Are you part of the problem or part of the solution? Don"t be hasty answering...

Yesterday and especially today I had plenty of reasons to not want to face what there was to face: that we are the problem. Especially if and when we think it"s others.

I haven"t done MY soul searching, but I will, I promise.

For now, just to document it, I"d like to address what I have seen.

One client paid me to remove her children"s attachments.

I am still working on the second child, and this is what I have seen:

If you live inside a strong judgmental world of your own, where everyone, maybe including yourself, is wrong, then you are the Dark Side in your and your children"s life.

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Are you part of the problem or part of the solution? Don"t be hasty answering...

Yesterday and especially today I had plenty of reasons to not want to face what there was to face: that we are the problem. Especially if and when we think it"s others.

I haven"t done MY soul searching, but I will, I promise.

For now, just to document it, I"d like to address what I have seen.

One client paid me to remove her children"s attachments.

I am still working on the second child, and this is what I have seen:

If you live inside a strong judgmental world of your own, where everyone, maybe including yourself, is wrong, then you are the Dark Side in your and your children"s life.

CLICK TO CONTINUE

Are you part of the problem or part of the solution? Don"t be hasty answering...

Yesterday and especially today I had plenty of reasons to not want to face what there was to face: that we are the problem. Especially if and when we think it"s others.

I haven"t done MY soul searching, but I will, I promise.

For now, just to document it, I"d like to address what I have seen.

One client paid me to remove her children"s attachments.

I am still working on the second child, and this is what I have seen:

If you live inside a strong judgmental world of your own, where everyone, maybe including yourself, is wrong, then you are the Dark Side in your and your children"s life.

CLICK TO CONTINUE

The Process Of Raising Your Vibration Is A Spiritual Process... Here Are The First Steps You Must Take

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The process of raising your vibration is a spiritual process. It is a process where you regain your power, you restore your soul to its rightful place, where you restore your Self to its fullness, and you become an individual.

If you are like most people owned by the Dark Side, i.e. you are 99.3% of the population, your whole existence, your attention is directed outward. You expect everything to come from there, meaning, love, respect, value, knowledge, even spirit. You think that by connecting to Source (outside of you) you become spiritual.

Therefore the most important action is to turn your existence, your attention away from the outside.

The purpose of meditation, real meditation, is not to calm you, but to take you away from the outside.

But real meditation is a meditative way of living. Mrs. Roosevelt said best: What other think about me is none of my business.

The only person that wants to be with others, wants to know what other people think, etc. is the person who has no self. Nobody home. Vacant. Empty. Machine. Second-hander. Wants to be told, given, filled up. Loved.

Your job, if you want to raise your vibration, is to fill that empty space with you, your self, your spirit, your being. It may take a long time, but it"s worth it, because your life can only be a reflection of what you are: empty, vacant, void of self: Your laughter will be hollow and pretentious, maybe even hysterical. Your sadness will look for a reason. But your sadness will be real.

So how do you do it? How do you get out of that life of void?

First step is to know what is the job you need to start: Turning away from the outside as the source of your being, to your own self. The emptiness you"ll experience will be real, will be excruciating, but there is no way to avoid it. Just be with it. It will soon be filled with your self.

The harmonize audio, or for some of you the "get into the present" audio will do the energetic part, don"t worry, they work, work hard. And for the pain, sadness, anguish over the emptiness, take copious doses of Heaven on Earth. If you are an empath or a sensitive, read the footnote: [note]

If you are a sensitive or an empath, you will have an additional task: distinguishing what is your feeling and what is not your feeling. And most of the feelings you feel are not yours, as many as 90%. You will need to be able to observe the feelings like an ugly bug, that is not you. the Heaven on Earth doesn"t eliminate the feelings of others, but it helps with the reactions you have to those feelings.

For example, a feeling of doom comes and feels like yours... it will feel like yours. The mind says: Oh my god, what did I do wrong? What do I do now? Where can I escape? and that generates another set of feelings, and these are yours.

Once you can tell that the original feeling of doom wasn"t yours, you won"t react to it.

