new distinctions in social interactions. It is the hardest thing I have ever done. Harder than mathematics... lol. Or figure drawing. Or even finding a diet that works for me.

Why is learning new distinctions hard? Because of all the stuff that is there.

I have been taking certain things personally. Getting out of my own way, getting out of the frame "this is personal" has been hard. But today I managed to turn some corners.

I managed to look at what is happening in the community van, which is my experimental lab for social.

One of the steady companions there is a guy who is a radio jock, music, and we have a few months history of butting heads.

In social interactions, it seems, safety, being appreciated or liked, being heard seem to be important on one hand, self-protection, exerting power over others, punishing, expression immediate language, aka emotional response... on the other.

This dude is a perfect training partner. Not because he wants to learn, but because he can demonstrate stuff... so I can learn... "oh, that is how it works? hm. interesting."

I am getting more skilled, I am getting to look at things through more distinctions than before... as they are happening. I even had 3 moments of joy today!

When someone blows up at me, I don"t take it personally, I look at what need it serves for them.

With what I am learning now, I can also go back to my family dynamics 50-60-nearly 70 years ago, and see what was going on then in a whole new light.

It is clear that I took everything personally. It is also clear that I looked at every moment as if it was going to remain the same forever. So I sulked, I hid, I felt angry, hurt, diminished, invalidated, etc. for a long time at a clip.

From that frame my mother"s behavior looked strange: she was the type of person who would flare up, hit, scream, kick, and then when done, totally forget what she had done. Never even considered that she left dead bodies in the wake of her storm.

My brothers took everything personally, and became permanently offended, and cut communications to protect themselves from being exposed again to whatever seemed harmful at the time. They still behave the exact same way. Offended is their semi-permanent state.

My father was more stoic. He looked at everything through the longer view, and his mood was a lot stabler.

The more distinctions I can look through, the more frames are available to me, in practicality, the more enjoyable my social interactions will become. [note]The same is true in business, the same is true in health...[/note]

Not yet. They are more, they are more frequent, but not yet enjoyable. Less traumatic. But I still end up with muscle tension, near unbearable tiredness, and difficulty to breathe after every interaction. Even if it is a webinar...

All my projects are long term. Nothing wrong, nothing to fix...

I am learning to land my plane on the landing strip even in a storm... I make the plane go where I want it to go.

As long as I have said and declared the landing strip precisely...

It"s the hardest thing EVER... but you must go for it, you must summon courage... And you can always change it... as soon as you find out that it"s not what you really wanted.

The field: The invisible distinction that defines your consciousness

We look at life through the space we locate ourselves in.

When you go home for the holidays, you have a space inside which you interact with your mother. You have a space inside which you interact with your father, another space with your siblings.

Some people live their whole life out of one favorite space.

When you know what space you think you are in, and the other person makes no sense, that is because they relate to you inside a different space.

For example, Nancy lives inside Mother-child space. She is either the mother, or she is the child. When she is the child, I am either the mother (she loves that) or Not mother... she hates that. When she is the mother and I refuse to be the child, she throws a tantrum.

This is invisible for her. It"s the water she swims in.


When a coaching relationship doesn"t work, i.e. it is unpleasant, it is forced, it is ineffective, it is always because the two people are in a different space...

My intention is to operate, interact with a student inside the space of partnership. I have my job cut out for me... and I fail more often than not to move them to the space of partnership.

In the Landmark Partnership Course participants got a glimpse of partnership after a whole year of learning to recognize, learning to distinguish all the 16 different spaces that don"t allow for partnership.

Inside the space for Mother-Child partnership isn"t recognized. The mother and the child are NEVER in a partnership: their self interest is sharply different. In fact: partnership there is rejected. It is resented. Same in Father-child... or playmate-sibling, which is yet another space...

Becoming curious (and observant, aware) about the self-interest and the many forms of it is incredibly useful and makes seeing why these relationships lack harmony or growth potential.

You can practice recognizing the self interest (without making it right or making it wrong) any and every place in your life, even in books, or TV shows. Everywhere.

