The 39th Bach Flower Remedy: the Yew: Desire to receive for the self alone

 Original publication date: March 11, 2012. Today all day I am reminded of this time...

The 39th Bach Flower Remedy: the Yew: Desire to receive for the self alone

One of the benefits, for me, to do the Connection Calls is being with all of you, and feeling how wretched, how miserable you feel. Not pleasant for me, but very useful.

I have been feeling some energies, some feelings that are not covered by the 38 original Bach Flower Remedies.

At the same time, while writing the Soul Correction articles, or teaching the core group classes, I can see that there is resistance there that doesn"t respond to the Heaven on Earth energy bundle.

In a conversation earlier today, I found one of the missing remedies: I"ve been guided to it for quite some time, but the guidance has become more concentrated in the past two days.

The yew, a new energy, started to pop up everywhere.

There is a beautiful yew (the yew is a tree) guarding the front door of the house I live in. I"ve been nurturing it for 8 years... that"s how long I have been here.

There was a huge yew in the garden of the house where I grew up.

I always wondered if those beautiful, inviting little ringlets of fire are edible. I remember eating one or two as a child... but not being sure, I didn"t have the courage to eat more.

The birds don"t eat it. Not even one. Maybe if we had a peacock... right? lol. ((Peacocks eat poison and turn it into beauty))

Of course I didn"t know the tree was called yew, I didn"t know anything about it. I thought it was really a pine... some version of a pine... evergreen, with pin-like leaves... very non-scientific, but beat me if you are much better at botany... lol.

Anyway, I was looking for the plant that could counter the sharp, curved, bow-like pain people have been bringing to the calls: arching from one shoulder to the other.

Resistance, and a kind of "humor me..." "f... you" "let"s see if you can make me..."

If I needed to give you an example, it is the attitude you bring to shopping and sales help in a clothing store.

You need help but you don"t want to be sold. You need help but you don"t want the sales person to make a commission on your purchase.

Pure and unadulterated desire to receive for the self alone. No win-win. You win and you want all the others to lose. One winner: you. Many losers.

What you are saying in your heart: "It is not OK with me if you benefit from selling me something. It would be best if you starved to death while I am using and benefiting from the fruits of YOUR labor, the sweat of your brow."

And, undeniably, there are new and old "students" who bring that kind of attitude to my calls, to their partner calls, to life.

As always, when I am poised to distinguish something new, the occurrences of what precipitates (brings about) the discovery, are everywhere... Here are some examples from the last 3 days:

• The person who buys something from me, then the moment they get it, they demand a refund.


• The person who will suck my brain dry, and then goes and uses it without my permission, or without the benefit of acknowledging me as source.


• The person who won"t come to a connection call but wants access to the programs that require you to be connected...


• Or they come to the call but won"t connect. They revel in being disruptive to a whole big group of people"s connection... I can feel their glee. And when I throw them off the call, they call me intolerant, impatient, and other names.

So there you have it: the yew, the highly poisonous yew with the little beautiful fruit that looks soooo seductively sweet, so juicy, and so innocent, that whispers to you: "I am not hurting anyone... I just want what is my due... " "I am right, everyone can see that!" "You can try, but won"t make me..." "Don"t sell to me! You are a money hungry, power hungry  blah blah blah..." "I hoped you were going to be a loving mother to me... Now I hate you!"

All the while you are poisoning yourself.

YOU are eating the poison you meant for somebody else!

The yew energy is infused into the Heaven on Earth, both the remedy and the HOE audio.

Of course I am not using the plant in the remedy, only the energy. Source has already duplicated it, and I have been taking it since this morning. I can feel the bow and then I can feel it dissipate.

Desire for the self alone is universal... everyone has it. Some more than others. The more wretched you feel the more you have... and the more you will benefit from the new Heaven on Earth.

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A great little exercise to cause self-love... Unconditional Love

Last night, in bed, I accidentally hugged myself.

Then, unexpectedly, I said to myself: I love you, little one. And then the "fun" began... The emotional dings, the doubt, the questioning, the grief.

Hoho... I said, what"s going on?

The little voice said: why would you love me?

Because I do... I said.

Do you love me, even though the house looks like a mess?

I don"t love your house, I love you. house, no house, mess, no mess... I love you.

oh. But do you love me even though I am getting old?


Oh, I do. And I want you to live long.

Sobbing... I didn"t know that the little self thought no one cared whether she lives or dies.... Some minutes pass. Hm. Very interesting.

And then, again...

And do you love me even though I have a missing tooth? That my legs hurt? That I am harsh? That I don"t have a lot of money?

It ended up with me, still hugging, falling asleep.

But I saw something, that I thought you"d also benefit from.

It was a big big surprise that the little self didn"t think anyone cared if she lived or died. That explains a lot of self-neglect, that until now has not made any sense. And it was always there, operating, sabotaging, working counter to what I was working for.

Then I woke up, and found my horoscope,

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): "I do not trust people who don"t love themselves and yet tell me, "I love you,"" said author Maya Angelou. She concludes: "There is an African saying: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt." With this in mind, I invite you to take inventory of the allies and relatives whose relationships are most important to you. How well do they love themselves?

