Understanding, mental representation, wrapping your mind around things

What big words, Sophie... ugh. Mental representation? huh? ((We could say safely, that until you can visualize what you say you want to do, you won"t do it, or you won"t do it well. Procrastinators are especially weak in mental representation skills... that is probably why they procrastinate.))

But it is important to understand what your words mean, the words you use.

I am not sure what understanding is... I never use this word about myself. I either get it or I don"t. I either see it or I don"t. And something I cannot see how it connects to other things... but I don"t use my "mind" to approach things.

I have been attempting activating "mental representation" for myself... and today, for some weird reason, I got an insight: I really DO mental representation as a kinesthetic experience: I feel it. I walk around it, I walk inside it, I try to push some walls... the way I did it when I was an architect. I see with my feelings. Not emotions... no. Senses... feelings. Space, position, touch, temperature, energy...

I have two students who are mainly kinesthetic, like myself, and they do better than others in my course, the Playground. What they do in their lives has a lot of doing, touching, smelling, moving component. So I speak their language.

The most important element of a mental representation for me is to see, to feel the way things are connected, the way things interact, the way things move.. or don"t.

I have to translate every teaching to my language, or I won"t get it.

Most people teach/speak mind-language, or sometimes visual language... and they don"t connect well to kinesthetic.

Both languages have a huge tolerance to things to be left out, or being approximate, or imaginary... most things those teaching folks don"t even realize, because when you look at a picture, for example, it is hard to see that something is missing... unless, of course, it is obvious. But mostly it isn"t obvious.

It is very difficult to do anything well that you don"t have the correct mental representation for.

This is the place where T. Harv Ecker"s pithy saying is really valuable: When something isn"t working, there is something that you don"t know.

Harv"s story is really instructive. For a long time, till his 30"s, I think, he was an utter failure in business. He started many businesses and failed in every one of them.

Every one of those businesses could have succeeded... but something was missing. Something that other people saw, but he didn"t.

Frank"s Kern"s story fills in some things that could have been missing, in his Core Influence video. Frank was already making a lot of money, but was utterly miserable. So he looked at what he wanted to have in his life, who he wanted to do business with, and he changed the piece that made him miserable. He created a mental representation of his life... and saw what parts didn"t work.

It is not always easy to find what is the thing that is missing, or faulty, especially because we humans are not in the habit of searching for what"s missing in a systematic way.

In my What"s Missing workshop that I run occasionally, more often than not, a lot of the missings are revealed, together with things, activities, expectations, attitudes, misconceptions that are there plugging up the works.

Some people want life to work, but they cannot bring anything much to it. They have no skills. Others have one missing thing that once they put that in... the whole things starts to work.

I was just listening to three partner calls, people in the Playground, using just some of the distinctions, systematically, all six participants, three pairs, are getting closer and closer to pinpoint the one thing that they didn"t know about themselves, the one thing that when you are aware of it, life turns out completely different.

This is the real value in distinctions: they are very very very precise, like a linchpin, like an axle, like the thing around everything can turn.

What is missing is always in your blind spot. Distinctions shed light on your blind spot. They point to what you didn"t know that you didn"t know.

What is the source of all power always comes from the area of knowledge, that you didn"t know that you didn"t know.

Distinctions are like dots in a printed photo... the more dots you have the clearer the picture gets. you can see the background, the context, the intention, the barriers, the attitudes... and the more you can see the clearer it becomes how you trip yourself so your life is less than fulfilling.

Learning new distinctions never stops. I am now listening to the talks of a clinical psychologist, in Hungarian, talking about stuff I have been foggy about. For example the many different ways one can be afraid. Fear, anxiety, anguish, terror, fright, fearfulness, horror, alarm, panic, agitation, trepidation, dread, consternation, dismay, distress, worry, concern, apprehension, apprehensiveness, consternation, uneasiness, unease, fearfulness, fear, disquiet, disquietude, perturbation, fretfulness, agitation, angst, nervousness, nerves, edginess, tension, tenseness, stress, misgiving, trepidation, foreboding, suspense, etc.

Each word is a distinction... and yet, when I talk to people, they call everything fear or anxiety.

When you manage to pinpoint what you are feeling, you can, so to say, take the feeling in your hand and look at it, like children look at bugs, and be fascinated by it.

But if you call it another name, nothing happens, because the feeling won"t respond to the wrong name. If someone said: Suzy, listen up... I would not think they are talking to me. My name is Sophie... after all.

So yeah, precision. Accuracy. Vocabulary.

One of my students emailed me yesterday to report on her feeling something in her chest/sternum, and identified it as the Star of Bethlehem PTSD symptom. I looked for her, and found that the feeling she felt was Sweet Chestnut, anguish.

When describing the Bach Flower Essences, Dr. Bach said that Sweet Chestnut "Is the (remedy) for that terrible, that appalling mental despair when it seems the very soul itself is suffering destruction. It is the hopeless despair of those who feel they have reached the limit of their endurance."

Once you know that, you may start to break out the champagne. Why? Because that anguish is the ego"s... not the soul"s... afraid to become something bigger, and lose its hold on you.

Yeah...

Good news.

Announcement

From now on, as an experiment, I"ll have one free call every week. Some calls I"ll talk a little, like 10-15 minutes, and then we can have a conversation. Others are the Days of Power calls that I am opening up again to the public. And maybe I"ll do a few What"s missing workshops as well.

The only requirement to participate is to be a subscriber. Nothing else.

The schedule is in the sidebar of the site, but I"ll repeat it here

Mar 27 Wed 4 pm monthly talk
Apr 05 Fri 8 AM Days of Power
Apr 11 Thu 4 PM talk
Apr 19 Fri 8 AM Days of Power
Apr 24 Wed 4 pm monthly talk
May 04 Sat 7 PM Days of Power
May 09 Thu 4 pm talk
May 18 Sat 6 PM Days of Power
May 23 Thu 4 pm talk
May 29 Wed 4 pm monthly talk
Jun 03 Mon 8 AM Days of Power
Jun 13 Thu 4 pm talk
Jun 17 Mon 8 AM Days of Power

PS: I think the reason so few people like math and physics is because it requires this capacity: mental representation. Mathematics and physics helps open it up and develop it, but if you shied away from it... then you are screwed nowadays.

Capacities, distinctions, intelligence, and success in life: strong correlation.

Let"s start with debunking the current world view, that intelligence is inborn. We are all born tabula raza... a blank slate.

Your intelligence depends on the number of large chunks, neural connections permanently formed in your brain firing together automatically. Those chunks are created in learning.

Reality has two parts: the visible reality, the part that can be perceived by anyone, and the invisible reality that is governed by the invisible dynamics... that you actually need to learn to see.

The invisible reality is an iceberg: the visible part provides clues for the invisible part: that there is something invisible yet real. Depending on how you look at the visible part, through what vantage point, you are going to see different aspects of the invisible. One of the ways, one of the vantage points to look through is the learning to learn course. ((In this article I am illustrating my own method of how to learn something using the "zone of proximal development" by connecting the new material to already strong distinctions. The zone of proximal development is the area where you already have scaffolding, furring strips for the new distinction to attach itself. Most people have very few and very sparsely... and the illusion of knowledge prevents them from actually creating those islands of knowledge... ))

The principle of intelligence is: the more problem solving chunks your brain has, i.e. the more neural connections you have, or speaking in transformational technology terms: the more distinctions you have, the more difficult problems you can solve.