Self interest conflicts with another"s self-interest... because self-interest lives as an either I win or you win phenomenon. Validating self-interest, the other"s self interest, is one way you can take the sting out of relationships and bring them closer to partnership and workability. [note]More on validation: https://www.yourvibration.com/33924[/note]

I am not licensed to teach the Partnership Course, or any Landmark Course, so this is pretty much as much as I can "quote" from the course, without violating my non-compete agreement with the company.

But if you are astute enough what I have written so far is going to make you look. See what space you do your life, do your relationships from.

When things don"t work... you can safely assume that you are in the wrong quadrant, you are in the wrong room, you are in the wrong space.

Identifying where you are at, and where the other is takes practice, but is easy.

Then make the conversation move to another space takes a lot more. A whole lot more. It takes the art of communication.

I"ve recruited seven different people for the experimental communication training. The goal is to make life work, no matter how different they are. No matter what space they hang out most. No matter what they want to accomplish.

Moving people, moving the conversation to another space where there can be alignment, real communication, love, harmony, and ultimately partnership is what I intend to teach.

You, who are not in the course, you can do your work to identify what space you have your conversations in.

The Partnership Course, a fully Tree of Life phenomenon, gets to a deep knowledge through using collages, the non-verbal tactile, kinesthetic representation of a field. [note]There are four "ordinary" fields of relating, values and communication: 1. mother/child 2. father/child 3. playmate/sibling, 4. admirer/admired. (Here are a few collages of someone I don"t know on Flickr. Hover over the images to see which quadrant, which space, which field it shows. )

The fifth field, the field of partnership, cannot be jumped into. It can only be accessed when all the values of the four quadrants, the four ordinary fields, are transcended... i.e. seen but not operational. 1~2 out of a hundred is willing to do the work... We shall see how many in a tiny course I am leading. I am shooting for 50% or more[/note]

Ingenious.

Of course, most of the people in the course first had the thought and then made a collage to illustrate it. Meaning: they stayed on the Tree of Knowledge.

Getting of that tree is not easy... no matter what tool you use.

Most artists create "art" on the Tree of Knowledge too... even though art is not a Tree of Knowledge, word thing.

In this article I have given you a whiff of how to alter your life, on the Tree of Life. The trimtab method, where gentle and small changes turn around your oceanliner... and your life towards workability and towards growth and fulfillment.

As long as you live inside one of those quadrants, uneven quadrants, ordinary communication, workability and fulfillment will be there only for moments, and only as an accident.

When you become intimately familiar with how you and others live their lives inside those tightly defined spaces, you"ll have a choice to stay there, live a limited and predictable life, or to take charge, and direct all your communications to the open water, what we"ll call, maybe, partnership... maybe alignment with all of it...

Haven"t decided yet.

PS: I just realized why people like animals, pets more than people: animals, your choice of animals, allow you to dominate to your hearts content... people don"t...

How to measure vibration? How to measure consciousness? how to measure your vibrational frequency

It is good to know where you are at. With all the pretending, with all the charts, you probably overestimate or underestimate your vibration, your "vibrational frequency".

To measure another person"s vibration, your vibration needs to be above 200... and even there, you need to be connected to Source, be outside of your ego, to do that... to muscle test the other person"s vibration. My vibration is above 900, I am completely outside of my ego, so I trust my measurements.

People"s lives, emotional state, achievements, relationship prove that my measurements are accurate.

I can measure your vibration for a donation of $5 or more. I will email you the number, and my experience of you while I was measuring your vibration. If it is obvious to me, I will also email you my recommendation of a product of mine that will either ease your current discomfort, or will start the process of raising your vibration.

If someone has measured your vibration already... then you want a second opinion. If this is you, email me the person"s name or email address... I"ll also measure THEIR vibration for you to see how accurate they could be in measuring yours.
What is vibration? What are we measuring? What is the process?
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On suppression... the cost of positive thinking

Whoever thought that the well-meaning positive thinking will become a prison and a sentence to a "no joy life" for most who become a "practitioner" of it, about 80% of humanity at this time.

Whether you know it or not, your powers of comprehension depend on your powers of distinguishing.

In the old est training, the trainers came to the room on the first day blasting: "for you everything is the same as everything else..." and they were as accurate as accurate they would be today: you can"t tell your ass from your elbow.

This is true for everybody, including yours truly... the difference is only in degrees. No one is exempt from it.

The capacity to see differences clearly is called astuteness. The capacity to tell apart similar things, to name them and claim them.