Is there anything you could do to help them upgrade their love for themselves? If their self-love is lacking, what might you do to protect yourself from that problem?

Confirmation. I need to ask you to do this exercise.

Hug yourself. As intimately as possible. Hug yourself the way children hug themselves, close to the neck, close to the face. Bend your face into your arms, and have this same conversation.

The goal is to hear what the little one is considering a good enough reason not to be loved.

Then either put it in the comments section, or send me in email.

An unexamined life is not worth living... and until you see the small and the big you"s relationship is hampered by what the small you considers wrong, you"ll never be able to be one... you"ll always be schizophrenic, split, and full of anxiety.

Guaranteed.

Now go. Do it. Do it many times, if the communication is hampered between your selves.

If you have a hard time standing in the Big You, then consider that I am hugging you, and I say: "I love you".

See what it brings up. OK?

Good luck, have fun. Don"t be afraid to cry. Boys too...

PS: one more thing: if you have been taking the Unconditional Love Remedy, and you are not present to the grief between your two selves... you need to get present to it. It"s there. Weeping, sobbing... inside. You haven"t been attending to the most important person: you. This exercise will open up the communication, and also brings awareness to the big issue there. Don"t miss it.

A great little exercise to cause self-love... Unconditional Love

Last night, in bed, I accidentally hugged myself.

Then, unexpectedly, I said to myself: I love you, little one. And then the "fun" began... The emotional dings, the doubt, the questioning, the grief.

Hoho... I said, what"s going on?

The little voice said: why would you love me?

Because I do... I said.

Do you love me, even though the house looks like a mess?

I don"t love your house, I love you. house, no house, mess, no mess... I love you.

oh. But do you love me even though I am getting old?


Oh, I do. And I want you to live long.

Sobbing... I didn"t know that the little self thought no one cared whether she lives or dies.... Some minutes pass. Hm. Very interesting.

And then, again...

And do you love me even though I have a missing tooth? That my legs hurt? That I am harsh? That I don"t have a lot of money?

It ended up with me, still hugging, falling asleep.

But I saw something, that I thought you"d also benefit from.

It was a big big surprise that the little self didn"t think anyone cared if she lived or died. That explains a lot of self-neglect, that until now has not made any sense. And it was always there, operating, sabotaging, working counter to what I was working for.

Then I woke up, and found my horoscope,

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): "I do not trust people who don"t love themselves and yet tell me, "I love you,"" said author Maya Angelou. She concludes: "There is an African saying: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt." With this in mind, I invite you to take inventory of the allies and relatives whose relationships are most important to you. How well do they love themselves?

Is there anything you could do to help them upgrade their love for themselves? If their self-love is lacking, what might you do to protect yourself from that problem?

Confirmation. I need to ask you to do this exercise.

Hug yourself. As intimately as possible. Hug yourself the way children hug themselves, close to the neck, close to the face. Bend your face into your arms, and have this same conversation.

The goal is to hear what the little one is considering a good enough reason not to be loved.

Then either put it in the comments section, or send me in email.

An unexamined life is not worth living... and until you see the small and the big you"s relationship is hampered by what the small you considers wrong, you"ll never be able to be one... you"ll always be schizophrenic, split, and full of anxiety.

Guaranteed.

Now go. Do it. Do it many times, if the communication is hampered between your selves.

If you have a hard time standing in the Big You, then consider that I am hugging you, and I say: "I love you".

See what it brings up. OK?

Good luck, have fun. Don"t be afraid to cry. Boys too...

PS: one more thing: if you have been taking the Unconditional Love Remedy, and you are not present to the grief between your two selves... you need to get present to it. It"s there. Weeping, sobbing... inside. You haven"t been attending to the most important person: you. This exercise will open up the communication, and also brings awareness to the big issue there. Don"t miss it.

How will you reclaim your life from the machine... one great way: handle just one feeling!

I wrote this article back in 2012. It talks about one of the most important invisible dynamics of the human condition... your homepage. I am republishing it to give you a fuller picture of this invisible dynamic... so crucial to your future, to your results, to you becoming an expanding human being.

Here is the original article:

I"ve been trying to teach a new way to connect to Source. It would give you a lot more control over your attention, over your connection, and a lot better results overall.

The difference would be the greatest in the speed with which you would incorporate the activators: instead of having to repeat them 10-20-30 times, just a few repetitions would get you the same amazing results.

I have made, so far, four attempts. Each more disappointing than the next.

This morning I woke up with a familiar feeling I haven"t been stuck with for quite some time: Devastated, hopeless, ready to throw in the towel.

In Transactional Analysis they called it your home address, I think.

Let me tell you a little story about me:

I left Hungary in 1982. Until that point I had read only one book on human beings and how human beings work. The book was called Empathy... the only thing I remember from that book is, that in spite of my upbringing "they" could not kill my empathic ability to see what people are thinking and feeling why pretending to think and feel differently.

I didn"t know it wasn"t just an ability, I didn"t know at the time I was a freaking full blown empath... grrr.

