The field: The invisible distinction that defines your consciousness

We look at life through the space we locate ourselves in.

When you go home for the holidays, you have a space inside which you interact with your mother. You have a space inside which you interact with your father, another space with your siblings.

Some people live their whole life out of one favorite space.

When you know what space you think you are in, and the other person makes no sense, that is because they relate to you inside a different space.

For example, Nancy lives inside Mother-child space. She is either the mother, or she is the child. When she is the child, I am either the mother (she loves that) or Not mother... she hates that. When she is the mother and I refuse to be the child, she throws a tantrum.

This is invisible for her. It"s the water she swims in.


When a coaching relationship doesn"t work, i.e. it is unpleasant, it is forced, it is ineffective, it is always because the two people are in a different space...

My intention is to operate, interact with a student inside the space of partnership. I have my job cut out for me... and I fail more often than not to move them to the space of partnership.

In the Landmark Partnership Course participants got a glimpse of partnership after a whole year of learning to recognize, learning to distinguish all the 16 different spaces that don"t allow for partnership.

Inside the space for Mother-Child partnership isn"t recognized. The mother and the child are NEVER in a partnership: their self interest is sharply different. In fact: partnership there is rejected. It is resented. Same in Father-child... or playmate-sibling, which is yet another space...

Becoming curious (and observant, aware) about the self-interest and the many forms of it is incredibly useful and makes seeing why these relationships lack harmony or growth potential.

You can practice recognizing the self interest (without making it right or making it wrong) any and every place in your life, even in books, or TV shows. Everywhere.

Self interest conflicts with another"s self-interest... because self-interest lives as an either I win or you win phenomenon. Validating self-interest, the other"s self interest, is one way you can take the sting out of relationships and bring them closer to partnership and workability. [note]More on validation: https://www.yourvibration.com/33924[/note]

I am not licensed to teach the Partnership Course, or any Landmark Course, so this is pretty much as much as I can "quote" from the course, without violating my non-compete agreement with the company.

But if you are astute enough what I have written so far is going to make you look. See what space you do your life, do your relationships from.

When things don"t work... you can safely assume that you are in the wrong quadrant, you are in the wrong room, you are in the wrong space.

Identifying where you are at, and where the other is takes practice, but is easy.

Then make the conversation move to another space takes a lot more. A whole lot more. It takes the art of communication.

I"ve recruited seven different people for the experimental communication training. The goal is to make life work, no matter how different they are. No matter what space they hang out most. No matter what they want to accomplish.

Moving people, moving the conversation to another space where there can be alignment, real communication, love, harmony, and ultimately partnership is what I intend to teach.

You, who are not in the course, you can do your work to identify what space you have your conversations in.

The Partnership Course, a fully Tree of Life phenomenon, gets to a deep knowledge through using collages, the non-verbal tactile, kinesthetic representation of a field. [note]There are four "ordinary" fields of relating, values and communication: 1. mother/child 2. father/child 3. playmate/sibling, 4. admirer/admired. (Here are a few collages of someone I don"t know on Flickr. Hover over the images to see which quadrant, which space, which field it shows. )

The fifth field, the field of partnership, cannot be jumped into. It can only be accessed when all the values of the four quadrants, the four ordinary fields, are transcended... i.e. seen but not operational. 1~2 out of a hundred is willing to do the work... We shall see how many in a tiny course I am leading. I am shooting for 50% or more[/note]

Ingenious.

Of course, most of the people in the course first had the thought and then made a collage to illustrate it. Meaning: they stayed on the Tree of Knowledge.

Getting of that tree is not easy... no matter what tool you use.

Most artists create "art" on the Tree of Knowledge too... even though art is not a Tree of Knowledge, word thing.

In this article I have given you a whiff of how to alter your life, on the Tree of Life. The trimtab method, where gentle and small changes turn around your oceanliner... and your life towards workability and towards growth and fulfillment.

As long as you live inside one of those quadrants, uneven quadrants, ordinary communication, workability and fulfillment will be there only for moments, and only as an accident.

