"It ain"t what you don"t know that gets you into trouble, It"s what you know for sure that just ain"t so"

"It ain"t what you don"t know that gets you into trouble, It"s what you know for sure that just ain"t so".
~ from the movie "The Big Short"

Why is it that people don"t like this quote? Can you guess?

I see it all the time. People are quite certain that what they know is true, and are puzzled by the fact that they don"t feel good about themselves, about their place in the world, about their lives.

This includes smart people, and this includes people who are not that sophisticated.

We, as a species, are full of knowledge that just isn"t so. And when we build theories, actions, futures, arguments on those untruths, then things don"t work.
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More on health testing: your eating style

With regards to your health, what you eat is important. We all know that.
But when you eat, what environment you eat in, and how you eat what you eat seems to be as important, or maybe even more important than what you eat.
I just bought and watched two videos on "how to eat according to your type" or the style of eating that seems to be crucial for a sense of well-being, especially for brain health. I have known my own "style" of eating for a while, and it has made a big difference. Most people in the world eat stews, or meats with side dishes, or salads with a lot of ingredients, but a good 20% of the world, with the most ancient style DNA needs to eat like people ate when they didn"t have dishes: one thing at a time.
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How a collage is a diagnostic tool

"What does it matter how many lovers you have if none of them gives you the universe?" French psychoanalyst Jacques Lacan posed that question. I invite you to put it at the top of your list of hot topics to meditate on. In doing so, I trust you won"t use it as an excuse to disparage your companions for their inadequacies. Rather, I hope it will mobilize you to supercharge your intimate alliances; to deepen your awareness of the synergistic beauty you could create together; to heighten your ability to be given the universe by those whose fates are interwoven with yours.
In the current live course, from Upset to Communication we have come to the last of the four non-elevated fields of communication, Admirer-admired. My horoscope, above, for the coming week reflects that.

One of my students has already sent me her collage. It has given me a glimpse into her internal conversations that is deeper than I have ever seen... and I have known her for almost six years now.

Collages, where you go through pictures in magazines, or memes on the internet, are the best way to reveal to yourself your relationship, opinion, attitude about the world, about others, about yourself, about effort, ambition, etc.

Making collages has two parts:

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Seeing... one of the Metaskills that will raise your vibration

I am reading the Metaskills book.

I am reading it for you and for me.

This book has given me a big insight... and ultimately a breakthrough, though we shall see...

OK, let me start at the beginning.

Most books are either easy or difficult to read. Why? I just found out.

This book, the Metaskills was alternating between easy to read and difficult to read.

At some point it felt like thick mud I needed to wade through.
Why? I had no idea how what he was talking about was connecting to what the book was supposedly about.
I am nearly certain that this happens to you often. The thought is "What does this have to do with the price of tea in China?" or some other dismissive thought.


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How your health number, the number of spiritual capacities, and your earning power are connected?

Warning: read the footnotes!
One of my students in my coaching program taught me something today that I could not see before.

Every student of mine has had one or more health consultations with me, where I muscle tested their supplementation, their eating style and the foods that work best for their body. ((The biggest growth happened for people with the Separator eating style, by the way. I have to eat that way myself... ))

They also had to set up their water energizer system.

This particular student had her session a long time ago (in October of last year), but she didn"t make the changes I suggested. She kept emailing me with her doubts: can I trust that these are the foods I can eat?
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The Attitude That Will Help You Climb The Tree Of Life

An attitude is an approach. It is the result of an internal conversation we are having with ourselves. An attitude is 100% in your power, even if you don"t feel you can change it. And true: you don"t change it directly. You change the conversation, the things you say to yourself.

We are taught in the Tree of Knowledge culture to have a strong "why" for our actions. A reason, and agenda, a purpose to what we want to do.

This attitude will keep you on the Tree of Knowledge, and will keep you wretched: the Tree of Knowledge is the home of wretched living.

For people who have a real hard time conjuring up a big why out of nothing, this may be good news. For people who have invested a lot into growing their desire, visualizing, vision mapping, mind movies, and other happy horse shit, this is going to be really hard, and will feel unnatural.

The attitude that will help you climb the tree of life is the same attitude a guy, George Mallory, a mountaineer,  had for climbing Mount Everest...


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Teaching you to climb the Tree of Life... how I do it nowadays

Yesterday I downloaded the Days of Power energy. The "skies" open up at precise times and the energy that is available can be channeled if someone is able to go close enough, and if someone is brave enough to use themselves as a pipe to concentrate the energy for someone else"s benefit.

That is what I do in the Days of Power energy downloads.

There is a part of this though, that I want to talk about, because there is something to learn from it.

