What can the Nobel Prize winning physicist"s story teach you?

What can the Nobel Prize winning physicist"s story teach you? OR What did Frank Kern learn the hard way?

First, before I get into the story itself, let"s ponder the meaning of teaching so we are on the same page, shall we?

As someone who attempts to teach, let me tell you what it"s like for me: I find a thousand different ways to say, demonstrate, frame what I want to teach. I invent thousand and one stories, I find books that hint on what I want to teach, I sing it, I make it a comedy, make it a tragedy, I make you read, I make practice activating your eye muscles and the related brain areas...

And if I do it long enough with enough enthusiasm, I may get a few people to learn what I teach... but most of the time it is a real uphill battle.

So what I mean to convey: teaching doesn"t equal learning.

For the ones not learning it is all the teacher"s fault... But the poor teacher...

Actually the poor teacher can get really rich because of it.

Here is a great example: Frank Kern has been teaching for about 19 years without anyone really EVER learning what he is teaching.

At first he was raking it in, because the methods he taught didn"t get fully learned by his customers.

They cried bloody murder, and the FCC listened to the accusers, and changed the game for everyone, and took everything away from Kern.

Then he came back, told the story on stage, and started to teach more, but this time saying: he cannot promise because he isn"t allowed to, by the FCC.

People were buying his products like hotcake, yours truly included, and if they were really special, with some personal help from Kern, they produced noteworthy but flash in the pan result.

Flash in the pan results mean: you didn"t learn what was being taught.

If you listen to/watch a Frank Kern video, you may get to the level of understanding. Not all, but a nice number of people do.

Then what happens? You run into snags when you try to do what he teaches you to do.

So you complain... you say he deceived you.

Frank get enough of FCC trouble back when, so he changes his business model, and... gasp: continues teaching, now for free, and takes on a few clients and starts teaches them... and even those big money, successful clients can"t duplicate his teaching... or not quite.

So what he is doing now, if he deems you and your business a good choice for his teaching, he teaches you one thing and monitors your doing or that one thing... and gets paid handsomely for it.

Can all of those clients do what he tells them to do? Hell no... not exactly. Which means not the kinds of results your business can produce.

So he moves one step further from teaching, and creates a do it for you agency... again big freaking bucks... and still some not so great results.

All the while, he gives away his simple sounding advice, for free... without any concern that you"ll get something for nothing.

Now, why is that that he now doesn"t charge for what he used to sell for a lot of money?

So here comes the story of the Nobel price winning physicist who taught at a famous university:

When interviewed he shook his head sadly: it is hard to find any student for my graduate course to whom I can teach to do physics. ((His weeding technique for suitable candidates was this: he would ask them why they were wearing the jacket they were wearing to the interview. Depending on how they answered,  he could gauge their creativity... I often use the same method, and find later that creativity is missing for the person.))

Why? asked the interviewer? Because they learned physics, what they think they know, while I "invented" physics, what I want to teach.

Learning means: you get someone else"s knowledge, and you think you know it.

But when you test it, you cannot build on it, you cannot use it... you can only regurgitate it.

Why? it is second hand knowledge, what is also called Tree of Knowledge.

• 
  

  The first principle is that you must not fool yourself and you are the easiest person to fool.

  
  


• 
  

  What I cannot create, I do not understand.

  
  


• 
  

  For a successful technology, reality must take precedence over public relations, for Nature cannot be fooled.

  
  

The process to make it your own is a creative process, where you make the second hand knowledge your own.

I call it "connecting the dots". Others call it creativity. You can also call it "play".

It depends on opening up "spiritual" capacities in your DNA, capacities like recognizing patterns accurately, and the ability to look widely and see unrelated areas of life in the same glance, so you can see the same pattern in more than the area you first saw it.

And the ability and the willingness to lose your agenda... agenda, any agenda, narrows your cone of vision, narrows your ability to see what is outside of the agenda.

The other thing that it depend on is how much knowledge you have in how many different areas of life, science, industry, art, politics, humanities, etc.

If you don"t have enough, if your world is small, then you won"t have a chance to connect too many dots.

The Nobel Prize winning physicist and I have one thing in common and that is this: when we were young, we both went on vacation with a book that had a companion book with the solutions. Mine was mathematics, his was physics... I guess.

What I cannot create, I do not understand.

And both him and myself spent the whole vacation inventing the solutions to the problems in our book...

It change me, to my core. It changed my attitude forever. From thereon I was never satisfied with explanations, or being shown solutions... I had to invent my own... until I got to marketing.

There I found an impenetrable wall. I found myself without any tools to invent my own solutions...

I found that my world was severely limited by my inability to ask good questions, to create boundaries that make the solutions pop out.

It turns out that this, the ability to limit the view at will, not in its width, not in its depth, but in its "resolution" i.e. its particle size or its relevance is everywhere...

• It"s there when I muscle test for missing nutrients.


• It"s there when I muscle test for the "healing" diet


• It"s there when I want to isolate what sensation in my body would give me answer to the question: what"s going on that I feel this or that?


• And, it"s there when I have no idea how to answer the marketing questions that would enable me to give a direction to my marketing.

I have spent a week, maybe two watching video after video, Frank Kern"s videos, TED talks, being really curious to find some answers why I am such an incompetent fool in marketing.

And yesterday I suddenly saw what Frank Kern does... so now I can put some effort in going from consciously incompetent fool, to consciously competent, and maybe even unconsciously competent with enough practice.

Even if it takes blood, sweat and tears, it is exciting. It is exhilarating, to tell you the truth.

Once you start connecting the dots, the world is your oyster, in that area... the number of dots you can connect... area.

Otherwise your knowledge is like little island nations warring for dominance, all saying that they are the most important to your success in life.

If you are sure, you are an arrogant fool

If you look at the number of TED talks that say: the one thing, the most important piece of knowledge, what you miss... the answer... you can see all the people who don"t have a network of knowledge, who don"t have dots to connect, who live in a small world and ignore the rest... narrow cone of vision, no curiosity, even the Nobel Prize winning speakers... sorry to break it to you.