When you become intimately familiar with how you and others live their lives inside those tightly defined spaces, you"ll have a choice to stay there, live a limited and predictable life, or to take charge, and direct all your communications to the open water, what we"ll call, maybe, partnership... maybe alignment with all of it...

Haven"t decided yet.

PS: I just realized why people like animals, pets more than people: animals, your choice of animals, allow you to dominate to your hearts content... people don"t...

I am changing... Why aren"t you?

I have been changing. Subtly.

The biggest problem with subtle changes is that they go unnoticed. And if you are like most people, you want encouragement, you want people to see that you are becoming something better.

But your environment is about as aware and as present as you are, which means: not very. And besides they are busy having their head up their ass... so until you are very very very different, they don"t notice it.

A good example is your weight: if you drop two dress sizes... then they notice it. But if you are doing it right, in a sustainable fashion, it"s taken you months... And for those months you had gotten no feedback.

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Is the "law" of attraction a useful tool to get what you want?

People mostly want money. And almost as many people want love. It is all desire for the self alone. Greed.

You want what you want and how you want it on the vibrational level where you are.

Vibrational level, roughly, means: how many and which capacities of the 160 DNA capacities you use in your life.

Most people who are interested in the law of attraction racket are people who have 10-20 capacities of the 160 activated, but only use 10 of those 20.

That should tell you something: you live in a tiny box, self-imposed, and hope in a miracle. Read articles on the law of attraction hoping that you"ll be able to manipulate your mood to attract what you want...

Not going to work...

You are lazy, cowardly, with an avoiding nature. You know little, mostly things not worth knowing. You are not often willing to do anything new, and then you do it poorly.

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All my life I tried to not sound arrogant. The more I tried the more people thought that I was arrogant.

All my life I tried to not sound arrogant. The more I tried the more people thought that I was arrogant.

Why is this?

I could not answer this question until this afternoon.

I have been walking up and down the hill. I get into conversations, and I have noticed that people are not hiding from me any more. Actually they seem to enjoy talking to me.

Today I talked to an 80 year old man who I thought was shallow... He actually shared his depth with me, and I appreciated and acknowledge that.

He said how refreshing that was to be acknowledged for his depth instead of his brilliance, meaning his PhD and college professor status. ((I live on a street with many University professors, because Syracuse University is less than a mile from here... I could even share with this guy my theory about why all their wives are dying of cancer... I mean the wives of the professors... And maybe that is what started his self-reflection. I told in myself: "if you can"t take this... I have nothing else to give you... lol."))

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One of the things I love about The Sight capacity is that it can take the game over at any point.

Of course if the game can"t be saved, then the game can"t be saved.

But even if I, with my physical eyes, and my "brilliant intellect" can"t see that the game can be saved, taken to winning, be turned around, be saved... if it can be, consciousness will see it.

I am very grateful that consciousness is not judgmental, consciousness doesn"t badger me when I mess games up. Games, like my health, games like my diet, games like my marketing, games like my income, games like my relationships.

To the limited perspective of the human mind, I take those games, often, to dead end-looking places, where I surely don"t think the game can be saved, turned around, and become a winning game again.

I am originally very emotional, very jumpy, very willing to burn bridges, very keen on keeping things neat, and note of those behaviors are good for any of the games a person can play... they all lead to disasters... unless you can turn them over to consciousness, and watch the wrinkles smooth out, watch the bridges can be rebuilt, watch as out of mess and chaos flowers can be had.

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You want to change your actions? Don"t bother with the mind!

I am not hundred percent clear on the topic, but I am going to start it anyway.

We, humans, think that our minds dictate and direct our actions, and we are desperately trying to change our minds, if we don"t like the actions, or strengthen the mind if we do.

But what if the mind has nothing to do with our actions.

I am reading a book about this, this is probably why I paid attention today, when this happened:

It"s very hot today. As my habit, I leaned into the bath tub and opened the cold shower to cool off.

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#attachments, #Raiseyourvibration

Hangout and other delightful stuff... why does horoscope work?

How is this for this week"s horoscope?

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Am I reading the astrological omens correctly? I hope so. From what I can tell, you have been flying under the radar and over the rainbow. You have been exploiting the loopholes in the big bad system and enjoying some rather daring experiments with liberation. At this point in the adventure, you may be worried that your lucky streak can"t continue much longer. I"m here to tell you that it can. It will. It must. I predict that your detail-loving intelligence will paradoxically guide you to expand your possibilities even further.

