You are always investing... Investing in things, investing in feelings, or investing in yourself

Some days I get a ton of offers for new marketing tools, and I get desirous... I want to buy, but then I ask Source: I muscle test if I should buy, and the answer is always "NO". ((The same thing is happening in food, in books to read, movies, videos to watch... by the way.))

So I have been pondering what guides Source... ((I call all-knowledge Source. But I could also say that my higher power, the one I am willing to obey and listen to: "whatever works" is what i am asking questions of.

I am not very concerned with truth... I am concerned with what works... In life, in reality, for most people.))

What investment is useful and for what? Is getting more visitors to my site useful? Not really, the return on investment is fragile... Having more visitors to my site won"t forward my work, more visitors may put some pocket change in my pocket, but are they really interested in what I teach? Not that I can see...

Every minute of every day, every choice, ask the same question: is this for a temporary gain, or is this for a permanent gain. Is it for me, or is it for some circumstance I"d like?

Like me, you are always investing, but unlike me, you probably don"t ask the questions I ask.

You are always investing... Investing in things, investing in feelings, or investing in yourself.

Everything you choose to do can be considered an investment. All your habits. Some investments have high returns on the very short term, like feeling superior, or the glee over having avoided domination. Other investments have steady returns over a lifetime, grow you and your life.

Investing in you, in you becoming all you can become is what we do in my programs.

I call it "raising your vibration". Is that an accurate expression to what you are doing? Who is to argue? Is there such a thing in reality as vibration? Not at all. It is an agreement:

We"ll call the level you are at in becoming all you can be "vibration"... and the process, we"ll call "raising your vibration."

Raising your vibration, going from miserable to powerful is a process. A long process.

I experienced one of the most dramatic turnarounds when I learned about the three levels of values: systemic value, extrinsic value, and intrinsic value.

I learned that your intrinsic value, the value that is innate, is the same whether you are good or bad, whether you are useful or useless, whether you can speak one language, ten, or none at all.

It was the most horrible news to me. Sometimes the best news are the worst news, because of their connotations, their meaning about you.

Having intrinsic value and not ever seeing it, made me treat other people as if they had no intrinsic value.

I was treated that way, I think, all my life, so I didn"t even know there was such a thing. I was appreciated for what I did, not who I was, and no amount of doing compensates for not being valuable...

I was already over 50. And I never considered myself having any value, other than what I produced.

And therefore taking care of me wasn"t one of the things I did... In fact I never considered taking care of myself.

Or more precisely, I was never on my side, I was never FOR myself. In fact, had anyone asked, I would not have been able to say what that meant. How it would look. What I would do.

We all KNOW how to care for a baby... but do we really? We all take care of things more than we take care of people.

You take care of the bills: You pay them on time. You take care of your clothes... your car... your dog... but do you take care of yourself?

Well, you take the medication the doctor prescribed. But do YOU take care of yourself... or maybe even written this way: your Self? Or do you expect others to take care of you?

In the Playground, you learn how to take care of yourself... something you never learned, something wasn"t even suggested that you do by the "world".

And because everything needs someone to take care of it, you thought your parents, other people, the government will take care of you.

I am not sure if you are lucky if you never found out that they won"t take care of you.

They have their hands full of worrying about themselves. They don"t even see that you need being taken care of... Or they don"t care.

Recently I had... I must have had a breakthrough. Why do I say it this way?

Because breakthrough is not what you do, breakthrough is how reality responds.

My journey from hell to here had mileposts.

• Finding the Hillel poem, the three questions, in a prayer book in a Jerusalem synagogue was the first. I didn"t understand, yet I knew that it was very significant... so I cried, and pondered.


• Then finding out that everyone has intrinsic value, including myself was the second milepost... I started to see person in people... little by little.


• And then my brother saying: "Take care of yourself". Maybe because it was about a certain, specific complaint, I could see, for the first time, what it is something I COULD do, even though I didn"t see it possible, and I even saw it distasteful... but I did it.


• And then, the sudden insight in the Playground.

Everyone, just like I did, froze into a self/world attitude where they expected someone else to consider them, their feelings, their desires, their aspiration, them important and relevant.

I have written articles about caring, and I said: caring feels dangerous, because it feels that it is either not caring, or giving up about yourself and giving everything to another.

Said in another way: it awakens the age old dilemma: it is either you or me...

In the context of taking CARE, or care about you... it feels, it really feels that you cannot care about another person, without giving up caring about yourself.

So people don"t care. They give lip service to caring, they say they are very caring, but it is a lie.