Anyway, when I arrived to Jerusalem, Israel as an immigrant, I spent a lot of time in used book stores. I was insatiable. I read about everything, and I wanted to try everything. I was like a kid in the candy store.



I read a book about expressing anger. I tried it... it wasn"t easy, let me tell you. And then I read the book "What do you say after you say hello?" And I absolutely loved it.

That is the book on TA, Transactional Analysis everyone read at the time, it was a bestseller... And the Games People Play... another by the same author.

Well, the method, Transactional Analysis, doesn"t really work that well, other than keeps you busy so you don"t have to live your life, lol, but it did something really useful: it helps you identify what is your steady, predictable response to everything, what is your default response, what is it that you say after you say Hello. I find it really useful now, 30 years later.

This is how this default response thing works: you do your life, however and whatever you do, and no matter what happens, you always end up feeling the same way. Independent of the situation, independent of what happens, you just feel the same way about yourself.

For me that default feeling is "devastated." All is lost. It is all over. There is no sense in doing anything...

Now, if I really look, I have a lot of creative ways to get to devastated, and I always end up there. Predictable, and quite unavoidable.

I used to think that feeling meant something.

It meant that:

• I don"t belong


• I was on borrowed time and will be thrown out/abandoned/discovered/or fail at any time now...


• I am unlovable

The feeling is identical to one of the Bach feelings, one of the Bach Energies, called Gentian: the discouragement flower.

It tells me to quit while I am ahead. It tells me to stop now, who I am kidding, it is only a matter of seconds before it will be clear for everyone that I can"t...

So, behind the confident demeanor, there is this totally different, certain-to-discarded-person...

Given all the work I have done on myself, I am lucky and I now expect it and recognize it. I asked my Self... the Observer, the Timeless part of me, to manage it. I could not ask it to be eliminated, it is impossible, but no matter what the feeling is, the response or reaction to it can be managed. The meaning can be managed. And your results in life will be strikingly different.

You have a default feeling like that... I mean a default homepage and a matching Bach Energy.

When we talk about climbing the evolutionary scale, (or climbing the Tree of Life,) one of the ways you can tell that you are succeeding, is the frequency with which this horrible feeling of yours visits you, unexpectedly, when things go well, when you need to make a change, take a risk... when it is the least useful.

Feelings and emotions are given to us as a guidance system. On a lower evolutionary level we think that the guidance system is smarter than us, that it can see more than us, and therefore we should always heed what it says.

I used to be a certified quitter. I had a hair-trigger for quitting, in fact. And in certain areas of my life I still struggle to take control: in the area of personal relationships.

Given my history of extreme abuse, I am mortally afraid of people and I have a hard time trusting. That is the core.

When you listen to me, you can often hear that I jump the gun, that I give up on people, write them off, call them names really fast, really easily.

But when you watch my behavior you can see that my Real Self is much more in control: I now seldom act consistent with the hair-trigger scared little girl I used to be.

Here is your assignment: start observing yourself. Observe your involuntary responses to any and all challenges. Start taking notes. Challenge yourself if you are willing. Try doing new things. Try taking a different route home. Get lost. Go to stores you don"t know. Ask sales assistants to help you. Watch yourself in these situations. TAKE NOTES!! Don"t rely on your memory!

At the end of the week count the different feelings that got triggered. If they don"t point to anything definitive, continue challenging and observing yourself and continue taking precise notes, until the picture becomes clear.

That Bach Energy, if you guessed right, is your "linchpin" energy. If you start to override that one, diligently, it will be the beginning of a new era for you.

Don"t expect the Heaven on Earth to do all the work. Why? Because my agreement with Source is that the Heaven on Earth will not do the work for you: after all the Original Agreement with Source was that we will earn our Light, or won"t get any. The Heaven on Earth will help you to not get stuck with a horrible feeling, but you will still feel it.

The way you earn your Light and rise in vibration is by using the Will of the Observer to override the lower self, the put together self, that is the MACHINE. It"s been running your life 98% of the time.

Just by taking back this small area, you can increase your dominance to 51% you and only 49% machine.

Make sure you have your remedy. Heaven on Earth. While it is freezing on the Northern Hemisphere, please only order the audio...

What else can you do?

Order your Bach Profile to find out what is your linchpin energy...

In addition to that, or maybe leading up to handling that, you"ll see what habitual ways you handle reality being the way it is... and what habitual ways you kill life, your life, your dreams, your aspirations.

Regularly this profile is $35, but for the readers of this article, I"ll do it for $25.



No analysis, just the profile. Analysis, if you need it, can be done for $250 in a private call. It is best if you do it for yourself.

All the Bach Energies are included in the HOE audio... But unless you really know how to use it, it may not do much for you.

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Expectations, Self-Image, and your future results: should you expect the best?

I have a friend who is around 4 years older than me, he is in his 70"s. We have been talking once a week for about seven years.

He would like to retire, but his business is in decline, and there is nothing to sell: he is a glorified self-employed person.

Since I have known him, he bought about 15 money making programs, only to drop them after a weak attempt, after losing money with it, or even without trying.

