5 Characteristics Of Grit -- How Many Do You Have?

Reprinted from Forbes... ((by Margaret M. Perlis I write about Excellence in practice, people, places & product.))

Recently some close friends visited, both of whom have worked in education with adolescents for over 40 years. We were talking about students in general and when I asked what has changed with regards to the character of kids, in unison they said “grit” – or more specifically, lack thereof. There seems to be growing concern among teachers that kids these days are growing soft.

When I took a deeper dive, I found that what my friends have been observing in-the-field, researchers have been measuring in the lab. The role grit plays in success has become a topic du jour, spearheaded by Angela Duckworth, who was catapulted to the forefront of the field after delivering a TED talk which has since been viewed well over a  million times.

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You live in a world of your own design

You live in a world of your own design. And you create the world with your beingness.

We think that beingness is all good... But beingness is neutral. It doesn"t take sides. There is a beingness for everything, including greed, jealousy, and puniness... if that"s a word.

But whatever that beingess is, when you realize it, when you pinpoint it, you"ll immediately see that it actually created your current reality, and if you don"t do something about it... it will create the rest of your life that same...

But as a human you have access to creating any kind of beingness... you have difficulty in holding onto it. But yet, you can start. Any time, any day, any age. And increase your capacity to hold onto the beingness, honor it as yourself.

One of the beingnesses we are really familiar with is BEING judgmental. Or the flip side of it (they always go together, like the two sides of the coin!) BEING judged.

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Can you heal yourself? Holographic universe or intelligent universe?

My habit is to read one or two non-fiction books, cover to cover, the old fashioned way, and then about 600 pages worth of fiction.

My choice of fiction is historical novels, mostly. I like the short and sweet novellas 60-120 page long pieces, from the Foreworld Saga, that for me started with the book Mongoliad.

These books are perfect for me. They are fantastical. They always have heroes, and incredible odds, and the characters are larger than life.

Just like I used the Medium series to learn how to hold guidance, I am using these books to show me how guidance can be even more difficult to see ahead of time, and why it is so important to surrender one"s immediate agenda to guidance.
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That sadness, that grief... what is that about?

I don"t know... I am still crying.

The mini-series I watched is called River... we could have called it Riveting... because it is. For me...

River is a police detective. His long time partner, Frankie gets murdered: shot from a moving car River didn"t see, doesn"t know who shot her.

River sees and talks to, converses with dead people, especially Frankie. The love is tangible between them, between River and Frankie. The story isn"t about being a psychic, afterlife... not any of that... please continue reading, without preconceived notions, or you"ll miss what"s important to you.

The story is about River"s investigation into her death, and into her life.

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#ActivatingAbilities, #UnconditionalLoveActivator

How words really effect you? And how positive thinkers are stupid

If you had a childhood trauma... what is the best way to deal with it now, so you can grow?

Some of you were abused as a child.

Now, strictly speaking, there is no such thing as abuse in reality. Abuse is a particular interpretation of something that happened. If I asked a visiting Martian what happened, he would say things like one person hit the other, or one person yelled at another, or one person tied up another, pushed them down, maybe even put one part of their anatomy into the other... but not abuse.

Abuse never happened... or it happened only if you said so... for you. In your mouth. In your interpretation.

Some things don"t exist outside of language... they don"t exist in reality. Abuse is just one of these. One other "thing" that doesn"t exist in reality is lack... In reality only things that are there exist.

New age gurus talk about the importance of the words you use. Of course, either because you are dumb or they are dumb, this gets generalized.

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#ActivatingAbilities, #Raiseyourvibration

More on fitness and vibration... using my own example

You may need to do a lot of preparation work before you can start doing the work in earnest

As I said, raising your vibration is like fitness. ((Your IQ, as in intelligence, is also like fitness. The difference is that you can raise your fitness in one lifetime, but you cannot raise your intelligence in one lifetime.

Certain ethnic groups have been focusing on intelligence, understanding, mostly.

Other ethnic groups focus on fitness, speed, endurance, strength.

And yet other ethnic groups focus on survival, easy life.))

Vibration is like fitness: no matter your ethnicity, no matter your starting point, you can raise it.

In this article I will share my fitness story, and we"ll see if I have something to teach you with that... lol.
Ok my fitness story: I am, genetically predisposed to be weak in body and strong in intellect.
As with everything, I refused to obey the weaknesses: I did sports: the kind of sports that didn"t require me to run, or throw something. Why not those? Because I have physical limitations from birth or from abuse: I don"t know and I don"t care.

So I was a swimmer, I payed table tennis, I was a gymnast (uneven bars) competitively.

When is was in university, I walked for hours; I didn"t have time to compete.
I was still relatively fit till I got myself a car...
Then I did the "pill popping" thing I mention in my previous article, and it seemed that fitness was over for me: even climbing the one flight ((I live on the second floor)) made me hurt so much, I had to sit down.