• Mother Theresa didn"t care


• Bill Gates doesn"t care


• your mother didn"t care.

Caring is somewhat counter to, against life as we know it... life that is based on the selfish gene that cares about keeping you alive and urging you to procreate. It, the selfish gene, only cares about its own survival, its own immortality.

But as Hillel said, 2500 or so years ago: you can CARE about and for yourself, and the selfish gene will even love it. LOVE IT!

So you can give yourself what you need, whether it is attention, love, tender loving care, encouragement, forgiveness, compassion, courage, support, knowledge, whatever you need.

It will "kill" the racket you have been running since you were a wee lad or a wee gal.

The racket that uses this "nobody cares" as a justification for being nasty, sad, depressed, lazy, an underachiever, a domineering know it all... etc.

In the Playground we look at stories from your life. Past stories, present stories.

They all stem from the fact that you don"t take care of your needs. All.

Nobody ever does anything to you... or only in unreality. In reality people do things, but the part where they are doing it to you is an interpretation.

They did it to me... they are doing it to me... is only a seeming. It seems that way, listen up! if your entire cone of vision, if your entire personal reality centers around you.

I measure the "about-me" score in the Starting Point Measurements, because it will tell ME to what degree you play the victim, to what degree you"ll conduct your life to make people do to you, for you, and then blame them for it.

This is also the same degree that people run rackets, and not take care of life, of themselves, the same degree they point at this or that circumstance that did it to them.

If you are someone, for example, who is very interested in personality tests, or numerology, like the big book by Dan Millman, "the life you were meant to live", then I don"t even have to do the measurements.

Why? Because I can be sure that you"ll blame your character flaws, your personality for your failings.

The number one capacity that is needed for a life that has power in it, is the capacity to take responsibility for what belongs to you.

The moment you do, truly, life turns around. If it doesn"t... then you just gave lip service to responsibility.

Because the Hillel verse, "If I am not for me, who is for me? If not now, when? If I am only for me, who am I?" calls for responsibility.

Your about-me score doesn"t allow you to see that you are causing. Your about-me score make you appear as a hapless victim.

And you can"t see that you could be responsible, and that life could start becoming your life, a life you can mold and shape and direct... instead of the life that is happening to you.

What a difference...

So the question to ask: how do you lower your about-me score?

I don"t have a simple, do it yourself method for you.

My flagship course, the Playground, is perfect for that. Because it confronts your narrow cone of vision that only sees one aspect of life, what is about you. Your superiority, mainly. And forces you to notice that there is beauty, heroism, humanity, etc. outside of that narrow concern... and it could be yours.

I confess, I had to go through that same thing.

It took me long decades, because I didn"t have the Playground and all the confrontations available to me.

In the Playground, you are confronted at least once a week, for a whole year... And come out on the other end a person. Free and powerful.

It"s gradual. It"s a process. Almost unnoticeable, so slow.

I pair people up (partner calls) to bring out the worst in you, so you can confront it. And then I give you feedback every week.

Some people even opt for more than one partner call a week. Because it is where you find out to what degree you give away your power, to what degree you insist to be an effect. (Martyr Syndrome) Or be superior... the kind of superior that is unearned and that is your prison.

PS: If you read my last article about the cultures people hail from, who can"t, who won"t be willing for transformation... The main question is: how can I change that for an individual.

After I finished writing this article, the answer to that question, or at least one answer to that question surfaced: unless the future the person lives into changes, no change in behavior is possible or forthcoming.

The future is not fixed. It is not prescribed. It is not written in some book. You write the future with your actions every minute of every day.

That meme, that the future is set in stone, is part of some cultures, some religions, and if you were brought up that way: you can change your mindset any minute... and that is the most heroic and fundamental change you"ll need to make.

Some circumstances won"t change. If you have three children, then even after changing your mindset, you"ll have three children. But you can change how you look at the life you have, you can change what you see possible for yourself, and with that everything changes... even though you"ll still have three children.

If you can only think of changing where you live, what house you live in, for example, you probably have that nothing can change really... and transformation will be difficult for you.

That fixed future will come, inexorably, the future impossible to stop or prevent will loom darkly... even though there is no such thing as future... it is hypothetical... it is created every minute of every day... by YOU.

What future are you creating?

So far you"ve had two ways to be: to be Trump or the shoe shiner in this picture



 

You cannot solve a problem that is not real

We all have moments of brilliance and hours of stupidity, or some version of "not brilliant"

Some people take it in stride... this is how it is, no matter who you are. Einstein had moments of brilliance... and hours, days of stupidity too.