In my programs I endeavor to take you through the phases to enable you to connect the dots: to acquire the abilities, turn on the spiritual capacities to be able to connect the dots.

But, honestly, I am contemplating abandoning teaching, or making it completely free (and ineffective) and taking on clients for whom I can do, or direct them to do one limited thing and keep an eye on how they do it.

No need to understand... just do it, and rake it in.

While I may keep on some private clients whom I can practice what I can do to turn "human being" on.

What can the Nobel Prize winning physicist"s story teach you?

What can the Nobel Prize winning physicist"s story teach you? OR What did Frank Kern learn the hard way?

First, before I get into the story itself, let"s ponder the meaning of teaching so we are on the same page, shall we?

As someone who attempts to teach, let me tell you what it"s like for me: I find a thousand different ways to say, demonstrate, frame what I want to teach. I invent thousand and one stories, I find books that hint on what I want to teach, I sing it, I make it a comedy, make it a tragedy, I make you read, I make practice activating your eye muscles and the related brain areas...

And if I do it long enough with enough enthusiasm, I may get a few people to learn what I teach... but most of the time it is a real uphill battle.

So what I mean to convey: teaching doesn"t equal learning.

For the ones not learning it is all the teacher"s fault... But the poor teacher...

Actually the poor teacher can get really rich because of it.

Here is a great example: Frank Kern has been teaching for about 19 years without anyone really EVER learning what he is teaching.

At first he was raking it in, because the methods he taught didn"t get fully learned by his customers.

They cried bloody murder, and the FCC listened to the accusers, and changed the game for everyone, and took everything away from Kern.

Then he came back, told the story on stage, and started to teach more, but this time saying: he cannot promise because he isn"t allowed to, by the FCC.

People were buying his products like hotcake, yours truly included, and if they were really special, with some personal help from Kern, they produced noteworthy but flash in the pan result.

Flash in the pan results mean: you didn"t learn what was being taught.

If you listen to/watch a Frank Kern video, you may get to the level of understanding. Not all, but a nice number of people do.

Then what happens? You run into snags when you try to do what he teaches you to do.

So you complain... you say he deceived you.

Frank get enough of FCC trouble back when, so he changes his business model, and... gasp: continues teaching, now for free, and takes on a few clients and starts teaches them... and even those big money, successful clients can"t duplicate his teaching... or not quite.

So what he is doing now, if he deems you and your business a good choice for his teaching, he teaches you one thing and monitors your doing or that one thing... and gets paid handsomely for it.

Can all of those clients do what he tells them to do? Hell no... not exactly. Which means not the kinds of results your business can produce.

So he moves one step further from teaching, and creates a do it for you agency... again big freaking bucks... and still some not so great results.

All the while, he gives away his simple sounding advice, for free... without any concern that you"ll get something for nothing.

Now, why is that that he now doesn"t charge for what he used to sell for a lot of money?

So here comes the story of the Nobel price winning physicist who taught at a famous university:

When interviewed he shook his head sadly: it is hard to find any student for my graduate course to whom I can teach to do physics. ((His weeding technique for suitable candidates was this: he would ask them why they were wearing the jacket they were wearing to the interview. Depending on how they answered,  he could gauge their creativity... I often use the same method, and find later that creativity is missing for the person.))

Why? asked the interviewer? Because they learned physics, what they think they know, while I "invented" physics, what I want to teach.

Learning means: you get someone else"s knowledge, and you think you know it.

But when you test it, you cannot build on it, you cannot use it... you can only regurgitate it.

Why? it is second hand knowledge, what is also called Tree of Knowledge.

• 
  

  The first principle is that you must not fool yourself and you are the easiest person to fool.

  
  


• 
  

  What I cannot create, I do not understand.

  
  


• 
  

  For a successful technology, reality must take precedence over public relations, for Nature cannot be fooled.

  
  

The process to make it your own is a creative process, where you make the second hand knowledge your own.

I call it "connecting the dots". Others call it creativity. You can also call it "play".

It depends on opening up "spiritual" capacities in your DNA, capacities like recognizing patterns accurately, and the ability to look widely and see unrelated areas of life in the same glance, so you can see the same pattern in more than the area you first saw it.

And the ability and the willingness to lose your agenda... agenda, any agenda, narrows your cone of vision, narrows your ability to see what is outside of the agenda.

The other thing that it depend on is how much knowledge you have in how many different areas of life, science, industry, art, politics, humanities, etc.

If you don"t have enough, if your world is small, then you won"t have a chance to connect too many dots.

The Nobel Prize winning physicist and I have one thing in common and that is this: when we were young, we both went on vacation with a book that had a companion book with the solutions. Mine was mathematics, his was physics... I guess.

What I cannot create, I do not understand.

And both him and myself spent the whole vacation inventing the solutions to the problems in our book...

It change me, to my core. It changed my attitude forever. From thereon I was never satisfied with explanations, or being shown solutions... I had to invent my own... until I got to marketing.

There I found an impenetrable wall. I found myself without any tools to invent my own solutions...

I found that my world was severely limited by my inability to ask good questions, to create boundaries that make the solutions pop out.

It turns out that this, the ability to limit the view at will, not in its width, not in its depth, but in its "resolution" i.e. its particle size or its relevance is everywhere...

• It"s there when I muscle test for missing nutrients.


• It"s there when I muscle test for the "healing" diet


• It"s there when I want to isolate what sensation in my body would give me answer to the question: what"s going on that I feel this or that?


• And, it"s there when I have no idea how to answer the marketing questions that would enable me to give a direction to my marketing.

I have spent a week, maybe two watching video after video, Frank Kern"s videos, TED talks, being really curious to find some answers why I am such an incompetent fool in marketing.

And yesterday I suddenly saw what Frank Kern does... so now I can put some effort in going from consciously incompetent fool, to consciously competent, and maybe even unconsciously competent with enough practice.

Even if it takes blood, sweat and tears, it is exciting. It is exhilarating, to tell you the truth.