Last week, to keep myself challenged and sharp, I signed up to a program by my favorite teacher, Robert Plank. The program is to teach you to build an easy, self-sustained business using Amazon.com, buying low and selling high.

It is not that I needed instruction per se, I needed to be challenged. I already have an Amazon business, so I could almost teach the course... But there was something I really liked about the setup: Lance, Robert"s partner, has a 7 years old daughter. She asked her dad to teach her to create a business of her own... Wow, that is not your usual relationship with your kids, is it? So he created a "modality", a system of business, that is fun, and easy enough for a 7-year old.

I decided, that if a 7-year old can do it with guidance, then my friend will certainly be able to do it... lol.

Now, we had an hour long conversation, I shared with him some of the things he needs to know, and then gave him "homework" to do. Then he said: "I expect this to succeed" or something similar to this.

I flew off the handle. I said: "Don"t bring positive thinking bs into this conversation! If you ask me what I expect, I look at your past performance, and I see failure after failure. So I expect this to be a failure in spite of your good intentions, in spite of my help, in spite of the good information."

This article is about this aspect of the delusional attitude positive thinking teaches you to have.

They say: expect good things to happen to you... Ugh.

Trend is a largely graphical method of showing where things are going.

It is based solely on your past performance, and your attitude. Your attitude is very predictable, it can be called constant, it is so predictable.

You are unaware of your attitude. You are unaware of the powerful force it is to fail you.

Positive expectations is an attitude. You pretend that you are starting with a clean slate, you pretend that you are not who you are but someone way way better: who you "should" be, not who you are, not who you have been,not  who you will predictably be for the rest of your life.

Moronic. A sure sign of low vibration.

Here is what came in my email today: isn"t it eery that the writer of this email is addressing the same issue?

Brands are Built on Core Beliefs
http://evp-50116959de4b9-dd521b5ed563ee25508422182c681a30.s3.amazonaws.com/mmm140303-brandscorebeliefs-1.mp3

I look in the mirror and see the person I believe myself to be. You look at me and see the person you believe me to be. We don"t see the same person.

Businesses, too, see themselves differently than their customers do.

A flatterer disguised as a branding consultant will help you create an idealized self-portrait and tell you it"s your brand. I say "idealized" because we businesspeople judge ourselves by our intentions. Customers judge us by our actions.

Peace of mind comes from liking the person you see in the mirror.

But brand attraction happens when the customer looks at your company and sees a reflection of themselves.

We are attracted to brands that stand for something we believe in. Likewise, we are attracted to television shows, movies, books, websites, podcasts, newscasts and songs that confirm what we believe. This is known in psychology as "confirmation bias."

Let me say this plainly: If you challenge a person"s core beliefs, they will avoid you. Agree with those beliefs and they will like you. This is the essence of brand building.

But not everyone believes the same things. This is why a brand-builder must choose who to lose. There is no message, no belief system, that appeals to everyone.

The Democratic party and the Republican party dominate American politics even though just fifty-eight percent of Americans align themselves with either of these two brands.

In a survey of self-identified "Liberal Democrats" and self-identified "Conservative Republicans," Experian Simmons identified the Top 15 favorite television shows of each group.

Not a single show was on both lists.

Not one.

Liberals prefer shows of moral ambiguity like Mad Men, Dexter, 90210 and Breaking Bad, where the good people aren"t entirely good and the bad people aren"t entirely bad.

"I don’t mean to make light of it, but Democrats seem to like shows about damaged people,” said John Fetto, senior marketing manager at Experian Simmons. “Those are the kind of shows Republicans just stay away from.”

Conservatives prefer shows where hard work and talent are clearly rewarded. Reality shows and contests like American Idol, Dancing with the Stars, Survivor and The Bachelor scored high with this group.

Interesting information, right? But not really surprising when you think about it. Narcissus saw his reflection in a pool of water and fell in love with the person he saw.

Confirmation bias strikes again.

How can you use this information to make money?

1. Quit trying to change your customer"s mind.
2. Tell them they"re right.
3. Confirm their suspicions.
4. Demonize their enemies.
5. Let them see themselves when they look at you.

Do these things and you"ll make more money (or friend?). Usually, a lot more money.

But a strange thing happens when you "go along to get along," when you agree with people you don"t respect, when you fail to speak out against injustice, when you allow etiquette and expediency to quietly replace compassion and courage:

You look in the mirror and you no longer like who you see.

How do we remain open to seeing things from a new perspective without losing clarity of self in the process?

If I ever figure it out, I"ll let you know.

Roy H. Williams

Now, returning to my friend who said: "We"ll expect this to be successful." Is he a bad person? No, he isn"t... he just doesn"t exist as a person. There is a person he thinks he is, he hopes he is, he pushes in front of him as HE, he who doesn"t exist. But there is a real self inside that he doesn"t know about, that accepts him, accepts his behavior, his delusions, his cowardice, his settling for less, without judgment. This is the Creator/Witness/Observer aspect we all have.

When you manage to remove the barriers between these two selves, a whole new life becomes possible for you. You will stop pretending to get love, attention, appreciation that you didn"t earn. You will stop trying to be someone you aren"t. You will start working with what you have, and earning what you earn. You will not need others loving you, because you already have as much love as you need: your Creator aspect already loves you.