Life is full of difficult problems that you can either solve or you suffer. The most pain comes from other people.

When I measure how many spiritual capacities you have active in your DNA, the correlation between the number of spiritual capacities, the number of distinctions, and success in life is obvious, although the why isn"t quite obvious... yet.

What qualifies a "spiritual" teacher to teach, is that they are one step ahead of their students, one lesson...

At least that is what I thought until this morning.

But...

So... I just finished the Learning How to Learn Course. I learned a lot. I also learned that as a How-to course, it teaches you ABOUT how to learn, but learning to learn is a whole different animal... unless you can turn the how-to into actual learning, learning will not take place.

But the tools and techniques in the course are useful, so someone, maybe me, can actually teach you to learn.

Gradually. Hopefully. Finally, for most of you.

So I have decided to set myself out on a path to learn to teach, to teach myself to teach: teach at least some people to learn. To create distinctions, neural islands of neurons that fire together, automatically. ((The book on Brain Plasticity: The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science by Norman Doidge MD. I read that book. It talks about learning that is not intellectual, therefore even YOU will get that knowing about it, practicing it a little, won"t create the neural automatic island of connection: it talks about blind people learning to see through a patch on their body, a paralyzed stroke induces arm or hand learn to do the movements it needs to learn, etc.

That book really pokes a hole into the worldwide myth that reading a book, watching a video, taking a course will create working knowledge in your brain. If for no other reason, read it if you can. I only have the printed version, so I can"t gift you with the book, sorry.))

In this context, my learning effectiveness: I will measure my success in the active distinctions that work within you... automatically. In the context of the Playground course, whether you can see, automatically, if something is real or not, without having to look at the pdf... Or whether you look "what is the complaint?" without thinking when you are not happy...

A distinction is a group of neurons, in the brain, that gets some work done, without you needing to be conscious of it.

Chewing, swallowing, throwing a ball, are simple distinctions that you can, as an adult, take for granted. No conscious thought required. But when you learned it, it had to be first conscious, and then, through practice, unconscious.

Depending on how many neurons it takes to perform a task, the distinctions are simple or complex.

Distinctions are the key elements to intelligence, intelligent behavior.

Here are a few examples pointing to missing distinctions, and the resulting lack of intelligent behavior:

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  1. This civil engineer...

  
  ...was visiting an environmental cleanup site. The stuff to clean up was very dry, and the wind blew.

Engineer or no engineer, our guy didn"t think of putting a handkerchief or a filter over his mouth and nose... so he breathed in the stuff that was deemed an environmental hazard. Now he is coughing, and he is worried.

He has distinctions about some stuff, but not about others, like if it is bad on the ground, it will be definitely bad in his lungs...

Intelligent behavior is impossible when chunks of knowledge is missing or is overpowered by some other concerns... Like wanting to look like a hero, fearless... because the concern would call a dude with filter over his nose and mouth a sissy...

Diagnosis: distinction is either weak, or the concern is too strong... Causing lack of intelligent behavior.

The next thing to do, for this person, is to deal with both issues, missing distinction AND the concern.

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  2. This university student

  
  has been in my courses, reading my articles for nearly six years, without ever making a lasting impact on his life.

He comes up with new ideas about why that is, at least once a week. They all sound brilliant. Astounding. Yet, his results in life, in any area, are between zero and none.

Looking at his behavior through the distinction of the how to learn course, I suddenly saw something.

One thing has been bothering me about him for a few months now: even though he knows how to energize his water, even though he knows how important that is, his cell hydration, habitually, drops to scarcity level.

He doesn"t take care of it. He doesn"t drink the coherent water that would keep his cell hydration number above 30%, or maybe he simply stops making it? I haven"t asked. But it is obvious: cell hydration isn"t a distinction for him, it is not automatic for him to make and drink the coherent water... no chunks, he has information but no knowledge. ((In the past six years this student got a disproportionate amount of attention from me... and has managed to turn all that teaching, all that guidance into a big fat zero. His brilliance helped him dupe me... but didn"t help him to create a life worth living for him.

https://youtu.be/DJTt5I8K4Rk?t=30

Somewhere in my reading, actually many places, animals use deceit to lure a predator away from their young. This student uses deceit to lure me away from that fact that he won"t learn.))

As I said above, a distinction fully operational in your brain will work without your conscious thought... So until a distinction, in his case, making and drinking his energized water so his physical self is well enough to support what he is doing, we can safely say that he has probably no useful distinctions in his brain, no chunks, no useful learning has taken place, that would make him act intelligently in life.

He has the brain of a newborn. He may have rules from religion, from his parents, from himself, but they don"t form distinctions, they don"t physically manifest in his brain.

So what prevents him from forming those distinctions? If you think that the two cases are similar, you are right.

What prevents him from forming those distinctions is a concern.

This university student throws everything in the wind, so he can get his concern met: that he is viewed and that he feels brilliant.

That concern, even though it looks innocent, is the altar he sacrifices his whole life on... especially when it comes to learning.

All learning makes you feel stupid, slow, unequal to the task. Intolerable if you have a standard that you have to be brilliant all the time.

Result: he never actually learned anything to the level that permanent brain structures, neural changes would happen in his brain. He is a man without any intelligence.

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  3. A third student, also an engineer,

  
  was showing no promising signs that she can be taught anything.

But in my little research into teaching has accidentally taken me to proximal whatever it was... that says that if you can teach what is very close to what the student knows, then it is possible to teach someone. While if you try to teach new things without leaning, building on existing knowledge, you"ll fail.

This student"s access to any and all knowledge is his deep and profound knowledge of horses. The care and training of horses, including turning a horse from disobedient or neurotic into a happy, productive horse.

Amazing, if you ask me.

She even recalls that all her engineering studies were built on this island of knowledge... the horses.

Our job, hers and mine, is to build all new knowledge onto and adjacent to the existing knowledge, so she/you can start living a life larger than what her/your current distinctions allow for.

Your distinctions or the lack of them, stake out the area of life where you can be effective, intelligent, productive, and ultimately happy.

Learning and establishing new distinctions with this knowledge of proximity makes learning fast(er) and possible.

Teaching someone with no distinctions is quite a different bag of tricks... and I don"t know how to do it yet. Until one half-baked distinction becomes permanent, i.e. self-running, there is no hope to ever reach intelligence.

Every polymath, every productive person started out with one distinction that they deepened until it become a solid foundation for all knowledge to be built upon.

That, the first chunk, is the challenge.

In my case, my life turned around, and it is still turning, around a piece of knowledge, a distinction verbalized by Hillel 2500 years ago: "If I am not for me, who is for me? If not now... when? If I am only for myself... who am I?"

It is becoming clear to me that I have a concern to occupy as little of the earth as I can... a kind of "martyr concern" that has been making me not use, not take advantage all that life has to offer. My identity is vested in being the person who can make something from nothing, like the dude in the fairy tale "Stone soup". ((

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pphUfE0ERt0

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I am slowly learning to counter the concern, and at least some of the time take actions that take care of me. Slowly, but surely. It is a daily struggle.

Until you can conquer your concern, much of the time, you are like a one-legged man in an ass kicking contest... not very good.