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What determines how you and your life turn out?

What is the mechanism of the machine that you are, that is used to define your actions, your moods, your attitude?

As I said in a few previous articles, your actions, your thoughts, your moods, your attitudes will be correlated with what you see.

The two sides:

what you see, or the way the world occurs to you

your actions, your thoughts, your moods, your attitudes: your world




the two sides are like the front of the hand and the back of the hand, connected, inseparable, but yet distinct.
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Learning lessons the hard way... or the easy way... Part 2

The brilliance in the movie, "It"s a wonderful life" is that the angel creates a thought experiment what the world would be like if our hero hadn"t been born.

Thought experiments are uniquely human: animals don"t do thought experiments.

The minimum intelligence required to create a thought experiment is 70... and I am not talking about IQ measured intelligence, I am talking about overall intelligence.

The average intelligence in the world is 50... But all my site"s visitors qualify.

So let"s look at that movie and see what is a thought experiment:

If X were different, in the movie take out the main character... and then look at different elements that you know how they are... the marriage, the loan bank, etc. The amount of happiness, the amount of difference.

Now let"s look at different examples of thought experiments, all in the area of my work of becoming someone who loves life, and lives it successfully.

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Life is a lot like traveling by train...

Life is like being in a train: you can look out on the left side, the right side, the back, the front... but it won"t change that you are on a train that will arrive to its destination, no matter where you look.

Most of us live this way most of the time.

We do our jobs, we do our relationships, we do our projects, we do our lives this way.

Fulfilling? No. Enjoyable? It depends...

Ultimately we are plagued by a nagging sense that we are out of control, that no matter what we do won"t change anything. Some of us feel doomed. Some of us fight it tooth and nail... with bloody broken teeth and broken nails to prove it.
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How superiority blocks you from growing. Are you perceptive, astute?

I do a lot of "work" that doesn"t look like work.

For example, asking the question: Is being perceptive a capacity?

It turns out that it is. It is on a scale of one to 100... very perceptive, somewhat perceptive, not perceptive.

Cats are not perceptive. Partially because their eyes are calibrated to only notice movement. A non-moving tasty bit of food, mouse, bug is like doesn"t exist for a cat. That is probably why they only eat food that stinks to my human nose... ugh. They can"t see it, can"t judge it from its look, color, etc.

Not perceptive.

So, in effect, perceptive is a capacity to see details, see much.

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Can you feel energy? I mean you, personally... Different energies?

When I put the word "energy" into the search box on google, most listings are about electricity, and the rest are about woo woo sites.

People still don"t understand energy. Why? Because our receptors for energy are not differentiated enough, and not connected to the conscious mind enough for us to have more words... and without words there is no understanding. ((Some people, example are the crime lab in Criminal Minds, have machines to connect between energy and our senses... spectrometer (an apparatus used for recording and measuring spectra, especially as a method of analysis.) where spectra/spectrum means: a band of colors, as seen in a rainbow, produced by separation of the components of light by their different degrees of refraction according to wavelength. Here, energy is translated to what the human mind can perceive and demonstrate: colors of light... But everything is spectrum, i.e. energy, measurable, and precise))

I have always been weather sensitive. You know those insufferable people that know what weather is coming, where the wind is coming from, the pressure and the magnetism, and don"t stop talking about it.

I didn"t talk about it, but that"s it. The rest has always been true to me. I"ve felt it, I"ve known it. Insufferable for myself... lol.

And I paid attention, so I wasn"t merely an "I am suffering" type of insufferable, suffering from the bad feelings that others could not believe I was feeling.

If I can feel it, you can feel it, but you have no distinctions, the building blocks of perceived reality, and I do.

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Updated: Is being astute a good thing? Or does it mean you are a bad person who wants to deceive others?

If I asked you what will be the most important capacity to master in the coming years, you would come up with all kinds of capacities, but I bet you would not think of saying: becoming astute.

If you go to the online dictionary, like one of my students did, the one for whom I made this activators, you would not understand why that capacity is important.

Here is what the dictionary has to say:

as·tute
/??st(y)o?ot/
Adjective
Having or showing an ability to accurately assess situations or people and turn this to one"s advantage: "an astute businessman".
Synonyms
shrewd - sly - wily - crafty - canny - artful - sharp

To understand the meaning better, you look at the synonyms, and you are appalled, am I right? They are all words usually used to express one kind of deception or another.

