Muscle tiredness, muscle ache

A few years ago I started to have pain in my calves. I had a tendency for varicose veins. I inherited that from my mother.

So in these past few years walking has been a painful activity. Then it got worse... and even climbing up from the first floor to the second was a big undertaking.

I started to get curious and ask questions.

I have added Magnesium to my supplements. I have added Rutin, a Bioflavonoid, inespensive and potent.

Magnesium, or rather the lack of it, causes a stiffening, and so does lack of bioflavonoids. That does 70% of the "trick", the 30% is actually using my legs, to walk, to dance, to climb stairs.

I am noticing the difference, now , after three weeks. You cannot undo a damage that built over decades... or you harm yourself.

 

What"s important to you? Do your actions mirror that?

Just look at your actions. Words are cheap. Only what you do counts, only what you do testifies about what is important to you.

It seems that being right, looking good, avoid domination of anyone or anything, including your own word, hoping, expecting the impossible... etc, etc, has been really important to you.

Where you are is where you are supposed to be, given all your actions.

Do all actions count? Talking, thinking, watching videos?

Only to a certain degree.

One of the people who have inspired me for many years is Werner Erhard, the founder of the est training.

What did he do?

He had hundreds of projects at different stages of development. Some were just ideas, others were ready to run on their own without much input from him.

What he did is this: he "injected" some energy, with some action, into each of them, at least a few times a week.

Tiny actions. None taking longer than two minutes of his time. A short phone call, an idea jotted down, tiny actions.

This two minutes thing is, by the way, from David Allen of Getting Things Done fame. I have been following this "rule" for two decades, and it is a life-saver.

Your mind, your spouse, your emails will suggest actions all the time... OK, some of them even DEMAND actions.

These demands break up your life into tiny fragments. You are now doing someone else"s bidding, you are building their life, and that makes you run around like a chicken without a head... the innate rhythm and design of your day is gone, and you are at best gathering the pieces to live your own life... if any time, any energy is left over.

The demands suggest urgency, the demanders" tone of voice suggest urgency... but nothing is urgent!

Nothing needs to get done in that same minute, unless it is a broken water main, or a fire.

On most tasks, projects, ideas, you can find a tiny piece that takes less than two minutes to do. And do that... Two minutes is not long enough to destroy your day... especially if you can remember what you are about... and after the two minute interruption you can return to it... ((There is this brilliant way to handle interruptions that preserve your sanity, preserve your productivity, and lets you have your cake and eat it too... serve two masters, just not at the same time. It"s called Stop-Change-Start... ask me about it.

I have mentioned it in two articles before... but it seems that I could write a third... so expect an article just about this stop-change-start... ))

But that, remembering what you are about, may be an issue when it comes to your life. You don"t remember what you are about. You go to the bathroom, or to the kitchen to get a glass of water... and you forget... you forget what you are about. You are rudderless, drifting...

So if that is you, your most important task is to take two minutes many times a day, close your eyes, and dis-identify yourself from the thoughts, the voices, the emotions, the noise in your head. Two minutes is often enough to get present to the FACT that you are none of those... and even if it doesn"t happen, yet, inside the two minutes, diligent practice will reduce the time it takes to return to yourself and to reality.

One of the gifts of the Playground is to offer sweet and short methods to neutralize jarring, bothersome, disturbing thoughts by using its methodology to return you to reality... where nothing is jarring, bothersome, or disturbing. So you can do what you meant to do... Undisturbed.

Of course if you are one of those people who think that your thoughts and emotions are important... then first I need to disabuse you... or you are on your own. Until you get that thoughts and emotions are automatic, and have nothing to do with you, have nothing to do with reality, you cannot be saved from the meaningless rushed life you are living. I measure this in a score: to what degree you honor your emotions as reality. The higher the number the more ineffective you are, and the more miserable...

You are going nowhere fast.

This is the situation of 97% of humanity.

What is the difference between the 97 and the 3%?

This is a crucial question, cuts to the heart of the matter.

If you have never set a direction for yourself and for your life, then you are part of the 97 percent.

If you are part of the 3%, then all you need to do is remind yourself of who you said you have chosen to be. With that you pull yourself out of the horizontal and default life some desire, some emotion, some person, or maybe the whole society is pulling you to... you have who you have chosen to be as an alternative: the direction others are missing.

I have two projects that are so many steps, one can"t know where to start.

And when the project is like that, then frequently doing one small 2-minute task on it is all it takes to keep it alive, until it gains momentum. When it has gained momentum, then it will carry itself, and can get done.

For example my 10% increase plan... I am stuck on the first step: drive more "suspects" to my site. I don"t know how... So instead of being stuck there, I have been doing 2-minute mini tasks on the six other areas of business... while one directly related is: asking myself the question: so how do you drive suspects to your site? And while I have been doing this every day for the past week, I had an insight: the way I drive people now is a dead end... so there is time to do something different. That is a result I would not have gotten to, hadn"t I asked the question every day.

One of my students who is an amazing idea machine (generates ideas fast!) is stuck on a kind of idea generation for a week now. I asked him: generate different question for a while, instead of generating answers to questions someone else has asked.

Asking questions is very counter to many people"s nature: with questions you expose yourself to getting killed... bosses, parents in most societies want you to be seen, not heard, so you have learned not to ask deep questions and sound argumentative.

But you will never become all you can become if you are more afraid of getting killed than of living an empty life, a meaningless life.  99.99% of the fear of the idea of getting killed... losing love, losing a client, losing a friend cost you just that... losing what you are afraid to lose.

You don"t eat the porridge as hot as you made it...

There seems to be no equivalent of this Hungarian saying in English. But the meaning is important to know.

There is always a fear when you do anything, a fear that it will be harmful... but unless you are utterly stupid and have no control of your mouth, you won"t burn it... you can allow some time to see what you cooked up.

In reality, stews are better the next day... and that should teach you something.

The fear is exaggerated and it inhibits you from asking question.

I often ask questions about severing relationships with worthless, abusive clients, students, and then let the question hang there.

Only a small percentage of the time do they remain relevant enough to require some action... even though when I cooked up the question, the answer, first, was a definite: kick them out... lol. Most of the time the fear exaggerates... and I don"t see the big enough picture. I haven"t kicked out anyone for a long time... I let myself cool off.

One of the answers, you fear you"ll get to your new question is that you are no good, you"ll never amount to anything, and it is all in vain to do this work... or some other work. It is so scary, that you want to move out of its way... sideways, anywhere...

It is never true, or not 100%. You always have choices... but it"s a process, and may take years to change something about yourself that you hate. But you"ll never change what you need to change, if you always move sideways.

Dr Popper, in one of his talks, talks about men. What it takes for men to feel like they are worthwhile... He goes through all the stages through one must de-value their goal, their direction. If they can do what it takes... from wanting power over people,  wanting power over their careers, wanting to make money, wanting to make things... to the level where it feels they cannot do anything well... and then they resort to drinking... or some other sideways move.

One of the books on my bookshelf in my bedroom, an orange book, talks about the plasticity of the brain. You, your brain, is designed to change itself. Just challenge it differently and it will do the job.

It"s a process, it"s not instant. It needs you to do things differently.

If your expect your whole world view to go through magical instant changes, you"ll be very discouraged, because that is not the nature of reality. There are no jumps in reality. NONE. Everything that looks fast has been building momentum for quite a while... in realty. Only your imagination can do the jumping. In Plato"s cave you"ll suddenly become this knight in shining armor, not that sissy boy who is still trying to prove that he can.

And if you hope in miracles, you"ll never be consistent enough to reach any worthwhile results, because the brain is looking for consistency, and discounts campaigns or sporadic weak attempts.

The kind of campaigns you have been doing in your life.

Reality... the pragmatic approach that removes the misery, the suffering, even frustration

Back in the early 70"s I had a live-in boy friend, who was a philosophy student. His father was a famous philosopher, was a Hegel expert.

