Showing posts with label effort. Show all posts
Showing posts with label effort. Show all posts

Monday, October 29, 2018

Intuitive, counter-intuitive... how we use "intuition" to make everything worse

What we call intuition isn"t... but WHAT do we call intuition?

The state of the current humanity is chaos. Everyone has an opinion, just like everyone has an a-hole.

So far so good, Sophie... you groan. But from this, honoring one"s opinion as important, comes the mischief: everyone insists that their version of reality... aka their opinion, is the real reality. ((Your "intuitive" actions will be a conclusion of some mental process, that is most likely based on some certainty that is wrong, sometimes dead wrong, rendering you, your projects, the planet dead.))

Same way about what words mean... words like intuition.

There are courses on awakening your intuition that completely ignore the fact that you"ll have your individual, unique opinion about reality, and that will be your source of "intuition", not something independent of it... coming from the unknown unknown... what I call the "divine".

In the famous pie chart of all possible knowledge you, personally, have a slice of things that you know that you know, and an equal size of things you know that you don"t know. The size of that slice is the size of your possible curiosity for knowledge.

That leaves the rest of the pie, the unknown unknowns... That is accessed only by curiosity. This is the territory of the "divine" where all "miracles" come from. Unexpected benefits... and unexpected trouble.

The size of your curiosity is limited by the size of your knowledge, or more strictly speaking, the size of the area that you know that you don"t know that you see that you could learn... and benefit from.

It is a very interesting fact that thus far I haven"t met a student/client who knew much of anything about digestion, and therefore they don"t have any desire, any curiosity to learn about it.

So when they pay me to set them up on a path to better health, they consider everything as my good idea, they don"t EVER consider that I know something that they could know as well... no desire to know.

When something doesn"t work the way you think it should, your money situation, "manifesting", your health, your diet, your relationship, your children, there is something that you don"t know. But... but you don"t know that you don"t know it.

So you don"t know to ask questions, you don"t know to crack a book open, you don"t know to get curious, because you don"t know enough of the topic to know that you don"t know.

So you are left to play in the small sandbox that is defined by your knowledge, as if it were everything that could be known, and, by definition, your results are going to be little or not much.

If you read, or watch science movies, you may encounter information that you can say "I didn"t know that!" and if you do that a lot, then you"ll expand the size of what you know you know and also the size of what you know you don"t know. what you don"t expect is that you have now expanded the size of your curiosity: your god-given tool to become more effective in life, to do better.

When I muscle test how many people read regularly books that open up their world, watch stuff that open up their world, I get a very small number.
The number of people who read and watch stuff that merely entertains, excites, is a lot higher. They do not get curious because they learned nothing from what they consumed.

Same with conversation with others, reading the newspaper, sports, politics, Facebook, Instagram, texting. They allow you to fill your time, satisfy your diversion seeking idle curiosity, but do not expand your knowledge and do not expand your world.

Ultimately they do not increase your ability to succeed in life.

As you can see, I have returned to writing my article, even though my wrist still hurts like hell.

Why? You liked my audios!

Yes. But you consumed my audios like you consume candy: goes down effortlessly, and goes out on the other and fast.

All learning involves effort. Why? Because all learning involves a new vocabulary AND a different way of looking at things than you want to look, you like to look, you intuitively look.

Audio goes faster than your brain can adjust, so it gives you an illusion of learning, but it isn"t.

Your mind is like the dog that grabs onto a bone and runs away with it, not seeing, not hearing anything more after the bone.

The mind takes what it heard, takes it back into the little box, and there you go... nothing will change, nothing CAN change, because only consciousness can change things, and consciousness didn"t get a chance to see and digest the new knowledge.

The TED talk I watched yesterday about our complete lack of knowledge what causes our planet to fast become a desert was a great teaching experience.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vpTHi7O66pI

2.4 million people have watched it before me. My guess is: none of them were in the position to change anything, what made them watch it is idle curiosity, diversive curiosity. ((quoting from Jack Malcolm"s article
curiosity is not all good. While it may not kill you, it can certainly kill your productivity. The form of curiosity that fills your otherwise productive time is diversive curiosity, and unfortunately it’s probably the most common. It’s what attracts us to novelty; it’s shallow and strives for instant gratification. Unlike epistemic curiosity, diversive curiosity controls you. As Leslie tells us, imagine what you would tell someone from fifty years ago about the future:

“I possess a device, in my pocket, that is capable of accessing the entirety of information known to man. I use it to look at pictures of cats and get into arguments with strangers.”

It doesn"t have to be that way. The internet can make you smarter or dumber, depending on how you use it. Be careful what you put in your mind. Just as you are what you eat; you are what you read.))