And how is it possible that it would be the perfect time the perfect answer to me?

Anyway, I just wanted to share with you yet another thing that makes no sense, and yet it"s happening... like attachments, seeing mites, like guidance, like everything I have been dealing with the past 5 years or so.

On a different note: I got a great idea from Roy Williams yesterday... here is his Monday Morning Memo:

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What"s between you and you

About 30 years ago, I didn"t have a car, and I had to beg a ride every time I wanted to go to Landmark to assist.

I spent hours in cars, in conversations I would not have had otherwise.

I talked to people at length that I would never have talked to. It enriched my life.

One of these people, half my age, drove me back and forth every Sunday. We talked a lot. She had a room full of stuff, neatly organized, figurines and such.

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#osho, #Raiseyourvibration

Why is it harmful for you to search for information on the internet?

Knowledge is power. But knowledge is different from information.

Information is someone"s opinion, someone"s take on something... totally unreliable. It depends on the person"s world view (sheep or individual), and intentions. Looking your organs that look outward you can only see what can be seen... not even one layer below... You see what they want you to see.

If you have no core, if you have no substance, every opinion, also called information. will sway you... will blow you around like wind blows dry leaves in the fall.

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How to reclaim your Self from the mind and why

The mind doesn"t know who you are. The mind also doesn"t care who you are. The mind also doesn"t care if you enjoy life, live life fully, are fulfilled, or not.

The mind is in cahoots with the world, with the "community", with society, because that is how it was trained, by society.

If and when the mind is calling the shot ((calling the shot: saying, determining what action you should take, what will happen)) in your life, you become an effect, instead of the cause, the Creator of your life, you were meant to be.

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From filing clerk of information, to glorious human being

Mind says: the important thing is to have the answer.
Life says: the important thing is to have the question.

Thinking, the proper use of the thinking part of the brain, is to ask questions. Questions allow you to penetrate things deeply, to see new connections, to see what"s below the surface.

The mind, also a part of the brain, isn"t interested in that, the mind really isn"t interested in anything. Maybe gossip, but that is it.

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Christmas, alone, my empath mother, being the true empath, and getting to no thing

As far as I can see back, Christmas was a painful reminder that I am alone.

I always wanted to go home... home was a place where I longed to be, but I had no idea what that would be like. Surely where I lived wasn"t home. Surely the people I was with left me feeling alone.

Later, relationship made my life busy, but I still felt alone. Not envying others, not something wrong, just alone. Like you are on the top of a mountain, and no one to share the experience with.

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"Sell dreams, not products." said Steve Jobs. Most purchases stay a dream only, a disappointing one at that

If you are like me, if you understand the title of this article, you are terrified, dismayed, disgusted... Feel cheated, duped, bamboozled... But chances are you have no idea what the title says. You keep buying the stuff and get no results whatsoever. This article may change it for you forever.

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The secret of doing something important

This article was written by a guy in Switzerland. Different culture, different cultural conversations... he lives by a method of growing himself and his business counter-culturally if you look at it from the USA, especially if you live in California. And, of course, if you live in Canada.

What is the cultural conversation that he defies? That you are supposed to know it. That you are supposed to leap tall buildings, and there is no need to practice, there is no need to learn anything, you should just know.

I could have written this article, because my story is similar.

Enjoy.

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NEW: One fell swoop...

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Turning points: I want to get really good at this!

As an Expanding Human Being, you NEVER arrive... Expanding Human Being is not a destination, it is a relationship to Life. An attitude. Learned to the level where it is undistinguishable from inner nature.

I am an Expanding Human Being, sometimes I grow like a weed, sometimes, for months, I languish... hibernate.

With regards to growing my business, I have been a wannabe forever. Trying this and trying that, but never actually doing it.

About five minutes ago I heard myself whispering to myself: "I want to be really good at this!" meaning a business growing method I bought almost two years ago, but abandoned it because I didn"t quite had the energy to even understand how to use it properly.

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