You"ll experience freedom, creativity, powers, and self-expression. Because little by little you"ll have a self that you can like, that you can love. When you"ll look in the mirror, you"ll like the person who is there... and you"ll love your life.

When you like yourself, you love your life. That is the bottom line.

The Unconditional Love Activator, especially infused in your drinking water, can take you there faster than anything I know.

It only takes a few minutes to infuse your water... and it works quite fast.

Raise your vibration? It"s a Hero"s Journey

If you are here, I know a thing or two about you.

One of the most important things I know is that you are smart. That you have earned to be here. You have tried a lot of other teachers or gurus or methods or tools to get what you want: more energy, better decisions, more love, more peace, a sense of meaning in your life.

There is no way to throw a dart and get to the right solution, every mistake you make, every wrong turn, wrong decision, believing false promises, falling pray to money-sucking gurus or cults have caused you to get here, zig-zag.

The more often you have been disappointed, the more hopeless it seemed, the more of your funds were eaten up, the smarter you have become, and the more ready you have become to actually see your way, do your work. You haven"t given up. Good.

Download the pdf version of this article at the end of the article

In your society-induced craving for security and safety, you probably hoped, every time, that it was the right turn, that finally you found your straight path, that you were handed a map to follow, or that someone gave you a magic potion, a magic board, a magic spell, and you would find yourself transported to the right place at the right time.

But...

Trust me, there is nothing more boring, and less satisfying for a human being than security and safety. Following a set path, and succeeding at every turn takes adventure out of life.

If you play chess and you can only play against someone less skillful than you: you know that it"s boring. Same with tennis. Same in swimming, running... winning is only joyful when you play against someone equal or better.

Being human means finding your own path, the hero"s journey, for each of us. Without that search life is empty and hollow. You find yourself as you find your path.

You got to this site, to reading what I say, through a winding path, and that makes you more suited for my work than the rest of the people. You have proven your mettle, and you have found the methods that will take you through the hero"s journey to where you want to go: earning your success, earning your peace, earning your fulfillment.

I know you can do it because you are here.

There are no accidents in life, and you being here isn"t an accident, even if, from your point of view, it looks like an accident.

What should you expect on this hero"s journey?

This journey will have several assignments, several challenges.

Each challenge will be completed with the help of some energetic tools... (and coaching if you want to go faster).

Your first challenge

(approximately 40 days)

Your health: You"ll need to become someone with energy to spare. You cannot even consider entering the journey without getting healthy first.

I am not talking about fixing you, I am talking about returning to health. Cells vibrated, nourished, and no additional toxins entering your body through food or drink.

If you follow the instructions you"ll get there in 40 days. Guaranteed.

How do you get started? You get your numbers so we"ll know, you know, where you are standing. It"s a comprehensive set of facts about where you are now.

Your vibration, your soul correction, your current level of intelligence, your health number, your hydration level... Get it here

I"ll send your facts to you in email.

Your second challenge

You will to look at your life, at the wrong turns, mistakes, errors, horrible things that you have done, or you allowed to be done to you.

This may take a little time. Allow yourself to grieve. Feel your feelings. Weep, cry, yell, run... just stay with it. Not in public, not at others, no, in your privacy.

Why? suppressed bad feelings keep you suppressed. You can"t suppress only bad feelings: once you suppress anything, you suppress everything, and all the good feelings are suppressed as well. No love, no peace, no satisfaction can be felt: they are suppressed too.

Here are the energetic tools for this leg of the journey...

1. The HOE long range, or the Heaven on Earth remedy will help you be with the feelings that you feel, like a safety net.The HOE allows you to feel and let go... you won"t suppress and you won"t hold onto. Feel what you feel and be done with it.


2. The Harmonize your vibration will energetically take you through the journey through memory lane: you may be able to take this trip without much conscious effort.


3. The Unconditional Love Activator Infusable version will remove the false, society built foundation for your life, feeling wrong, insufficient, unlovable, stupid, a misfit.


4. The Water Energizer will start to change your body chemistry, so your cravings, addictions, edginess, aches and pains will ease or disappear, gently, almost imperceptibly... the Energized Water will wash them away.


5. Get two free weeks in my Reclaim coaching program. Two weeks are enough for either of us to see if you are indeed ready for the hero"s journey... The third leg.

Get a package deal: you can get each piece or you can get all four. Save 35%

For infusion of the energies, use the Polar Pitcher and the mini speaker... it"s the most effective way. See details here: https://www.yourvibration.com/24874/new-equipment-to-energize-your-water/

Your third challenge

We"ll talk about this when you have completed your second Challenge.

Download the pdf version of this article heros-journey

A great little exercise to cause self-love... Unconditional Love

Last night, in bed, I accidentally hugged myself.

Then, unexpectedly, I said to myself: I love you, little one. And then the "fun" began... The emotional dings, the doubt, the questioning, the grief.

Hoho... I said, what"s going on?

The little voice said: why would you love me?

Because I do... I said.

Do you love me, even though the house looks like a mess?