Hegel, I hear, is one of the most impenetrable philosopher to me. The family, father and three sons, had regular philosophy lessons.

I am not interested in philosophy, not a debating/argumentative person, but lately I am encountering philosophical questions that are at the root of my teaching: teaching you to be in harmony with life, teaching you to live a happy life. ((Here is an interesting philosophical article, that I chewed myself through... not pragmatist at all.))

One of the most important questions here is what is reality, what is real, because all that unhappiness we experience comes from what is not real.

What the dictionary says is not very useful... because what is the criteria? ((re·al·i·ty noun

1. the world or the state of things as they actually exist, as opposed to an idealistic or notional idea of them.
   synonyms: fact, actuality, truth

a thing that exists in fact, having previously only existed in one"s mind.

the quality of being lifelike or resembling an original.

synonyms: verisimilitude, authenticity, realism, fidelity, faithfulness

antonyms: idealism

2.
the state or quality of having existence or substance.
"youth, when death has no reality"))

Of course, given our sensory organs and their limitations, the fact that most of reality lives in the invisible, and given our propensity ((noun: propensity; plural noun: propensities

an inclination or natural tendency to behave in a particular way.
"a propensity for violence"
synonyms: tendency, inclination, predisposition, proneness, proclivity, readiness, liability, disposition, leaning, weakness)) for having thoughts that have emotional effect on us, we have NO IDEA what is really real what isn"t.

I am a pragmatist...

I am a pragmatist... I am guided more by practical considerations than by ideals, and the practical consideration for me: does it improve your life, does it raise your vibration, does it make you more effective at living your life?

And even in the "how to teach" area I am more pragmatist that anything: my only goal in teaching is not to hear my voice, not to feel how smart I am, not how good what I am saying sounds; instead I am looking at you, the student, and I measure what is invisible but a good indication that you are more effective at living your life with the teaching than you were before the teaching.

I invented a methodology in my second year (1987) of participation in Landmark Education. It was inspired by a 12-step program plus a Landmark concept... and the Playground was born. ((Landmark Education is great at many things, but it is not great at really teaching anything... but why?

Because really teaching is a lot of handholding. And that is time consuming, and doesn"t pay well.

Landmark invented a method where unpaid participants (assistants) "coach" other participants...

But the system doesn"t quite work, because the training methodology looks only at certain measures to see if the assistant is qualified to coach... measures that don"t matter from the point of view of teaching.

Teaching is only teaching if it results in a lasting change in perception, and behavior. And Landmark Education, according to my personal experience and my muscle testing, doesn"t do a good job at that.))

The Playground was the first program I participated in (alas, as a leader more than a participant) that altered lives.

The first Playground practiced one movement, one perceptional move, and it produced miracles. With just movement.

The practice movement was to shift the attention and the emphasis from the words and emotions to reality.

We defined reality as what can be perceived, without words, by our sense organs. What a Martian would see/hear/smell etc.

Without the meaning. And by god, it worked. It worked mostly because of repetition. The kind of repetition that helps internalize what you learned... helps you able to make it instinctual. Automatic.

The principle was entirely Landmark, but the practice was what was new, and the practice is what made it work.

I revived the Playground a few years ago, and the first two times, it was a definite blah, mech experience because of the lack of lasting results. In fact it didn"t have any effect on how people lived their lives.

People didn"t practice between the calls, they were coming only to hear something new... not to learn how to live friction free... Because that is what we are learning. Living friction free.

One of my students in the current Playground is separated. He went to pick up the kids from their mother, and all four started to cry, and carry on that they didn"t want to go with daddy, that they hated to be with daddy.

Everyone looking on, including the mother, were mortified. But my student wasn"t... He said: it"s OK if you don"t want to come...

In the end the kids went with him and they had a blast. He did not bat an eye... no upset, no personal hurt. No problem.

This is what is possible.

In the current version of the Playground we meet, as a group, once a month, and the in-between weeks the participants pair up and have their own calls, called partner calls. The calls are recorded. I listen to their calls, every call, and give feedback. They also have the option to have email access to me.

The pairs practice the moving from unreality to reality, and they do exceptionally well: the average vibration rose by 70 points.

The partners that try to talk about it, instead of doing it, where one participant is trying to teach the other, don"t fare well, which proves my point, that you need to do it to learn it. Talking about it doesn"t help.

Half of the pairs do well... Half don"t. 50%. And the course is not even halfway through.

Compare that to the "normal" effectiveness of any whole program or course where the results are 1-2%.

I also add, every monthly session, a new distinction from the invisible reality, so what is reality moves from the simplistic view of the Martian to a rich layered view...

The other day I promised to create a little document to describe what the "finished" state of the transformation will look like.

It is quite simple:

• 1. You"ll habitually move from something upsetting or disturbing to reality, where nothing is missing, nothing is wrong, there is nothing to fix.


• 2. You"ll experience a serious reduction in mental treading water, the amount of noise in your head, and the time you spend in different emotions. In fact, the best of you will experience silence...  and won"t suffer from or act from emotions... consciously or unconsciously. ((I have a friend who claims he feels nothing, but his knee jerk reactions, his impulsive actions tell me otherwise. He is literally self-damaging... his own victim.))


• 3. You"ll be able to become more aware of your surroundings, your inner workings. Become more tolerant and forgiving for your and others" shortcomings. Priceless


• 4. Your ability to see value that you couldn"t see before makes life a lot happier. Appreciation and gratitude will become available to you. Appreciation literally means: seeing and recognizing value.


• 5. You"ll experience joy when you least expect it.


• 6. Your TLB will be growing, you"ll be able to, finally, start getting good at what you haven"t been able to master, because before it felt difficult, unappetizing, or not possible... and you"ll be better at your work, and able to make a lot more money with much less effort.


• 7. Your relationships will become a lot more harmonious and friction free.


• 8. You"ll become a lot more organized now that you are not jerked around by desires, and urges, and other nasty emotional b.s.


• 9. You"ll be able to accept yourself as you really are, and start experiencing self-love... sweet.


• 10. Finally you"ll be able to complete, come to terms with parental abuse, and see your parents for what they were, people who did what they thought was OK... because they didn"t know any better.


• 11. You"ll welcome criticism and feedback and be able to tweak your behavior so you get even more out of life.

I"ll add to this list when I get to see more... there is more...

I"d like to start a new Playground sometime in April or May. If you think you are ready: please let me know.

I"ll attempt to schedule the group call time to fit your schedule. I am available almost any time between 6 am and 7 pm... I go to bed at 7 pm.

Each monthly session is 2-4 hours long, depending how it goes... The partner calls are about an hour long, and are at least once a week.


Sign up to the Playground

The speed of life... Are you authoring your life, or is life happening to you?

Even though I have completed my 20-day learning challenge, I am still listening to Dr Popper"s videos. ((
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Hx4NmVWYUY
))

In one of these videos he says something very important, that i really managed to connect to some of my own experiences only on the third hearing.

Here is what he says:

The speed of life robs us of our ability to fully experience, fully feel.

He brings up the example of watching the news on TV: a report is about something that happened... by the time you are able to catch up your emotions to the news, the next report is on some celebration and happy music... then the scene changes again, and they report on some miners trapped in the mine after an explosion, but before you could even comprehend, internalize that tragedy, the scene changes again to the weather forecast, or some sports news.

The same thing is happening in books, in movies, TV shows... you never have a chance to just sit with what you heard, saw, experienced.

And, to my utter dismay, the same thing you do to another in the partner calls... you urge them on, not allow them to feel what they feel, to get to the bottom of the horror their life has been... If you are not like that: I am not talking about you.

And the results:

• you sleep fitfully, because your insides are trying to do the work you didn"t allow yourself to do while awake... and of course, a night is almost not enough... so you wake up tired, sluggish, and eventually you get sick.