If life were not like that, brilliant/stupid alternating, there would be no life on the planet... we would all die of exhaustion.

Brilliance is not the only "peak experience" we all crave and wand to keep around all the time. So we are with pretty, and nice, and helpful, and all the other made up "solutions" to our failings... And, as I have said before, every solution is the beginning of a bigger problem.

I got raped because I was stupid, I said.

So the solution was to get smart... But, surprisingly, smart did not extend to actually knowing what people wanted, and also did not extend to knowing the invisible dynamics of reality... so I got nearly raped a dozen more times later in life.

You cannot satisfactorily solve a problem you don"t fully understand. And, maybe even more importantly, you cannot solve a problem that is not real.

When I say "not real", I mean: made up. Invented. Construed.

In the Playground program we learn how to tell reality and "not-reality" apart. Distinguish them, one from the other.

It"s been almost impossible for participants to understand even the concept. Instead of real... they try to substitute other words, like valid, or true... but those, valid, true, have no relevance to the question: is this real or is this made up?

To distinguish reality, I have introduced the vantage point of a freshly arrived Martian"s, a dude who doesn"t know earthen languages, comes from a different culture, and has no idea what the earth culture considers good or bad.

The Martian can see, it can hear, but it cannot interpret like you do.

And people were happy with this method... "Oh, ok. if the Martian cannot see it, cannot hear it, then it"s easy... pretty much nothing is ever happening in reality." In that reality there is, for example, no yelling, only talking loud. No storm only snow falling.

And although that is closer to the truth than what you have been honoring as reality, it is incomplete. There has to be more... more of reality... reality that you can understand, so you can live intelligently.

Intelligence is how well you can acquire and apply knowledge and skills.

So, to round out what is in reality, I start to teach the "invisible dynamics of reality"... and people love that too... "groovy, babe" but cannot connect it to the distinction "reality" itself.

My hunch is that at some point in human history reality got bastardized, and been reduced to some concept... and therefore it has lost its validity for the students.

When two distinctions, two concepts, two pieces of knowledge don"t connect, this fact makes for a fragmented world view... as if your face and your profile view weren"t of the same person.

You consider them separate... nothing seems to connect them, even though they are the same thing viewed from a different angle.

So, presently, in the Playground, I am battling that dissonance, that inability to see the two as the same.

I am an architect by training, and for me it is natural to look at things from different vantage point, the floor plan, the elevation or façade, are showing the same building... and I have no problem seeing it and treating it as such. Seeing that changing, for example the floor plan, will change the elevation.

But for many, maybe for most people this is an intelligence, this is a capacity that is missing.

A master mechanic student in the Playground shared yesterday that when, in the shop where he works, he gets diagrams from the manufacturer on new design of an engine, he gets all flummoxed by the drawings, and can only comprehend the new design buy taking the actual motor apart.

This same student has taken on learning to play the guitar in his 20-day learning challenge. Why this is good? Because in teaching himself the guitar, he has to look at symbols on diagrams, in two dimensions, and translate it to your hand positions... and that is starting to awaken, develop the missing capacity of seeing the same things from different perspectives.

Even seeing someone"s hand on the neck of the guitar needs to be translated, connected to his own hand... that is the capacity we are looking for.

My prediction is that this student will be the first to crack the puzzle of "reality" and "invisible reality", and if we are lucky, he will be able to explain it to the ones who are more on his general education/knowledge level than me... I don"t know what magic words to use.

Here is another way this lack of capacity shows.

In the Learning to Learn course the fuzzy brain state, stepping back and stepping out of the forceful, nearsighted, fixated focused state is introduced.

Some students recognize it in some activities and manage to step into the fuzzy mode (Theta brain state) where learning is possible, where connection to other areas of knowledge is visible, and they are happy about that.

Then, maybe even the same day, I see them being bogged down with an article... and I can see that they are back in the focused mode, where everything other than what is right in front of their noses, is non-existent to them, and they cannot see the big picture.

They can see fuzzy brain state in one area, in one activity, but not in another.

The same capacity is missing, and to be able to see the capacity, you need to use it... it is invisible from any other angle.

Another whole area of life where this inability wreaks havoc, where two views of the same thing don"t connect in their brain, is in self-image, or the image of self.

They have a self-image, made up, where certain styles, characteristics, are unduly emphasized.

Here are a few examples:

• I am brilliant, or I won"t do it.


• I am tough and can take any pain... but inside I suffer


• I am a superman... but I am overwhelmed.