I don"t love your house, I love you. house, no house, mess, no mess... I love you.

oh. But do you love me even though I am getting old?


Oh, I do. And I want you to live long.

Sobbing... I didn"t know that the little self thought no one cared whether she lives or dies.... Some minutes pass. Hm. Very interesting.

And then, again...

And do you love me even though I have a missing tooth? That my legs hurt? That I am harsh? That I don"t have a lot of money?

It ended up with me, still hugging, falling asleep.

But I saw something, that I thought you"d also benefit from.

It was a big big surprise that the little self didn"t think anyone cared if she lived or died. That explains a lot of self-neglect, that until now made no sense. And it was always there, operating, sabotaging, working counter to what I was working for.

Then I woke up, and found my horoscope,

VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): "I do not trust people who don"t love themselves and yet tell me, "I love you,"" said author Maya Angelou. She concludes: "There is an African saying: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt." With this in mind, I invite you to take inventory of the allies and relatives whose relationships are most important to you. How well do they love themselves?

Is there anything you could do to help them upgrade their love for themselves? If their self-love is lacking, what might you do to protect yourself from that problem?

Confirmation. I need to ask you to do this exercise.



Hug yourself. As intimately as possible. Hug yourself the way children hug themselves, close you the neck, close to the face. Bend your face into your arms, and have this same conversation.

The goal is to hear what the little one is considering a good enough reason not to be loved.

Then either put it in the comments section, or send me in email.

An unexamined life is not worth living... and until you see the small and the big you"s relationship is hampered by what the small you considers wrong, you"ll never be able to be one... you"ll always be schizophrenic, split, and full of anxiety.

Guaranteed.

Now go. Do it. Do it many times, if the communication is hampered between your selves.

If you have a hard time standing in the Big You, then consider that I am hugging you, and I say: "I love you".

See what it brings up. OK?

Good luck, have fun. Don"t be afraid to cry. Boys too...

PS: one more thing: if you have been taking the Unconditional Love Remedy, and you are not present to the grief between your two selves... you need to get present to it. It"s there. Weeping, sobbing... inside. You haven"t been attending to the most important person: you. This exercise will open up the communication, and also brings awareness to the big issue there. Don"t miss it.

Finish What You Started, Complete What You Started but didn"t Finish?

... Or how do you destroy your life, little by little...

There is nothing more significant in destroying your self-image than starting something, with all the hopes and aspirations it takes to start something and abandoning in before it is finished.

Even if you knew yourself as a great person deserving of the dream you set out to accomplish with the project, by abandoning it, by leaving it in the middle, you declare yourself as undeserving, someone less than a match to your dreams.

When you don"t finish a project, you set yourself up for more of the same, it is a self-strengthening cycle.

It"s all downhill from there. You continue life with a lot of your life force lost to that incident. Now you know yourself as someone who can"t be counted on. Your experience of yourself is that you are a failure, a wannabe, and you hate yourself.

What if you you have a project not worth doing?

Is it necessary to finish every project? Not really. But how do you not carry the burden of unfinished projects into your future?

The distinction that handles that is called "completion" or "completing".

Completion means that something is complete, no parts missing, no energy on it, not carried into the future. Completion is a conversation that you have with yourself, you and you, talking, until all the tension, all the in-completeness is done.

The most important element, without this there is no chance of completing anything, is to take responsibility.

Responsibility: the key difference between success and failure

Responsibility is a capacity that even if you have, you probably have never practiced.

People who don"t complete things are short on this capacity.

Responsibility is a declaration. You are always responsible for things that belong to you, and you are never responsible for things that don"t belong to you.

Things like what you say, what you do, and your attitude are yours, and therefore you can be responsible for. Things that happen, what other people do, the weather, etc. they don"t belong to you and you cannot be responsible for.

What belongs to you?

Almost everything has at least one aspect that belongs to you. If nothing else, how you perceive it. The filter through which you perceive things belongs to you and you can be responsible for.

If your filter is "oh no, this is wrong" then you want to take responsibility that that is the filter you view the world through, not that it"s the truth.

If your filter is "I should be perfect" then obviously you want to take responsibility for that, and the misery that goes with it.

If your filter is "I can"t handle it" then you want to take responsibility for the chicken shit life you have... it is all coming directly from your filter.

Seeing your filter, hearing what you say, your attitude are not easy for you to see. Others and their feedback can come really handy. In the five questions exercise the main purpose is to get information that you, yourself, (being in the middle of it, having no active witness, being the driftwood that you are) cannot see clearly, or don"t want to take responsibility for.

Responsibility is your access to your personal power

Responsibility is your access to your personal power, your ability to make things happen. Why? Because taking responsibility removes you from the backseat of your life and places you into the driver"s seat with all the pedals and switches and the steering wheel at your disposal.

Can you change if you are, let"s say, around 60 and been this way all your life?

Yes. You won"t be able to take responsibility for all the ways you be, for all your filters and all your attitudes all at once, but you can start. With each act of responsibility you get stronger, and your self-image will get better. You will become someone who can.

I remember myself going through this, with my eyes open, being stunned at the ease of this gradual emerging as someone who can.

How do you "complete" without finishing?