That is the purpose of the empath training. To set you apart from what"s borrowed.[/note]

You live in a castle with modern amenities, but you only occupy the maid"s room... because you are never at home. You live like a pauper, you borrow your feelings, your ideas, your likes and dislikes, you seek guidance outside of you, and you feel miserable. Then you come to me and you think that there is a magic bullet. Oh, Sophie teach me to connect to Source, that will make me happy.

But Source, as you say it, is like just another god, just another way to avoid being you, being with yourself. You hate yourself, you despise yourself, and the only reason you don"t kill that little wretched you, because you still have hope. But you hope for something from the outside, and that makes you even more wretched. You hope something for me, but I prefer to tell you that it"s hopeless! The way you want it, that is.

There is a whole unexplored universe inside you, beautiful, vast, magnificent. It is great, but you must cut your ties with all the borrowed views, all the interest in pleasing others. You can"t live inside and outside at the same time.

You can"t be a slave and a master at the same time.

In The Fountainhead, there is a character who wasn"t born to be a second-hander, a second-hander who looks outside for its own source. Gail Wynand. But he becomes a second-hander by seeking power over people. He is your proof that there is no joy, there is no fulfillment in being dependent on the outside.

The book is long, over 700 pages, and it is philosophical, with very long paragraphs, but it is a very good illustration of the producer, the moocher, the looter, and the in-between.

Dominique, the female of the book needs to cut her ties with what others think, what may happen (outside), what people can do to you, and only then she will become a real person. Until then she is an empty shell, without a Self.

I have a membership site with the online version of the book and the movie. It is useful to see the movie, though the story was altered by the author herself: she needed to fit a 700 page story into a 90-minute film. But you will be able to see the characters, and for most of you that will be useful.

There is a membership fee to access movies on that site... I filter who I allow to pay... Email me if you want to become a paid member. You also need to be a subscriber to my emails... no exception.

Are you a nice person? Let"s take a look at that

Is it fear? Or is it unwillingness?

The human DNA isn"t a DNA for kindness, caring, or any of the "nice" stuff we are supposed to be.

In fact, it will take changing the DNA to go to the next level, to the level of human being, to be able to be kind, caring. For altruism...

Our "soul correction" is the path.

The soul, an aspect of us that knows what will take each individual to the place where they can cross the great divide between human and human being, if they wish, keeps on nudging us, harder and harder as we fail to do what the soul asks us to do.

Instead of doing the soul work, most humans opted to pretend that they have already gone to the other side... that they are kind, and caring... many of them curse me out... it is really funny to watch. Not funny as in ha-ha funny, funny as "who are they kidding?" funny.

Certain areas of the world are more pretentious than others, Canada and California are the leaders, UK is not far behind, and the Southern states are also contenders to be a culture of "I am such a nice person".

Cancer fills the space between the pretend you and the real you... the ugly one.

Kabbalah says, that cancer is an opportunistic disease: it fills the space pretense creates between the you you project, the you you pretend to be, and the you you really are.

I wonder if there is any statistics of cancer killing more people in pretentious areas...

Why aren"t people nice? I understand that DNA isn"t dictating being nice, but being agreeable is actually quite easier than being difficult...

But, of course, ego, the aspect of you that is more interested in being right than being happy or rich, doesn"t allow you to be agreeable.

Everyone seems to step on your toes, everyone seems to block your light... everyone seems to get more than you, easier than you... so you resent them, envy them, want them dead.

That is what"s natural with the DNA we have, to be selfish, nasty, judgmental, competitive, a thief, a liar, stingy, arrogant... whatever your soul correction is

That is the starting point for most people in performing their soul"s correction... and, of course, they are not willing. Not willing at all.

Now, being not willing is not pretty, especially in light of what one must pretend, so we, humanity, have invented all kinds of smoke screens, to cover up that we are not willing.

Smoke screens galore to cover up our real nature

• Fear is such a smoke screen. When you feel fear, it is really to cover up, even from you, that you are not willing.How do I know? I guess that is why I was made an empath...


• Not feeling your feelings is another cover up, another smoke screen... I don"t feel anything... so you don"t have to do anything, you don"t have to change, you don"t have to feel bad, you don"t have to... meaning... your unwillingness has won out, yet again.


• Confusion is another smoke screen... very effective. No one can ask you to think clearly if you are confused, do they? You are off the hook again... Congratulations.