• You multitask, to keep up with the seeming speed of life... but it is not life that sped up... not really. Life is still happening at life"s speed, but you are trying to keep up with others, so you have indigestion, in every meaning of the word.


• You never give yourself time to be alone, to look at things, you just pile up and pile up, and pile up.

The question has come up for me: why is it that since I have been giving myself more input, I have been writing less articles?

The answer to this question is deep in the invisible... it is invisible to us what the insides do with what you give them as "food for thought".

• Some people are "researchers" and never have any output... only input, fully and wholly undigested.


• Some people start doing, speaking without having anything to say...


• Some people rush rush rush through life, in their heads... no respite, no rest for them anywhere

It seems that I go, re-listen, and connect the dots...  I digest. I make it my own. I turn it into authentic Tree of Life stuff.

I just wrote an article in my healing blog where I am pondering what allows me to be in better health than people of the same age.

And looking at all the articles I have been seeing, that ask the same thing about the Okinawan centenarians, highest number of centenarian anywhere.

And they, the "scientists" and the researchers come up with a bunch of b.s., all politically correct, financially exploitable answers, that are all simple and wrong... As all fixing type of answers are. ((H. L. Mencken wrote that for every complex human problem, there is a solution that is neat, simple and wrong. Government hiring as a solution to unemployment is such a case. ... Mencken once observed, for every complex problem, there is a solution that is simple, obvious, and wrong.

So far every simple answer to problems of life has been proven to be wrong, whether it is health, productivity, relationship troubles, society, corruption, politics, or people being utterly incompetent in positions of power... or outside of it.))

What is in common: a man who is in the world, and of the world, with not an original thought in their head, not a moment to go deep and really ponder; is that they overtax their system, much like keeping their car run always at a high rpm... rotation per minute... wearing it out?

Most people that I observe have two modes: all out, fast, and all down... stopped.

I recommend meditative living

I recommend meditative living where 90% of your life is thoughtful, mindful, where you can run without losing your bearing, without heedless hurry... and where you can sleep allowing the brain to process, sort out, cleanse as it is supposed to. Be in the process of life, not in the supposed goal of the moment.

Neither too much and too intense input, nor too much and too intense output. No hurry in either direction.

No gluttony. No gulping down without fully experiencing. No drinking without thirst, no eating without appetite, no sex without full desire.

And no speaking without someone fully listening.

Chasing, desiring, yearning, rushing for... ugh... let others do that. Whether it is for power, for success, for lust, for being considered a hero, acceptance, for anything... it makes your life very short, and your death long and painful.

Project mode vs. process mode.

Life happens in process mode. Wide cone of vision, fully present, fully involved... glorious. Fully experienced. Whether you are thinking, singing, practicing your guitar, driving, presenting, presenting your husband with divorce papers, finding out that your spouse is fully evil (desire to receive for the self alone), that you"ve been a failure preventing yourself from fully digesting what happened in your life, etc.

Fully engaged.

The first "slogan" that attracted me to transformation was: "vision of a world that works for everyone, with no one and nothing left out"

I didn"t know what it would take, I didn"t know how long it was going to take, but that was the first time in my life that anyone promised that I could be included... that there could be a world where I would not be left out.

In talking to my students, I find that this feeling, feeling left out, is part of everyone... Everyone feels left out. I always thought it was just me...

If nothing else, this can be the source of enormous compassion... and a source of seeing the world, other people as "us"...

As long as you continue seeing yourself as the only victim, the only one left out, the only one suffering (or the only one succeeding) you are in trouble, because now you cannot talk to people, you cannot share, you need to talk at them, and you are alone... not a good place to be.

We were all an inconvenience to out parents. We all disappointed them. We were all abused, one way or another.

We all thought that they were supposed to love us... and in that context: they all abandoned us, betrayed us, cheated us from our due: being loved the way we were.

I have yet to talk to a person who didn"t go through that traumatic realization that parents both love and don"t love, and that you are on your own... And that, maybe, is OK.

When you find out that love, liking, are not under the control of the will... and you either like someone, love someone, or not, you will see that even if people wanted you too, would love you to: you can"t make yourself love someone who you don"t love.

This was a very significant piece of knowledge in my own self-growth: finding out that my mother didn"t love me, and that was just what was so. It stripped away the scrambling to be loved... And allowed me to calm down, start living, and start loving myself.

It made me put my attention to where it could produce results... where I worked for something that wasn"t impossible.

This is a big big big secret very few people will ever tell you.

I found out myself, and then I heard it from that Hungarian psychologist. That"s it. The rest of the world still tells you you need to love... whether you do or you don"t.

If you are a parent, you either love your child or not, you have nothing to say in the matter. But you can be decent with them, be on their side, declare solidarity with them, even if you don"t love them. Treat them as a person, not as a thing that is supposed to make YOU happy, fit your picture of what you wanted, but as an individual who you love when you do, and not when you don"t.

If you refuse to accept life the way life is, refuse to accept reality the way reality is... you are guaranteed to have a lot of suffering in your life.

No matter what aspect of reality, no matter what aspect of life... this includes the speed of others... that is not life... life is what YOU live.

When Life seems to work against you... or does opposite of what you expected

One of my teachers, via Ayn Rand, has been Aristotle.

He taught me one thing. Most people will not teach you much... they will do one thing and one thing only: alter your foundation.

And with regards to foundation altering: Aristotle"s teaching is the most jarring, and the most transformative.

Here is the teaching:

Contradictions do not exist. Whenever you think that you are facing a contradiction, check your premises.

If you are doing all the right things and still don"t have your results... that is a contradiction. Check your premises.



Premise is what you base your decisions on. Your premise is invisible... assumed to be accurate, assumed to be a fact. ((prem·ise
noun Logic
plural noun: premises))

• If you believe in god, then the existence of god is part of your premises.


• If you believe that the mind is the center of your power, then you"ll work on your mind


• If you believe that there is such a thing as the subconscious mind... you"ll find ways to change that


• If you believe that parents should love their children... that is part of your premises


• If you believe that someone can love by deciding to love, that someone can be happy by deciding to be happy...


• If you believe that... hundreds, thousands, hundreds of thousands of things form your premises.

If life isn"t working, or isn"t working as well as it works for others: the difference between you and them is the premises you hold dear and near to your heart.

What you assume to be true is not true.

Depending on how many false assumptions you have in your world view, your life works, or it doesn"t.

I don"t want to use the word "belief", because what you call belief is all in the visible... and what we are talking about here is the invisible.

Nothing in the visible will ever change, unless the invisible changes first.

The problem is that the invisible is... yeah, you got that right, it"s invisible.

So to tease the invisible out, you need to do tricks, and methods, and processes... or they will not become visible.

One of the premises of meditation seems to be that they assume that if you sit long enough cross legged, you"ll see the invisible errors of your ways. Not true... and therefore meditators" vibration is as low or lower than the general population. Ugh, ugly.

One excellent tool for revealing untruths in your invisible foundation is the 67 steps. Even things Tai just repeated but himself cannot see can be accessed through that program.

But there is a problem: unguided you will only see what you have already seen... and your foundation will remain the same.

If we look at reality as a house, you"ll get access to the doors, the windows, the furnishing, but you won"t be able to change the foundation... so your house may fly away if a tornado comes, or sinks with the foundation deeper and deeper until it breaks.

Truth value and your premises

Your premises are partially unexamined Tree of Knowledge, and partially mistaken assumptions based on poor understanding of the world.

They are your blind spots...

Invisible to you. I can see them.

Some of the invisibles are visible to someone with eyes to see. But you don"t want to hear it.

Roy Williams says in today"s Monday Morning Memo: ((
Blind Spot 2018

• Is established information or new information more likely to be true?


• Which is more effective, planning or improvisation?


• Are people essentially good, or essentially selfish?


• Which is more important, individual rights or collective rights?


• Will the future of America be better than its past?


• Are low-income people less intelligent than high-income people?