This past spring I asked Source if I could live in Italy or France. I have been craving seeing more.

The answer was yes/no... the reason for the no is that I can"t walk without pain.

OK, now, listen up! My whole father"s side of the family has pain in the legs and the hips from walking. But my father walked every day till the day he died at 80... and if he could do it, you can bet your sweet ass I can do it... lol.
So I started to walk. I have been walking every day since June.
And this week I have started to use my stair stepper: Tony Little Rock and roll stepper that I bought on Amazon, used, October 25, 2013, two years ago.

I didn"t use it all those years, because I needed to build up to using it.

I am ready, and I have been using since Tuesday.

Today I decided to connect drinking tea and using the stepper.

Every time I make tea for myself, I set it to brew, I set the kitchen timer, and go and step on the stepper, until I hurt... a lot. I did it six times yesterday. Six cups of tea, six times I stepped on the stepper. Today I have already done three times. Building strength, building stamina, 90 seconds at a time. This is not the first time: when I used to work in offices, 30+ years ago, I used to use the bathroom of another floor to force myself to run up and down every time... and it worked then, I know it will work now. 30-60 steps 10 times a day... easy peasy... just a little painful.

It is 90
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The cycles of energy: the will to live and its cycle... the ups and downs of life

As I have said in other articles before, we have several cycles going on in our lives.

What I didn"t say about the cycles is this: earliest incidents of disappointment, pain, abuse, loss create them. The length of the cycle is fixed, and it is correlated to the age when the incident happened.

OK, after this preamble, I"d like to share a cycle I haven"t spoken about: the cycle in which I lose the will to live. I lose enjoyment. It"s not fun.

I am probably at the deepest point of the cycle right now. And until a few minutes ago, life was showing up and an is... All life held, success, money, love, relationships showed up as: this is how it is, there is nothing you can do about it.

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7 steps to create ease and grace about making money?

What does it take to have, make, save, invest, and spend money in a way that you end up enjoying it, benefiting from it, being enriched by money?

Before we can talk about money, we need to define what we mean by abundance... Abundance is a being that says: All is well with the world. Abundance is also an experience.

I don"t know anyone who lives in abundance, although all of us have experienced abundance for moments, minutes, hours... sometimes even days. Don"t kid yourself, rich people don"t live in abundance... every person I have ever checked, had some version of anxiety in them.

And yet... abundance is our birthright... we are hardwired for abundance. But because...

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#Money

Another review, this time of Gary Douglas and Access Consciousness...

A few years ago when I first "reviewed" Access Consciousness I didn"t check for attachments... and unfortunately my high evaluation exposed a lot of people to the nasty attachments Access Consciousness puts on people. I apologize. If you are one who got involved, please get in touch.

The Gary Dougless, Dain Heer bunch is as nasty as Scientology, maybe even nastier because of their ability to put an energetic attachment on you and keep you trapped.

Here is an article I found online:


WHAT"S BEHIND GARY DOUGLAS"S SCIENTOLOGY KNOCKOFF?
BY CRAIG MALISOW in The Houston (Texas) Press



"This is something I"ve wanted to do for the kids for a long time," Gary Douglas says to an audience of children in an Austin hotel conference room over the summer. Other kids across the country are watching the seminar online.

Douglas, 70, just got done hearing from a mother professing gratitude to Douglas for bringing consciousness to her kids. He opened their eyes, and they opened hers. And that"s "consciousness" with a little trademark symbol above it, just so you know. This isn"t any pedestrian notion of consciousness. It"s Access Consciousness. It"s so mind-blowingly conscious that you have to be other than human to get it. You have to be what"s called a humanoid. Here"s one way for you to find out if you"re a human or a humanoid: If you like to sit on the couch, drink beer and watch TV, you"re probably a human. If you judge others and not yourself, you"re a human. Humans are middle America. They sleepwalk through life. They"re idiots.

Humanoids are steeped in awareness, not judgment. They get it. They"ve torn down the barriers, the mental implants drilled into their brains an eternity ago by malicious entities. They can change the weather.

Humanoids in this conference room, adults and children alike, understand it when Douglas says, "What stupidity are you using to create the old thinking you are choosing? Everything that is, times a godzillion — will you destroy and uncreate it all? Right and wrong, good and bad, pod and poc, all nine, shorts, boys and beyonds."

That"s part of the Access Consciousness "clearing statement" — a sort of mush-mouthed mantra humanoids recite when they dismantle the implants. It"s what Douglas would like to bring into public schools through something called the Access True Knowledge Foundation. Not many people knew about Access, and there was no real vehicle to get it into schools, until ex-NFL player Ricky Williams fell in love with Access and accepted a $50,000 donation from them for his Ricky Williams Foundation. Some sports writers poked fun at Williams for aligning himself with a "cult," but at least Access got some attention.