Returning to completion: when you can take responsibility for your filters, attitudes, and actions with regards to the project you intend to abandon, full responsibility, then, whether the project is finished or not, you can move on without dragging the unfinished project and the connotations, the meaning, the burden, into your future.

Some projects are not worth completing: the win from them is way less than the effort it takes. Some projects were a mistake, and the faster you admit that the better you are off. Some projects were never meant to be completed: as soon as you mine the learning from them, you can declare it complete. I have tons of projects like this.

And what if you finish but you are not happy with the results?

Bob the Butler is masterful at completion. He evidently doesn"t drag his failures into his next experiment. He is always Bob that can... and he does. As it turns out, all of his previous attempts at different professions were useful learning experiments for his final project.

How can energies help you to be a person who can? To finish things you started?

I have found that the Effortless Abundance Remedy gently moves you past your typical stopping point and past your typical filters and self-attitudes that normally would stop you from completing anything that is even a little bit difficult.

It does have the activator for Responsibility, Completion, Courage, Astuteness, for example, that come really handy when you want to become someone who can, someone who does, someone who completes what they start.

And it also has all kinds of flower energies to counter and mitigate fear of failure and easy giving up emotions. And also energies to counter the shame and grief associated with your history of not finishing projects. Energies to stop being a butterfly... pretending that you are just looking something better, covering up that you have given up.

Here is for a life of victory. Victory over your past, over your cowardly, weak, victimlike self.

Finish What You Started, Complete What You Started but didn"t Finish?

... Or how do you destroy your life, little by little...

There is nothing more significant in destroying your self-image than starting something, with all the hopes and aspirations it takes to start something and abandoning in before it is finished.

Even if you knew yourself as a great person deserving of the dream you set out to accomplish with the project, by abandoning it, by leaving it in the middle, you declare yourself as undeserving, someone less than a match to your dreams.

When you don"t finish a project, you set yourself up for more of the same, it is a self-strengthening cycle.

It"s all downhill from there. You continue life with a lot of your life force lost to that incident. Now you know yourself as someone who can"t be counted on. Your experience of yourself is that you are a failure, a wannabe, and you hate yourself.

What if you you have a project not worth doing?

Is it necessary to finish every project? Not really. But how do you not carry the burden of unfinished projects into your future?

The distinction that handles that is called "completion" or "completing".

Completion means that something is complete, no parts missing, no energy on it, not carried into the future. Completion is a conversation that you have with yourself, you and you, talking, until all the tension, all the in-completeness is done.

The most important element, without this there is no chance of completing anything, is to take responsibility.

Responsibility: the key difference between success and failure

Responsibility is a capacity that even if you have, you probably have never practiced.

People who don"t complete things are short on this capacity.

Responsibility is a declaration. You are always responsible for things that belong to you, and you are never responsible for things that don"t belong to you.

Things like what you say, what you do, and your attitude are yours, and therefore you can be responsible for. Things that happen, what other people do, the weather, etc. they don"t belong to you and you cannot be responsible for.

What belongs to you?

Almost everything has at least one aspect that belongs to you. If nothing else, how you perceive it. The filter through which you perceive things belongs to you and you can be responsible for.

If your filter is "oh no, this is wrong" then you want to take responsibility that that is the filter you view the world through, not that it"s the truth.

If your filter is "I should be perfect" then obviously you want to take responsibility for that, and the misery that goes with it.

If your filter is "I can"t handle it" then you want to take responsibility for the chicken shit life you have... it is all coming directly from your filter.

Seeing your filter, hearing what you say, your attitude are not easy for you to see. Others and their feedback can come really handy. In the five questions exercise the main purpose is to get information that you, yourself, (being in the middle of it, having no active witness, being the driftwood that you are) cannot see clearly, or don"t want to take responsibility for.

Responsibility is your access to your personal power

Responsibility is your access to your personal power, your ability to make things happen. Why? Because taking responsibility removes you from the backseat of your life and places you into the driver"s seat with all the pedals and switches and the steering wheel at your disposal.

Can you change if you are, let"s say, around 60 and been this way all your life?

Yes. You won"t be able to take responsibility for all the ways you be, for all your filters and all your attitudes all at once, but you can start. With each act of responsibility you get stronger, and your self-image will get better. You will become someone who can.

I remember myself going through this, with my eyes open, being stunned at the ease of this gradual emerging as someone who can.

How do you "complete" without finishing?

Returning to completion: when you can take responsibility for your filters, attitudes, and actions with regards to the project you intend to abandon, full responsibility, then, whether the project is finished or not, you can move on without dragging the unfinished project and the connotations, the meaning, the burden, into your future.

Some projects are not worth completing: the win from them is way less than the effort it takes. Some projects were a mistake, and the faster you admit that the better you are off. Some projects were never meant to be completed: as soon as you mine the learning from them, you can declare it complete. I have tons of projects like this.

And what if you finish but you are not happy with the results?

Bob the Butler is masterful at completion. He evidently doesn"t drag his failures into his next experiment. He is always Bob that can... and he does. As it turns out, all of his previous attempts at different professions were useful learning experiments for his final project.