Humans, on the Tree of Knowledge, see change as a series of instant changes, like the cuts in a movie. Now I am here, now I am there.
But in reality, things don"t just jump from here to there... even the brain cannot switch as fast as the movie.

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If you are feeling out of sorts, weak, maybe have blurry eyes, or see stars...

If you are feeling out of sorts, weak, maybe have blurry eyes, or see stars...

Also disturbed sleep...

This spring has hit me differently than all the previous springs, because I have been more aware than years past.

And I also had the feedback from a number of people, people who have done health sessions with me. We all have the same symptoms.

WTF, right? But this is both good news and bad news.

It is good news because now we know. It is bad news because it is not fun.
Your supplements need adjusting
This is what seems to be happening:


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What should be your first step in becoming astute:?

About the title: an astute person is a person who can see things for what they are
On the Tree of Knowledge we are taught to listen to words instead of looking at reality.
In essence we are cut off from our direct experience of life. ((and become highly manipulated and manipulable. A friend of mine is a great fan of Trump. He never actually heard anything he said, all was filtered through words he already knew about him, confirming that he, Trump, is this great guy, this smart guy, this amazing guy who is going to make him (my friend) rich.))
In my classes the biggest challenge is to cause the students to see. Unless the seeing comes with words, explanation, they can"t see.
See patterns, see the story behind a picture, see cause and effect, see similarity, see differences, see what they need to see to maneuver life.

Astute is a person who can see things for what they are without having to ask for help, explanation, etc.

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Change vs. Becoming. Fixing vs. Becoming... the dead end paths away from raising your vibration

The Mindset book is the perfect accompaniment to the Reclaim coaching program, and the From Upset To Communication course ((you can by the recordings of this course... email me if you are interested)) where we learn the fields inside which all of life plays out.

I have questions coming at me that shed light to misunderstanding of what this work is about. What the course is about. What the program is about.

I have asked for this type of questions. I have asked my student to share with me what they are getting, so I can see where they are off... where I was off... what it is that is misconstrued, misunderstood, or not understood in what I teach... It was a great idea, because unless I know what you got, I can"t help you.

It won"t be easy to share it, so please advance to me some compassion: I am walking on some uncharted territories.
1. You may feel, together with some of my students, that it is all about removing the upset, removing the disagreements, removing all confrontation, including how hard, how difficult it is to do something.
Hi Sophie,

I"ve re-listened the call and here"s what I got up to now about fields (if I got it :) :

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A good tool keeps on giving, and giving, and giving

When you find something good, then hold onto it, make it your permanent tool or partner.

How do you know if what you have found is a good thing?

This can be in any area of life, health, wealth, love, and fulfillment.

Here is how you know that something was a good purchase, a good bet?

A good thing keeps on giving.
A good thing doesn"t just give you one time, or for a little bit of time. It keeps on giving and giving, maybe even indefinitely.

In another word: what is good is useful. Long term. Keeps on giving to you.

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When you have to move on...

In 1975, somewhere early spring, I was hugging my soon to be ex boy friend as hard as I could. He packed his car and was moving back to his parents.

I was sobbing. I told him I loved him.

When his car disappeared around the curve, I wiped my tears and sighed a sigh of freedom.

I asked him to leave. And I cried.

I didn"t make sense to myself, but often you don"t, and you shouldn"t.
Making sense means: your past is defining your future.
Loving someone doesn"t mean that staying with them is the best path for you.

You might be like me, your path will be long and arduous.

I had to go deeper, I had to go lower, I had to lose a lot more than just the security of a loving relationship, for me to find my own path.
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Your password... how it tells me a lot about you

What do your passwords say about you?

I get to see your password, at least when you sign up. Otherwise they are encrypted, so I can"t read them.

Most of you could be "diagnosed" from your password on my site. You don"t even need my Starting Point Measurements.

Why? How? WTF?

The internet is full of hackers, and they use machines to do their dirty job... so those machines, millions of them, are running 24/7.

You need to protect yourself, your valuable information, your reputation.

So they recommend that you make hard to guess passwords on sites that contain information that you better protect of kiss your money or reputation good bye.

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Who do you like? Who do you love?

Or here is another question for you: Who are you?

If you asked back: What do you mean? you did the smart thing. Because the question: who are you? can be asked from so many vantage points, we can spend hours exploring that.

This is one of the things you learn to do when you are in my coaching program, Reclaim.

In that program I use Tai Lopez audios, 67 audios, 67 steps, about 100 different ways to ask a question, to look at life, including your life.

I don"t like Tai Lopez, but I like what his program is doing to my life, and what it is doing to my clients" lives.