We could go over about 25-30 different smoke screens.

May I ask you to suggest a few smoke screens in the comments?

I"d like you to take an active part of this work... if you are at all interested in going to the next level, taking an active part is going to be mandatory.

Why you are not confident... Why you don"t trust yourself... Why you aren"t happy...

I watch, I observe people"s behavior and the emotions that go with it.

Unless I can see what you did, your emotions and much of your behavior don"t make sense.

And occasionally I get the opportunity to see both the actions and the emotions...

1. 
   

   The most frequent behavior is you acting without looking.

   
   Much like a drunk jumps into an empty pool... expecting it to be full.
   
   You buy something. You are on the payment page. You assume you know what"s there... you are not looking. You don"t even suspect that you are singing up to a monthly program as well... and that you need to "un-tick" that if you don"t want it.
   
   
   
   How do I know? Nine of you "accidentally" and unknowingly signed up to Tai"s premium monthly program.
   
   I remember a month ago when I bought my 67-steps... I carefully looked before I paid. Sometimes swimming pools are empty... and if you assume they are full... you hurt yourself.
   
   Another example when you buy something on my site and you don"t wait to be taken to your purchase. The text on the page, small letters, says: wait until we redirect you to your purchase.
   
   Result: I have to manually add you to the site so you can get your purchase.
   
   I do it, begrudgingly, because I"d like students and clients who are awake, aware, and conscious.
   
   Your results in life are very consistent with your level of awareness...


2. 
   

   The second most frequent behavior is lying.

   
   I know it"s a word you don"t want to hear. The word lying has two meanings: telling something that is not true, and to rest horizontally in bed, for example. In American English, people stopped using the word even for the second action: they say "lay" instead, which means "make lie"...
   
   Why do people lie?
   
   Because they can"t face the truth. Because courage is in the shortest supply... there is a courage deficiency.
   
   The second reason they lie, even to themselves, is that they don"t know that the payment for a lie is intense unhappiness.
   
   I am reading Freud"s essay, Civilizations and its discontents. It"s not an easy read... It"s Freud"s investigation into what makes humanity unhappy. What makes happiness impossible.
   
   Civilization wants to curtail humans" freedom to live by their instincts (sex, anger, hate, etc.) and makes it impossible for humans to live at peace with themselves.
   
   Humans, you, feel what you feel, have urges that you have, and then lie about it, even to yourself.
   
   Yesterday I had a conversation with someone whose soul correction is "Removing Hatred".
   
   He doesn"t seem angry, or full of hate, but at the same time he is not happy, he is further and further away from what he"d like to accomplish in his life.
   
   He cannot see, but until he makes peace with his own human urge to hate when he hates, he will never accomplish anything worth accomplishing in his life.
   
   And he will feel unhappy.
   
   I shared that I have flares of hate when I see you, my readers, my students, do the things you do: not be aware.
   
   Anger, hate, are like lightening... 2-3 seconds max... except when they are suppressed.
   

   When I was three years old, I remember lying awake in my bed, pondering why I wasn"t allowed to go to my baby sister"s funeral.
   
   She was going to be my knight in shining armor: the one that will love me in a world where nobody loved me.
   
   I decided that it is because I killer her. A three year old"s logic is hard to follow, but it is logic nevertheless.
   
   I never even visited her in the hospital during her 10 days struggle to live... she was a preemie like myself.
   
   But I KNEW that I killed her, I killed her with my anger. I KNEW...
   
   So, obviously, I started to suppress my anger from that point on. You suppress anything, you have to suppress everything.
   
   I don"t remember joy, I don"t remember happiness, I only remember anger and hate. They haunted me in my dreams.
   
   When I was 34 I read a book on how to release anger. That was after I had been hospitalized for depression three times...
   
   It took me another 20 years to clear the anger from my system, so when anger or hate comes, it is new... and not overwhelming.

   
   

   Suppressing a natural instinct makes you feel like you are sitting on a bomb... paralyzing.

   
   Expressing a natural instinct after it"s suppressed is dangerous: it may make you kill someone.
   
   The job is to gently and diligently release it from its prison... and to make the natural instinct, sexual, or aggression, ok to feel, ok to express, but redirect.
   