• Is the Bible true, or just a collection of ancient folk stories?


• Are attractive people more reliable than unattractive ones?

You may think those questions have obvious answers. But in truth, just as many people chose the opposites.

Each of us has foundational assumptions upon which our worldviews are predicated.

If your foundational assumptions are different than mine, you’ll interpret experiences, evidence, and data differently than I do.

Psychologists call a foundational assumption a “cognitive bias,” but only if your assumption is tightly focused. If we’re discussing your entire collection of foundational assumptions, we’re talking about your “schema.”

Your schema, or outlook, is how you believe the universe works.

Asking a person to reconsider a foundational assumption is like asking them to change their religion.

But every foundational assumption comes with a blind spot.

This is true even if your foundational assumptions caused you to answer our opening 8 questions by saying, “Well, it depends on…”

We often believe our foundational assumptions are shared by intelligent people everywhere.

Because when you “know” something deeply and intrinsically, it’s hard to imagine other people not knowing it. This cognitive bias is often called “the curse of knowledge,” and it’s responsible for a high percentage of bad advertising because it will cause you to answer questions in your ads that no one was asking.

Are you beginning to see why it’s important to be aware of your blind spots?

Most of us refuse to believe we have blind spots, because to accept that you have blind spots is to accept that your foundational assumptions are flawed, and then who would you be?

To point out another person"s blind spot is like undressing them in public; you will not be soon forgiven.

And now you know why polite people “never discuss politics or religion” with people outside their own in-group.

And although this may sound Machiavellian, I share it with you not so that you might employ it, but so that you might guard yourself against it: It is easy to manipulate a person when you know their foundational assumptions.

Don’t let people manipulate you.

When you have the courage to recognize your foundational assumptions for what they are, you are more likely to be happy, more likely to be liked, more likely to experience personal peace.

But this open-mindedness comes at a price: you will never be the leader of villagers with torches and pitchforks.

But that was never really a goal of yours, was it?

Was it?

Roy H. Williams

))

Most of us refuse to believe we have blind spots, because to accept that you have blind spots is to accept that your foundational assumptions are flawed, and then who would you be?

To point out another person"s blind spot is like undressing them in public; you will not be soon forgiven.

Now we see, clearly, why I am not popular.

If you don"t point out their blind spot: you cannot make a difference. You won"t make a difference. They will not be able to change their lives.

And if you do... you are devil incarnate...

He says in the same Monday Morning Memo:

When you have the courage to recognize your foundational assumptions for what they are, you are more likely to be happy, more likely to be liked, more likely to experience personal peace.

As you see, it takes courage to look, it takes courage to recognize.

My students, my clients have more courage than the average Joe. Because more than intelligence, you need courage.

And the world suffers with courage deficiency syndrome...

For example, doing the 67 steps being coached by me is no walk in the park. Doing it the way it was meant to be done: one step every weekday... read meditatively, with diffuse brain mode, definitely not a walk in the park.

But did you expect your life, your situation to change without effort? Without doing things that are explosive fun?

Look and detect a fundamental flaw in your premises...

My mother drilled it in me: no pain no gain.

And that, my friend, is a sound premise for life. Maybe the only thing my mother gave me that I appreciate. But I appreciate it more than words can express.

PS: If you see the point, and if you can summon courage, I"d like you to take the 67 step coaching... for 18 months. Paying weekly it cost roughly a thousand dollars.

You can get the 67 steps on wireless headphones. Obviously it includes access to all the steps on Tai"s site... I do not pirate the 67 steps.

And decide if you want to be coached too...


You"ll get your headphones from China, and your chip from me. If you want to get them faster and already put together: add $15. You can do it while you buy the deal.

Why get it on dedicated headphones? Because that way you are not tied to anything, there is nothing to set. It remembers where you stopped and it will continue from there.

Macular degeneration? Cataract? Age related loss of sight?

Healthy eyes ((Here are some tips to help maintain eye health as you age.

Eat a Balanced Diet. As part of your healthy diet, choose foods rich in antioxidants, like Vitamins A and C; foods like leafy, green vegetables and fish. ...
Exercise. ...
Get a good night"s sleep. ...
Wash your hands. ...
Don"t Smoke. ...
Wear Sunglasses. ...
Devices and Blue Light.))

I still wear the same strength of glasses I first received at age 9... and I am 71 years old.

What"s the secret? Almost all women I know have had cataract ((A cataract is a clouding of the lens in the eye that affects vision. Most cataracts are related to aging. Cataracts are very common in older people. By age 80, more than half of all Americans either have a cataract or have had cataract surgery. A cataract can occur in either or both eyes.)) removed, macular degeneration ((Macular degeneration, also known as age-related macular degeneration (AMD or ARMD), is a medical condition which may result in blurred or no vision in the center of the visual field. Early on there are often no symptoms. ... It is due to damage to the macula of the retina.)) , and can"t read without glasses. I read without glasses...

But recently I have been having difficulty seeing.

This has happened before, and Dr. Christopher"s eye formula, of which I made a few gallons(!) a few years ago, to the rescue.

It has five herbs, among them Cayenne Pepper, is a powerful eye detoxifyer.

Originally it is supposed to be an eye-wash, but I am not built to tolerate that... so I take it internally, in water. It starts working after 3 days. I know because in the morning my eyes are glued together... the stuff that comes out is what made me not see well.

I also help it with energy, occasionally... the method is taught in the Energy Healing calls, free on the site.

You can get the Dr. Christopher eye formula on amazon.com... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B000S86VC0

Or if you prefer, you can get it from me. My eyebright formula is four times hotter... so it is more potent. A lot more.

You can pay the same as on Amazon, plus shipping. $16.50 in the USA, 24.50 bucks everywhere else. I won"t make a payment button... send me an email and I"ll send you a payment link... This is not one of "products"... I don"t even have a label for it.

But if your eyesight is going bad, you"ll appreciate the home-made quality of the remedy.

Now, let"s talk a little bit about why MY eyes are still healthy... and other people"s eyes are not.

The question is really: what makes the eyes go with the rest of the body... by the way?
People with healthy bodies don"t lose their eyesight.
Does this mean I am healthier that the next guy? Yes... in spite of the fact that I get ill from time to time. But short illness, long periods of being well, active, and eating right, doing the right things, drinking the right things ends up making me healthier than most.

What you do in 90% of your life is what decides how you
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The secret of happy producers... NOT what time they get up in the morning, or how many books they read...

My students, like popcorn, are starting to pop at the same time. It is hard to say what made each pop... especially if your vocabulary (distinction) is not keeping up with the richness of the invisible reality.

What do I mean?

I have been intrigued with the idea of helping people to be intrinsically motivated, ever since I read and re-read Deci"s book: Why we do what we do.

Without words one can be the best at something, but will never be able to teach it...

Without words one can achieve something, like a level of vibration, a level of growth, but if the process wasn"t distinguished, it will probably disappear without a chance of ever coming back.

I have one talent that I am proud of, that makes me a maven of sorts, and that is distinguishing. And obviously that means that I am somewhere in the middle of the art... not at the bottom, not at the top, so I can do more and more of what I like, what I am good at, and never run out of fun.

Distinguishing starts with noticing a missing. Noticing that there is a jump... a discontinuity where there should be none of that. In reality there are distinct points, like where the water turns into ice, or where the water turns into vapor (gas), but even those are not as jumpy...

Now, noticing a missing is the starting point. And the willingness to dig for it, without knowing what it is you are looking for... The faith that you"ll know when you see it.

In some way it is wordless... like the color in the color exercise... except you only know where it"s missing, you only know what gap it will, hopefully, fill in.

The "Why we do what we do" isn"t a good book, but it was a start. I needed to get the missing distinctions, because most of my students were extrinsically motivated, and were, therefore, seriously under-achieving in life, not mentioning the fact that they were not fulfilled by their activities, or even their results.