The above student examples, the engineer who wants to look strong and fearless, the other guy brilliant, and me: able to live on nothing... are all in for a long road to hoe.

I don"t know the concern of the horse person... It is not that easy to get clarity about THE concern...

But everyone has one main concern that they dance around all their lives... a concern is like having your foot nailed to the floorboards, so you can move ONLY around it...

Your favorite fairy tale may be a clue. Or your favorite hero "script", mine is "the hero who succeeds in the face of incredible odds": disease, racial discrimination, poverty, imprisonment, etc.

I would laugh if it were funny... it is tragic...

PS: As I am editing this article, I am rejoiced to remember that our "brilliant" student may have some area where he has distinctions... and that is pattern recognition. And now that I see it, I can test it if it is really so, and can start help him build a whole body of distinctions on that one distinction, that one island.

As far fetched it sounds, every single half-learned distinction he has can be connected to that one... one by one... not automatically the way he would hope.

His success will depend on his willingness to not be brilliant all the time, in fact to feel stupid and continue learning... Which is a TLB size issue... To what degree he is willing to not be a Twitchy Little Bastard.

Playground: it is never too late to have a happy childhood... but how do you change the past?

The full title of the Playground course is: Playground: it"s never too late to have a happy childhood.

Why is that significant? And what the heck does even mean?

The past is the past, and you cannot change it, they say, but if you look in history books, you"ll see that it does... depending on the point of view of the historian... ((Here is a 10% truth value video to explain this phenomenon. Cynthia Sue Larson"s vibration is 200.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTh1qgk1Jyw
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In the Playground we re-write your history. Not in a fancy, inventive, "you create your life" kind of way... we actually go back to the root incidents, and look at them through different filters, through learning about different invisible dynamics.

This looking, looking through distinctions, reliable changes the past... and it changes the present moment... because it changes the future... ((What actually happened you can"t change... but before you jump into conclusion: the whole first module of the Playground is to distinguish reality, from all the interpretations, and meanings YOU have added... and although what happened cannot be changed, the interpretations and meanings are in no way part of what happened... and still, they carry 99% of the "what happened" for you... So the secret is distinguishing... Always.))

And what gives your beingness in the present moment is the future you are walking towards. So by changing the past, you whole life, including your future can be changed.

• One of the integral parts of the Playground programs is the weekly one-on-one partner calls... Without that there would be no results.


• And the 20 day learning challenge... without that you wouldn"t necessarily see how you are not even willing to learn anything to make your life work, to make your life better.


• And, of course, it can include email coaching, although it is not mandatory, and the ones that don"t ask for it are normally at a distinct disadvantage.

I listen to every partner call... and give a little or a lot of feedback, depending whether the participants asked for coaching or not.

90% of the work of the program gets done in the partner calls if the participants opted for coaching. Much less if they didn"t.

Why do I write articles that seem to be only for the eight participants of the Playground program?

It"s a good question... and it is a dumb question. What participants deal with can shed light to what a non-participant is dealing with, because my job is to shed light to the invisible. To name what hasn"t been named. To reveal the dynamic.

And even just knowing that there is a dynamic there can save some lives, but more importantly, allow curious people to opt to look deeper, and take back their power from the machine...

That is why I am writing these articles.

The Playground partner calls give away a lot of the "how" in the how you do anything is how you do everything.

I just listened to a partner call, two men, two continents, two different lives, two different soul corrections, two different vibrations.

The conversation reminds me of the book "What do you say AFTER you say hello?" Transactional Analysis book.

Depending on the percentage of the "it is all about me" score in the Starting Point Measurements, you listen to the other person"s example, the other person"s life, for the similarities or the sameness, and have no interest in their differences.

Your vibration is a number. It tells me how much of reality you see. What limits your view are

• 1. The height from which you look. You see things from a skyscraper, for example a traffic jam, is a whole different view, than being stuck in it on street level... same traffic jam, just viewed from a different vantage point.


• 2. Your astuteness: your astuteness is a function of how many distinctions you can tell apart. I measure it in your vocabulary, accurate vocabulary, but really, if I wanted to be exacting, what i am really measuring is how many things you can recognize accurately, and tell them apart from similar things.


• 3. Your about me score. As I have said in another article, the size of that is like a carton cutout, that occupies the center of your field of vision, and you see, if you even look, reality over its edges.

So, every person has those three aspects that influence their "how" and "what"

Another aspect is their soul correction.

Each soul correction has a main linchpin.

Life happens to us all. What we do with what is happening to us is, on the other hand, quite individual.

Most children have early experiences where they find out that life is not fair, that not all of us get the same things, that what works for another doesn"t work for us.

This is where the similarity ends.

What we decide from our experience, our conclusion, our "therefore" will be consistent with our soul correction.

I have a minuscule number for "about me", and I can therefore see fully what is going on for the participants, while when they listen to each other, depending on their vibration number, and especially their about-me score, they will see or misidentify what is going on for the other.

I have to sit on my hand... I want to "tell them" what they didn"t see, what they could change, etc... but it is out of integrity for me... I have committed to provide no coaching that is not paid for... and some people pay, others don"t...

But there is another factor: sometimes helping people to see what they are not ready is akin to cutting the cocoon open to help the not-ready butterfly "applicant" to save them from having to break the cocoon and the pain it implies.

So I don"t....

Even in this article I am trying to not say anything that cuts someone"s cocoon open: what makes a butterfly fly is the effort they needed to break the cocoon open.

Sheer torture for the "emperor"... or in this case, the teacher/coach.

What else can I see from the partner calls?

Life is full of rackets. Every unpleasant feeling is a signal for the underlying iceberg, the invisible parts of the racket.

Payoff is what perpetuates the machine: without some perceived benefit, no one would go through the pain and turmoil of the racket.

Payoff sounds good, right? Like a salary... but in fact it is the biggest criminal in all. It is what corrupts people, makes them sell out, makes them do unimaginably evil things... betray their country, betray their family, betray their best.

When it comes to rackets, the most frequent payoff is never having to show up in life, measure up, produce, really know.

So rackets are really what are the underlying dynamic of procrastination, underachievement, and never amounting to much in life. Not a lack of intelligence, a lack of talent, a lack of opportunity, not even lack of character, but the payoff from the rackets.

Not having to, not having to be the one who causes, instead being the one who is an effect. No one can blame you... but...

But this is where the cost of the payoff, received under the table, undeserved and unearned will attempt to create a choice... and unless you bring full consciousness to the racket, it can"t and it won"t.

Unless you value something more than you value something else... it won"t.

In yesterday"s Playground I measure what is the vibration of the ability to see value... and to my dismay it is 300 vibration. Under 300 vibration you may see individual values, but not value as a distinction. Same for any distinction, by the way. You will see examples of it, but not the distinction as a distinction.

So the goal in the Playground is to hit 300 vibration, where the distinctions, where the values can USE YOUR LIFE, instead of you having to look for them, analyze them, and try to use them.

The Cost: the most expensive cost is affinity, more specifically self-love, self-affinity, and the ability to live from the "higher power" or North Star of "If I am not for me, who is for me?"

The saying, the adage, that when you love yourself you love your life has been true for me, and I have seen instances where it was clearly true for you.

One student, when he could see for a while, that even though he does things he doesn"t like, he is not wrong, he is just doing things he doesn"t like.

