Updated: The secret of being able to change, and be reborn with a higher frequency

The original of this article was published a year ago... I have added new insights today

The secret of my being able to change, and be reborn with a higher frequency, a higher vibration, is that I have been able to keep in check the societal imperative to care about other people more than I care about myself. And in addition to that, I have been able to admit to myself all the errors of my ways that I can see. So I don"t even want to look good to myself. I am willing to accept myself, warts and all... for all I am and for all I am lacking.

This comes with giving up the emotional impact of others view of me, of others opinion of me, of others praise or hate of me, and my opinion of me... especially when I make a mistake, a false step, or when I make a fool of myself.

This attachment to opinions needs to be actively given up: no epigenetic shift, no transformation, no energy remedy will make these opinions neutral: we do live in a society, and others opinion of you and your products determines your money: and your money determines whether you eat, be sheltered, have leisure time, and a lot more. And your own opinion about yourself will determine whether you are going to play fully... or shrink.

So opinions are important, but they are not important emotionally.

Fear is emotional. Careful, thoughtful pro-action is not.

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I am changing... Why aren"t you?

I have been changing. Subtly.

The biggest problem with subtle changes is that they go unnoticed. And if you are like most people, you want encouragement, you want people to see that you are becoming something better.

But your environment is about as aware and as present as you are, which means: not very. And besides they are busy having their head up their ass... so until you are very very very different, they don"t notice it.

A good example is your weight: if you drop two dress sizes... then they notice it. But if you are doing it right, in a sustainable fashion, it"s taken you months... And for those months you had gotten no feedback.

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The only spiritual practice that raises your vibration, and can take you all the way

If you live a fragmented life... your life is full of wanting to, having to, needing to and should.

The common thread that can unify your life, the different areas, is who you are.

But if you don"t know who you are, then you consider yourself the different roles you play in different circumstances, with different people... and there is no YOU to unify your life.

Life is horrible for a person like that. Disease settles in the space between what is real and what is pretended. The inner tension uses up all the energy that could be used for life, for the immune system to kill the nasties, invaders, viruses, cancer cells, toxins.

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Wanting to win is a survival game. Low vibration, low consciousness

If you play to win, you"ll always play a small game. Play to win in anything.


Win friends, and influence people.





Win an argument

Win a competition

Win at cards

Win a reward, a salary, a compliment

to look smart, respectable, well-thought-of, generous, holy, spiritual, humble... whatever will make you look, so you can live another day.


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Your health number... thoughts from the starting point tests I"ve done

Hippocrates said: food will be your medicine.

Let"s look at that statement from my experience with myself, and with my clients.

Let food be thy medicine and medicine be thy food.

– attributed to Hippocrates

Lay people (you) jump into conclusions... and jump from one superfood to the next, from one fad to the next, from one magic bullet to the next.

Modern (ineffective) medicine attacks this statement.
Energy medicine attacks this statement.

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The magic wand of instant change... aka manifestation

Context is one of those words that unless you have enough capacities, especially the big picture capacity, is impossible to explain... at least it"s been impossible for me to explain to you.

And yet, if you want to improve the quality of your life, the magic wand to do that is context.

You change the context and everything changes with it.

Your default context is, the context that is invisible to you, but obvious to everyone around you is not pretty. That is where you live... in that context.

But, you see, context is not something that if you understand then it becomes available to you...

In fact it is much like playing the violin: you can understand playing the violin... but that will not make you play the violin.

You need to DISTINGUISH for yourself, playing the violin, through playing the violin.

Maddening, isn"t it?

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Just because someone"s vibration is low today...

...it doesn"t mean that they are a bad person. Or that vibration, that future is set in stone...

Your vibration is an accurate snapshot of where you are on the vibrational scale today.

Your guru, your spouse, your boss... or yourself could jump to a whole new level of vibration even without any spiritual input... if their health number went up higher.

A friend and client wrote to me today:

I wanted to share with you something interesting that is going on. anyway, you know how dead I have been, and I feel more alive every day, but I haven"t been attracted to a man in over 5 years...

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Against self criticism and the 4-day weekend

One of the rarest and most functional capacities is the capacity to allow... without resistance.

Resistance uses a lot of energy, mostly the energy that you need to become successful, to do the right thing, to be well, and to treat people, including yourself, right.

Resistance is normal, but harmful. Just like self-criticism: normal but harmful, with no upside.

Upside is the benefit you gain from a harmful or painful action or experience.

Neither resistance, nor self-criticism, self-judgment have any upside, only downside.

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What determines how you and your life turn out?

What is the mechanism of the machine that you are, that is used to define your actions, your moods, your attitude?

As I said in a few previous articles, your actions, your thoughts, your moods, your attitudes will be correlated with what you see.

The two sides:

what you see, or the way the world occurs to you

your actions, your thoughts, your moods, your attitudes: your world




the two sides are like the front of the hand and the back of the hand, connected, inseparable, but yet distinct.
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You live in a world of your own design

You live in a world of your own design. And you create the world with your beingness.

We think that beingness is all good... But beingness is neutral. It doesn"t take sides. There is a beingness for everything, including greed, jealousy, and puniness... if that"s a word.

But whatever that beingess is, when you realize it, when you pinpoint it, you"ll immediately see that it actually created your current reality, and if you don"t do something about it... it will create the rest of your life that same...

But as a human you have access to creating any kind of beingness... you have difficulty in holding onto it. But yet, you can start. Any time, any day, any age. And increase your capacity to hold onto the beingness, honor it as yourself.