Once you start connecting the dots, the world is your oyster, in that area... the number of dots you can connect... area.

Otherwise your knowledge is like little island nations warring for dominance, all saying that they are the most important to your success in life.

If you are sure, you are an arrogant fool

If you look at the number of TED talks that say: the one thing, the most important piece of knowledge, what you miss... the answer... you can see all the people who don"t have a network of knowledge, who don"t have dots to connect, who live in a small world and ignore the rest... narrow cone of vision, no curiosity, even the Nobel Prize winning speakers... sorry to break it to you.

In my programs I endeavor to take you through the phases to enable you to connect the dots: to acquire the abilities, turn on the spiritual capacities to be able to connect the dots.

But, honestly, I am contemplating abandoning teaching, or making it completely free (and ineffective) and taking on clients for whom I can do, or direct them to do one limited thing and keep an eye on how they do it.

No need to understand... just do it, and rake it in.

While I may keep on some private clients whom I can practice what I can do to turn "human being" on.

Intuitive, counter-intuitive... how we use "intuition" to make everything worse

What we call intuition isn"t... but WHAT do we call intuition?

The state of the current humanity is chaos. Everyone has an opinion, just like everyone has an a-hole.

So far so good, Sophie... you groan. But from this, honoring one"s opinion as important, comes the mischief: everyone insists that their version of reality... aka their opinion, is the real reality. ((Your "intuitive" actions will be a conclusion of some mental process, that is most likely based on some certainty that is wrong, sometimes dead wrong, rendering you, your projects, the planet dead.))

Same way about what words mean... words like intuition.

There are courses on awakening your intuition that completely ignore the fact that you"ll have your individual, unique opinion about reality, and that will be your source of "intuition", not something independent of it... coming from the unknown unknown... what I call the "divine".

In the famous pie chart of all possible knowledge you, personally, have a slice of things that you know that you know, and an equal size of things you know that you don"t know. The size of that slice is the size of your possible curiosity for knowledge.

That leaves the rest of the pie, the unknown unknowns... That is accessed only by curiosity. This is the territory of the "divine" where all "miracles" come from. Unexpected benefits... and unexpected trouble.

The size of your curiosity is limited by the size of your knowledge, or more strictly speaking, the size of the area that you know that you don"t know that you see that you could learn... and benefit from.

It is a very interesting fact that thus far I haven"t met a student/client who knew much of anything about digestion, and therefore they don"t have any desire, any curiosity to learn about it.

So when they pay me to set them up on a path to better health, they consider everything as my good idea, they don"t EVER consider that I know something that they could know as well... no desire to know.

When something doesn"t work the way you think it should, your money situation, "manifesting", your health, your diet, your relationship, your children, there is something that you don"t know. But... but you don"t know that you don"t know it.

So you don"t know to ask questions, you don"t know to crack a book open, you don"t know to get curious, because you don"t know enough of the topic to know that you don"t know.

So you are left to play in the small sandbox that is defined by your knowledge, as if it were everything that could be known, and, by definition, your results are going to be little or not much.

If you read, or watch science movies, you may encounter information that you can say "I didn"t know that!" and if you do that a lot, then you"ll expand the size of what you know you know and also the size of what you know you don"t know. what you don"t expect is that you have now expanded the size of your curiosity: your god-given tool to become more effective in life, to do better.

When I muscle test how many people read regularly books that open up their world, watch stuff that open up their world, I get a very small number.
The number of people who read and watch stuff that merely entertains, excites, is a lot higher. They do not get curious because they learned nothing from what they consumed.

Same with conversation with others, reading the newspaper, sports, politics, Facebook, Instagram, texting. They allow you to fill your time, satisfy your diversion seeking idle curiosity, but do not expand your knowledge and do not expand your world.

Ultimately they do not increase your ability to succeed in life.

As you can see, I have returned to writing my article, even though my wrist still hurts like hell.

Why? You liked my audios!

Yes. But you consumed my audios like you consume candy: goes down effortlessly, and goes out on the other and fast.

All learning involves effort. Why? Because all learning involves a new vocabulary AND a different way of looking at things than you want to look, you like to look, you intuitively look.

Audio goes faster than your brain can adjust, so it gives you an illusion of learning, but it isn"t.

Your mind is like the dog that grabs onto a bone and runs away with it, not seeing, not hearing anything more after the bone.

The mind takes what it heard, takes it back into the little box, and there you go... nothing will change, nothing CAN change, because only consciousness can change things, and consciousness didn"t get a chance to see and digest the new knowledge.

The TED talk I watched yesterday about our complete lack of knowledge what causes our planet to fast become a desert was a great teaching experience.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpTHi7O66pI

2.4 million people have watched it before me. My guess is: none of them were in the position to change anything, what made them watch it is idle curiosity, diversive curiosity. ((quoting from Jack Malcolm"s article
curiosity is not all good. While it may not kill you, it can certainly kill your productivity. The form of curiosity that fills your otherwise productive time is diversive curiosity, and unfortunately it’s probably the most common. It’s what attracts us to novelty; it’s shallow and strives for instant gratification. Unlike epistemic curiosity, diversive curiosity controls you. As Leslie tells us, imagine what you would tell someone from fifty years ago about the future:

“I possess a device, in my pocket, that is capable of accessing the entirety of information known to man. I use it to look at pictures of cats and get into arguments with strangers.”

It doesn"t have to be that way. The internet can make you smarter or dumber, depending on how you use it. Be careful what you put in your mind. Just as you are what you eat; you are what you read.))

But the scientists, the farmers, the biologists didn"t watch it, with maybe the exception of Joel Salatin, who was already doing it (I think).

You don"t make more money because you"ll watch it, won"t be more effective with your children, won"t get healthier because you watch it, unless you look beyond the subject matter, and look at your own life and start seeing how you desertified your life, how most of your brain now can"t be used for anything.

If your solution to being ineffective in life, to hating work, effort, and escaping into fun, cleaning the house... again, fixing stuff, or other non-brain intensive activity, you have the most to gain from watching that TED talk.