That is their about-me aspect of reality, about themselves.

Then they can see how the world relates to them, how this makes them dis-function in the real world, with others, with tasks, and the two pictures don"t create a coherent whole, a useful picture of the self, just like "I am smart... but can"t see that they want to rape me".

Seeing yourself from the inside, and seeing yourself from the outside tells you two different stories. And unless you can see that the two stories are really about the same thing... you are trapped in your self-image... a self you made up when you were an upset 3-4-5-5 year old kid... not knowing any better.

Only when I managed to break out of the self-image of smart, seeing clearly how it really was, how limiting that self-image was,  that I invented a way to learn to see beyond the confines of that prison, and started to see more of the world. More of reality.

I explain the methodology in my February 2019 monthly free webinar that I recorded for you. In shorthand, I started to hitch my my attention, my consciousness to values that lie outside of the smart/stupid paradigm, one at a time, staring at "nothing" until I could see it, until it revealed itself. ((To take a stand for the future is to bring forth a new opportunity, not one derived from the past, but an opportunity created from a future to which we give ourselves. When you create from the future, you create from the yet invisible (for you) realm of reality.))

What was invisible to me was obviously visible to others, otherwise it would not have a name, loyalty, trust, service... all things that were, at the time invisible to me.

The invisible dynamics of life are invisible only because they need to be observed and distinguished to be seen... not hidden as one of my students called them yesterday.

Werner Erhard, famously, said some 30 years ago to the 46 Forum Leader Candidates: I am the only Forum Leader because I can stand in the face of "it" not working longer than anyone...

What did he mean? He didn"t explain, but I know, regardless.

I practice it everywhere, including at night, when I am in bed and turn off the light. Or when I turn off the light in my office, but still have to walk through the dark living room to get to my bedroom.

I stand there, in the dark waiting to see the room slowly emerge from the darkness, tell apart the furniture from the floor, the light fixture on the ceiling from the ceiling itself... telling apart is distinguishing.

I confess, it is easier to have patience and gentleness in the dark room than to stand and wait for people to comprehend, to see and learn the distinctions I teach. To listen one partner call after another of confusion, and pontificating and no seeing.

In this regard Werner Erhard is my hero: I am, by gosh, not going to be any less than him... lol.

I would not be able to do this if I still lived in the high about-me paradigm: smart/stupid.

Like Werner said about that high about-me:

If you’re going to be a leader, you’re going to have to have a very loose relationship with this thing you call ‘I’ or ‘me’. Maybe that whole thing in me around which the universe revolves isn’t so central! Maybe life is not about the self but about self-transcendence

or another quote, about the same thing: The moment when you really experience that you have created yourself being whatever way you are, at that same moment you will never have to be that way again. ~Werner Erhard

Playground: it is never too late to have a happy childhood... but how do you change the past?

The full title of the Playground course is: Playground: it"s never too late to have a happy childhood.

Why is that significant? And what the heck does even mean?

The past is the past, and you cannot change it, they say, but if you look in history books, you"ll see that it does... depending on the point of view of the historian... ((Here is a 10% truth value video to explain this phenomenon. Cynthia Sue Larson"s vibration is 200.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mTh1qgk1Jyw
))

In the Playground we re-write your history. Not in a fancy, inventive, "you create your life" kind of way... we actually go back to the root incidents, and look at them through different filters, through learning about different invisible dynamics.

This looking, looking through distinctions, reliable changes the past... and it changes the present moment... because it changes the future... ((What actually happened you can"t change... but before you jump into conclusion: the whole first module of the Playground is to distinguish reality, from all the interpretations, and meanings YOU have added... and although what happened cannot be changed, the interpretations and meanings are in no way part of what happened... and still, they carry 99% of the "what happened" for you... So the secret is distinguishing... Always.))

And what gives your beingness in the present moment is the future you are walking towards. So by changing the past, you whole life, including your future can be changed.

• One of the integral parts of the Playground programs is the weekly one-on-one partner calls... Without that there would be no results.


• And the 20 day learning challenge... without that you wouldn"t necessarily see how you are not even willing to learn anything to make your life work, to make your life better.


• And, of course, it can include email coaching, although it is not mandatory, and the ones that don"t ask for it are normally at a distinct disadvantage.

I listen to every partner call... and give a little or a lot of feedback, depending whether the participants asked for coaching or not.

90% of the work of the program gets done in the partner calls if the participants opted for coaching. Much less if they didn"t.

Why do I write articles that seem to be only for the eight participants of the Playground program?

