5 Characteristics Of Grit -- How Many Do You Have?

Reprinted from Forbes... ((by Margaret M. Perlis I write about Excellence in practice, people, places & product.))

Recently some close friends visited, both of whom have worked in education with adolescents for over 40 years. We were talking about students in general and when I asked what has changed with regards to the character of kids, in unison they said “grit” – or more specifically, lack thereof. There seems to be growing concern among teachers that kids these days are growing soft.

When I took a deeper dive, I found that what my friends have been observing in-the-field, researchers have been measuring in the lab. The role grit plays in success has become a topic du jour, spearheaded by Angela Duckworth, who was catapulted to the forefront of the field after delivering a TED talk which has since been viewed well over a  million times.

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What are we going for when we ask you to use your activated capacities?

What we go for is transformation.

Transformation is the magical seeming phenomenon when from one moment to the other, the world changes in front of our very eyes.
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Of course the world argues that you can do anything you put your mind to, but this is a lie. You can do anything that you have the DNA capacities to do.

Capacities can be interpreted as abilities, but there is only a correlation. Talent would be a closer approximation of what DNA capacity is.

I have participated in transformational education for the past 30 years. Most of it through Landmark Education.

People who teach success, in any arena, money, relationships, career, health, etc. start from an unproven axiom that they can make anyone successful if the person is willing to do the work.

It"s hogwash.

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How to make your new DNA activated capacity actually work for you

Unconscious Incompetence: the missing item
Like knowledge, capacities are either conscious or not.

When a knowledge, a skill, a capacity is conscious, you know to reach for it when it would be useful. It is like you know you have a Phillips screwdriver... and you reach for it.

But if you have never had a Phillips screwdriver, as far as you are concerned, you have to substitute other methods to screw in a screw, imperfect tools for an imperfect result, or give it up and find another screw. Makes sense so far?

To know to reach for it is not automatic, because you didn"t know you had it.

When I activate a formerly dark DNA capacity, when I switch it on, you don"t know you have it. You even paid for it, but you don"t know what"s missing, you only see that life is not quite working in a certain arena, just like the natives saw the ripples in the water, but could not see the ships... seeing ship with sails was a missing capacity for them.

A missing capacity is like the missing item, in the missing item exercise I have written about and have coached hundreds with it.
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Have you ever noticed... what hope is doing to you?

You have your eyes on something. Something that is currently out of reach. It either take work, time, or money to get it. Time passes, you do the work, you get the money, you buy it... and then something totally unexpected happens: you don"t want it. You don"t want to use it...

Another version of the same thing, just in a different arena: you want a person to love you. You long for it. You court them. You buy them gifts, or do nice things to them. Then, when they say they love you and want you... the bottom falls out. You suddenly don"t want it.

But why would such a horrible thing be a daily occurrence?

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How to develop the capacity to ask intelligent questions that also alter your reality?

Yesterday I had a long conversation with one of my students. I suddenly had an insight into soul correction, that had been hidden from my view before.

How did I get to that insight? I asked different questions.

Asking different questions is one of the missings for you. On the level of human, this is ultimately the most important factor that the lack of it is holding you back from "ascending" to the next level of evolution where you can create your state of being at will.

Our upbringing, our education, our culture, our society, does not like questions. Especially different questions. Poking questions.

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What is Freedom? What is Liberty? What is the difference?

Freedom versus Liberty, thrivers, survivors, or fallen by the wayside

When I ask people what they want, many say they want freedom. When we poke into it: they want a sense of freedom, but think the way to get to freedom is through liberty... Let me explain.

Just like with all words we use, here is huge confusion, a collapse of two distinctions: freedom and liberty. They are not connected. They don"t even overlap!

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NEW: What is the work to become an Expanding Human Being? A case study

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The sentence I hear only occasionally, is "But what is the work?"

It is not because it is not a question that concerns many, it is because you are trained to know the answer, or at least pretend that you do.

I didn"t realize this until yesterday. I did not connect the dots... I didn"t see the forest for the trees.

What woke me up and made me see the big picture was an email from a new student.

And that, in spite of the fact that I had an opinion about her, a judgment, if you wish, that she talks to much and listens little.

Some of the time my attitude and my opinion matched :-( when I didn"t see that my opinion is a mind chatter, and that I can create my attitude freely.

Other times I had an attitude of service, in spite of my opinion of her predisposition to talk a lot.

And then the miracle happened. She started to ask clarifying questions, and... GASP! started to do the work.

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