Your mistakes in thinking have been making you less and less able to grow, and making you less and less able to enjoy life... making your life and your brain effectively a desert.

In my programs you have a chance to reverse that, just like re-introducing herd animals reverses the desertification on the land.

You are asked to do what is unpleasant, effortful, reading, having conversations with your partner where you feel you are not up to par with the other person, or are forced to think. In the 67 step coaching you are forced to find the principle in the step and let me know what you found. It"s a b-i-t-c-h!

If you are not willing to do it, I"ll let you go. If you come back and still are unwilling to do what is asked of you... I"ll let you go again.

If you can see yourself in this article, whether you are a student of mine or not, you may see that you need an outside force to keep your nose to the grindstone: will power won"t be enough.

So you"ll go out and look for structures that have the chance to help you through the year-long difficult part, until you can, maybe, trust yourself to continue on your own motive power.

I offer several structures, the 67 steps coaching, the accountability partnerships, the Playground, and private coaching coupled with a less intense program.

Every person is able... but not every person is willing.

The most effective element is the peer-to-peer support, by the way. It"s synergistic and causes flying much faster than any other form of support. And, of course, reading.

If the books you read each manage to land a few pieces of knowledge, each causes you to become a tiny bit more ready to connect the dots, to allow consciousness to see what knowledge you can start to get curious about.

Consciousness, I said. Not your so-called intuition that just wants you to continue doing the ineffective things the exact same way you have been doing it.

The most frequent "how" of staying in the little box is impulsiveness... having a good idea and acting on it.

Your good idea has no chance to succeed because it is an escape valve: a way for you do avoid the nose-grind.

The second most frequent how of staying in your little desert is chit-chat, wanting to do what comes easy, not what is asked of you. Most women have that how, and some men.

This is why I have a separate playground for men and women, how I change the pairing when I do, to avoid the "how" to take over.

Pairing, partnering, is to cause synergy, not to have fun. No effort, no synergy. Bummer, eh?

Summary: your intuition, what you think your intuition is, keeps you in your small desert, and unhappy.

Your small life is the result of the small knowledge you have.

The only way to gain new and useful knowledge is through effort: an investment of time and attention over time.

Without a structure that forces you to put in the effort, you won"t put in the effort consistently and you will have wasted all the work you have done... it is like a little rain here and there won"t make an arid area lush. A cow grazing here and there won"t poop and trample the "brain" enough to fertility. (if you didn"t watch the TED talk, this last sentence won"t make sense!)

You need to catch your tendency to want to avoid effort... and have a partner, a class, a teacher to catch you.

The more time you spend with people who don"t grow, the less you"ll grow... and most likely you"ll grow backwards... I have proof positive that this is exactly what happens. ((The tree in the picture is what inspired my new name. On a car trip through the Negev desert I fell in love with that solitary tree that generously gives of itself to all comers-by, without losing anything. Shitta is the Hebrew name for that tree.))

A year of intense effort can make up for the time you wasted in school. Every interruption restarts the clock. Every wedding you attend, every family gathering has 90% chance to cause an interruption.

It"s your life... learn to protect it.

You want lush... You want to be Joel Salatin who tap dances to work. Don"t you?

If this article and this method talks to you, I may want to talk to you too.

If you have recently got your starting point measurements, just email me and we can schedule a call to see how I can help you. This is not a sales call.

If you haven"t had your starting point measurements, or it"s old, then the way to get a call with me is offered as an option when you buy your starting point measurements.

Why you are not, in fact cannot be curious? Are you screwed now?

I have decided to re-read the Feelings book, and this time make it a study, memorize the names of the different needs, take a more earnest approach to learning the "language" of the machine that is need-based.

I am feeling a mix of fear and excitement. where? in my stomach, expanding to my chest.

My plan is to read/study the book is to study it at the beginning of my evening reading session for about 10 minutes, and then switch to my "other" book... whatever book I am reading in the evening at the time... currently it is "Curious" by Ian Leslie.

I am reading Curious for the second time, and this time it is, given the chance, going to change something in me and consequently in how I teach, how i guide, and what I expect YOU to do.



I am not a Bible reader, in spite of the fact that there are a lot of "before its time" brilliant sayings in the bible.

One of them is a principle, timeless, portable, and scary as hell: Matthew 13:12

For whosoever hath, to him shall be given, and he shall have more abundance: but whosoever hath not, from him shall be taken away even that he hath.

These dudes who supposedly scribed (transcribed) the gospels - I say scribed because the gospels, supposedly, were the written notes of the disciples... what the disciples heard Jesus say... Judging from what my students hear me say, if there was a Jesus, and if he said things, the likelihood that he said those exact things is between zero and none. Why? because Jesus picked uneducated people to teach, and they had no foundation, no framework, no education, no vocabulary to hang the smart things Jesus said...

This is, by the way, how you know that the gospels were written hundreds of years later by well-read well-educated church people... and not the not-educated disciples. But there is wisdom there, and I don"t want to argue that.

According to Osho, the most wisdom is in Matthew"s stuff... and this principle is from there.

In the context I am looking at that principle, in the context that I am asking you to hear that principle is curiosity... your fitness to live a life you can love.

If you have no knowledge, some knowledge, in a certain are, you cannot be curious about it, you"ll have nothing to sustain your curiosity. In my humble opinion, bedtime stories may be the best foundation of "some knowledge". And id you observe, children watch the same cartoon a hundred time, if you let them. They know something that you don"t: repetition is the mother of ALL learning.

What does curiosity have to do with a life you can love? Everything.

The human machine, the machine that is best studied by an engineer who, supposedly and by definition understands machines.

The author of the Feelings book, Margoczi, is a Hungarian engineer, who studied engineering in Russia, in Russian, by the way, and the truth value of the Feelings book is 60%. Very very very high.

For shits and giggles... Margoczi is also a business owner, and he is not good at it.

Why? because he hasn"t carried over his knowledge to the area of marketing.

