The skill to identify and the skill to overcome your dominant way you avoid to grow

It"s eerie how soul correction that is calculated from your date of birth and zodiac signs, calculated from just your birthday can be so very accurate in their core.

By core I mean your base nature. What you are inclined to do, the attitude you are inclined to have.

My horoscope for the next weeks or so... by Rob Brezsny:
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Pike"s Peak is a 14,115-foot mountain in Colorado. It"s not a simple task to trek to the top. Unless you"re well-trained, you might experience altitude sickness. Wicked thunderstorms are a regular occurrence during the summer. Snow falls year-round. But back in 1929, an adventurer named Bill Williams decided the task of hiking to the summit wasn"t tough enough. He sought a more demanding challenge. Wearing kneepads, he spent 21 days crawling along as he used his nose to push a peanut all the way up. I advise you to avoid making him your role model in the coming weeks, Virgo. Just climb the mountain. Don"t try to push a peanut up there with your nose, too.

As you know, or should know, I don"t teach anything I haven"t tested myself... and mostly on myself.

I was thinking this morning how arrogant of me to compare myself with Louis Pasteur, who tested rabies on himself... he infected himself... and then cured himself.

So I am not comparing myself with Pasteur, only with his method.

I mercilessly test certain innocent looking foods or innocent ways of eating on myself. It hurts. I get foggy... or I get diarrhea, or I can"t sleep, or I have wicked stomach ache. Or get depressed. Or get manic. The result you get from eating the wrong foods, eating the wrong way, or sleeping the wrong way.

I have taken on being the yellow canary. [note]The canary in the coal mine is always the first to go, whether in reality or in metaphor. It"s a signal that something terrible is happening, whether it"s financial disaster, medical breakdown, or political scandal. It"s also a historical fact - miners did take canaries to work with them. If the canary died, they knew that they were soon to follow if they didn"t run.

The idea of canaries was first proposed by John Haldane, a man who knew quite a lot about dabbling with deadly gas. He"d lock himself up with gas in a sealed room, taking copious notes on what it felt like to be slowly poisoned. Not that he didn"t do good work. Carbon monoxide, a by-product of combustion, killed people in poorly ventilated spaces. Haldane noted the fact that the carbon monoxide combined with hemoglobin in the blood, and the resulting combination stained the tissues of the poisoned bright red. When coal miners mysteriously started dying, their faces flushed and red, Haldane put two and two together and realized carbon monoxide was the culprit. He suggested a canary be used as a carbon monoxide detector, and people did use them well into the 20th century.

Canaries, and birds in general, are suited to this not just because they"re small and portable, but because their anatomy makes them vulnerable to airborne poisons. Birds are continuously "inhaling." This is what helps them fly, which is already a tremendously taxing aerobic activity, at heights that would cause a human altitude sickness. Human lungs house many little alveoli - sacs with thin outer layers that allow oxygen to pass into the bloodstream while letting carbon dioxide out of the blood stream and back into the lungs.

For birds, the oxygen goes in and the carbon dioxide out, when it travels through a structure that resembles a ribcage-like series of tubes. When a bird draws breath, it passes air through those tubes, absorbing the oxygen into its bloodstream while the remaining de-oxygenated air goes into two sacs in its body. It also takes in air that rushes directly to a second set of sacs. When the bird exhales, the "spent" air rushes out, along with the carbon dioxide. That second set of sacs, full of unused air, also empty. Their oxygen-rich air rushes through the tubes on its way out, letting the blood absorb yet more oxygen. Birds are getting fresh air when they inhale and when they exhale - a double dose for our single one.

This makes birds great at taking in oxygen, but extraordinarily sensitive to poisons in the air. A canary is taking in the poison twice with every breath. Even if it were as big as a human (and what a sight that would be), it would die faster from poisoning.[/note]

Climbing a mountain on your knees pushing a peanut with your nose... lol.

Unbelievable... That is what I have been doing.