I don"t like a lot of people. Why? Maybe a better question would be: What do you like? Who do you like, Sophie.

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Let"s do a community project!

Life, and all its conversations happen in different fields of relationships.

Father/child, mother/child, playmate/sibling, admirer/admired and the all elusive partnership.

Here are a few pictures to get you started.

The assignment is to gather funny memes to illustrate the different fields. Please send them to me... although if you can post a link to them in the comments that would be even better. Go for it. It"s fun and very enlightening.

Here are a few I just collected in five minutes.
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Who is listening? Who is listening that you are unwilling or unable to move towards your dreams?

In this article I am writing about a little known aspect of life... I couldn"t even find pictures for it... Using a gardening analogy, what kind of soil are you? A seed that would grow best in acidic soil gets stunted or killed in alkaline soil.  A seed that grows best in a loamy loose soil will suffocate in a dense soil with a lot of clay in it. Other soils will rot every seed you put in them...
You are that soil to any input. The seeds either grow in you and become full grown plants or die...
In this article I attempt to teach you that you can manage what kind of soil you are...
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But what about fear? What shall I do if I am afraid?

Alexander the Great supposedly said:
Through every generation of the human race there has been a constant war, a war with fear. Those who have the courage to conquer it are made free and those who are conquered by it are made to suffer until they have the courage to defeat it, or death takes them.
Now, looking at it from the viewpoint of the fixed mindset versus the growth mindset you can see that the fixed mindset provides a barrier that promises you to keep you safe.

In the fixed mindset nothing is supposed to change: if you are great you"ll be celebrated, if you are stupid... well, the stupid should die... this was MY life principle for many decades... even if the stupid was me.
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You need to ask this question: Are you Frank or Matt when it comes to your Self-Actualization: Becoming all you can be...

I am republishing this article from four years ago... because even though it doesn"t say "fixed mindset" and "growth mindset" it is about that...

Frank and Matt... the two archetypes of seekers in all areas of life. relationship seekers, weight loss, prosperity, mindset, spirituality... seekers are seekers!
I got an email in my inbox from a marketing teacher of mine today.

I liked the subject line. I followed the link. I found a fascinating article.

It is about marketing, or better said, two types of marketers, two types of seekers of success, one is "Frank" the other is "Matt".

Frank and Matt are two different types of marketers. But...

The idea of Frank and Matt fits "seekers" to a T. Seekers are exactly matching the two types, they are like Frank and Matt: grabbing for a quick fix or building a path... so I want you to put aside your distaste for marketing and business, and I want you to go over to that site and read it. I mean read every freaking" word on it. Map it on yourself. See yourself. Get justified or find out how and why you have been mislead.


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Why do the gurus have low vibration?

The guru culture, or enlightenment industry, is much like the weight loss industry. It is full of gurus who look at the world, at human misery and offer "solutions" to large problems through a very narrow cone of vision, with a mindset that makes them look and sound special. Special talent, special connection, special story, selected especially to get this knowledge. ((This applies to all the law of attraction, manifesting types as well... ))

How they got enlightened. How they got the gift. Blah blah blah. Male, female... all similar stories, all lies.

Mindvalley is a great aggregator of gurus like that.

Just like the weight loss industry, the purpose of every purchase is to promise you that this is the last and only solution you need, only to leave you hoping that the next "solution" will be the last one, the final solution. Oh, and this is important: if the "solution" doesn"t work, it is your fault. But the next one will be foolproof... you being always the fool who can"t make it work for you.

The guru suggests that there is an end to the seeking and this is it. You found what you were seeking for.

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Frank and Matt

Frank vs Matt is a concept I came up with to help demonstrate the two camps or categories (or models) that us marketers operate within.

Although Frank and Matt are not real “flesh and blood” people per se — their traits are absolutely real and based on real people.

You’re currently one of them.

Which one? … well, you’ll need to read and discover that.

But know this … one of them makes no money online (nothing meaningful anyway). The other one crushes it.
Meet Frank:

well, I say “part-time”, but I’ve really been “dabbling” in internet marketing since 2008. that’s what? … a little over 9 years now I guess.which is like forever in internet years :)

i do many different things online. difficult to explain really. i’m what you’d call a “jack of all trades”. lol :p
Meet Matt:

like my buddy frank, i’ve been doing this crazy internet marketing thing since 2008. the beginning was difficult as hell. but as soon as i realized a few “truths” – it got a whole lot easier.

i now run an online business called ‘sexy you inc’.

we serve various tribes of women within sub-niches of the weight loss and beauty markets.
Decisions
Recently I read a book by the late Paul Arden (the former creative director for Saatchi and Saatchi at the height of their advertising might).
One of the things he wrote, is worth mentioning here:



I’m going to circle back to this quote at the end. Why I’ve written it will make perfect sense then. It’s important … for you.