He and I are similarly educated, and have made the same mistake... with the difference that for me, reading the Curious book by Ian Leslie, put a BIG FINGER on the problem:

no matter how much I read or study about marketing, my head behaves like a sieve... none of the knowledge sticks.

I have no foundation, no network of knowledge, no latticework to hold the information with in the area of marketing (substitute your area of ignorance here!). ((

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ShJqSoUdUGI

Here is a metaphor of how this works, or why you can"t hold onto information, unless you already have some... a metaphor from nature: if you drop seeds on ground that hasn"t been cultivated, prepared, loosened, the seeds may germinate, but never become plants, because the roots cannot penetrate, cannot hold onto the uncultivated soil. Same in the desert. There are some videos on Youtube that show that you can turn deserts into oasis by creating some foundation that allows the seeds to grow into plants.

So how do you build a foundation if you are 71 years old (substitute your age here).

Ian Leslie says (and I say! judging from my experience with new and older students) that learning the vocabulary, the exact words an area uses is going to build a latticework.

So I have started... I watched a 40 minute teaching webinar by Frank Kern, and took notes. And now I am going to consider it a language learning course... it will take as long as it takes...

One of my students has done this in the area of context...

When she shared with others that her invented context for the Playground is that it is a PhD course that takes a year or two, the other students weren"t getting it. They lack the vocabulary of context... and the vocabulary of word-to-world cognitive reality creating knowledge.

So for them it was just noise coming out of that student"s mouth. Or looked at in another way: she dropped the seeds on desert sand... The sand is not able to receive the seeds and sustain them.

And not surprisingly, the more ignorant students like to hang out together and chit-chat, where everything makes sense, where they know every word.

One of the benefits of transcribing my audio-articles is to struggle against the mind"s inclination to change the words to words you already know... instead of typing the word I say.

I sound like an alien until you learn the vocabulary.

Margoczi sounds doubly like an alien... one reading is not enough... so even though I have two engineering degrees, I am going to study it, like a foreign language, until I get fluent with it.

Am I going to suggest to Margoczi that he should learn the vocabulary of marketing? I don"t think he would be open to it... but I might risk it.

Until someone discovers their own ignorance, themselves, they deny it, or they consider it OK... either way, they kill the messenger (treat the bearer of bad news as if they were to blame for it.)

Every time I mention ignorance in the title of my articles, people don"t want to read it...

But the art of the curious is that they are ready and willing to recognize and feel the lack of knowledge, their ignorance, and they behave like their machine is programmed, the human machine, seeking to fill the void by seeking information.

If you read the book Feelings, you"ll get the aberrant behavior of wanting to ignore the inner and natural need to know what area of life you need more information and knowledge.

This is what I call, by the way, intelligence... OK, now you can kill me... lol

PS: this video shows best how even the little you have is taken away if you don"y add to it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cl0OYNgjqqY

Why you are not, in fact cannot be curious? Are you screwed now?

I have decided to re-read the Feelings book, and this time make it a study, memorize the names of the different needs, take a more earnest approach to learning the "language" of the machine that is need-based.

I am feeling a mix of fear and excitement. where? in my stomach, expanding to my chest.

My plan is to read/study the book is to study it at the beginning of my evening reading session for about 10 minutes, and then switch to my "other" book... whatever book I am reading in the evening at the time... currently it is "Curious" by Ian Leslie.

I am reading Curious for the second time, and this time it is, given the chance, going to change something in me and consequently in how I teach, how i guide, and what I expect YOU to do.



I am not a Bible reader, in spite of the fact that there are a lot of "before its time" brilliant sayings in the bible.

One of them is a principle, timeless, portable, and scary as hell: Matthew 13:12

For whosoever hath, to him shall be given, and he shall have more abundance: but whosoever hath not, from him shall be taken away even that he hath.

These dudes who supposedly scribed (transcribed) the gospels - I say scribed because the gospels, supposedly, were the written notes of the disciples... what the disciples heard Jesus say... Judging from what my students hear me say, if there was a Jesus, and if he said things, the likelihood that he said those exact things is between zero and none. Why? because Jesus picked uneducated people to teach, and they had no foundation, no framework, no education, no vocabulary to hang the smart things Jesus said...

This is, by the way, how you know that the gospels were written hundreds of years later by well-read well-educated church people... and not the not-educated disciples. But there is wisdom there, and I don"t want to argue that.

According to Osho, the most wisdom is in Matthew"s stuff... and this principle is from there.

In the context I am looking at that principle, in the context that I am asking you to hear that principle is curiosity... your fitness to live a life you can love.

If you have no knowledge, some knowledge, in a certain are, you cannot be curious about it, you"ll have nothing to sustain your curiosity. In my humble opinion, bedtime stories may be the best foundation of "some knowledge". And id you observe, children watch the same cartoon a hundred time, if you let them. They know something that you don"t: repetition is the mother of ALL learning.

What does curiosity have to do with a life you can love? Everything.

The human machine, the machine that is best studied by an engineer who, supposedly and by definition understands machines.

The author of the Feelings book, Margoczi, is a Hungarian engineer, who studied engineering in Russia, in Russian, by the way, and the truth value of the Feelings book is 60%. Very very very high.

For shits and giggles... Margoczi is also a business owner, and he is not good at it.

Why? because he hasn"t carried over his knowledge to the area of marketing.

He and I are similarly educated, and have made the same mistake... with the difference that for me, reading the Curious book by Ian Leslie, put a BIG FINGER on the problem:

no matter how much I read or study about marketing, my head behaves like a sieve... none of the knowledge sticks.

I have no foundation, no network of knowledge, no latticework to hold the information with in the area of marketing (substitute your area of ignorance here!). ((

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ShJqSoUdUGI

Here is a metaphor of how this works, or why you can"t hold onto information, unless you already have some... a metaphor from nature: if you drop seeds on ground that hasn"t been cultivated, prepared, loosened, the seeds may germinate, but never become plants, because the roots cannot penetrate, cannot hold onto the uncultivated soil. Same in the desert. There are some videos on Youtube that show that you can turn deserts into oasis by creating some foundation that allows the seeds to grow into plants.