And his enthusiasm, and joy was indescribable... he loved himself, suddenly, and thus he loved his life and the people in it.

But when you see yourself selling yourself out for some puny and disreputable payoff... you cannot respect yourself, you cannot love yourself... and thus you cannot love your life.

And the sadness, when people get in touch with that is thick and heartwrenching.

Before you can choose to say no to the payoff... you have to go through that sadness, occasionally shame, or you won"t choose a racket-free life.

Arrgh, that puny payoff is the only thing most people have... not results, not rewarding relationships, not health... no. the payoffs. And that is their life.

It"s a catch 22: in order to learn anything, in order to do anything useful for your life, you need to be saying no to the payoff... at least a little bit of time... or you won"t be allowed to learn anything, do anything for your life.

You see the trap?

Not every soul correction, and not every person with a certain soul correction is caught, fully, in this catch 22 trap... two of the 8 participants in the current Playground are caught in this trap fully, and two are caught somewhat... My heart goes out for them. But the ball is in their court.

Should you become a client? Would I even accept you as a client?

For decades one of my sore spots was that people refused to serve me, even though I paid them.

I remember saying to myself: my money is not good enough for you? and wept.

I had no idea how I "accomplished" that... in 20/20 hindsight it is still a little spotty.

What wasn"t clear to me, never even occurred to me, how my attitude effected the service provider. My "To what degree you think of yourself:" starting point measure was, at the time, 70%. From my behavior I would have guessed it was higher.

Mainly I overrode what they said. I argued, I knew better, I acted with contempt...

What I didn"t know then is that being a service provider needs to be a win, or no service.

A customer who is not happy is a drag on an provider, and not worth the little (or even a lot of) money they pay.

I was that kind of customer...


By 1987 I started to see more of the invisible dynamic that was running my life, that kept me an angry victim, that made me feel entitled, etc.

With that my vibration rose, even without getting fully conscious and aware of how I used to be, my attitude changed, and life got better for me. Because no man is an island, and I did need help.

One of the most important criteria, it seems, is whether the provider is allowed to make a difference or not.

One of my measurements in the Starting Point Measurements [note]1. your vibration (1-1000):
2. your overall intelligence, emotional, intellectual, spiritual, body, relationship, etc.:
3. the number of spiritual capacities you have:
4. your soul correction (your machine): https://www.yourvibration.com/sc
5. do you have attachments?
6. the level of your health (1-100):
7. the level of your cell hydration (1-100):
8. your relationship to feedback and instruction:
9. The level of discomfort you are willing to allow w/o trying to fix it. This is your TLB score...
10. The size of your vocabulary: the number of words you can use accurately:
11. To what degree you think of yourself:
12. # of fixed mindset:
13. Ambition:
14. Desire:
15. Degree of inauthenticity overall:
16. Level of integrity 1-100:
17. how enslaved are you to memes? (what percentage of your life is run by memes?)
18. do you have a bridge between your precious "I" and your actual I? your level of delusion
19. Recommendations:

[/note] is your response, your attitude regarding feedback and instruction. I used to answer that with the category from a book I read: "smart, foolish, evil" but I abandoned that categorization: I didn"t like what I was getting.

I became more interested in what someone does when they don"t like the instruction or the feedback. A lot of people, after the initial emotional state, come back and do what they are asked to do...

If I can tell them: read this book and without justification, without explanation, they go and read it. They may feel reluctant, resistant, angry, but because I asked them they say: OK and do it.

In 1987, green and still with a huge attitude, I signed up a year long training program: Team, Management, Leadership. Why? I didn"t have any reason, I just liked to get trained.

Four of the five weekends of the of the course were in California. I remember sitting at the airports by myself: I was a lone ranger... unaware that my loneliness was a result of my own attitude... [note]That became conscious for me only some 20 years later, when I created a collage to deal with this seeming reality: I am alone. I wrote about it, I think, in another post. The top picture. (the bear on one side, on the top of a tree, and the multitude of penguins, and people, on the other side) is the collage that allowed me to see. And for the first time I managed to take responsibility for my reality. I am alone by choice. Duh.[/note]

One of the assignments from the program was to read the Science Fiction by Colin Wilson: The Mind Parasite.

I bought the book, it was maybe five bucks. And it took me a whole year to read it. I could get through 2-3 pages, and that was that. It was the hardest book I had read thus far. 10-15 new words on every page... It took me 20-30 minutes to get through 2-3 pages. But at some point efforting was replaced by genuine wonder. It was still work, but now it was discovery.

I found out that not many of the people in the program read it. But it counted for 4-5 years of instruction: learning something from fiction, from immersing in fiction, is incredibly effective.

Roy Williams says in today"s Monday Morning Memo, quoting

"Fiction is usually seen as escapist entertainment…But it"s hard to reconcile the escapist theory of fiction with the deep patterns we find in the art of storytelling… Our various fictional worlds are– on the whole– horrorscapes. Fiction may temporarily free us from our troubles, but it does so by ensnaring us in new sets of troubles– in imaginary worlds of struggle and stress and mortal woe… Fiction also seems to be more effective at changing beliefs than nonfiction, which is designed to persuade through argument and evidence. Studies show that when we read nonfiction, we read with our shields up. We are critical and skeptical. But when we are absorbed in a story, we drop our intellectual guard."
– Jonathan Gottschall

Today"s whole memo is to illustrate this idea... that story is real, immersive, and instructive.

I have learned a lot more from fiction than from training, from non-fiction, from coaching. And the cost of it was, of course, a lot lower.

On the other hand, I probably would not have learned that much from novels and maybe even movies had I not also learned distinctions from the more expensive, brainy activities of the other.

I have The Mind Parasites in the members area, and according to my statistics, my people haven"t been reading it.

Back in 1987, my accurate vocabulary measure in English was 700. Today it is 3500... With an accurate 700 vocabulary it was a difficult read. It is harder to read than most non-fiction, but because of the story, it is a lot more effective.

I am going to make a new rule: I won"t take on any new client who doesn"t, at least, attempt to read the book.

You don"t have to be a genius to become a client... if you don"t do what I ask you to do... I probably can"t help you.

Why is Tai Lopez not a billionaire if he has all this knowledge?

This is a continuation of the previous audio: how patterns, distinctions, principles influence your view and therefore your life, with special emphasis on finances.

Why is Tai Lopez not a billionaire if he has all this knowledge?

This is a continuation of the previous audio: how patterns, distinctions, principles influence your view and therefore your life, with special emphasis on finances.

The four core default contexts... or Why I stopped participating in Landmark Education?

Actually, I continued to participate in Landmark after the incident I"ll tell you about... but NEVER intended to contribute any more. Or not really. I was participating from hurt... knowing that what was broken cannot be fixed.

18 years ago, as I was coaching someone, it became clear to me that there are this four core invisibles, that are underneath every issue, every distinction, every weird, unethical, unsavory action a human being makes.

Even though the distinction that there is a broadcast going on that everyone hears and everyone tunes into some of it, part of it, the part that feels relevant to what is going on for them.

I remember, it was 1991, and I drove home after the session, and heard the broadcast that sounded like very radio station playing on the same wave length... and yet I could pick out the part that was hand in glove match to what was going on in my life... I was in love with a married man at the time... and everything relevant to that was playing for me.