Something was missing, and by god I"ll find it for them, so they can be happy, joyful, self-loving like me.

One of my tools, the Juice Exercise, had great promise... but it only shows what activity has the greatest promise, but unfortunately it doesn"t produce the result, fulfillment, without some thing or some things... but what?

So I was on a quest to find what those things are... and it seems that we have found some stuff... potent stuff.

The hunt began with the Deci book, had a huge turning point with the video where the dude supposedly learned to play the ukulele in 20 days, and performed 20 or so songs with the four chords he learned in a TED talk. Impressive, seductive, and it gave me an idea:

I created a 20-day skill learning challenge...

...and started to research a way to teach learning... My students were all weak at that... And it lead me to the Learning how to learn Coursera course.

That course had distinctions I had no idea about... focused mode, diffuse mode, process mode, project mode... wowzie...

These were all obvious to me, and what is obvious in unconscious competence cannot be taught... it is unconscious. I never had to learn it... But my students did.

So I referred my students to that course. In fact, I made it mandatory for my students in the Playground to do that course... and to participate in the Learning challenge.

Some did, others didn"t... I haven"t had the energy to follow up, to MAKE THEM want to do it.

The results are extraordinarily telling. The ones that did what I asked for: they are moving up both on the vibrational scale and on the ability to see the distinctions of the Playground course...

Depending on the dedication they put to the coursera course and the skill learning... more energy on the skill learning... better results in life and in the Playground.

What the heck is the reason? what is correlation here and what is causation? ((Here is another question that I am now thinking to ask: What measure in my Starting Point Measurement shows clearest that someone is going to pop, will be willing to pop? After writing this whole article, and pondering a few more hours even before i push the "publish" button, I have come to the conclusion that it is the "inspirable/inspired" measure.

When you are not inspirable, your whole life is about you, and nothing else. Your "about-me" score is sky high, and you are limping through life. Other common characteristics: you have a tendency to try to prove your superiority, which exists only in your imagination.

You also, probably, have a sky high desire number. Inspiration is the last thing on your mind.))

This is where scientists and economists are very shaky... wobbly... and more often than not mistaken... around correlation or causation.

So more data is needed... but "when you are committed, providence moves too... ((Full quote:
“Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one"s favour all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way. I have learned a deep respect for one of Goethe"s couplets:

Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it.
Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it!”~ William Hutchison Murray)) so one of the students had an opportunity to "play" with adults... to sing with a group of professional musicians, with no stakes... for fun. And play with his voice, take risks, and enjoy the process. And the result was a shift, like water turning into vapor. A 100 point jump in vibration, and a sudden "finding one"s self" experience: "I am good for something... I am not totally worthless" experience.

Now, I hadn"t known that this "I am worthless" experience is there... he had never articulated it. But, as I learned from him, who went through this experience with his eyes open, when you are in project mode, i.e. getting something done is the goal, instead of doing it, you always feel, 99% of the time, that you are worthless, that you are not there, that you are not enough... because the only moment that counts, in project mode, is the finished mode and the prize that comes with it.

Wretched...

Imagine reading a novel in that mode... Children who, on a road trip ask every minute, Are we there yet? are in project mode. I never asked it, I still don"t.

I consider every minute of every day my life... in project mode you consider your life only the peak experiences... the rest: not your life, you are on the way to get to your life. Get to wherever you should be getting, and everything else shows up as a "not there yet" and an obstacle, the Valley of the Shadow of Death.

Looking at the learning challenges people took on, the more process oriented the project was, and the more they were willing to surrender to the process, the higher their vibration grew.

These projects didn"t work in a vacuum... all these students were in partner calls: their results depended, a lot, on the partner"s attitude regarding their project and how willing they were share it, how much they made it part of their lives.

OK, if by now you are lost... let me summarize what we have seen so far:

Switching from project mode to process mode, i.e. put all power in all action, right now, without a concern to the end result, is a huge part of, if not all of the secret of going from extrinsic motivation to intrinsic motivation... the kind of life where you can be joyful, engaged, and fulfilled. The results come on their own accord, you can take your eyes off the prize, breathe, relax, and do what you do... Did you start feeling that pain in your shoulders? That was the tension project mode creates. Blocking creativity, blocking your access to the divine, blocking Life.

Students that haven"t distinguished their mode, project or process, haven"t been able to change their vibration, their results, their life experience, even if they are in the Playground, and seemingly do the assignments.

The other distinction that can be found with the students that turned the corner is also from the Learning the learn course: focused or diffuse brain state...

Now, I am not going to argue with their terminology... I am going to, instead, add what my empath sees: the difference between those two is in fact in the eyes... wide cone of vision or narrow cone of vision. Including or excluding.

You cannot be present if and when you have a narrow cone of vision. If you tried right now focusing narrowly on what you are reading, including the letters... you"ll be, as long as your cone of vision is narrow, taken out of the present moment... and if you wanted, for example, check if your cone of vision is narrow or not, you would have to take your focus off the reading...

While, if you manage to read with a wide cone of vision, you are not "stolen away" from the present moment: you can see the weather, you can feel your feelings, you can maybe even ponder, somewhat, what you are reading... without having to move your focus.

Most people resist being taken out of life... it is a natural resistance: if you are not present, you can get killed... not mentioning the fact that most of the things we do, are boring if you do them with a narrow cone of vision... while the few that aren"t boring are highly addictive, like computer games.

If anything shows up for you, in your experience, as boring, think widening your cone of vision... It is a mechanical movement. The wider your cone of vision the more diffuse brain state you are in: the only brain state where you can connect the dots, see previously undiscovered connections, answers pop up, it is joyful.

It is much like the difference between driving on the highways, fixated on the road, while all kinds of beautiful, interesting things are happening around the road. I remember when I first discovered the trees and the sky back in 1987... They were always there, but I never saw them. I was fixated narrowly on whatever... often on my own misery, or what I didn"t have, what was wrong with me or the world...

One of the ways interrogators know that the subject is making up stories, lying, is they look to the left (if I remember it correctly) and look right when they want to remember facts. But if they had a wide cone of vision, they would be able to hide the source of the answer... Not that you will be interrogated any time soon... I hope.

So this is where we are right now.

One more thing, what triggered this article, is the word "autonomy"... which most people don"t know exactly what it really is, and I was one of those people, just a few hours ago. ((autonomy:
1. the right or condition of self-government.
freedom from external control or influence; independence.
synonyms: self-government, independence, self-rule, home rule, sovereignty, self-determination, freedom, autarchy; More
self-sufficiency, individualism

2. (in Kantian moral philosophy) the capacity of an agent to act in accordance with objective morality rather than under the influence of desires.))

But while I am writing this article, making breakfast, doing other things as well... I realized that when it is greed, have-to, ego-need is directing you, you do not experience autonomy: you are not your own master... something outside of the Self is telling you what to do by setting out a path you can"t see, you don"t trust... and yet.

I have had clients fail for this very reason. Their actions didn"t come from the inside... they either obeyed me, or they obeyed their greed/ego needs... and at some point they had to quit.

Was it my fault? Muscle test says no... I have a hunch that that is only partially so. There must be some way to calm down the raging ego, so the gentle tug of the Self can be felt...

I don"t know how to do that yet. Certain soul corrections, certain ethnicities have more forceful egos than others. The more an ethnicity considers THEMSELVES as inferior, the stronger the ego pulls. It"s not personal... I know, it is confusing.

Did anybody say life is going to be simple?

PS: I just unwittingly tested this autonomy issue: I am sitting at my computer doing whatever I am doing. And then I want to get a glass of water... but I am tethered to the electrical stuff I am using to heal myself (vitafon)... I instantly experience thwarted intention... I am not free to do what I want to do... my autonomy has been attacked.