Expanded consciousness might seem like a heavy trip for the average teen, but you have to remember that we"re all infinite beings, and children — even infants — are master manipulators. Children picked their parents before they were even conceived, and then they stripped those
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Why was the little girl acting out?

Disappointment is when you get something you didn"t expect.

I expected the readers to be here to get something, and not to give. And they didn"t disappoint.
I expected people to not see beyond their noses and they didn"t... but still, kudos to the ten brave souls that forced themselves to think something.

It was hard, wasn"t it? Now I am talking to those ten.

What would happen if you did this every day? You"ll start to build some serious muscle in problem solving, and by the time you actually need those muscles, you would have them.

I promised, you delivered, so I must tell you what happened next in that story.

You know that I blasted the little girl... and I did. I was like you: stopped on the surface.

But then: I didn"t sleep well. I woke up with a question:

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Anything you pursue is running from you...

I visited a website today that is packed with articles about 5 steps to this and 7 steps to that, about happiness, about your body, about money.

And people are eating it up. They share it. They comment... Yaay, some different ways to pursue what you desire.

But all those readers are like lemmings throwing themselves off the cliff... What?

This past week I took a break from nonfiction reading, and have been reading novels and novellas again.

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#contextisdecisive, #osho, #Raiseyourvibration

The tragedy of marriage

The tragedy of marriage is that women think that man will change, but they won"t. Men think the woman won"t change but they do.

I heard this sentence yesterday on Netflix. I immediately had to write it down. Just like I wrote down a previous sentence, that I loved: I fit into that crowd like a fart in a crowded elevator.

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From victim to extraordinary... It"s possible for YOU.

I take pride to spend my life with what I can do, instead of worrying about what other people have done to me.

This is what one of the abused children, now adult, said in a British police drama.

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You live in a world of your own design

You live in a world of your own design. And you create the world with your beingness.

We think that beingness is all good... But beingness is neutral.

One of the beingnesses we are really familiar with is BEING judgmental. Or the flip side of it (they always go together, like the two sides of the coin!) BEING judged.

Both are beings.

Which is more frequent? They are the two sides of the same coin: judgment. Pretending that you have the right and the power over life and death...

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#Perspective, #Raiseyourlevelofconsciousness, #Raiseyourvibration, #SoulCorrection, #TheNatureOfReality

ADD, ADHD. Are the parents guilty? What the French can teach us about that...

Is ADD and ADHD a nature or nurture phenomenon? There is a surprising answer: we compare American and French children with regards to ADD...

Based on an article by Marilyn Wedge, Ph.D. "Why French Kids Don"t Have ADHD? French children don"t need medications to control their behavior."
First off: what is ADD and ADHD?
Attention deficit disorder is a symptom. According to Dr. Daniel Amen, when an ADD/ADHD person wants to concentrate, at a certain point their prefrontal cortex shuts down... much like your computer crashes when you overload it.

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7 steps to create ease and grace about making money?

What does it take to have, make, save, invest, and spend money in a way that you end up enjoying it, benefiting from it, being enriched by money?

Before we can talk about money, we need to define what we mean by abundance... Abundance is a being that says: All is well with the world. Abundance is also an experience.

I don"t know anyone who lives in abundance, although all of us have experienced abundance for moments, minutes, hours... sometimes even days. Don"t kid yourself, rich people don"t live in abundance... every person I have ever checked, had some version of anxiety in them.

And yet... abundance is our birthright... we are hardwired for abundance. But because...

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#Raiseyourvibration

Filters

Where does the truth I write come from? Stream of consciousness.

I write the largest chunks of surprising truths that way. Something triggers it, and there it comes... Quick, to the computer!

I read Kathryn"s comment on the Worry article, and something clicked.

Everyone says: you need to remove your filters. You need to remove blockages. Bad beliefs, about yourself and the world. It"s not working. Not for anyone... ok, maybe a few.

What if the reason no one is succeeding with those "techniques" is because that is not the right method to do it?

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Filters

Where does the truth I write come from? Stream of consciousness.

I write the largest chunks of surprising truths that way. Something triggers it, and there it comes... Quick, to the computer!

I read Kathryn"s comment on the Worry article, and something clicked.

Everyone says: you need to remove your filters. You need to remove blockages. Bad beliefs, about yourself and the world. It"s not working. Not for anyone... ok, maybe a few.

What if the reason no one is succeeding with those "techniques" is because that is not the right method to do it?

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#Raiseyourvibration

The story of your life...

One of my greatest revelations about transformational methods was in the Wisdom Course, a year long Landmark program.

It was a method of telling the story of your life.

You can tell the story of your life in a lot of ways.

from abuse to abuse
from success to success
from the point of view of what school you went to

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Why is this happening to me?

Why is this happening to me? add the whiny voice... and you can hear that this is not a useful question.

On the other hand, when you can answer that question (without asking it first), it has the same effect as a light switch flicked in a dark room.

So, how do you get to the answer without first asking that whiny question?

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