I drove to New York and confronted my lover... I don"t remember what happened: nothing good, because nothing changed. I was still hooked... for many more years.

But the idea of the broadcast didn"t become the foundation of my teaching until earlier this year... and the magic began.

But I am getting ahead of myself here...

18 years ago, when I was in San Francisco, I already had an insight that was to revolutionize Landmark Education, that was to increase their results for people manyfold.

So I approached a person who was in charge of product development in Landmark, and shared what I taught in my last article.

The response was... "very nice."

No echo. No one there to hear it.

I was crushed, and dumbfounded...

Today I understand what happened, but at that time I didn"t.

Humans really want only one thing: looking good and making it. And, of course, underneath is, making it a must, are the core four: having to, needing to, wanting to, and should.

Check with yourself and see if you can find them: you have to look good. And you have to make it.

And anything that threatens it is either ignored, fought, smeared, killed, but never considered A is A...

The looking good and making it is survival... and comes from the genes.

But the genes are a lot more forgiving than the memes.

I have never seen an animal sitting and blaming themselves... they do that in fairy tales... but not in reality.

In reality, an animal may make a mistake, and look at the result of the mistake as A is A... and do the next best thing.

They don"t have having to... Having to is a meme.

I personally make sure that I don"t have to anything. I don"t have to do, see, feel, fix, hear... anything.

And I am still working on giving you the same privilege... or even giving Landmark leaders the same privilege.

They didn"t have to appreciate my contribution, they didn"t have to even listen. They would have been better off... but "looking good and making it" or having to look good and having to make it interfered.

They could not see it, because they never went deep enough.

You can only do things consistent with what you see... and, listen up! those Landmark people learned their distinctions, they did not invent it, or did not really make them theirs.

The Nobel Prize winning famous physicist, in an interview with Werner, complained that the applicants for graduate studies with this physicist, Feinstein, did not invent physics like he did.

I watched this with artists. I watched this with philosophy students. I watched this with architects. I watched this with energy practitioners. and... the areas of knowledge are endless.

Truth repeated is a lie. It"s like being a parent to a child borne by someone else. The child is both yours and not yours.

You"ll never get the whole of the foundation of becoming a human being, unless you get at least one thing you can give birth to.

I have one (1) student who is doing the work, and is making the distinctions his.

He is not the most educated, not the smartest, but the most changeable, the most willing to experiment.

Darwin said, in his "The origin of species" from 1859, that the species that survives is the one that is most adaptable.

Adaptable means changeable. Adaptable means: molding oneself to match the new requirements.

You can go on a hunt to find what you are unwilling to give up. What you are unwilling to negotiate. What you are unwilling to make malleable. What you are right about.

You"ll find many. And when you look, there is a "must be looking good and making it" underneath it.

You get instructions from a teacher you hired... but you"ll tweak it until it can"t work, won"t work but you"ll be right.

Or you"ll meekly accept, but refuse to look deeper. Or you argue. Or... many many ways you can be off the strait and narrow...

I can see the snow covered trees from where I sit, and watch, in amazement, the squirrel that runs on the underside of the branch where there is no snow.

The squirrel looks at the world and the snow and life as A is A.

If I suggested to you that you can do something like that in your life, you would have reasons not to do it. Because to you A is not A... A is what it should be for you to do what I asked you to do.

All to buy the right to remain the same.

To continue to live in quiet desperation. Powerless. Unaware that you are the cause. Ultimately.

Here is what I wrote to a student, just now...

I just wrote two articles, but actually proofreading and preparing it to be published takes time.

But they are a direct answer to your questions.

Your daughter is eating NOT according to her type... or she would not be sick.

The main job is to remove have to, need to, want to, and should... and turning all of them to "I get to..." a privilege.

I remember when I looked at life like that... especially on vacations... life was an adventure. I even got to go to school at any age: I loved going to school. I dreamed about moving into the school... how it felt when I was the only person. How it felt not having a shower, and yet being at home.

And I have the same relationship with my diet: I get to eat the stuff I get to eat...

I just did what I ask people to do... caught the mood the have to"s create, and changed the wording to "I get to".

It feels weird to have a glimmer, the stars in my eyes after so many decades of sadness and slavery.

When all your efforts result in no learning

"It"s easier to evaluate your results through drunken delusion than to gaze soberly in the mirror and face the truth."

I had a conversation yesterday with one of my clients, and as it is predictable in many conversations, weight came up.

Weight is a universal source of grief, effort, disappointment, and self-hate.

But why would that be so?

I can recall, in my life, four "campaigns" to regain control over my body.

The most recent one is successful and is going to last. The previous ones included one or two elements that were not sustainable. for example the first time I was on a starvation diet, and I maintained it for 10 years, until I came to the United States, where the plenty beat me on my a**.

The second one was through using the Greer Childers method, but it was really hard, and as soon as I didn"t do the breathing/exercise combo, I started to balloon.

The third one was the beginning of my experimentation to find what foods I was eating that made me balloon. It resulted in me becoming a whale...

The fourth one was still experimentation, but this time I was mercilessly cutting out stuff from my shopping list, except for purposes of double blind tests... like any and all kinds of carbs, cow"s milk products, even fruits and vegetables that are getting sweeter and sweeter with Global Warming.

I am now at the same weight I was when I got off the plane in 1985.

Of course my health got damaged by a lot of the things I did while I was fat, or while I was trying to get normal.

I am 70 years old for another three weeks, and my arteries are brittle, stiff, and I have symptoms: pain, swelling, and approaching death.

It was like that for both my mother and father, and it is like this for my two brothers.

Our diet has been traditionally void of the nutrients that would keep our arteries young, copper, anti-inflammation stuff, and essential fatty acids.

I muscle tested this morning and in spite of my hopes, this condition cannot be reversed fast. My no-carb diet is good for it, but to soften up my arteries, to make them young again, according to muscle test, I"ll need two years.

Most of you if you heard that anything takes longer than taking a pill, you"d be growling...

But life has its own rhythm, and things take as long as they take.

If you don"t have patience for life, you"ll need patience for death. You may have chosen already.

In every area of life: health, wealth, love and fulfillment.

Now, let me return to the skill-set of managing weight, including getting to your ideal weight.

First off, you need to know what your numbers are.

• Then you need to know and put it in writing what your starting point is: what you are eating, when, how much.


• How you do your shopping, by a list or by hunger?


• What is the specific plan you want to test first and if necessary tweak later. It took me several wild turns to have a diet where I am fat burning, avoid cow dairy, vegetables and fruits, except parsley, spinach, garlic, mushrooms, hot peppers and yellow onions.

Lamb, rarely bacon, some fish, and eggs

For dairy: goat cheese.

I weigh myself every morning right after waking up. On my way to the bathroom I pass the electronic scale, so I never miss stepping on it. There is also a full size mirror right at that spot.

The purpose is to see if the downward direction is holding... if not, investigation is due.

I do my grocery shopping every two weeks, I cut my meat to portions and freeze it a day or two after my shopping day. I have the Energizer Audio playing in the refrigerator on a mini speaker to keep the food fresh and non-rotting.

The rest... not much to learn from, lots of experiments. I make my judgments by the scale and by how I feel.

The essential elements of this whole process are weighing myself every morning at the same time, and watching for the results of the experiments.