But the scientists, the farmers, the biologists didn"t watch it, with maybe the exception of Joel Salatin, who was already doing it (I think).

You don"t make more money because you"ll watch it, won"t be more effective with your children, won"t get healthier because you watch it, unless you look beyond the subject matter, and look at your own life and start seeing how you desertified your life, how most of your brain now can"t be used for anything.

If your solution to being ineffective in life, to hating work, effort, and escaping into fun, cleaning the house... again, fixing stuff, or other non-brain intensive activity, you have the most to gain from watching that TED talk.

Your mistakes in thinking have been making you less and less able to grow, and making you less and less able to enjoy life... making your life and your brain effectively a desert.

In my programs you have a chance to reverse that, just like re-introducing herd animals reverses the desertification on the land.

You are asked to do what is unpleasant, effortful, reading, having conversations with your partner where you feel you are not up to par with the other person, or are forced to think. In the 67 step coaching you are forced to find the principle in the step and let me know what you found. It"s a b-i-t-c-h!

If you are not willing to do it, I"ll let you go. If you come back and still are unwilling to do what is asked of you... I"ll let you go again.

If you can see yourself in this article, whether you are a student of mine or not, you may see that you need an outside force to keep your nose to the grindstone: will power won"t be enough.

So you"ll go out and look for structures that have the chance to help you through the year-long difficult part, until you can, maybe, trust yourself to continue on your own motive power.

I offer several structures, the 67 steps coaching, the accountability partnerships, the Playground, and private coaching coupled with a less intense program.

Every person is able... but not every person is willing.

The most effective element is the peer-to-peer support, by the way. It"s synergistic and causes flying much faster than any other form of support. And, of course, reading.

If the books you read each manage to land a few pieces of knowledge, each causes you to become a tiny bit more ready to connect the dots, to allow consciousness to see what knowledge you can start to get curious about.

Consciousness, I said. Not your so-called intuition that just wants you to continue doing the ineffective things the exact same way you have been doing it.

The most frequent "how" of staying in the little box is impulsiveness... having a good idea and acting on it.

Your good idea has no chance to succeed because it is an escape valve: a way for you do avoid the nose-grind.

The second most frequent how of staying in your little desert is chit-chat, wanting to do what comes easy, not what is asked of you. Most women have that how, and some men.

This is why I have a separate playground for men and women, how I change the pairing when I do, to avoid the "how" to take over.

Pairing, partnering, is to cause synergy, not to have fun. No effort, no synergy. Bummer, eh?

Summary: your intuition, what you think your intuition is, keeps you in your small desert, and unhappy.

Your small life is the result of the small knowledge you have.

The only way to gain new and useful knowledge is through effort: an investment of time and attention over time.

Without a structure that forces you to put in the effort, you won"t put in the effort consistently and you will have wasted all the work you have done... it is like a little rain here and there won"t make an arid area lush. A cow grazing here and there won"t poop and trample the "brain" enough to fertility. (if you didn"t watch the TED talk, this last sentence won"t make sense!)

You need to catch your tendency to want to avoid effort... and have a partner, a class, a teacher to catch you.

The more time you spend with people who don"t grow, the less you"ll grow... and most likely you"ll grow backwards... I have proof positive that this is exactly what happens. ((The tree in the picture is what inspired my new name. On a car trip through the Negev desert I fell in love with that solitary tree that generously gives of itself to all comers-by, without losing anything. Shitta is the Hebrew name for that tree.))

A year of intense effort can make up for the time you wasted in school. Every interruption restarts the clock. Every wedding you attend, every family gathering has 90% chance to cause an interruption.

It"s your life... learn to protect it.

You want lush... You want to be Joel Salatin who tap dances to work. Don"t you?

If this article and this method talks to you, I may want to talk to you too.

If you have recently got your starting point measurements, just email me and we can schedule a call to see how I can help you. This is not a sales call.

If you haven"t had your starting point measurements, or it"s old, then the way to get a call with me is offered as an option when you buy your starting point measurements.

Sunday, June 12, 2016

Religion, smart Jews, and being a good person... what do spiritual capacities have to do with it?


This article is politically incorrect, and somewhat philosophical...

Not up for it? Spare yourself frustration, and don"t read it.

OK... now that only the eleven or so readers that are up for it remain reading, I can be blunt, and use some six letter words... lol.

Of course, this is, at least partially tongue in cheek...

OK, I am going to, first talk about a new insight I have on religion, then about Jews, capacities, genetically smarter... and other politically incorrect subjects that are keeping me busy pondering today.
Download the pdf version of this article at the end of the article

CLICK TO CONTINUE

Saturday, May 21, 2016

From my correspondence: Astrological Signs, Are they preventing us from changing lanes?