It"s a good question... and it is a dumb question. What participants deal with can shed light to what a non-participant is dealing with, because my job is to shed light to the invisible. To name what hasn"t been named. To reveal the dynamic.

And even just knowing that there is a dynamic there can save some lives, but more importantly, allow curious people to opt to look deeper, and take back their power from the machine...

That is why I am writing these articles.

The Playground partner calls give away a lot of the "how" in the how you do anything is how you do everything.

I just listened to a partner call, two men, two continents, two different lives, two different soul corrections, two different vibrations.

The conversation reminds me of the book "What do you say AFTER you say hello?" Transactional Analysis book.

Depending on the percentage of the "it is all about me" score in the Starting Point Measurements, you listen to the other person"s example, the other person"s life, for the similarities or the sameness, and have no interest in their differences.

Your vibration is a number. It tells me how much of reality you see. What limits your view are

• 1. The height from which you look. You see things from a skyscraper, for example a traffic jam, is a whole different view, than being stuck in it on street level... same traffic jam, just viewed from a different vantage point.


• 2. Your astuteness: your astuteness is a function of how many distinctions you can tell apart. I measure it in your vocabulary, accurate vocabulary, but really, if I wanted to be exacting, what i am really measuring is how many things you can recognize accurately, and tell them apart from similar things.


• 3. Your about me score. As I have said in another article, the size of that is like a carton cutout, that occupies the center of your field of vision, and you see, if you even look, reality over its edges.

So, every person has those three aspects that influence their "how" and "what"

Another aspect is their soul correction.

Each soul correction has a main linchpin.

Life happens to us all. What we do with what is happening to us is, on the other hand, quite individual.

Most children have early experiences where they find out that life is not fair, that not all of us get the same things, that what works for another doesn"t work for us.

This is where the similarity ends.

What we decide from our experience, our conclusion, our "therefore" will be consistent with our soul correction.

I have a minuscule number for "about me", and I can therefore see fully what is going on for the participants, while when they listen to each other, depending on their vibration number, and especially their about-me score, they will see or misidentify what is going on for the other.

I have to sit on my hand... I want to "tell them" what they didn"t see, what they could change, etc... but it is out of integrity for me... I have committed to provide no coaching that is not paid for... and some people pay, others don"t...

But there is another factor: sometimes helping people to see what they are not ready is akin to cutting the cocoon open to help the not-ready butterfly "applicant" to save them from having to break the cocoon and the pain it implies.

So I don"t....

Even in this article I am trying to not say anything that cuts someone"s cocoon open: what makes a butterfly fly is the effort they needed to break the cocoon open.

Sheer torture for the "emperor"... or in this case, the teacher/coach.

What else can I see from the partner calls?

Life is full of rackets. Every unpleasant feeling is a signal for the underlying iceberg, the invisible parts of the racket.

Payoff is what perpetuates the machine: without some perceived benefit, no one would go through the pain and turmoil of the racket.

Payoff sounds good, right? Like a salary... but in fact it is the biggest criminal in all. It is what corrupts people, makes them sell out, makes them do unimaginably evil things... betray their country, betray their family, betray their best.

When it comes to rackets, the most frequent payoff is never having to show up in life, measure up, produce, really know.

So rackets are really what are the underlying dynamic of procrastination, underachievement, and never amounting to much in life. Not a lack of intelligence, a lack of talent, a lack of opportunity, not even lack of character, but the payoff from the rackets.

Not having to, not having to be the one who causes, instead being the one who is an effect. No one can blame you... but...

But this is where the cost of the payoff, received under the table, undeserved and unearned will attempt to create a choice... and unless you bring full consciousness to the racket, it can"t and it won"t.

Unless you value something more than you value something else... it won"t.

In yesterday"s Playground I measure what is the vibration of the ability to see value... and to my dismay it is 300 vibration. Under 300 vibration you may see individual values, but not value as a distinction. Same for any distinction, by the way. You will see examples of it, but not the distinction as a distinction.

So the goal in the Playground is to hit 300 vibration, where the distinctions, where the values can USE YOUR LIFE, instead of you having to look for them, analyze them, and try to use them.

The Cost: the most expensive cost is affinity, more specifically self-love, self-affinity, and the ability to live from the "higher power" or North Star of "If I am not for me, who is for me?"

The saying, the adage, that when you love yourself you love your life has been true for me, and I have seen instances where it was clearly true for you.

One student, when he could see for a while, that even though he does things he doesn"t like, he is not wrong, he is just doing things he doesn"t like.