Now, listen up, this is the meat of this article:

Depending on who you are, you"ll have an opinion, a story, an interpretation about the feedback.

Which means: you"ll miss the feedback.

Why? the feedback is a fact... weight gain, how you feel.

Your story goes all over the place, celebrating, explaining, feeling guilty.

Unless you can take a feedback and add nothing to it, your experimentation is a scam... and you will never accomplish anything in life.

I teach separating facts (feedback) and story in the Playground program.

But, listen up, many people have done that program, and none of them considered what I taught a life-skill. They thought it was a method to feel better about your past... and yes, it is used for that too. But it is an essential life skill in EVERY SINGLE MOMENT of your life, regardless of the topic or the activity or the pillar of life.

And this is what is my new ambition: to make you live with skills.

What is the most incredible quality of a skill? That it"s portable. That it"s transferable. That it is like breathing: you do everything better if you can breathe... right?

And this is what I found out in that client call: that there is no distinction for you: skill... Your life is fragmented, and not an integrated whole.

There is no chance to have a good life without distinctions... and it is time to wake up and smell the coffee.

You do a lot of work... and it doesn"t all gel into a coherent whole.

Time to change that.

When all your efforts result in no learning

"It"s easier to evaluate your results through drunken delusion than to gaze soberly in the mirror and face the truth."

I had a conversation yesterday with one of my clients, and as it is predictable in many conversations, weight came up.

Weight is a universal source of grief, effort, disappointment, and self-hate.

But why would that be so?

I can recall, in my life, four "campaigns" to regain control over my body.

The most recent one is successful and is going to last. The previous ones included one or two elements that were not sustainable. for example the first time I was on a starvation diet, and I maintained it for 10 years, until I came to the United States, where the plenty beat me on my a**.

The second one was through using the Greer Childers method, but it was really hard, and as soon as I didn"t do the breathing/exercise combo, I started to balloon.

The third one was the beginning of my experimentation to find what foods I was eating that made me balloon. It resulted in me becoming a whale...

The fourth one was still experimentation, but this time I was mercilessly cutting out stuff from my shopping list, except for purposes of double blind tests... like any and all kinds of carbs, cow"s milk products, even fruits and vegetables that are getting sweeter and sweeter with Global Warming.

I am now at the same weight I was when I got off the plane in 1985.

Of course my health got damaged by a lot of the things I did while I was fat, or while I was trying to get normal.

I am 70 years old for another three weeks, and my arteries are brittle, stiff, and I have symptoms: pain, swelling, and approaching death.

It was like that for both my mother and father, and it is like this for my two brothers.

Our diet has been traditionally void of the nutrients that would keep our arteries young, copper, anti-inflammation stuff, and essential fatty acids.

I muscle tested this morning and in spite of my hopes, this condition cannot be reversed fast. My no-carb diet is good for it, but to soften up my arteries, to make them young again, according to muscle test, I"ll need two years.

Most of you if you heard that anything takes longer than taking a pill, you"d be growling...

But life has its own rhythm, and things take as long as they take.

If you don"t have patience for life, you"ll need patience for death. You may have chosen already.

In every area of life: health, wealth, love and fulfillment.

Now, let me return to the skill-set of managing weight, including getting to your ideal weight.

First off, you need to know what your numbers are.

• Then you need to know and put it in writing what your starting point is: what you are eating, when, how much.


• How you do your shopping, by a list or by hunger?


• What is the specific plan you want to test first and if necessary tweak later. It took me several wild turns to have a diet where I am fat burning, avoid cow dairy, vegetables and fruits, except parsley, spinach, garlic, mushrooms, hot peppers and yellow onions.

Lamb, rarely bacon, some fish, and eggs

For dairy: goat cheese.

I weigh myself every morning right after waking up. On my way to the bathroom I pass the electronic scale, so I never miss stepping on it. There is also a full size mirror right at that spot.

The purpose is to see if the downward direction is holding... if not, investigation is due.

I do my grocery shopping every two weeks, I cut my meat to portions and freeze it a day or two after my shopping day. I have the Energizer Audio playing in the refrigerator on a mini speaker to keep the food fresh and non-rotting.

The rest... not much to learn from, lots of experiments. I make my judgments by the scale and by how I feel.

The essential elements of this whole process are weighing myself every morning at the same time, and watching for the results of the experiments.

Now, listen up, this is the meat of this article:

Depending on who you are, you"ll have an opinion, a story, an interpretation about the feedback.

Which means: you"ll miss the feedback.

Why? the feedback is a fact... weight gain, how you feel.

Your story goes all over the place, celebrating, explaining, feeling guilty.

Unless you can take a feedback and add nothing to it, your experimentation is a scam... and you will never accomplish anything in life.

I teach separating facts (feedback) and story in the Playground program.

But, listen up, many people have done that program, and none of them considered what I taught a life-skill. They thought it was a method to feel better about your past... and yes, it is used for that too. But it is an essential life skill in EVERY SINGLE MOMENT of your life, regardless of the topic or the activity or the pillar of life.

And this is what is my new ambition: to make you live with skills.

What is the most incredible quality of a skill? That it"s portable. That it"s transferable. That it is like breathing: you do everything better if you can breathe... right?

And this is what I found out in that client call: that there is no distinction for you: skill... Your life is fragmented, and not an integrated whole.

There is no chance to have a good life without distinctions... and it is time to wake up and smell the coffee.

You do a lot of work... and it doesn"t all gel into a coherent whole.

Time to change that.

Make your plane go where you want it to go... or what one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth

Make your plane go where you want it to go...

This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.

I literally don"t know anyone who lives that way.

People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that... while their plane crashes in every area.

So what is the difference between who are like that, who are on their way to become that kind of person, and others who never ever land their plane on the landing strip?

One is: attitude. You either have the results or the reasons why you don"t have the results... another one is DNA capacities...

((One huge missing capacity: courage is making you not even declare to what end, what result you really want to achieve. Because if you don"t say it, then you cannot fail. But you cannot land your plane on a non-specific air strip.

The hallmark of a of courage deficiency is to spout some generalities. Tai Lopez"s purpose: spreading good ideas through mass media is a generality... showing that he is a cowardly lion...

Because he is afraid to ask and then declare: to what end?

What end would make you feel good about yourself at the end of life?

• I did all I could do to become the person I could become?


• To have made a lot of money?


• To have had my house clean at all times?


• Look and see...

If you can"t see anything then come, join the 67 coaching program and I"ll help you see the end of the tunnel...

If you don"t have an end in mind then you"ll never accomplish anything worthwhile, and you"ll be like floating storksh*t... without your own motive power, lifted and lowered by the air. This is a Hungarian saying, by the way.))

But there is a lot more to it that no one seems to talk about:

The more distinctions you have, the more astute you become, the more power you have to land your plane where you want to land it (in health, wealth, love and happiness) and the more fun life becomes

Distinction is a fancy name for a frame. A frame through which you can look at life. In every frame life shows up differently.

I teach distinctions, aka frames. That is the secret sauce of my teaching.

The only thing people resist is looking at the puny number of frames they have... The 2-3-4 frames. That they can only look 2-3-4 ways, and then their life is therefore impoverished.

The more frames you have the better life can work. With 2-3-4 frames you come up short in most situations.

I have more distinctions in some pillars of life than in others.