So how do you build a foundation if you are 71 years old (substitute your age here).

Ian Leslie says (and I say! judging from my experience with new and older students) that learning the vocabulary, the exact words an area uses is going to build a latticework.

So I have started... I watched a 40 minute teaching webinar by Frank Kern, and took notes. And now I am going to consider it a language learning course... it will take as long as it takes...

One of my students has done this in the area of context...

When she shared with others that her invented context for the Playground is that it is a PhD course that takes a year or two, the other students weren"t getting it. They lack the vocabulary of context... and the vocabulary of word-to-world cognitive reality creating knowledge.

So for them it was just noise coming out of that student"s mouth. Or looked at in another way: she dropped the seeds on desert sand... The sand is not able to receive the seeds and sustain them.

And not surprisingly, the more ignorant students like to hang out together and chit-chat, where everything makes sense, where they know every word.

One of the benefits of transcribing my audio-articles is to struggle against the mind"s inclination to change the words to words you already know... instead of typing the word I say.

I sound like an alien until you learn the vocabulary.

Margoczi sounds doubly like an alien... one reading is not enough... so even though I have two engineering degrees, I am going to study it, like a foreign language, until I get fluent with it.

Am I going to suggest to Margoczi that he should learn the vocabulary of marketing? I don"t think he would be open to it... but I might risk it.

Until someone discovers their own ignorance, themselves, they deny it, or they consider it OK... either way, they kill the messenger (treat the bearer of bad news as if they were to blame for it.)

Every time I mention ignorance in the title of my articles, people don"t want to read it...

But the art of the curious is that they are ready and willing to recognize and feel the lack of knowledge, their ignorance, and they behave like their machine is programmed, the human machine, seeking to fill the void by seeking information.

If you read the book Feelings, you"ll get the aberrant behavior of wanting to ignore the inner and natural need to know what area of life you need more information and knowledge.

This is what I call, by the way, intelligence... OK, now you can kill me... lol

PS: this video shows best how even the little you have is taken away if you don"y add to it.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cl0OYNgjqqY

Predatory genes revisited

My notes: predatory genes: 8
psychopathy is more than just predatory genes.

Putin and Trump have both 8 predatory genes, while Putin is NOT a psychopath.

research, science is often guessing

certain cultures higher number of predatory genes

exceptionally beautiful Russian and Ukrainian women

having 8 predatory genes open doesn"t make you a psychopath, but you"ll have a tough time to have empathy

difference between an empath and empathy... I am both a true empath and a clairsensar (sp?)

I am a sympathetic cryer, my brother is a sympathetic laugher.
I listened to a Louis CK show yesterday and could pick out the sympathetic laughers...

The four questions...

Humility is the opposite of my soul correction: Forget Thyself.

Every single human, whether they admit it or not, feel above average, and smarter than most everyone... and Forget Thyself is the worst.

It is a daily practice of mine to make myself a learning machine... learn from everyone, including my students.

Humility... it"s actually very hard... you need to give credit where credit is due, and every time, it"s human nature, you experience the marker feelings that come along with comparison: someone is better than me... therefore I must be no good.

And to maintain self-confidence at the same time... really requires the mastery the Playground program promises.

So as an exercise in humility I borrowed an exercise one of my students invented for himself: asking questions to see if there are problems for his clients he can solve... beyond what he is already solving. He is a CPA... an accountant for small businesses in Sweden.

If you are on my mailing list you have gotten the questions. A lot of people have responded. I was surprised. There was something about how the questions are worded that resonated with people.

In coaching the first step is to get to clarity where someone is... but getting there is tricky, because depending on how the question is asked, people don"t want to look, or people want to look good and lie.

I still haven"t cracked the mystery why people responded better to my student"s question that when I ask them seemingly the same questions...

But the diversity of the answers surprised me. Even students whom I thought I knew well, managed to surprise me.

Want to surprise me and help me at the same time?

Here are the questions I have been asking people, and i would appreciate if you took the time to answer for me sophie at yourvibration.com

1- In the past year, what has been your most recurring problem?
2- How have you tried to solve the problem?
3- What can happen if you don’t solve the problem?
4- If you could use a magic wand how would you solve the problem?

When I look at my life, I notice that I can come up with top of mind answers, but when I muscle test them, Source says: no.

So I am forced to play Source"s favorite game: narrowing down the field, so I don"t do the shotgun method.

Health? no Money? no Relationships? no Aging? Dark Side? no Where I live? no Impact? bingo.

Your most recurring problem is, probably, not the first problem you thought of... definitely not the first ten problems I thought of.

I read an article the other day that in the near future you"ll be able to upload all your knowledge to the cloud, or wherever, and it will be available for future generations. So even if the current generation cannot hear you, cannot appreciate you, you"ll be getting your "due" regard from future generations.

But... a crucial but.

Is, what I have to say, really important? Am I doing justice to it by making it available today to the people who can use it, benefit from it? Run with it?

Or am I playing small... and ultimately die without impact.

Most people, parents, leave their impact on humanity in the form of their children... and I am hearing that the next generation is not very keen to delight their parent... to put it mildly.

• I have a few young people in my courses, and I can feel that their parents feel disappointed.


• And I have parents, who are afraid.

This, fear that the offspring won"t do well in life, is a timeless concept... My parents were afraid that I would not do well. My mother was sure... my father had some faith... lol.

Believe it or not, the future depends on you...

According to scientists and researchers, when you become present to your mortality, what gnaws at you most is the issues of self-actualization... whether you have been expressing your creativity, questing for spiritual enlightenment, pursuing knowledge, giving to and/or positively transforming society, while fulfilling your need to be good, to be fully alive and to find meaning in life.

And even if you are stuck in survival, stuck in the day to day struggle to provide for yourself and your family... what causes the most sense of missing out on life, are the self-actualization issues that you don"t seem to give time and energy now.