How can energies help you to be a person who can? To finish things you started?

I have found that the Effortless Abundance Remedy gently moves you past your typical stopping point and past your typical filters and self-attitudes that normally would stop you from completing anything that is even a little bit difficult.

It does have the activator for Responsibility, Completion, Courage, Astuteness, for example, that come really handy when you want to become someone who can, someone who does, someone who completes what they start.

And it also has all kinds of flower energies to counter and mitigate fear of failure and easy giving up emotions. And also energies to counter the shame and grief associated with your history of not finishing projects. Energies to stop being a butterfly... pretending that you are just looking something better, covering up that you have given up.

Here is for a life of victory. Victory over your past, over your cowardly, weak, victimlike self.

Finish What You Started, Complete What You Started but didn"t Finish?

... Or how do you destroy your life, little by little...

There is nothing more significant in destroying your self-image than starting something, with all the hopes and aspirations it takes to start something and abandoning in before it is finished.

Even if you knew yourself as a great person deserving of the dream you set out to accomplish with the project, by abandoning it, by leaving it in the middle, you declare yourself as undeserving, someone less than a match to your dreams.

When you don"t finish a project, you set yourself up for more of the same, it is a self-strengthening cycle.

It"s all downhill from there. You continue life with a lot of your life force lost to that incident. Now you know yourself as someone who can"t be counted on. Your experience of yourself is that you are a failure, a wannabe, and you hate yourself.

What if you you have a project not worth doing?

Is it necessary to finish every project? Not really. But how do you not carry the burden of unfinished projects into your future?

The distinction that handles that is called "completion" or "completing".

Completion means that something is complete, no parts missing, no energy on it, not carried into the future. Completion is a conversation that you have with yourself, you and you, talking, until all the tension, all the in-completeness is done.

The most important element, without this there is no chance of completing anything, is to take responsibility.

Responsibility: the key difference between success and failure

Responsibility is a capacity that even if you have, you probably have never practiced.

People who don"t complete things are short on this capacity.

Responsibility is a declaration. You are always responsible for things that belong to you, and you are never responsible for things that don"t belong to you.

Things like what you say, what you do, and your attitude are yours, and therefore you can be responsible for. Things that happen, what other people do, the weather, etc. they don"t belong to you and you cannot be responsible for.

What belongs to you?

Almost everything has at least one aspect that belongs to you. If nothing else, how you perceive it. The filter through which you perceive things belongs to you and you can be responsible for.

If your filter is "oh no, this is wrong" then you want to take responsibility that that is the filter you view the world through, not that it"s the truth.

If your filter is "I should be perfect" then obviously you want to take responsibility for that, and the misery that goes with it.

If your filter is "I can"t handle it" then you want to take responsibility for the chicken shit life you have... it is all coming directly from your filter.

Seeing your filter, hearing what you say, your attitude are not easy for you to see. Others and their feedback can come really handy. In the five questions exercise the main purpose is to get information that you, yourself, (being in the middle of it, having no active witness, being the driftwood that you are) cannot see clearly, or don"t want to take responsibility for.

Responsibility is your access to your personal power

Responsibility is your access to your personal power, your ability to make things happen. Why? Because taking responsibility removes you from the backseat of your life and places you into the driver"s seat with all the pedals and switches and the steering wheel at your disposal.

Can you change if you are, let"s say, around 60 and been this way all your life?

Yes. You won"t be able to take responsibility for all the ways you be, for all your filters and all your attitudes all at once, but you can start. With each act of responsibility you get stronger, and your self-image will get better. You will become someone who can.

I remember myself going through this, with my eyes open, being stunned at the ease of this gradual emerging as someone who can.

How do you "complete" without finishing?

Returning to completion: when you can take responsibility for your filters, attitudes, and actions with regards to the project you intend to abandon, full responsibility, then, whether the project is finished or not, you can move on without dragging the unfinished project and the connotations, the meaning, the burden, into your future.

Some projects are not worth completing: the win from them is way less than the effort it takes. Some projects were a mistake, and the faster you admit that the better you are off. Some projects were never meant to be completed: as soon as you mine the learning from them, you can declare it complete. I have tons of projects like this.

And what if you finish but you are not happy with the results?

Bob the Butler is masterful at completion. He evidently doesn"t drag his failures into his next experiment. He is always Bob that can... and he does. As it turns out, all of his previous attempts at different professions were useful learning experiments for his final project.

How can energies help you to be a person who can? To finish things you started?

I have found that the Effortless Abundance Remedy gently moves you past your typical stopping point and past your typical filters and self-attitudes that normally would stop you from completing anything that is even a little bit difficult.

It does have the activator for Responsibility, Completion, Courage, Astuteness, for example, that come really handy when you want to become someone who can, someone who does, someone who completes what they start.

And it also has all kinds of flower energies to counter and mitigate fear of failure and easy giving up emotions. And also energies to counter the shame and grief associated with your history of not finishing projects. Energies to stop being a butterfly... pretending that you are just looking something better, covering up that you have given up.

Here is for a life of victory. Victory over your past, over your cowardly, weak, victimlike self.