And his enthusiasm, and joy was indescribable... he loved himself, suddenly, and thus he loved his life and the people in it.

But when you see yourself selling yourself out for some puny and disreputable payoff... you cannot respect yourself, you cannot love yourself... and thus you cannot love your life.

And the sadness, when people get in touch with that is thick and heartwrenching.

Before you can choose to say no to the payoff... you have to go through that sadness, occasionally shame, or you won"t choose a racket-free life.

Arrgh, that puny payoff is the only thing most people have... not results, not rewarding relationships, not health... no. the payoffs. And that is their life.

It"s a catch 22: in order to learn anything, in order to do anything useful for your life, you need to be saying no to the payoff... at least a little bit of time... or you won"t be allowed to learn anything, do anything for your life.

You see the trap?

Not every soul correction, and not every person with a certain soul correction is caught, fully, in this catch 22 trap... two of the 8 participants in the current Playground are caught in this trap fully, and two are caught somewhat... My heart goes out for them. But the ball is in their court.

How the about-me score effects your relationships, how you appear in the world, how successful you can be?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vdg9gkmWsEA Everyone, always, wants to effect the results directly, but that is not the nature of reality. The result comes from many many factors, that together and individually can be effected... and the synergistic effect finally gets all the way to the end result.

In some contexts the end result is your vibration. In others your worldly results, like how much money you make.

Because most people have no idea how the world works, what is the nature of reality, they are highly ineffective in the world, and they are highly dupable.

If you cannot see cause and effect, the connection between things, you"ll do stupid things, put the cart in front of the horses, and spend time and money on ineffective practices, ineffective programs.

Religion is one of these ineffective practices, ineffective programs.

Of course religion has its soothing benefit, making the world understandable, depicting an authority who knows what they are doing... so you don"t have to be responsible for anything. All you have to do is serve god, make god happy... But its harmful effects, taking away your power, and declaring totally normal needs as sinful are the reasons why six times more non-religious people are happy than religious people.

My juice is bringing the divine to everything I do.

Do I mean god when I say divine? Hell no, or hell, I don"t know. Or I can say: Hell, I don"t care!

I only care about one thing: when I live my life, do my life, do my work where every action brings the divine to what I do, coaching, muscle testing, making my simple meals, my exercise classes, my reading, my articles, fixing the computer, doing my many experiments, chewing someone out (lol), talking to the few people I talk to, even to being sick, I live in heaven.

Oh, you were told heaven is smooth and easy? They were lying. Heaven is where you feel good about yourself, even though it is not smooth and easy.

So back to your about-me score. What does that score say about you?

It says that you got stuck in a young view of life where you experience the world with you in its center. What age? About one year old.

Why would you get stuck? I have no idea. I got stuck at an even younger age...

So what does it mean you got stuck in a view of life, in a worldview of an infant? That you consider most things as related to you, as being about you, as being good or bad to you, as threatening or supportive to you.

You are in the center, and life, reality, can only makes an appearance on the edges of your consciousness.

No wonder your actions are reactive, and inappropriate responses to reality... they are appropriate to the mirage that has you in the center, but not the actual reality.

If I had to assign you a perfect avatar, it would be the cowardly lion...

Fear, the disproportionate self-concern, avoiding doing what needs to be done, is one of the signs of the high about-me score, as is the sudden roar of the lion.

One of my favorite literary characters is Chuchundra, the musk-rat, who never comes out into the middle of the floor, but always creeps round by the wall.

Teddy carried him off to bed, and insisted on Rikki-tikki sleeping under his chin. Rikki-tikki was too well bred to bite or scratch, but as soon as Teddy was asleep he went off for his nightly walk round the house, and in the dark he ran up against Chuchundra, the musk-rat, creeping around by the wall. Chuchundra is a broken-hearted little beast. He whimpers and cheeps all the night, trying to make up his mind to run into the middle of the room. But he never gets there.

“Don’t kill me,” said Chuchundra, almost weeping. “Rikki-tikki, don’t kill me!”

“Do you think a snake-killer kills muskrats?” said Rikki-tikki scornfully.

“Those who kill snakes get killed by snakes,” said Chuchundra, more sorrowfully than ever. “And how am I to be sure that Nag won’t mistake me for you some dark night?”

“There’s not the least danger,” said Rikki-tikki. “But Nag is in the garden, and I know you don’t go there.”

“My cousin Chua, the rat, told me—” said Chuchundra, and then he stopped.

“Told you what?”