   I have redirected sexual energy most of my life, energy can be redirected... it"s like the energy of the river can be destructive, or it can create electricity... humans can do it.
   
   In the conversation, yesterday, when I spoke of my hate, my "Removing Hatred" friend tried to stop me and correct me: you didn"t hate them, you hated the behavior... he tried to dull the edge of my statement.
   
   Hell, I hate you for all of two seconds when you do something stupid. Can you be with that?
   
   People don"t hate behavior, they hate the perpetrator. Ask any dog... they attack you, even though it"s what you did they don"t like.
   
   If you won"t start cleaning up your act, and start allowing your aggression and your sex to be felt, you can"t even redirect it.
   
   You have to suppress it, lie about it, and be unhappy, as surely as that everybody has to die.
   
   Now, looking at the questions I ask in the title: who would trust a certified liar?
   
   My "Removing Hatred" friend is an underachiever, because he can"t trust himself, because he is a liar.
   
   Deliberate action is the hallmark of achievers. Your haste to close the page after paying, your haste to click the payment button, instead of checking if you are paying for what you think you are paying for, is a sign that you are a liar.
   

   I catch myself, once in a while, do the same.

   
   I don"t think I am stupid. I think I am a liar... and start looking what I am lying about. Where my integrity am out. I look until I find it. Sometimes it takes days... but I always find it, and then proceed to tell the truth about it.
   
   More often than not I promised to do something, and I am not doing it... currently the zenify my house project... I stopped being in action about it...
   
   Time to restart... Today is a good day for that.

Related post: https://www.yourvibration.com/16447/you-are-a-liar/

PS:

The nature of your suppression, the nature of your lies seems to be consistent with your soul correction.

You should get intimately familiar with your machine encoded in your soul correction.

Example: my soul correction is "Forget Thyself" and it is needing to be superior, thought of as superior and faultless.

Last week I bought something that today smelled funny. I muscle tested and although it would not make me sick... yet, muscle test says: don"t eat it.

I was looking to return it, but, I think, it was my fault: the thing was on sale, probably because it was expiring... I bought it nevertheless.

So I am just going to throw it away... it allows me to still look superior and faultless... Do you see the machine in action?

On the other hand, my friends who are "Speak your mind" soul correction (25) will buy stuff and return it a week later for a refund, even thought the thing was perishable and would not last a week... and it was obvious already in the store. They didn"t miss it... no, they like to think of themselves as people who take care of themselves... preferably at someone else"s expense.

What would your soul correction make you do in similar situation?

Are you filling your head with "just in case" knowledge while your life is waiting for you to know what to do?

I woke up this morning. I said the date, out loud, in Hungarian (my last dream before waking up was in Hungarian) and the sound of the words took me to a soul-searching.

I said (in Hungarian), Happy New Year Miss Benshitta... and it hit me, that I would be an old maid, a spinster in Hungary... ugh... would it have forced me to get married and become swallowed up by another"s life?

Had I stayed in Hungary... I probably would have continued working as an architect. I probably would have never done the steps that would have taken me through all the steps one has to take to reach and walk a different path.

I would be unfulfilled, and probably dead.

One of the last things I did in Hungary before I left was establishing and organizing the Hungarian chapter of Servas, and international traveling organization.

The members offer friendship, accommodation, and being part of a family for a few days while they travel.

I had lots of Servas travelers stay with me, in spite of the small size of my apartment. I drove them around, showed them what they could not see, and it was a lot of fun.

I also traveled with Servas, and stayed with countless hosts in Germany, Austria, The Netherlands, England, and Scotland.

Organizing the opportunity for people to meet, just slightly out of the ordinary behavior, got me into trouble, and got the government to pull my passport. My response to that was to leave Hungary for good.

You can"t see ahead on the path, you can only see the next step to take

Had I stayed in Hungary I probably would not have been able to do all the things that got me where I am today, being able to work with people on what is the truth about all the lies we have been fed.

The life that can cause you to expand the most is full of wrong turns, bad experiences, where you need to become more, to pull yourself out of the ditch you walked into.

I spent 30 years making wrong turns. No, make it 60 years... And the stuff I have overcome, the stuff I have seen...!