I stumbled on this old post... and it is exactly perfect for the "What"s the truth about you" workshops, so I thought I republish it...

Question:
Hi Sophie, I have a question. I would like to know your advice. I recently found an astrological site with natal chart sun decrees interpretations which are scaringly accurate.

I bought your Effortless Abundance Book, three days ago, I do believe one can get much more. My doubt is, can we change lanes? concerning those astrological imprints for a better life?

All the best,
My Answer:
it all depends on your mindset.

if you are trying to change lanes to fix anything: the answer is no.
if you manage to not make anything wrong in the present or in the past!!! not easy, then yes

astrology and such are the mind"s effort to understand the world so it can control it.

the world can"t be controlled, moreover when you want control for safety etc. you are making something wrong.

CLICK TO CONTINUE

Monday, October 19, 2015

Your invisible heroes... a guidance from fiction: books, movies, plays


I read today"s Monday Morning Memo, as usual, and it made me look. (())

Who are my favorite fictional characters?

At first I looked at the ones that weren"t supposed to survive, weren"t supposed to succeed, because they paralleled my own life experience.

But their influence on the multitudes was minimal, because they were about themselves, or maybe about one other person... and I saw that I have grown beyond that path. I have grown beyond the little Chinese boy"s character, my favorite as a child. I have grown beyond the deaf and blind yet dutiful character of Helen Keller, another favorite character of mine from childhood. I have even grown beyond "Socrates", the orphan boy that became the Peaceful warrior in Dan Millman"s books. The little girl in the movie "King of Masks" or BianLian. that you can watch in the subscribers" area of my site.

CLICK TO CONTINUE
#ExpandingHumanBeing

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Historical novels, reading about famous people: is that a good idea?


I know a lot of people who love to read historical novels, biographies, etc. When I look at them I get that they live their lives vicariously through those novels, not in reality. All these people have boring, ordinary lives.

For the past 4-5 months, I have been reading about the Mongols, the 13-14th century innovators of the world, without whom the world would look very very different.

The founder, the father of the Mongol Empire was Genghis Khan.

Now, why am I sharing this?

Because the only reason to read historical fiction, or biographies of famous people is to get a glimpse of what caused them to become more, bigger, or special.

We are all born ordinary. Then we either stay ordinary or choose a path that leads to exceptional, whether it is in the direction of bad or good. ((In choosing a path, context is decisive. If the context is only themselves, their pleasure, their life, then the direction is towards desire for the self alone, aka evil. If the context (the why) is about more than just themselves and their life, then the direction is towards the Light))

In every life, there is at least one turning point, one moment of choice when one can choose a direction towards extraordinary...

CLICK TO CONTINUE
#Raiseyourvibration

Tuesday, August 11, 2015

NEW: How to ground yourself when everything seems to effect you strongly?

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/b445impossible-dream-300x251.jpg


Do you often feel like a leaf that is tossed around by every wind, your thoughts, your emotions, the opinions of others, fashion, urges etc.? When you give up the big game because it looks, feels impossible, because you succumb … Continue reading →

View original: 

How to ground yourself w
CLICK TO CONTINUE

Wednesday, August 5, 2015

NEW: The almost magical cure for procrastination

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/fc86procrastination2.jpg
Finally, an almost magical cure for procrastination When you have something to do but you don"t do it, your life starts going in a tail-spin, heading towards the rocks. It seems that what there is to do is so terrifying, … Continue reading →

Continue reading:  

The almost magical cure for pro
CLICK TO CONTINUE

Friday, July 31, 2015

NEW: On a lighter note...

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/1e02XF2d_700-e1438360073873-300x357.jpg


I want you to look at funny... and tell me if the laugh you got is sympathetic, self-recognition, funny because it"s unexpected, unusual, etc. or derisive... Please... The deeper you see the faster you"ll raise your vibration. Guaranteed.  

Link - 

On a lighter note...

CLICK TO CONTINUE

NEW: 12 steps toward becoming truly who you are: the Playground program

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/5066AA-step-1.12-300x300.jpg
The Playground program: the history Back in 1988 when I first created the Playground: It is never too late to have a happy childhood, I"d just come out from participating in a 12-step program, similar to AA, but for people … Continue reading →

Visit source: 

12 steps toward becoming truly who
CLICK TO CONTINUE

Monday, July 27, 2015

NEW: Anger, Resentment, Disappointment: How To Liberate Yourself?