But the meaning is only the first few words, the rest of them is added by "culture": "Having or showing an ability to accurately assess situations or people"

Of course you will turn everything to your advantage, after all accurate knowledge is power... I said accurate, because all the things that YOU know are not accurate, your vibration number belies that.

Your vibration number grows with the percentage of accuracy of your knowledge.

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One principle of becoming a Human Being, that if you miss this, you"ll never raise your vibration

What is the difference between a worker and a manager?
What is the difference between the leader and a manager?
What is the difference between leading your life and managing your life?
What is the difference between working in your business and working ON your business?

The answer to all of these question is: the position from where the actions come.

By position I actually MEAN an almost physical position: where are you looking FROM when you make your decisions about what to do.

A lot of my students are stuck in a situation an earlier decision got them into. A bad marriage, bad health, bed relationship, bad job.

There are surprisingly few principles for a human being, which is the next evolutionary level after human. Applying the same principles, honoring them, will also take you to the new evolutionary level.

One of the principles is to make decisions from the whole.
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What did Genghis Khan, the greatest conqueror in history do to raise his people"s IQ?

I have been reading about the Mongols, the nomadic people that occupied lands and people in the 13th century, from the Pacific Ocean to the Mediterranean Sea, in the 13th Century under Genghis Khan.

99% of those Mongols didn"t read, didn"t write. Their average IQ (my measurement) was the same as college educated people"s today. Their available IQ was 90%, as opposed to today"s college educated people, whose available IQ is less than 80%. Which means, those Mongols were more intelligent than you. Ugh, that hurts.

What is the secret difference between them and you, that they were able to conquer and you are not? And what could you borrow from them, even though you are not a steppe warrior?

Here are my insights that I hope will be useful for you today:

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You"ll withhold celebration until the big prize?

Every big achievement is made up of a lot of tiny achievements.

You cannot have an achievement on a level where you are not.

This mistake, thinking that you should be somewhere where you aren"t, is costing you achievement.

Every right step is choosing from thousands of steps, out of which only one step is a right step... and there are a few so-so steps.

The right step comes from assessing the situation right... i.e. being astute, distinguishing something accurately. This is an area where you are very weak, that is why you need the Reclaim program.

I just finished an email conversation with a long-time student who shared, accurately, where he is at. Then he said, that given his soul correction, Finish What you Start, the archetype of a liar, telling the truth about where he is at is very good.

I suggested that it"s time to celebrate. He laughed.

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Soul Correction actions series Part 1

What are the typical small actions that are missing in different soul corrections...

As I have been saying, raising your vibration happens through small constructive actions.

We could also say: raising your vibration happens through doing, effectively, the soul"s work.

The Soul is the part of you that is interested in you becoming an expanding human being who contributes to the Light, instead of the Dark Side, aka Evil.

Each soul correction is centered around one aspect of Desire for the Self Alone, which is another name for Evil.

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Get paid your worth... The worst advice ever

If I got paid what I am worth, I would be screwed. I really believe that I am worthless.

Instead I get paid what my work is worth to the buyer.

I have serious doubts about my own worth, but I have no doubt that my products work, my coaching works, my energies work, my services deliver what I promise.

It seems like I have a contradiction, but I don"t.

One of the reasons you struggle, because you have imprecise thinking. You are not astute.

Astute is a person who can tell apart different things with certainty.

One of the things you have been unable to tell apart is what is being said and what you add to it.

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What is the opposite of astute?

Astute is a word that 99% of people don"t know. Or if they know, they think it"s a bad thing. Like shrewd... it is a missing thing... It is not part of the vocabulary of the uneducated, unsophisticated, simple folks who live a pedestrian existence.

Words are great divider of people. If it is beyond you... if it is beyond your comprehension, you probably get found out by now knowing the word.

Now, with that said: astute is a person who can tell things apart, even similar things, with certainty, and ease.

People have certain areas where they are astute.

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How to measure vibration? How to measure consciousness? how to measure your vibrational frequency

It is good to know where you are at. With all the pretending, with all the charts, you probably overestimate or underestimate your vibration, your vibrational frequency.

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