“H"sh! Nag is everywhere, Rikki-tikki. You should have talked to Chua in the garden.”

“I didn"t—so you must tell me. Quick, Chuchundra, or I"ll bite you!”

Chuchundra sat down and cried till the tears rolled off his whiskers. “I am a very poor man,” he sobbed. “I never had spirit enough to run out into the middle of the room. H"sh! I mustn"t tell you anything. Can"t you hear, Rikki-tikki?”

Rikki-tikki listened. The house was as still as still, but he thought he could just catch the faintest scratch-scratch in the world—a noise as faint as that of a wasp walking on a window-pane—the dry scratch of a snake"s scales on brick-work.

“That"s Nag or Nagaina,” he said to himself, “and he is crawling into the bath-room sluice. You"re right, Chuchundra; I should have talked to Chua.”

If you haven"t, read the Jungle Book... but don"t read it for the story. If you do, you miss the learning. In fact, don"t read/watch anything for the story, read/watch it for the learning. Learning for behavior. Learning for attitude. Learning for feeling... or you"ll remain as much a carton-cutout as you have been.

Do you think I learned what I know by watching actual people? Nobody has time for that! No! I read. I watch Netflix. I read, watch, and ponder.

I get paid the big bucks because I have a huge database where I can compare you and your behavior with something that I have pondered already.

Most of you can recognize only a few behaviors, only a few emotions, because you have always looked at what moves, the story, and never the who, the actor.

Yesterday I was delighted to listen to one of my longtime students demonstrate in her partner call her recognition of many different human attitudes and behaviors, while for years she was all about herself.

When you reduce reality because you occupy most of your field of vision, you also become very dogmatic, and very all-knowing, annoyingly so.

You start pontificating, no matter what is the topicmatter. No hesitation, no uncertainty, all-knowing, judgmental.

Revealing the Dark Side soul correction is all about that... because that soul correction is all about the high about-me score

When you manage to reduce your about-me score, most of the time with embracing and owning your Dark Side, you become quite tolerable, maybe even pleasant to be around.

Not surprisingly, second only to this soul correction, Revealing the Dark Side, is mine... Forget Thyself.

Oops, I just realized that I haven"t told you whose totem animal is Chuchundra, the muskrat: that honor goes to the Removing Hatred people...

As I said, you need to see, recognize, and own your own dark side.

But how do you do that, if you cannot see anything, or you see everything as wrong with you?

Excellent question. Because if everything is wrong, then nothing is wrong: no distinction. Everything has the same dramatic value, and... gasp... you are off the hook.

Not everything has the same value, and your powers of distinguishing, your powers of sight are weak or non-existent.

What comes to the rescue is a unique energy we discovered accidentally, the Avatar State Energy.

It lifts you up and allows your consciousness to see things from a higher level, where you can see that everything is not the same as everything else.

And once your consciousness sees it, you have a choice.

Now, consciousness doesn"t mean you"ll know it... consciousness doesn"t cause conscious awareness: you need to poke your head in there and get curious. But even if you can"t bring what you saw into your conscious awareness, consciousness, slowly will change your behavior to come from reality, not from everything is wrong, or everything is right.

But once your consciousness know, you"ll be able to start gather evidence, and slowly start making sharper, more astute decisions about people, including yourself.

You"ll interface with reality more completely, and that is the number one thing that should concern you... not how you feel.

Really. Once your decisions are more grounded... you"ll feel a whole lot better, guaranteed. You"ll be able to see that there is never anything wrong in reality... and there is never anything lacking.

And that will allow you to see what will be effective actions that YOU can take to provide you what you are missing.

This month I am running a special on this unique energy, the Avatar State Energy.

It is recorded and causes the Avatar State... seeing your world from a higher vantage point.

The version that is on special has a unique focus: Abundance.

It is not money, mind you, it is the attitude of abundance. Money is just one thing you can get once you have that attitude. Joy, self, peace of mind, intimacy, time, health... they are all function of this attitude of abundance.

In fact the connection is so strong, that you cannot have any of those without that attitude.

The opposite of the attitude of abundance is a sense of powerlessness... I know it is counter-intuitive, but it is true. I just muscle tested it.

And to one degree or another we all suffer from a sense of powerlessness... I know I do.

So here is the special:

The Avatar State Energy of Abundance: $30
the high quality, sturdy mini speaker to play it in the background: free

If you need the near soundless version of the audio, please let me know. If you have a family, or want to play it in your office, you need that version.



I only have a few speakers at hand, once they are gone, I"ll order yours online, and they will ship it to you... expect about two weeks delivery time.