It takes me thinking this through to calm myself down, and not go towards "my life isn"t working" direction... lol. It takes next to nothing to go that way. But this time I am aware, I am conscious, and I am watching. So as soon as I finish this paragraph, I"ll disconnect the darn Vitafon, promise my self to get back to it, and will go get some water, or whatever will give me back to an experience of autonomy.

Autonomy is very important... Respect it, honor it, like a treasure. Oh... and grant it to others... be the one in a million.

It"s not natural for a human to live well under the thumb, under the domination of another, but some soul correction can"t live there at all... If that is you, start moving yourself out from that predicament.

More in the Dank Pink TED talk based animated video: really good

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u6XAPnuFjJc

The 39th Bach Flower Remedy: the Yew: Desire to receive for the self alone

 Original publication date: March 11, 2012. Today all day I am reminded of this time...

The 39th Bach Flower Remedy: the Yew: Desire to receive for the self alone

One of the benefits, for me, to do the Connection Calls is being with all of you, and feeling how wretched, how miserable you feel. Not pleasant for me, but very useful.

I have been feeling some energies, some feelings that are not covered by the 38 original Bach Flower Remedies.

At the same time, while writing the Soul Correction articles, or teaching the core group classes, I can see that there is resistance there that doesn"t respond to the Heaven on Earth energy bundle.

In a conversation earlier today, I found one of the missing remedies: I"ve been guided to it for quite some time, but the guidance has become more concentrated in the past two days.

The yew, a new energy, started to pop up everywhere.

There is a beautiful yew (the yew is a tree) guarding the front door of the house I live in. I"ve been nurturing it for 8 years... that"s how long I have been here.

There was a huge yew in the garden of the house where I grew up.

I always wondered if those beautiful, inviting little ringlets of fire are edible. I remember eating one or two as a child... but not being sure, I didn"t have the courage to eat more.

The birds don"t eat it. Not even one. Maybe if we had a peacock... right? lol. ((Peacocks eat poison and turn it into beauty))

Of course I didn"t know the tree was called yew, I didn"t know anything about it. I thought it was really a pine... some version of a pine... evergreen, with pin-like leaves... very non-scientific, but beat me if you are much better at botany... lol.

Anyway, I was looking for the plant that could counter the sharp, curved, bow-like pain people have been bringing to the calls: arching from one shoulder to the other.

Resistance, and a kind of "humor me..." "f... you" "let"s see if you can make me..."

If I needed to give you an example, it is the attitude you bring to shopping and sales help in a clothing store.

You need help but you don"t want to be sold. You need help but you don"t want the sales person to make a commission on your purchase.

Pure and unadulterated desire to receive for the self alone. No win-win. You win and you want all the others to lose. One winner: you. Many losers.

What you are saying in your heart: "It is not OK with me if you benefit from selling me something. It would be best if you starved to death while I am using and benefiting from the fruits of YOUR labor, the sweat of your brow."

And, undeniably, there are new and old "students" who bring that kind of attitude to my calls, to their partner calls, to life.

As always, when I am poised to distinguish something new, the occurrences of what precipitates (brings about) the discovery, are everywhere... Here are some examples from the last 3 days:

• The person who buys something from me, then the moment they get it, they demand a refund.


• The person who will suck my brain dry, and then goes and uses it without my permission, or without the benefit of acknowledging me as source.


• The person who won"t come to a connection call but wants access to the programs that require you to be connected...


• Or they come to the call but won"t connect. They revel in being disruptive to a whole big group of people"s connection... I can feel their glee. And when I throw them off the call, they call me intolerant, impatient, and other names.

So there you have it: the yew, the highly poisonous yew with the little beautiful fruit that looks soooo seductively sweet, so juicy, and so innocent, that whispers to you: "I am not hurting anyone... I just want what is my due... " "I am right, everyone can see that!" "You can try, but won"t make me..." "Don"t sell to me! You are a money hungry, power hungry  blah blah blah..." "I hoped you were going to be a loving mother to me... Now I hate you!"

All the while you are poisoning yourself.

YOU are eating the poison you meant for somebody else!

The yew energy is infused into the Heaven on Earth, both the remedy and the HOE audio.

Of course I am not using the plant in the remedy, only the energy. Source has already duplicated it, and I have been taking it since this morning. I can feel the bow and then I can feel it dissipate.

Desire for the self alone is universal... everyone has it. Some more than others. The more wretched you feel the more you have... and the more you will benefit from the new Heaven on Earth.

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Your Dark Side: Desire To Receive For The Self Alone, Cutting Your Nose In Spite Of Your Face

All religions are against selfishness. All parents, all people tell you that you are a better person if you are about others rather than being about you.

The problem with this universally accepted principle is that we actually don"t know what we are talking about. It seems that what we are asked is to be selfless, to give up our selves, our self-interest.

Selfless can mean two things, both are a crime, a sin [note]meaning: you miss life in its entirety, all the present moments, all the good stuff, all the bad stuff... that is the meaning of the word, originally, of sin. Missing the mark... namely the present moment[/note] , a horrible thing giving you a horrible life:

• 1. We now have and know no self. This is a widespread phenomenon [note]60% of all people has no sense of self, 95% of all people has no or not much sense of self today[/note] in this day and age, and I was a victim of this phenomenon for many decades.

I literally did not know what I liked, what I wanted, what turned me on, what floated my boat, what I was excited about, what would have I wanted.

I knew fairly well what I didn"t like, but just like with everything, there are a thousand ways to miss the bulls eye, but only one way to hit it.

Knowing who you are, what you want, what turns you on, what ticks you off, what your preferences are, what your values are is mandatory, if you want to be on the path to become a human being.

Without that you are just unconscious sheep. [note]But worse than that: even if you want to walk on the path: whatever is not solid enough to drop, you can"t drop it. You can"t catch what you don"t see! Which means you are stuck with an undefined, amorphous "self" that doesn"t serve, can"t serve  you.

You"ll go into your mind trying to remember who the heck you were in the past to give you some semblance of guidance! For most of you that is worse than death.[/note]

• 2. Giving up your own life, on your own life, on your own interest, on your own enjoyment, on your own fulfillment... for others" life, interest, enjoyment, fulfillment, whatever...

You cannot be a human being giving away your own life: it is against your nature, you are suppressing your nature, and anything suppressed will get its due: you either will go crazy, sick, or raging angry at the most inopportune times.

It is only your ego, the one that says: "but I am good..." enjoys it.

Human Being, (not just by looks and physiology, but by consciousness,) a Human Being, takes 100% responsibility for his physiology, for his needs, and takes care of those, without abusing anyone, without taking away anything that belongs to someone else.

A real Human Being does not suppress: instead uses his intelligence to express the needs, fulfill the need at appropriate times and in appropriate places.

You need to own that you are built on animal body, and consciousness, nothing will change that.

Making your nature wrong kills you, kills your body, kills your spirituality, but feeds your ego.

Unless you are Self-ish, your life won"t matter. Your self-expression will be pretentious and fake, or non-existent. Your creative powers will be un-expressed, unused, or frittered away.

Now, let me talk about something that no one talks about: another price of suppression: ego.

Ego, in its eagerness to make you special, make you successful, is doing a horrible number on you.

All Soul Corrections deal with this very issue: I am going to explain it here.

Desire to receive for the self alone is what modern psychology calls ego. Ego desire. Being right, making the other wrong, dominating, avoiding domination, avoiding responsibility, and all the other ego moves. [note]the six moves of the ego,  six ways to have desire to receive for the self alone:
1. wanting to look good/avoiding to look bad/causing another to look bad
2. being right/avoid being wrong/make another wrong
3. winning/avoid losing/cause another to lose
4. dominate/avoid domination
5. justify self/invalidate another
6. avoid being responsible for what is yours[/note]

Instead of being Self-ish, (knowing who you are, knowing what is your unique expression, knowing what you need and what you want, without EVER violating another"s right for the same) you have suppressed Self-ishness, and now you feel justified to trample on other people"s rights, interfere with their lives, or withhold what you would naturally give them.