There is a step in the 67 steps where you compare what you need to, or want to do, with putting man on the moon. And in that contrast you can see that most anything you have to do, or what to do, is easy. In the contrast...

Why do you need the contrast, you ask?

Because the lower self, the Selfish Gene, does not like you to step out of bounds.

As I said in another article, the recognizable moves or the Selfish Gene are

1. looking good


2. avoid looking bad


3. being right


4. make another wrong


5. avoid being wrong


6. winning


7. avoid losing


8. dominate


9. avoid domination


10. justify self/explain


11. invalidate another


12. avoid being responsible/ownership/blame/power/causing

All designed to keep you the same, keep you gene-bound, keep you in the chicken coop.

My dominant move is avoid domination, my secondary move is dominate.

Let"s look at avoiding domination... It is clear and easy to see that you are avoiding the domination of other people, of rules imposed on you.

It is harder to see that you also avoid the domination of your own word.

Depending on your base nature, you slither out, slime out, or break out from under the domination of your own word.

Maybe even disappear, if you are an air sign.

• Fire — 1 - Aries; 5 - Leo; 9 - Sagittarius - hot, dry, ardent


• Earth — 2 - Taurus; 6 - Virgo; 10 - Capricorn - heavy, cold, dry


• Air — 3 - Gemini; 7 - Libra; 11 - Aquarius - light, hot, wet


• Water — 4 - Cancer; 8 - Scorpio; 12 - Pisces - wet, soft, cold

It is mighty useful to know how your machine makes you drop your commitment, how your machine fails you. Robs you of fulfillment, robs you of everything you ever wanted.

The opposite moves, like dominate/avoid domination always rule in pairs.

It is easier to see one side. For example if you want to look good, avoid looking bad is how you fail yourself, how you avoid your own bliss.

If you are into winning... then avoid losing is your favorite way to remain a loser in life.

Got it? I hope so.

Both sides of the move are harmful, but the avoid part is the more harmful side, and catching it and controlling it can bring unexpected and welcome change... the change you haven"t been able to create.

Controlling both sides: and you will be on your way to heaven.

Now, returning to the original topic: most people will first pay for something, like a health consultation, and then will doubt it, question it, sabotage it, let it gather dust.

Are they avoiding domination? You betcha they are.

And unless they find a way to surrender to their own word... they will remain unchanged, no matter how much money they spent on how many energies, and stuff.

The Selfish Gene wants you to remain the same.

Yesterday one of my students and I created a plan to see if it would work to just test the idea, the word... a little bit.

And ease into it. Maybe fall in love with it. Maybe see some results. Maybe allow the little step to make it easier to make the second step.

So far I have been resisting to even make that tiny step... albeit I have been thinking about it... and contemplating the benefits... that is already pointing in the right direction.

I bought two pieces of software, both for the website, and both promise a better user experience... and maybe more income for me...

Why on earth would I resist these? lol... but I am resisting, and the why doesn"t matter.

The only thing that matters is that I wrestle the control away from the Selfish Gene, so I can continue growing.

I used the word "wrestle" because I am an earth sign. You may trick the Selfish Gene to release control. Go around the Selfish Gene to do what you need to do... depending on your horoscope sign... I say.

Either way, please be assured that developing this methodology of honoring your word, instead of avoiding its domination, will be the most useful skill you can have to be able to climb the tree of life, and to attain a life worth living, health, wealth, love and happiness, the four pillars of a well lived life.

How to manage yourself for change?

I guess it is that time of the year... where the broken faced child comes out of the woodwork... ((I use this expression "broken face child" if I expected you to know what I am talking about... You probably don"t.

So let me explain: When you were little, things happened to you that were beyond your comprehension. Your brain was developing, in fact developing till about age 25, and you had to make up some story of what was happening. Normal.

The "normal" story to make up is this: "There is something wrong with me, that"s why this is happening"

Looking at it with sober eyes, looking at a little kid of the same age as you were, it is clear, or at least should be, that there was nothing wrong with you. And likely what was happening had nothing to do with you either.