My weakest pillar is social. I have had the least amount of success there. So it seems that I am doubling my efforts in this area nowadays.

• Learning distinctions from others is good... maybe.


• Learning distinctions from movies is good... maybe.


• But ultimately the way to learn a distinction is to use the frame through with you see what the frame says... and most people are just goddamn lazy... or superior... or can"t see.

Some people can"t learn distinctions, no matter what method you offer to them: they are locked into their 2-3-4 frames.

OK... let me say that different: some people won"t learn any more distinctions. Why? My new favorite expression is the cause: theory induced blindness... we could also say, meme induced blindness. [note]It is always the past that gets into your eyes... as one of the Peanuts said. Being right about your past, that you are a victim, that you were mistreated seems to excuse you from having a great life, from having to put out, earn a living, accomplish, etc.[/note]

These two are essentially the same: a theory is also a meme. If you don"t look at it as a theory... but the truth.

So I am learning new distinctions in social interactions. It is the hardest thing I have ever done. Harder than mathematics... lol. Or figure drawing. Or even finding a diet that works for me.

Why is learning new distinctions hard? Because of all the stuff that is there.

I have been taking certain things personally. Getting out of my own way, getting out of the frame "this is personal" has been hard. But today I managed to turn some corners.

I managed to look at what is happening in the community van, which is my experimental lab for social.

One of the steady companions there is a guy who is a radio jock, music, and we have a few months history of butting heads.

In social interactions, it seems, safety, being appreciated or liked, being heard seem to be important on one hand, self-protection, exerting power over others, punishing, expression immediate language, aka emotional response... on the other.

This dude is a perfect training partner. Not because he wants to learn, but because he can demonstrate stuff... so I can learn... "oh, that is how it works? hm. interesting."

I am getting more skilled, I am getting to look at things through more distinctions than before... as they are happening. I even had 3 moments of joy today!

When someone blows up at me, I don"t take it personally, I look at what need it serves for them.

With what I am learning now, I can also go back to my family dynamics 50-60-nearly 70 years ago, and see what was going on then in a whole new light.

It is clear that I took everything personally. It is also clear that I looked at every moment as if it was going to remain the same forever. So I sulked, I hid, I felt angry, hurt, diminished, invalidated, etc. for a long time at a clip.

From that frame my mother"s behavior looked strange: she was the type of person who would flare up, hit, scream, kick, and then when done, totally forget what she had done. Never even considered that she left dead bodies in the wake of her storm.

My brothers took everything personally, and became permanently offended, and cut communications to protect themselves from being exposed again to whatever seemed harmful at the time. They still behave the exact same way. Offended is their semi-permanent state.

My father was more stoic. He looked at everything through the longer view, and his mood was a lot stabler.

The more distinctions I can look through, the more frames are available to me, in practicality, the more enjoyable my social interactions will become. [note]The same is true in business, the same is true in health...[/note]

Not yet. They are more, they are more frequent, but not yet enjoyable. Less traumatic. But I still end up with muscle tension, near unbearable tiredness, and difficulty to breathe after every interaction. Even if it is a webinar...

All my projects are long term. Nothing wrong, nothing to fix...

I am learning to land my plane on the landing strip even in a storm... I make the plane go where I want it to go.

As long as I have said and declared the landing strip precisely...

It"s the hardest thing EVER... but you must go for it, you must summon courage... And you can always change it... as soon as you find out that it"s not what you really wanted.

Beingness is invisible, but it is the key to happiness...

I am learning what to teach, what is missing, what is needed from my students.

There is something I struggled with for decades, I have, it seems, overcome it, and have never seemed to look at it again... ponder it, and then teach it.

A different look at distinction reveals a different way lack of distinctions make life more difficult.

Imagine a surgeon in the operating room talking like this: Nurse, give me that little thingie... you know the one with the curved blades that aren"t blades at all, but look like blades... you know?

If things don"t have exactly defined names, the surgeon will kill the patient.

Half of being a surgeon is to know what tool to use and what it is called.

The same is true in every area of life, especially when it also concerns other people.

If you don"t know what they pay attention to, how that looks, your communication will be bringing you trouble, slavery, grief... even if your intentions were grand, noble, or nothing in particular.

When I look back in my life, almost 100% of the "beatings" I have ever taken were due to not knowing how my communication will land. I was always surprised. Stunned even. I felt misunderstood, and alone.

So this is really important, and if you have no clarity, no distinction, then you will suffer. Or better said: you continue to suffer. Tai touches on this, scratches the surface, in the step about Wittgenstein"s lion. He says that if you say insulting words to a person who doesn"t speak the language, but smile, they will think you are complimenting them. It sheds light, somewhat, to the how aspect of communication, and how people are hooked on the how.

For decades the main complaint against me from clients and students was that I wasn"t nice. I wondered all these years what they meant.

Then something must have happened, because suddenly the complaining stopped. I didn"t feel I changed how I deliver bad news... And yet something changed.

My sneaking suspicion is that something in the "who" changed a few months ago and that may have changed the how... I am not clear yet. I am going to examine this further, but in this article I only intend to teach the distinction of the three aspects, the what, the how, and the who.

When you talk, when you do anything, there are three aspects to you:

1. the what... the what you do/say
2. the how... the how of what you do/say
3. the who... the beingness with which you do what you do/say

Everyone is pretending. But pretense is skin deep, and everyone with eyes to see can see it. Pretense is primarily in the "how" arena, but occasionally you can see people pretending in the "who" aspect as well.

Everyone can see the "what" as well. It is largely visible.

But even though I think everyone can feel the who, it is not on the conscious level. It is the seed level, it is in the invisible.

You, it seems, "know" nothing, care nothing about the who aspect. It seems that you are trying to live life with just the what and the how, and this ignorance bites you in the behind.

People go to a doctor. They care more about the doctor"s bedside manner than whether he knows what he is doing or not.

And most doctors, especially the nice ones, put all their energies into being nice, not into being good.

People"s how is talking to your delusional self that wants to be considered important... and for most people being treated right is more important than even their life. Nice gurus attract hoards of delusional self (big ego) people.

But the who, the seed level, is what gives you the results, the quality of life, the inner peace. ((There was a moment in the new Netflix documentary on Osho (Bhagwan Rajneesh) and his Rajneesh cult where I got who he was. I suddenly understood why none of his wise sounding words ever made a difference.))

You can do things, look in a certain way, mannerisms, etc. and be considered a totally different who.

I am still learning, and I am still struggling with the complete comprehension of the interplay of the three aspects and what others perceive... It"s new to me... needs more simmering down. But don"t worry, it is so hard to "get" that by the time you get to full understanding, by the time you get to full implementation, I"ll be clear. Crystal clear... At this point I am maybe two steps ahead of you.

I learned about the seed level and its importance late in life. I had a Kabbalah Centre staff member work with me on the phone, trying to drive home the distinction "seed level".

I was already trained in declaring the "who I am" the Landmark Education way, but I felt Kabbalah"s distinction went deeper.

He said that my results, my company"s results will come from that seed level. That purpose statements, and declarations are above the soil level, and will not change the seed level.

It was horrible... I could not get it right. It"s taken me years. I started my inquiry, and just like with the "color exercise", the reticular activator, the unconscious "honing" mechanism engaged and eventually started to show me that aspect of successful people, of success. The who of things.