I share your pain... I was in the daily struggle for decades until I reshuffled my priorities and stood Maslow hierarchy of needs pyramid on its head... and pretty much lower the priority of the normally the more urgent needs, physiological, safety, belonging needs, even the self-esteem needs and cultivating nearly exclusively the self-actualization needs, and attending to "lower" needs only when they block or hinder self-actualization.

Totally ass-backward, as far as society is concerned. Stopping to live for society"s standards took getting off the hamster wheel... takes courage and a level of insolence... demonstrating and practicing a lack of respect for other people"s rules of living that keep them in the chicken coop (or crab bucket) and want you back in there, with them... because misery loves company.

I have observed that a segment of the population dresses really nicely, drive new cars, but takes lunch at the senior almost free lunch center... feeling deep contempt for me... who am not living like them. They don"t have eyes or ears or esteem for knowledge, for thinking, for anything other than what is visible...

It is rare that you have any time and any energy for what is most important to you... when you take the deathbed perspective: what you"ll regret on your deathbed or approaching it.

Will you say: I wore nice clothes, I drove nice cars, or will you say: I regret not having made an impact?

PS: Society wants you to be stuck on the lowest three levels of Maslow"s pyramid... and they are especially emphasize relationships... the exact relationships that prevented you from live a life of full self-expression, live a life of fully being you.

Billions of webpages spew that low vibration truism at you, keeping you bonded to what others want you to be. Ugh... ugly.

Predatory genes

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If it looks easy, and yet...

What comes after the dot dot dot?

You cannot even repeat the sentence...
You cannot do what it explained to do...
It doesn"t do what you were told it would do...

It happens all the time... and it leaves you puzzled, dumbfounded...

If that is you, you MAY belong here. MAY...

If it leaves you saying that the person who spoke was a butthole, or something like that... that they lied, that they are this and that, you don"t belong here.

Puzzled, dumbfounded, confounded are a sign that you got present to the gap in YOUR knowledge, and MAY consider upgrading YOUR knowledge to catch up... the seed of epistemic curiosity.

Without curiosity you don"t belong her. CURIOSITY is like hunger. It is like an aching. and it isn"t satisfied with junk... a quick answer... a quick resolution. To satisfy epistemic curiosity, the hunger for knowledge, you actually need to work at it... it cannot be given to you, it cannot be done for you.

It is a character issue... I say. Ugh... you didn"t want to hear it? lol

If it looks easy and yet...

Check out this podcast episode!

What can a one-track pony teach you about yourself?

I have been, I am just noticing, making myself miserable.

What got me out of that direction down to desperation, ultimately, a Carlos Castaneda (( Carlos Castaneda vibration: 200, truth value:10% )) quote:

The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same

But, not so obviously, what Carlos Castaneda may be suggesting is that you practice positive thinking, which is a thoughtless practice... makes you really one-track minded.

So what can I do?

First, I need to get, again, that there is never anything wrong in reality. So if I notice something that makes me miserable, feel bad, etc. I have some words coupled with what is happening.

The words come as an interpretation of what is happening, and 70% of the time it is wrong... wrong, as in not accurate.

Every interpretation is, at best, a close shot.

Reality: collective hunch at best.

And if that is so, I have a lot of leeway to look at what"s happening, without an already always interpretation, so I can see what else could be happening.

The thing I was driving myself into despair was about the not enough response to my articles, and to my offers.

• People don"t like me.


• I am too strong.


• My offer is too strong.


• I want a commitment too fast.


• I have to change.


• I have to earn a living some other way...

...all struggling to dominate my day. All inside: there is something wrong with me... and I have to fix it.

Not fun.

Now, looking through the Carlos Castaneda quote... I can look to see aspects, interpretations that shed a whole different light on what"s going on.

I decide to look where it is invisible to me... outside of where I have looked before.

I decide to investigate why it is that people want what I promise, the end result, and yet they are unwilling to put themselves into the seats and do the work that is required.

I explore this question and look deep into it in my podcast audio on this post.

 

PS: epistemic curiosity is a hunger for knowledge, not an craving for answers, cheap tricks, easy parlor games, etc. aka CHEAP CLOSURE NOW!

PPS: Einstein"s Genius Linked to Well-Connected Brain Hemispheres

The right and left hemispheres of Einstein"s brain were uniquely well-connected.

The part of the brain that connects the two hemispheres of the brain is called the corpus callosum. It contains a bundle of neuronal fibers found in humans and other higher order mammals that allow the two hemispheres to talk to one another.Oct 5, 2013

and here is a little controversy: I don"t find this to be true. My female students struggle to fill 30 minutes of conversation if they are told to not just chit-chat, while my male clients can easily fill an hour with meaningful conversation... Maybe the "facts" on this diagram were true at age 2-3-4... but they are definitely not the truth about men and women, in general. Definitely not true about my visitors and my clients.

What can you learn from a one-track pony?

I have been, I am just noticing, making myself miserable.

What got me out of that direction down to desperation, ultimately, a Carlos Castaneda quote: The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same

But, not so obviously, Carlos Castaneda is suggesting that you practice positive thinking, which is a thoughtless practice.

So what can you do?

First, I need to get, again, that there is never anything wrong in reality. So if I notice something that makes me miserable, feel bad, etc. I have some words coupled with what is happening.

The words come as an interpretation of what is happening, and 70% of the time it is wrong... wrong, as in not accurate.

Every interpretation is, at best, appropriate.

Reality: collective hunch at best.

And if that is so, I have a lot of leeway to look at what's happening, without an already always interpretation, so I can see what else could be happening.

The thing I was driving myself into despair was about the not enough response to my articles, and to my offers.

• People don't like me.
• I am too strong.
• My offer is too strong.
• I want a commitment too fast.
• I have to change.
• I have to earn a living some other way...

...all struggling to dominate my day. All inside: there is something wrong with me... and I have to fix it.

Not fun.

Now, looking through the Carlos Castaneda quote... I can look to see aspects, interpretations that shed a whole different light on what's going on.