I can see this clearly in conversations, namely in all podcasts, all Playground partner calls... It is so obvious to me, so invisible to the offending person.

Most of your life is about gaining power over others... a clear violation of the base law which is: you can have anything you want without taking away another"s right for self-determination, for fulfilling their purpose, to earn their living, to live in peace and happiness.

Your main ambition in life seems to be making people miserable, upset, feel bad about themselves, get sick, lose the will to live.

I mean it. This is your main occupation, your main, albeit hidden purpose in life, unless you are Self-ish.

When you are Self-ish, you are busy creating, you are busy Self-expressing, or just living.

People suffer servitude, or animosity around you, and you pretend that you have nothing to do with it.

You won"t really do anything else, lest they have some fun, some benefit, feel like they can just live their lives. No, you won"t allow that!

Let me give you a recent example:

I have recently released a revolutionary audio recording, called Harmonize The Planet. Originally it was meant, like the name suggests, for harmonizing the planet. I asked people to join in and I was collecting a "donation" to be able to make a difference in the world.

Making a difference in the world is something very important to me, given that humanity has accelerated the pace with which it is destroying life on the planet. And there are not a lot of people whose activity can make a difference in that arena. I was excited that I could create something, and I thought that people will be excited to be able to contribute. After all this is OUR planet. And I supposed that my readership consisted of high-minded people.

Then something unexpected happened: the audio turned out to be doing two other things, on the level of the individual, things I didn"t know it would do or even could do..

• It turned out to be an effective antidote for the common anguish and anxiety... Trust me, I had tried everything before, and nothing worked like this audio.


• The second thing that it does is even more valuable. You see, to go to the next evolutionary level, humans need to use the mind as a tool, instead of being used by the mind... like puppets.

People use their minds to understand things, to listen, to see, to see what they feel. The mind is not a suitable tool for that, so people are completely cut off from reality, and the culprit is the predominance of the mind.

This audio, The Harmonizer, shuts up the mind. It creates a welcome pause, a silence, in which the Beyond can talk to you, in which you can contemplate who you are, in which you can feel your feelings, listen to your inner guidance, hear what others are saying, or just rest.

The audio cost a pittance, but only my students were buying it.

When I muscle tested why other readers don"t buy it, I got that people resent that they have to pay for others" benefit. They"d rather stay anguished, or riddled with a busy mind, lest others benefit from what they are doing.

Now, whether they are thinking of their mother-in-law, their "best" friend, I don"t know. I know one thing: if it benefits another, as well as them, they don"t want it.

Here is another example:

Some 25 years ago I had a lover. Every time I wanted to have sex, he refused. He said he felt used. He said that I was asking for it because it was good for me.

What he could not see, did not see, is that he, a man, always enjoyed sex, whether I did or not. But he preferred that he was the only one enjoying it.

Somehow it made him feel better if he was the only beneficiary of the "act."

The people that say: no, "I won"t buy the Harmonize The Planet audio, because it also helps others," are just like this one-time boy friend of mine.

A direct result of pretending all your life to be generous and selfless... while you withhold yourself and wish everyone dead around you, so you can finally have your day.Get your Harmonizer audio

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Will measuring your vibration prove that you live a butterfly life... not a caterpillar life?

First let me clarify the terminology: vibration is an invented logarithmic number... It indicates the level you are on the level of evolutionary scale in every area of life, including intellectually, spiritually, emotionally.

Butterfly life:

you can live life on the horizontal plane (caterpillar life) where everything feels personal, attacking, dangerous, offending, painful, dramatic, or the vertical plane, what we could call "heaven on earth" where you are not bothered by stuff... where you experience joy, enthusiasm, love, caring, etc... and get things done, so your life feels worth living.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D0a0aNqTehM

One of the most frequent things people find my site with, is the question: what is the real difference between a butterfly and a caterpillar, and why you can"t talk butterfly language with caterpillar people.

My hunch is, that the people are looking are the people who don"t feel they get the respect they deserve from other people... and they suspect that they speak butterfly language, while the non-listening people are caterpillar people.

Your language doesn"t make you a butterfly person... one half of one percent of humanity live, at least some of the time, on the vertical plane... i.e. they could be, legitimately, called butterfly people. Some of that half percent are my students.

What is this butterfly-caterpillar thing really so that so many people want to know?

Butterfly and caterpillar are two different stages of the same insect... but what people are really wanting to know is the spiritual meaning about themselves. Why? Because in this day and age all life is reduced to its mundane, left brain, mind-living level, and the magic, the mystery, the spiritual is missing for people: their god-self is fully unexpressed. They want to experience it...

They want to know, they hope, you hope to learn how to become a butterfly... spiritually.

What"s wrong with being a worm, one could ask, but it"s obvious: if nothing else: as a worm, someone can step on you... and the second: you are bound to the ground. It seems flying is more attractive than crawling. Pedestrian life is colorless, boring, in spite of all the drama.

But it is not clear to people what elements, inside elements, invisible elements these two states have... and what they can do about they changing their insides to change themselves and their lives from boring, tedious, unexciting, to glorious, if they wish to.

The Starting Point Measurements

It seems that nearly all my research, experiments, measuring is about this... measuring and testing the characteristics of the two states in people. It is many measures...

In the Starting Point Measurements the difference between higher and lower plane living is already quite clear... But still I am seeing new things to measure... like a couple of days ago I saw that measuring self-value would be a useful thing to measure, even though you don"t have a lot of control, directly, on that number. In fact you only have direct control on only a few of the numbers, the physical or the essentially mainly physical measures, your level of health and your level of cell hydration.

The rest, the measures over which you don"t have direct control, respond to spiritual practices: reading books in a certain way, gaining clarity, learning the invisible dynamics, learning to tell reality from unreality... The most fundamental influence, the most important factor in altering your measures is to increase the number of "distinctions" you have about yourself, about humanness, about life... especially in the "invisible" dimension of reality, in the proverbial iceberg"s immersed portion. It is real, and yet it is invisible until you learn to see it.

Every distinction is like that. Invisible until it is made visible through learning.

I measure the number of distinctions you can recognize in the vocabulary measure... Calling it your vocabulary number confuses people...

Because your world view is like a picture, an incomplete distorted mis-shapen picture that has empty parts where you don"t know what should be there, and distorted parts where what you see there is not what is there.

The more complete the picture and the less empty parts and the less distorted parts it has, the more accurate your relationship will be with reality, the more astute your observations and therefore your actions will be.

• The current "vocabulary" of humanity, including the Nobel Prize winners and the beggars on Delhi"s streets in India, is 200 distinctions.


• The average "vocabulary" of the people who come to my site is 300 distinctions.


• The minimum "vocabulary" is 1000 where you can consider yourself able to enter and live some of your life in the butterfly state.

The corresponding vibration number is 200... this is the level where integrity and responsibility becomes available.

Why is the vocabulary number so important?

Counter to all belief, there is never anything wrong in reality. In reality things are what they are... and the emotions, suffering, are not in reality: they are added by the person who can"t tell what is reality.

So when someone"s clarity/vocabulary/distinctions number reaches 1000, they don"t live, or they don"t have to live in the Valley of the Shadow of Death: they can see that the suffering is not in reality, and they can stop adding the suffering, adding the misery themselves.

We do this work in the most organized and orderly fashion, at this point, in the Playground program. It can be called an immersion program: where you do the work, all the work, all the practicing, all the real learning, between sessions. You do it on your own, and you do it with your partner who I assign to you and you talk to, at least once a week.

In that program you are your brother"s keeper... your own success depends on how well you support your partner. An interesting and unusual dynamic. This dynamic trains you, among others, to take your eyes off your own stuff... your own selfish "needs" and effectively put your eyes on the needs of another. You"ll see why this is essential in a second...