A few years ago, (maybe 3?) I went over the list of people I was angry at, or disappointed by. I made an all-out attempt to liberate myself from the bondage anger or disappointment creates. Anger, resentment, disappointment: all symptoms … Continue reading →

Originally from - 

Anger, Resen
CLICK TO CONTINUE

Sunday, July 26, 2015

NEW: Customer favorite #3 Unconditional Love Activator

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/a7a2freedom1-e1437943343270-300x223.jpg
Before I created the Unconditional Love Activator in 2011, my vibration was 300. Even 300 placed me into the top 0.1 percent of human population. Over time, using the Unconditional Love Activator, my vibration is now reliably above 900. So, … Continue reading →

See more here: 

Customer favo
CLICK TO CONTINUE

NEW: Life is counter-intuitive if your source of intuition is your mind... Get out of your mind!

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/37fecastaway-on-the-moon.jpg
> Life is counter-intuitive if your source of intuition is your mind Most of what you call intuition, isn"t. It is, in fact, reaction. Mostly it is the reaction of your reptilian brain. The reptilian brain seems to have retained … Continue reading →

Link:  

Life is counter-intuitive if your s
CLICK TO CONTINUE

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

NEW: How realistic are your expectations? of yourself, of your life, of your brain, or your vibration...

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/2d5diq-1.png
I wrote this article almost two years ago. Since then I have done a lot of work in the area of intelligence. This article is a lot more mainstream (meaning: wrong) than I like it, so I am in the … Continue reading →

More here:

How realistic are your expectations? of yourself, of your life, of
CLICK TO CONTINUE

Thursday, July 9, 2015

THE BATTLE FOR YOUR LIFE


Which is the most important when it comes to succeeding in the world?

Your vibration,
your intelligence,
your skills,
your context,
your vision,
metal toughness
your habits?
your attitude




I got an email today from a marketing teacher of mine, Frank Kern... not a
CLICK TO CONTINUE
#Raiseyourvibration

NEW: The most important three words to utter when you are stuck

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/79e0halp-1-300x314.png
"I need help" Sometimes these magical words, said at the right time, said to the right person, will make all the difference. Sometimes even if you just say it to yourself it makes a difference. Yesterday, on the Path coaching … Continue reading →

Original article:  

The most important three w
CLICK TO CONTINUE

Wednesday, July 8, 2015

NEW: How To Play An Active Part In Your Organization

In a Landmark Education Course I took back in 1987, I learned that it is possible to live life from a new conversation, a new context: "Life is a conversation" It is quite simple if you can wrap your mind … Continue reading →

Continue reading here:

How To Play An Active Part In Your Org
CLICK TO CONTINUE

Monday, July 6, 2015

NEW: The benefits of knowing you are stupid... or why high self-esteem kills your life

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/00fehigh-self-esteem-self-delusion-2-300x254.jpg
Fact: The world is getting more complicated by the second, but our habits are stuck on the level of hunters and gatherers, the stone age, the simple times. The complexity, the amount of stuff to deal with, even if you … Continue reading →

Continued here: 

The benefits of knowing you are stup
CLICK TO CONTINUE

NEW: Can you change by changing what you say? Why aren"t your affirmations make money appear for you?

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/c3c1effab-label-300x150.png
Back in 1987 I took a course about money. I had been poor, just a little poorer than most of my life. I remember working in New York City as an architect for hire, freezing my ears off... the weather … Continue reading →

Excerpt from - 

Can you change by changing what you say? Why aren"t your
CLICK TO CONTINUE

Saturday, June 27, 2015

If you don"t have a project, you don"t have a life. How to pick a project that will take you where you want to go?


It is projects that give substance to life, give you a reason to get up in the morning, other than that you didn"t die the night before, or that you have to go to the bathroom.

If you are bored, if you are listless, if you are stuck, if life has lost its taste, it"s because you don"t have a viable and worthy project.

This is most of you, because this is most of humanity.

A project is something with a specific, measurable, public result in the end. It is also nested in the larger project that is your life, but also larger projects that have the same direction, but are longer term with loftier end result.

Here is an example. I"ll use it because one of my friends might come to this site and see the errors of his ways... lol.

Let"s say your goal in life is to die a millionaire. A million bucks net worth. Your net worth now is minus 37 grand, and you carry a lot of debt.

CLICK TO CONTINUE
#Raiseyourvibration

Friday, June 5, 2015

NEW: If you live like you have to feel different to do different, you are screwed. Guaranteed

http://yourvibration.com/pix/wp-content/uploads/917fpuppet-on-a-string-300x228.jpg
What keeps you stuck I am starting see that what keeps you stuck is that you identify yourself with your thoughts or your feelings, or both. Bad news: Thoughts and feelings are reactionary: Without a circumstance changing, neither of them … Continue reading →

More - 

If you live like you have
CLICK TO CONTINUE