What is the 91% linchpin that keeps your foot nailed to the floor? Can you guess?

My job is a lot like tuning a car... but a car that has 160 adjustable parts... like a human... not so easy...

I love the joke about the guy who brings his car to the mechanic because it doesn"t work properly. The mechanic opens the hood, listens to the motor running, goes to his toolbox, picks out a big hammer and hits the motor, and voila the noise stops.

Then he writes a bill for $500. 500 dollars? cries the customer? for one hit with the hammer? Oh, you want an itemized bill? No problem. says the mechanic, and writes: hit with a hammer: $1. Knowing where to hit: $499.

I am that mechanic.

All the problems are invisible to the naked eye, maybe even to an X-ray machine! So it"s taken me seven years to learn where to hit... $1... learning it, a lifetime of experience and expensive learning: $499.

The sticky part

The sticky part for 91% of all the issues is the about you measure, #11 in the Starting Point Measurements. ((Tai, who actually created the 67 steps cannot see the principle himself, because of his high "about me" score... that is why he is all over the place... entertaining but ineffective for most people...))

This is why?

Depending on that number, a large part of your cone of vision is occupied by you, yourself, so you can see mighty little of reality, mighty little of what is happening in the real world, for other people on whom your well-being depends, so you are simple rendered blind or sight-impaired, while you think you see everything.

One of the areas this shows up in is a fundamental human need: meeting the expectations of others. If you get that wrong, your life will be bad.

But...

But you are never told by other people what they expect of you, or rarely.

I asked five women on a recent Playground session if they ever told their children what you expect of them... and there was a unanimous "no, never" answer.

Then I asked if their parents ever told them what they expected of them: the same no answer.

So your children, you, are left to your own devices, watch for signs of approval and disapproval, largely oblivious that they may be having an upset stomach, or just remembered an argument, and the facial expression has nothing to do with you. Or the yelling, or sending you off to your grandmother... threatening you, or leaving you to sort it out in the street.

And then you live your life out of the wrong signals, desperately hoping that they won"t ostracize you, won"t abandon you, won"t throw you in the lion"s den.

This concern blocks your view of reality, and have one foot nailed to the floorboard... so you are screwed royally.

When people come to me to be trained, the first thing I notice is that they can"t tell, can"t recognize a principle, tell it apart from b.s. or some made up meme.

If you can"t see/hear the context, the principle, your vibration cannot be high, because you are interfacing with untruth, and your actions, and what you see will be limited to what you can see from a low vibration level in life.

I have a student who is always in self-protection mode, self-importance mode, so his vibration has been 100... very very very low.

Then I asked him to switch where he looks:

with regards to your father: before you talk to anyone, you ALWAYS have to set the context carefully… weighing what context will support the other person, not you.

You have been only considering context for yourself, and haven"t considered it for another: now your full time job is to consider the context for others, and if you didn"t, see what damage it"s caused.

and in another post I said:

And one thing: make sure you acknowledge the source of your knowledge, power, instead of saying: I did it myself, make sure that there is more from the knowledge/power came from and it won"t stop.

A lot of people don"t acknowledge source, and the real source of power dries out… it has happened to me, and I have seen it happen a lot.

both quotes say: look at somewhere other than where you normally look, yourself.

he reported a day later:

I"d like to acknowledge source: it wouldn"t have happened without Sophie"s recommendations and my talking to my accountability partner, or if I didn"t put some energy into it every day. Also, I wouldn"t have seen this if I didn"t look at the comments and struggle to get the answer to one of the questions there.

If you read his answer carefully, keeping the principle I gave him in mind, he gave about 30% credit to me and his accountability partner, and 70% to himself, so he didn"t do much of what I asked... he didn"t quite get the principle as a principle, he still had himself occupy almost his entire cone of vision (70%).

And yet, that little still quite stingy bit he was willing to give, raised his vibration from 100 to 130... and that level is still holding, just checked. And his about me measure dropped to 40%.

Obviously it is still high...

Truth be told nothing is about you in life. No one cares, no one even notices you are there... The number should be under 10%. Mine is 4%.

So there you have it. I now know, and you can know too, I just told you, where to hit with the hammer... so your life can start humming with life... instead of noise.

The exercises I give you remove the concern, remove the nail from your foot, and you can be up and running, dancing away... experiencing life, choice, and freedom.

No other methodology can do this... and, of course, that other type of methodology is all you can find. Change beliefs... type of stuff... not worth the price of the paper it is written on.