Your about-me score

One of the most important measures in the Starting Point Measurements is your about-me score, that tells me what percentage of your visual field is occupied with your needs, your concerns, your own stuff. It also tells me to what degree you live in the mind, in unreality, in Plato"s Cave: fighting shadows, always ineffectiveness.

Interestingly, this same number also tells me what percentage of you is available to learn about reality, and also what percentage of you is available to connect to the spiritual reality, to be your god-self. The higher your about-me score, the more your "caterpillar" self is running your life.

The "spiritual" experiences you have when your about-me score is high, are fake, imaginary, purely b.s. fantasizing. not spiritual.

Another measure that is in sync with the about-me score is your desire score.

Desire is what you hope you can have, what you dream or daydream about, what you "should" have...

The higher your about-me score, the higher your desire number.

When your desire number is high, your whole attention, all your energy is vested in the results... we call that having a project focus.

The results, and a high vibration life, on the other hand, is produced by "process focus" where you are, and all your energies, all your self, are where your activity is... right here and right now... not in some future, in some pipedream, not in the project, not in the result.

This is why a high desire number can only cause misery:

• on one hand it can"t produce the result, because results are produced with process, by doing things in a certain way, fully present.


• On the other hand: you cannot enjoy what you are not present with... so the doing is miserable as well.

With a high desire number, your life is about doing what you hate to do to create something you desire... but work you hate is ineffective. A total catch 22.

Only when your about-me number gets lowered by enlarging your cone of vision, can you internalize more distinctions. With more distinctions you see more of reality and see it more accurately.

• You see what is real, what is not, what previously invisible dynamics can now be seen in reality.


• You experience, over and over again, that there is no suffering in reality...
  eventually you reach the point where you have a real choice, every moment, whether you act in the butterfly state or in the caterpillar state.

Widening your cone of vision is mainly mechanical and physical, by the way. Certain actions widen it, most narrow it.

and here is a hint how widening your cone of vision gives you all you wanted

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eDkpVwrhYfo

Are you going to be a butterfly all the time?

No matter how high your vibration grows, you always need to choose... I know that, because I still have to, even though my vibration is very high. Have to choose many times a day whether I"ll respond in the butterfly state or in the caterpillar state.

In essence this is the whole work of raising your vibration, acquiring the butterfly state as a possibility, a real possibility for living.

Would you like to know where you are now? Ask for your Starting Point Measurements.


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Competence is rare... People who can get things done, well, on time... are rare

Competence is rare.

You know the people you deal with: they are just like of you... 99% of them 99% of the time are incompetent, late, shoddy work, nonexistent knowledge, sloppy delivery, tunnel vision, no distinctions.

You don"t have to be competent in everything: be competent in what you do for a living, and in your relationships.

But, of course, it will require something you haven"t been willing to do: get better. Learn deeper, more, more precisely. Practice, and bring integrity to it.

Deliberate practice, the rare phenomenon, is rare because people think: practicing is doing it the same way, over and over, expecting a different results.

One of the characters, a literary character, practices marshal arts, etc. every day, hours on end.

Lincoln, the president, said: I"ll sharpen my axe for five hours so the one hour I spend with cutting the tree, the axe is "competent" to do the job.

And you read it, and you probably say it, "good for you Lincoln, see what it got for you? assassinated."

But I"d rather be assassinated than just be nothing at all. A nobody. A wannabe.

How do you NOT build competence?

Sometimes the inverse inquiry is the most effective.

I am going to heavily rely on the behavior of my students, so this is not a general question, but like with any principle-sounding sentence, if it is not true everywhere, it is not true anywhere.

One of the common characteristics of people who fail to build competence, is fancying themselves already there.

It is a character flaw. And maybe it is also a lack of self-knowledge, a lack of awareness, a lack of willingness to be a beginner.

Some movies are brilliant, and their brilliance is lasting. So is with the original Karate Kid.

In that movie Mr. Miyagi has the wisdom to know that the kid, Daniel-san, KNOWS karate by having seen it... so he has preconceived notions on how it"s done.

So he teaches Daniel-san in a way where he learns the basic moves without the help of his eyes... he builds muscle memory first.

People have a hard time considering going back and building competence if for some reason they didn"t have their own Mr. Miyagi, and they started wrong.

I have been one of them: in architecture. I missed an entire semester and its step by step building blocks system of knowing what is inside roofs, walls, etc... and I could never go back and learn what I missed... and lost confidence in my ability to ever know, really.

And probably every other areas of life... When I muscle test my competence level, in general, I get 60%.

My most self-confident sounding/behaving students have a competence level under 10%... and until they get, in their bones, that the foundation is missing, they will not be able to change that number.

In a world where the average competence level is 3%, where the President of the United States of America is below that average with 2% competence, it is not an accident that people have a "good enough" threshold that makes them incompetent in most areas, including their profession.

Famous basketball coach ... keeps on his team practicing the basics... because all excellence is build on the basics performed excellently.

Not interested in feedback... unwilling to hear the music

I have had a student who didn"t get a raise she had gotten every year. She was angry about it, and scared... When I asked if she found out what her boss had to say as feedback, she said she didn"t want to hear it.

Accurate feedback plus a method to improve one"s performance is crucial to increase one"s competence.

I have a student, who has one area of life where he is very competent. 70%. In other areas of life not so much: his average competence level is 10%.

He astutely observed himself and how he learns best, and added two areas of life to where he can raise his competence level: the work of the Playground, and playing the guitar.

He is diligently building muscle memory in either, both with frequency and with intensity, continually soliciting feedback from other people, like myself, or a guitar teacher.

If feedback is not the most valuable thing for you, instead is a reason to argue or feel devastated, you are not likely to get more competent.

Your illusions about yourself will keep you from getting better.

Considering oneself an indivisible whole... not a team of parts, aspects, etc.

This mistaken world view may come from religion, or religious parents.

In this world view you are either good or bad, either valuable or value-less, and you have no concept of feedback, no concept of gradual growth, no concept of reality.

The coach"s job is often needed on this level: to emphasize that there is the person, the intrinsic value, and then there is the extrinsic values: this is where competence lives.

Competence is not an intrinsic value, it is the value you can produce with your activities: worldy values. Exchange values.

And being poor in competence has no relevance to your value as a person, the intrinsic value.

Now, I need to make a detour here, a clarification: being pleasant, being a good conversationalist, being uplifting instead of being a cry-baby, a depressed "clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy" is still an extrinsic value. Not intrinsic. Intrinsically we are all unique, special, and invaluable... while extrinsically we cover the whole range of not at all - to immensely valuable. ((Being a force of nature instead of a feverish, selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy. I am of the opinion that my life belongs to the whole community and as I live it is my privilege - my privilege to do for it whatever I can.))

For a coach, a teacher, you taking the coaching willingly, is the most endearing extrinsic value.

Whether you are sullen, threatened, argumentative, belligerent, resistant, superior, these, for the coach are all extrinsic values that diminish their ability to take you where you said you wanted to go. Competence in one area of life or another.

Business, relationships, life enjoyment, living a life worth living.

Intrinsically you are like everyone else... but extrinsically you may be someone who cannot be trained, who insists on being stuck on a low level of competence. Or you may be a shooting star who takes training well and will end up at the top of your game... the game you choose.

It is not easy to get competent in a game you haven"t chose, but others have chosen for you, or chose temporarily and now became your main occupation. But even though it is not easy, in my humble opinion, unless you really hate it, and unless you have already something better, the first job to do is get good where you are... so you can keep all your power about you.

No effort is ever a waste... I got trained as an architect and I haven"t done architecture for 31 years... I trained myself/got trained in 20 some other skills and crafts, and it is never lost... being a rounded person is always a good bet.

Did I get really competent in all of those? No, not even close. And yet, the sum total of my competence is unusually high... while even if you are good, really good at one thing and nothing else, you never reach my level of competence, because life is more than just one profession... Life has four pillars, health, wealth, relationships and fulfillment...