One of the beingnesses we are really familiar with is BEING judgmental. Or the flip side of it (they always go together, like the two sides of the coin!) BEING judged.

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Is Tai Lopez 67 steps a fraud or have you been defrauded? the bad news...

I have been pondering something that has been really bothering me. I have diagnosed it 90% accurately, but I have no idea how to change it.

And that is the cultural shift towards avoiding work.

I first woke up to it when my favorite teacher, Robert Plank, called it a four letter word, and avoided using it.

The weird and disorienting fact was this: Robert loved getting things done. Actually really loved it. So it was the word, somehow, that appalled him. He lives in California... I thought maybe it had something to do with it.

But since then I realized that it is all over the place.

The media teaches us that work is ugly, or not necessary, or if you are smart you don"t have to work... and today any type of work is included. Even school work...
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Are mind movies and vision boards useful? Are they mental representation?

Yes. Mind movies and vision boards are a mental representation of some fancy that you have... creative or not so creative visualization. Low vibration, low consciousness, wishful thinking stuff. ((It is created for people and bought by people who have no business to use it, because it only increases their misery, their sense of inferiority. Why? Because mind movies and vision boards are based on a false theory, that if you really really really want something, then it will move towards you. But as an empath, I can tell you with certainty, that exactly the opposite is true. The really wanting is actually blocking what you want, it is blocking life force, and keeps you unable to act on what you want... mostly because you have no idea what to do, because a mind movie shows you no path to achieve what you want.))

So what is the difference between a blueprint and a vision board/mind movie?
What is the difference between an action plan and a mind movie?

The main difference is how realistic the "dream" is... how much of the groundwork is done and already in place.

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Living Dangerously: The habits that keep us feling safe, small, bankrupt, and feeling dead UPDATED

I had a one-on-one session with a student yesterday.

Sometimes I notice something "out"... something that doesn"t fit the picture, and just like a good detective, I latch onto it, and watch it, and if I can, I use it to unravel the mystery someone"s life is.

But sometimes it takes a while to really identify what it is that doesn"t fit... it is just a hunch, it is just a feeling... like the faint scent of death for a search dog...

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Who or What is calling the shot in your life? Commitment - new thoughts, new experiences

This is a continuation of the c-word article... and the getting ready for a breakthrough article. Read them first or this article won"t make sense completely



Displacement of your commitment:
As I have written before, the "universe" or the aspect of you that conspires and is in kahutz with the Universe, will put up obstacles in your path, so instead of doing stuff that"s consistent with your commitment, you are now on a detour path: handling your obstacles.

Alex, a friend of mine, is dealing with his server and his websites being hacked... a moment after he made a commitment to growth. So he feels forced to deal with that, instead of following the path he set for himself.

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Your soul correction and commitment: What is the connection?

As I have said before, soul correction is a set of character defects, specific to your soul correction, that you need to overcome in a lifetime.

Track record through written history shows, that unless someone has guidance, expert guidance, they will not overcome the character defects: it is as if the character defect protects itself.

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Doing your soul correction, shifting your state of being, toughening up

What is the easiest method to shift someone"s state of being?

We already know. Children, when they cry because they hurt themselves, can be brought out of crying by directing their attention to something more interesting, more engaging.

We use it in the Soaring Method.

I use it in almost every coaching conversation I have with people who are stuck in some unproductive state of being, like sadness, despair, maybe even resistance.

State of being, mode of being, beingness... all are outside of what you call self-awareness...

Self-awareness on the level of human is all physical and emotional.

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Don"t Let What You Can"t Do Stop You From Doing What You Can

Another old article revived... Oldie but goodie.

I woke up this morning with despair in my heart. No reason, just the mood. I stepped on the scale, and I put on half a pound yesterday. It was raining cats and dogs, but the temperature will be normal later today.

Must be Dark Side transmission...

I read some emails, answered them, but didn"t feel like working.

I took some Heaven on Earth Remedy.

I watched some videos. One had a comment under it: "Don"t Let What You Can"t Do Stop You From Doing What You Can"

I took some more Heaven on Earth.

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Knowledge, Strategy, Execution, is that enough for success?

I lead a workshop on Sunday. I had knowledge, I had strategy. I executed it. It was sloppy. What was missing?

I didn"t know. But "god" works in mysterious ways, the book I am reading has an answer that shows me what has been missing for me on Sunday and all my life.

The book, Peak, the new science of expertise, calls it Mental Representation.

Mental Representation is being able to see the finished product in your mind"s eye, and also see the process getting there, so you can anticipate missteps, and can correct, given that you know how it is, how it looks when it is perfect.

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Is there no rhyme or reason in your life?

Bringing rhyme and reason to your life, to your activities is an important topic, maybe the most important for you, so please makes sure you read it until it makes sense. The article is a stream of consciousness one... I apologize for that. It makes wild turns... but where it leads is important. So please read it, and come to the workshop, if you can.Planning is practice

If you live from the mind, you know little, and you recognize even less. Especially things you need... because you don"t know them. Don"t already know them.

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Want to break out of living the life the selfish gene allows you to live?

How does mind serve the ego, and ego serves the selfish gene... Evolutionary view of team "you"

Tuesdays are my days to interface with people who are neither my readers, nor my clients.

Ordinary people. And although it is very frustrating to me, and maybe even them, I learn a lot from these unpleasant interactions.

Ever since I read The Selfish Gene, a book, and even more since I read the book "Why beautiful people have daughters" a look on life through evolutionary psychology, I am trying to match what I read with what I see, hear, and feel.

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