But a child is 100% self-centered, self-referential, and can only look at the world, to what"s happening, in relationship to himself/herself. So this is normal.

Being able to see the world independent of you is an adult capacity. Looking at the Starting Point Measurements, it is crystal clear that you, nearly all of you, have development that was arrested at a child level, and you never got to the point where you could see that the world is not responding to you. They are not responding to you. They don"t even see you. You can be you, and the world will be OK. Really.

But you are stuck at the story you made up... and now live as if it actually happened.

Until you do the work and separate the facts from your story, and get that your story never happened, you won"t be able to get past it, and you"ll be, for yourself, that "broken face child" of that story.

The methodology of separating the facts from the story is taught in the Playground Method... And can make the biggest difference in your life: will allow you to become an adult.

Being an adult is delightful. Really. Things happen and they have no relationship to you. You are free to be... however you want to be. Your results, of course, will depend on your actions, your attitudes, but that"s it. Nothing else. Heaven. A burden lost.))

Life is cyclical. In addition to the visible cycles, there are invisible cycles.

They are intimately connected to some early life events... there is nothing you can do about them coming up: a cycle must repeat.

One of these cycles is the broken faced child coming out to torment you.

Rarely if ever I see someone who has something I "envy".

Envy is a sign that they have something that you want, for yourself. It is a good thing if you look at it that way.

In most of us, the soul has a warped way to communicate to us. Probably because we don"t listen to gentler nudges.

So, yesterday I saw something that I"d like. In this Tai Lopez person I write about in my previous article.

So, just before I went to bed I muscle tested if his IQ is higher than mine.


His IQ is five points lower than mine. Mine is 135.
Then I asked: is he happy? And the answer was a "no."
Am I happy? And the answer was a weak yes.

Hm. Interesting.

Osho talks about "nothing fails like success" but it is hard to believe him, unless you have experienced it yourself.

And I don"t feel successful, never felt successful, so I can"t tell.

Success for me would be (please don"t laugh) if I were to be invited to Hungarian television as a famous expatriate...

Given what I do, no matter how good it is, no matter how ground breaking it is, the likelihood of being famous is none.

So that is that "weak yes"... The worldly success has and will elude me.

But compared to the "clear no" of Tai... I"ll take my weak yes any time of the week.

And yet... the question is there: how could I be more successful in the world? Have my cake and eat it too.

Be climbing the Tree of Life and have success in the world.

That is a question no one has answered yet. How do I know? I muscle test people. I muscle test successful ones, that look, talk, give the appearance of being spiritually advanced, and ask: is he happy? is she happy? and the answer has always been "no." Clear no.

Then I ask the "spiritual" people, Mother Teresa, the pope, the Buddha, Osho, and except for the Buddha, it is all clear no.

So my "weak yes" stands out.

It"s because it is really hard to have your cake and eat it too.

Having your cake is spiritual, in the vertical, eating your cake is worldly, horizontal.

The question is: can I teach anything intelligent, actionable, that would create happy, or at least closer to happy?

I"ve learned a management technique from Robert Fritz"s book, Corporate Tides book.

In corporation the big issue is change. How to cause change from the top down. Without change the growth stops, without change death, decline sets in, so it is a big issue for corporation.

When you look at yourself as a corporation, if you look intelligently, you can see that some aspects of you want change, other aspects of you don"t... and it is always the lower aspects that don"t want change win out... sometimes by pulling you back from change.

This is what this article is about: people who were brought back, through a cycle, to where they began, or maybe even below.

In this article, I won"t address the issue of starting to change... it is a whole different dynamic, like starting a car as opposed to steering a car and keeping it in the curve.

In order to see what is going on, really, we have to go below the visible, below the surface.

What gets activated, what gets scared and more and more forceful when you start getting ahead, when you start to successfully climb the tree of life?