But let me first continue to explain the big DIFFERENCE between Frank and Matt.
Brief Backstory
You see … back in October 2003 I was thrown into the deep end. I was made redundant. Like millions of others I had become “replaceable”.

But a few months earlier I had seen the writing on the wall.

Rumors were circulating. That management was going to cull a bunch of staff at the end of the year.

Right then and there … I made a decision that completely changed my life.

I didn’t take the safe road, like everyone else in the office. You know, start looking for another job — then jump ship when one was found.

I’m certainly not judging them. But for me, I wanted to hit the reset button on how I earned a living.

I was 29 years old. I was foolish and hungry enough to believe I was brave.

So I took the risky decision.

I found the guts to roll the dice

I had absolutely no idea what the hell I was going to do. I just knew I didn’t want a boss. I didn’t want to commute three freakin’ hours a day to work and back.

So I went looking online.

The BIG CULL came two months early, on October 22nd, 2003.

I wasn’t exactly ready. No one was.

But then I guess, looking back — I prob’ly would have never been completely ready.

The “chop” didn’t take long. Prob’ly two hours tops.

I can’t remember how many colleagues were given their marching orders. But our entire department, bar one, were told:
“Thanks pal, but we no longer need ya! …”
Everyone was mad, frustrated,
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How do you pick a life philosophy, how do you pick a guru?

Tons of people come to my site to read my valuation of many gurus" vibration. When they are done, they choose... How they choose, what they choose says everything about them, not about the guru, not about the method, not about the modality... but about them.

It tells ME what life-philosophy they subscribe to, by what ideology they live their lives. And also how happy they are...
Some ideologies are life affirming, others aren"t.
I spent some time today looking at certain things through this new concept: the fixed mindset.

What triggered this inquiry is the idea that humans devolved into being of fixed mindset. That humans, somewhere in their history, were suggested that you are born to be a certain way, and you cannot change that. You"ll die in that same way. That certain things you can"t change.

My hunch is that this happened concurrently with the suggestion that you should live in your mind, on the Tree of Knowledge, some 7,000 years ago.
The first question I asked: how would you choose what cultural tradition to follow? Ideology, religion, thought processes.
I had this idea that the way I choose mine is so eclectic, that it doesn"t seem to be any guiding thought.

When I went to my first 12-step program meeting, back in 1988, I was asked to choose what I was going to honor as Higher Power, given that I was an atheist. I chose, without much thinking "Whatever works"... And I am still walking this meandering path... I always choose what works. What produces results. What forwards the action.

Were I asked to say what I would NOT choose, I would have an easier time.

I would not choose any god-centered philosophy.
I would look at the land where many people practice a philosophy and I would look if their lives work or not. If they are stagnant, I would be sure NOT to choose that land"s philosophy

For example, looking at any of the Indian traditions, philosophy, guru culture, I would refuse to consider anything suitable for my "whatever works" criteria, given that people in the Indian cultures are poor, soft, live in their heads, self-indulgent, and are fatalists. 100% fixed mindset. ((I have also experienced their sex centered existence when I did the countries" activation a few years ago. I had never been so appalled and so afraid before that.))

Looking at the Chinese culture, Japanese culture, I see that the segregation between lords and serfs is sharp, and I would not want guidance from a culture based on birth... ugh. 100% fixed mindset.

Now, I have pointed out two types of cultures that I would want to have nothing to do with. ((I did not mention American Indians" culture... But it is not a good pick either... not at all... Romantic, yes, but not helpful if you want to become someone bigger, better than you are. The same is true about the shamanic cultures of Central and South America or Russia.))

I would not want to have been part of their ruling class, and I would not want to have been part of their
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Gurus who offer instant enlightenment, instant solution to your miserable life thrive... Ever asked yourself why?

Every offer for something instant is a fraud. In every area of life... spirituality, health, weight, tinnitus, hair loss, erectile dysfunction, business, marketing, traffic, success, everything. But...

You flock to them. The main reason you come to my site is to find the "right guru" for you... The right instant solution.
17 years ago I met a guy and we started dating. He was weird, he did hands-on energies, spoke with a breathy voice, and had a guru. He told me that you don"t choose your guru, your guru chooses you. He talked about shaktipat... where the guru touches you with a peacock feather and your kundalini rises and you have an instant enlightenment. He drank, took drugs, meditated, spent hundreds of thousands of dollars on energy attunements... I told you he was weird.
But he was influential to my evolution.
Through him I found out that I was an empath. He said clairsensar, but when I told that to people they didn"t understand... but empath, it seems most people know what it is... so be it, I"ll call myself an empath...
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Impostor Syndrome - One stumbling block to becoming an Expanding Human Being

This article is an old one... republished here...