There is a distinction here that I"d like to teach you:

"just in case" vs "just in time"

The mind, society, gurus, are teaching you the stuff you learn, so you know it. Just in case you need it down the line...

What you really need is the stuff you need to know exactly at that moment, so you can create the next moment from it being now in the right direction: up.

The amount of knowledge that is available "just in case" is billions of pages. The amount of knowledge you need is a few words. The right words that allow you to see the next step...

I"ll give you an examples from my life:

1. In 1966 I took an online course on programming. I got stuck in the first homework... something was wrong in what I did, and I could not figure out what it was. I posted my issue on the students forum, but no one gave me a straight answer: my question was so elementary, my misunderstanding was so basic, no one thought of addressing that. I redid the class three times, and the third time I finally figured it out.


2. Marketers use a service that automatically sends an email to a person who buys something. It is called an autoresponder. I first had an issue setting one up for my business in 2003. I had the same issue: some basic misunderstanding. I went to seminars, I spent close to 50 grands before I found the mistake I made. No teacher would sit down with me for 2 minutes and look, with me, what was the basic issue I was stopped by.

They were teaching, instead, "in case you already got through the hump..." stuff, useless to me.

Now, you could easily say that I was stupid, and no one can help a stupid person, and you may be right. But, maybe, just maybe, if you are not moving in the right direction, if you don"t enjoy your life, if you think you should be always up, always happy, etc. then you also have a basic stumbling block, that unless someone doesn"t say "Oh, he/she is stupid, no one can help them" you will be stuck forever.

I believe that "someone" is me, because

1. I don"t think you are stuck because you are stupid... it is because there is something you can"t see, or don"t know.


2. I love digging and finding that one thing (it is mostly one thing that keeps the whole life stuck) that if it could get cleared, your life would start moving.

Now, if you are still in the learning mode of "just in case I need it" we may not have anything to do with each other: you are not ready.

But when the inner pressure, the tension between your soul and your mind becomes near unbearable, then you"ll know where to go.

I love the joke where the guy takes his car to a mechanic. The mechanic turns the car on, listens to it coughing and sneezing, opens the hood, takes out a hammer and hits something under the hood and you can hear that the car suddenly running smoothly.

He turns to the car"s owner and say: "that will be 500." "500? for one hit with a hammer?" "Oh, you want an itemized bill? No problem. $1 for the hammer hit, and $499 for knowing where to hit."

Another mechanic would have taken the car apart, spent days with it, and maybe or maybe not find the cause of the problem. Just like it happened to my truck back in New Jersey: after they spent a week and 2400 dollars on it, I took it to its first trip only to have the engine block crack after about 20 miles...

You want the kind of mechanic with the one hit with the hammer... hit the right spot. Don"t you? I wish I had a life mechanic like that. For my health, my digestion, my weight, my success... yeah, that"s the type of mechanic I need... I wish there were any to be found...

My chiropractor friend comes to mind who had a car accident some 18 months ago. Since then he had two operations, and hundreds of hours of massage, and injecting into his hand, and light therapy, and acupuncture... and his hand is still hurting.

I bet he would not mind paying five hundred dollars for the hammer hit... would you agree?

In matters energetic, in matters emotions, in matters of inner tension, in matters that can be felt, I am unbeatable. My problem is the hammer: the hammer is in YOUR hand. I find the problem, and you need to act on the new knowledge.

That"s how it works in "real life". No one can fix you, or your life but you. I can only point you to the right direction... while I make you stronger, free-er with my energetic tools. But the rest, my friend, is really your job.

I know this is becoming a long article... what"s the point?

It is your mind that asks that question... the mind that wants answers without having to see anything new.

If you can see the point, then you have enough freedom from the mind to become my student. How is that for an answer?

In the meantime: Happy New Year.

Don"t hesitate to sign up to the Carrot and Stick webinar: one registration gives you access to all the webinars. There we"ll explore the different ways that might work to keep you on target and become a truly Expanding Human Being, doing the things you are now not doing.

Money, health, relationships... it doesn"t matter where you want a change and not working towards it. Bring it to the calls and let"s experiment.

If you didn"t see the point in this article, you are not ready.

 

The original article was published January 1, 2004