Now I see it everywhere...

Admittedly only a certain percentage of humanity will even understand what I am talking about, but truth be told, these are the people I want to talk to. And, of course, only a small fragment of those will implement it.

I will talk, for example, about smiling, or laughing.

You can laugh and have a laugh you obviously practiced in front of the mirror, a laugh you developed for the camera, to tell people how happy and lighthearted you are. It is a pose, it is a façade, even though 99% of people won"t see that it"s fake.

But who you are underneath the smiling is anxious,

So the be-do-have thing when it comes to this arena, has an additional step: the pretense or the façade. The coverup. You"ll put the fake, engineered persona to the "Be" position.

And because everything you ever wanted will come to you through people, and people are stupid, and people are blind, and people only care about themselves, you will be, maybe, successful in the world, but not inside.

The more you pretend the further the two selves will be from each other, and the more inner misery you"ll experience.

I had a long conversation about this topic in my Sunday Rant... one of the things I saw is that the inner tension, the disharmony and split between the two selves is due to this pretense...

And you don"t even know what is causing it.

In this regard, the level of inauthenticity, that measure in your starting point measurements, is the degree to which you are unhappy.

Happiness is not what people think... all smiles, all fun and games.

Happiness is quiet, peaceful, and is like a hug.

Happiness is the two selves sitting together in peace. Nothing is missing, no energy is expended, No reason to be happy. Just happiness to be alive.

When you like yourself, you like your life.
When you love yourself, you love your life. You are happy to be alive.

I have a student whose main "who" is "scared".

Arrogance, haughtiness is the mask he wears. It works a lot like puffing oneself up to look bigger in animals. Birds, cats...

It rubs people the wrong way.

People who have a high "think about yourself" score get offended by it.

To them what you are saying is that they are not important, they are nothing, only you and what you want matters. And they will do whatever they can to destroy you, to cut you down to size.

This will come back to you, because of your spotty understanding the world, as disapproval.

The need to meet other people"s expectation becomes stronger, and you give up your right to choose yourself, to do what is appropriate or important to you... just to meet other people"s expectation... that you, obviously, misunderstood.

If you don"t know the who, you"ll keep on repeating the same how, that offends people and doesn"t get you want you want.

You are like the surgeon whose patients die on the operating table.

So what do you do?

Spend time, direct your attention, to the who.

It"s not easy. It cannot be done in the mind. Plato"s care won"t be the place where you can gain insight.

In my money workshops it comes out clearly... clearly to me.

The workshop, seemingly, is about money. But only seemingly. Because the who you are is the common denominator in all your life, across the board, at work, in the bedroom, in the kitchen, the workshop could be about any area of your life. I set money as the area because I hoped more people would be interested.

I was wrong. Only 4-5 people showed up... showing me where people are... if it takes being unmasked and be seen who they are... then they don"t want any of it.

Ugh, who was I kidding?

Is Tai Lopez 67 steps a fraud or have you been defrauded? the bad news...

I have been pondering something that has been really bothering me. I have diagnosed it 90% accurately, but I have no idea how to change it.

And that is the cultural shift towards avoiding work.

I first woke up to it when my favorite teacher, Robert Plank, called it a four letter word, and avoided using it.

The weird and disorienting fact was this: Robert loved getting things done. Actually really loved it. So it was the word, somehow, that appalled him. He lives in California... I thought maybe it had something to do with it.

But since then I realized that it is all over the place.

The media teaches us that work is ugly, or not necessary, or if you are smart you don"t have to work... and today any type of work is included. Even school work...
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What does your laughter mean? What does your laughter do?

There are two kinds of laughter. Depending on what predominates, you are a happy person or an unhappy person. You have peace or you have turbulence.


The two kinds of laughs are

derisive laugh ((de·ri·sive (di-ri"siv, -ziv, -ris"iv, -riz"-)
adj.
Mocking; jeering.
de·ri"sive·ly adv.
de·ri"sive·ness n.))

benevolent laugh: the laughter of recognition






It all depends on who pays the price.

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What does your laughter mean? What does your laughter do?

There are two kinds of laughter. Depending on what predominates, you are a happy person or an unhappy person. You have peace or you have turbulence.


The two kinds of laughs are

derisive laugh ((de·ri·sive (di-ri"siv, -ziv, -ris"iv, -riz"-)
adj.
Mocking; jeering.
de·ri"sive·ly adv.
de·ri"sive·ness n.))

benevolent laugh: the laughter of recognition






It all depends on who pays the price.

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Let"s talk about sexual preference

Twice in my life I had a choice to choose being attracted to women... I mean mainly.

The first time the choice was made for me: when the woman found out that I had no history of being attracted to women, she said: "I won"t do that to you." I was about 22.

The second time I found myself turned on by a woman dancing, and I clearly saw a choice. I saw that I could choose to pursue that, but with that I would choose a life of hiding, a life of not fitting in, a hard life. I chose not to go for it.

As a sex therapist, coach, I talk to a lot of people.

I don"t buy that you are born gay. You are born normal, but are turned at some point.

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Bring the divine to everything

Two years ago I ran a big course, it was long, and it was amazing: Activate Divinity.

One of the distinctions in that course was "bringing the divine to everything".

This is my secret to life: bringing the divine to everything. Living meditatively, instead of meditating. Communing with Source instead of going to "church", or praying...

The movie that was teaching it best, at the time, was "Babette"s Feast", a Scandinavian movie that I really loved. It"s part of the course...

But another movie has been pushing itself into my consciousness at least every other day, without me ever stopping to wonder why.

The movie is called "Chef" made in 2014. It is again about this "bringing the divine to everything"... which is in a chef"s case mostly means: every dish, every sandwich... everything.

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You can"t see and you don"t know it. You can"t hear and you don"t know it

It"s a rare opportunity to go from innocent infant to all-seeing adult, being able to observe it at the same time.

When I first did the Landmark Forum, (()) the koan of the session was: for you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always.

When you are an infant, for you everything is the same as everything else... no distinctions. No distinction between your body and the environment. You are just as ready to suck on your feet as you are ready to suck on someone else"s finger.

From time to time you"ll see something strange, like you reach out, as always, and your hands remain empty: the object you reach for is out of reach...

You learn the world, your world, slowly, and experientially. Through seeing, hearing, touching, tasting... like a baby.

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The truth... or how come all the sages haven"t made a difference?

Let me first define what I mean by "making a difference..." because there is a lot of mischief about that in common language. Because it"s been a slogan. Because it has been a bromide for so long.

OK, explanation: if I am hired to design a system that reduces the carbon dioxide load... to turn around the Global Warming... I am asked to "make a difference", i.e. to alter the future.

If I didn"t do that, but a lot of people are now arguing about it...
If I didn"t do that, but a few people in rich countries are using wind power and solar power... did I make a difference? No.

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Who is listening? Who are you when you listen?

Did you notice that you don"t want to hear anything unpleasant? That the title of the previous article made you want to run?

Years ago I wrote an article, who is speaking, who is listening, what is speaking, what is listening.

Not one reader understood it... and that gave me the baseline to work with: nobody home, no distinctions, no who and no what is conscious over there.

Another possible reason why no one would understand is this: because the pretense you live, the fake life you live, the fake you that you promote in the world did not allow you to actually look, so you can answer the question.

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