I decide to look where it is invisible to me... outside of where I have looked before.

I decide to investigate why it is that people want what I promise, the end result, and yet they are unwilling to put themselves into the seats and do the work that is required.

I explore this question and look deep into it in my podcast audio on this post.

Check out this podcast episode!

Do you recognize caring?

Do you recognize caring?

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If you find yourself falling back to where you started...

Like any mad scientist, I always keep looking to move closer to the horizon that recedes as I am getting closer to it. It seems I am almost there...

But... there is always some boulder is blocking my way.

So what do you do with that boulder in your way?

My answer is quite counter-cultural. I say: you have that boulder there because you need to get familiar, maybe even intimate with it so it will let you continue on your path.



The culturally, politically correct answer is that it shouldn"t be there... and it needs to be "fixed".

This results in the politically correct folks, with a high regard for memes, to stop, weep, try to go around it... but NEVER addressing it, never facing it.

And if it is visible to me, then it is my problem... lol... not that funny, really.

So I have been dealing with an issue: my students, some of my students being blocked, stopped, on the verge of despair.

I trust my guidance system. I do a search, in images, for what I know should be there, and more often than not, google gives me something that can start a new rabbit hole for me to explore.

I am in the big rabbit hole of curiosity, or incuriosity... how to use curiosity to propel you forward. But, it seems, incuriosity may have a root in a side-tunnel... and it seems that my stopped students share a piece of their story: lack of a mother, lack of a supportive mother.

I didn"t have a supportive mother. I am incapable to form a supportive, trusting, intimate relationship with anyone.

I listened to a long webinar with a practitioner, who specializes in helping people with eating disorder. She says these women chose food to be intimate with me, they use sugar to soothe their anxiety, fears, loneliness, depression.

I can see some of that on myself... even though I managed, most of my life, to live as a thin person, the rest as a not so thin person. I just calculated: 30 years thin, 40 years on the chubby side.

I turned to milk more often than sugar... milk was my "mother". Hm. My comfort. And my undoing. Milk, A1 milk is really a killer. Like my actual mother... hm.

Anyway, this woman practitioner, Karly, teaches women to get conscious that they use food as a crutch, when they need support and intimacy.

I have been listening in on my students private conversations... they give me the recording, so I am not invading their privacy, and I am starting to see that my female students were more likely to be affected by the lack of mother-support, and they get depressed, distraught, turn on themselves at the drop of a hat.

And, of course, I am not a mother figure... as I am listening to Karly, she has a soothing mother voice... she learned it, practiced it, mastered it.

In the Playground we deal with things that happen... and what you say about them.

They happened in the past... and seem to be happening again and again... because you never dealt with them.

In the Playground we use a simple and profound method to take them apart, put them under the looking glass, and see how saying the same things about them keeps them the same... keeps us the same, keeps our results the same.

Before you can say something different, you need to know, accurately, what you have been saying. Own it. Own it... that it is not the truth, it is what you said.

When my mother said, when I was just shy of two years old: "You are too heavy..." and left me in the street, I felt like worthless, throwaway, a disappointment.

When my mother said "you are a wh*re" two years later, I finally felt disgusting, dirty, unworthy, and profoundly alone. I still do.

Something happened in your world... and you created your life around it. It is dysfunctional, there is no avoiding the fact that your reaction to slight, hurt, neglect, is always dysfunctional.

Whether you chose to fit in in spite of your conviction that you don"t fit in... your behavior is dysfunctional.

Whether you chose to be the happy kid in spite of the heartache of feeling not wanted... your behavior is dysfunctional.

Whether you chose to withdraw and become a hermit, whether you chose to be nice, whether you chose to become studious, brilliant, or play computer games... your behavior is dysfunctional.

In one of Tai"s 67 steps he says: "Make your mess your message. Every bit of adversity, every challenge you encounter is your mess… turn this into your message."

This woman, Karly did just that.

I am really messed up... I teach, and have been teaching what I need to learn.

There is no coasting, no "happy ever after" for the wounded 10%. Unfortunately.

Your life, unless you are mindful, will be the life of Sisyphus ((He was punished for his self-aggrandizing craftiness and deceitfulness by being forced to roll an immense boulder up a hill only for it to roll down when it nears the top, repeating this action for eternity. Through the classical influence on modern culture, tasks that are both laborious and futile are therefore described as Sisyphean.

When I look at the dysfunctional behavior us, the 10% invented to fix our pain and lack, I see that more importantly, the behavior is not useful, not productive, because it was invented by a child. So right after we confront the incident, we may, if you are willing, invent productive behaviors that won"t be like a two-edged sword: hurt you as you attempt to do whatever you attempted to begin with. Productive behaviors that aren"t hurting you, but support you.

In my programs we learn and practice new behaviors.

For example, my current new behavior: habit stacking exercise with making a hot beverage. while the beverage is heating up... I do squats, or tiptoe, or lift weights... instead of what I used to do: forget what I am doing and burn my stuff.))... you"ll alway get back to where you started: in misery.

I wish I could say something more comforting, but I would be lying to you.

The Playground method: "what did the voice say... is that me saying something, or is it just the universal Dark Side broadcast I am tuning into?" and be fast and skillful enough to be able to tell the difference.

Even after the Playground you"ll say things to yourself... "that was sloppy!" and learn from it. Pay more attention, for example. Or: "you fell off the wagon"... and you get back on the wagon.



But if you continue telling yourself that you are worthless, and therefore your life is pointless... pay close attention to yourself... and chuckle. That is repeating what you hear on the Dark Side radio... and you don"t have to consider.

It takes practice, a lot of practice, and considering that it is worth it.

Yesterday I listened to one of this partner-conversations where the participants were confessing that they don"t understand context, let alone create an empowering context.

My suggestion is, to them and to you who are reading this and find yourself in the same predicament: invent the context that it is worth tackling the underlying dynamic, that it is worth growing beyond the influence of the Dark Side, that it is worth to become a person.

It is empowering and it can become the wind under your wings. Your own, carefully considered words: It is worth it.