Other "teachers" say: it is the subconscious. And partially they are right: certain sentences are stored in the subconscious... which only means: you have suppressed them, because they were difficult to deal with... and still are. Sentences about you. Memories about you.

But the subconscious doesn"t act, doesn"t act out.

It is the ego that does. Ego is forceful, commanding, and supervising your every action.

Your team has active and inactive participants. Ego is very active, you can"t escape it, it is there... and watches you like a hawk.

Ego"s entire effort is to keep you and your corporation safe by a mistaken principle: stay the same. You have survived till this day, so that is a safe bet.

Meaning, of course, that growth, change for growth, is a threat to ego.

So what is the move, what are the moves of ego?

Ego is like a parent in its behavior. It will slap you silly, while shouting all the things you have suppressed in the subconscious: you are stupid, inferior, dirty, lazy, can"t do anything right... etc. etc. etc.

And it say: who do you think you are? what is possessing you to think that you can? that you are allowed? that you deserve it?

Just like your parents are or were, or would have been had you dared to rock the boat.

Parental disapproval syndrome. Can"t escape it.

All the worldly successful people had parents that didn"t yell like that. I didn"t. You didn"t. So we need something clever to make this work.

Robert Fritz says that to grow, to change, you need to manage the ego.

Now, let me take a little time to explain: if you look at yourself as a unit, this can"t work. If your habitual way of being is to say me, myself, this isn"t going to work.

You have to see your parts as a team, or it can"t work. Just like a corporation has departments, and leaders, managers, supervisors, and workers.

The ego is the level of supervisor.

Got it? If you don"t get it, read it again... please.

And if you are not in this same predicament, stop reading. Don"t learn "just in case", it will be useless. This article is for those who grew and fell back... not for you if you have a non-starter.

OK, the technique:

The job is to manage the valid fears, the valid needs, of the ego. By validating it, by nurturing the ego, by embracing the fears.

In the beginning it will take time to dig out and unearth what is there. The rabbit hole may go deep.

This is the work we"ll do in the Detached class, hopefully successfully.

It requires a lot of pondering, looking, and a willingness to get naked.

Unless you know exactly what"s there, your nurturing, understanding, validation, will be misdirected. It happens all the time... it"s like a bullet that misses the target... the ego just laughs at you, and sabotages all your desire to move, all your desire to grow.

The elements of what needs to be embraced are a mix of cultural and personal statements. The more you can dig out, the more successful you can become, in spite of your Parental Disapproval Syndrome.

Want to grow? You need to do this work. Deeply, thoroughly, completely.

The successful people who are not happy, grow to the level where the ego allowed them to grow. But wherever they are now, the ego is making them stop, and be miserable.

If you are miserable at 100K, you are definitely going to be miserable at a million dollars.

Unless you become first happy where you are, and then grow from that.

Really, no growth is going to fix your misery.

So while we do the work with the ego... we practice accepting, validating, allowing... the states of being that lead to what you call happy... so growth won"t happen from misery.

When it does, the only thing you grow is your misery.

Also: read this article it is related

https://www.yourvibration.com/36363/the-wall-the-ladder/

More Money Course: Part 5 change, growth need to start below the surface

As you see, every project for change, for growth needs to start below the surface. With the roots.

Why? Because unless you attend to the invisible, the visible can only change temporarily, and then, by law, it will go back to how it was.

It"s a worldwide epidemic to expect results inconsistent with the quality of the roots. A rotted root system cannot bear a healthy tree, whether it is a body, a relationship, a society, a business... it just can"t, but more important than that: it won"t. It is true everywhere. It is nature"s law.

Example: if you want your apple tree bear cherries in May, you can pin cherries up the branches, but regardless, in late August, the apple tree will have apples on it... It is an apple tree after all.

If your root level is "I need..." or "I want..." or "I deserve..." or "I hope, I wish for a miracle..." then your fruits will be consistent with the roots: will produce more of the same.

Examples from two people I know intimately:

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