It is puzzling to watch people not taking any actions that would make a lot of sense for them to take. They will cling, tooth and nail, to some status quo that only they see: it seems that they don"t want to find out that they can, and they don"t want to find out that they can"t.

This relegates them into the status of has-been, or never-been. You can"t hold onto anything, because anything that isn"t growing is dying. And you can"t become something more without growing.

Growing is risk: the risk that you need to find out that you are not as good (or not as bad) as you thought, pretended, claimed you were. Well... suck it up... but most people can"t and won"t.

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Can you conquer your laziness, your lack of action, your slacker nature... Your sissy nature?

In this article we"ll go deep into what"s going on, inside you, that fails you... We"ll look at different schools of thought to do that. Understanding the inner dynamic is the first step towards success.

That, and knowing that every number in your Starting Point Measurements can be changed... Nothing is fixed. Not even your DNA.

If you look at yourself and your behavior, and then compare it with what you say, what you"ve said, there is rarely any similarity between the person who spoke and the person who acts.

It"s quite confusing.

If the mindpower people were correct, if their model were accurate, your actions would come from your thoughts.

But they don"t...
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Why do the 67 steps inside a coaching program, instead of just reading articles, watching youtube videos, or reading books?

This is a question I always expect to get, but I have never gotten.

Why do the 67 steps inside a coaching program, instead of just reading articles, watching youtube videos, or reading books, whatever seems to be interesting at the time?

The truth is: you could get the principles and the knowledge Tai disseminates by reading... for about 30 years.

Now, let"s put aside the fact that you would have to read 5-6 hours a day for a week or more, to get just one session together. Let"s put aside the problem that you would not know where to look, and how to cover nearly every principle and guidance a human may need to lead him or her to a life that they can love.
Let"s look at just one thing: the dynamic that dictates your actions, your mindset, your attitude, once you buy into the coaching program.
But before we can examine that, let"s look at you buying the 67 steps program, 67 measly bucks for at least 40 hours of wisdom, and attempting doing it on your own. 170 thousand people did that...

You listen to the first step and you are excited. You can"t get to the next step until you post your answers, so you listen. You do this with slightly less enthusiasm the next day...

According to the statistics on the site, 170 thousand people have bought the program. 170,000.
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The tyranny of the right and wrong... your vibration is low if you are under the tyranny

Because of the filters on the Tree of Knowledge, one thing, the fundamental difference between the two trees isn"t getting through, I haven"t been able to teach it effectively.

The Tree of Knowledge was called, in the Old Testament, The Tree of Knowledge of good and evil... if my bible knowledge is accurate.

In that paradigm of good and evil there is no neutral. There is no other option but pick one.

Life is fundamentally different from that narrow view of life.

Anyone and everyone who views the world through that kind of filter: positive/negative, good/bad, true/false, right/wrong, etc. is low vibration, low intelligence, and low everything.

Why?

Because you think the filter is the world.

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Who are you being? What is the beingness that informs your actions?

Who are you being?

What is the beingness that informs your actions right now?

Your being is a paradigm and things show up consistent with that beingness.

I speak often about turning points in my life. Turning points are points in time where who you are changes... ((For example, I am reading a book by Kamal Ravikant whom I reviewed a few months ago. The book, Rebirth: A Fable of Love, Forgiveness, and Following Your Heart is a pilgrimage he took that gave him different ways to be... at least try them on, so he can transform his life. The pilgrimage was a possible turning point for him. Do turning points always work? Yes and no... often they are just experiences, only for you to return to your default way of being, like Kamal Ravikant did.

Of course the dumb, gullible, and pretentious love and celebrate his as a guru... and maybe he is... like all the other Indian gurus, full of crap.

The idea of reinventing yourself is actually quite popular... but without having a clue about beingness... it is b.s.

The moment you invent a being for yourself, the clock starts clicking. Being is always now. You can"t become some being someday... But most of us either don"t know that, or consider ourselves the exception... so you invent some being that you know nothing about... And of course it doesn"t work... It can"t work... It is now cheap words, nothing more.

I have only Landmark Education to bring as an example: all their education is about beingness, none of their results are in the domain of beingness... alas.))

One of them turning points, suddenly I remember, was in 1975. I just left a job where I was unhappy. Nothing new about that: I was happy only a few years of the 17 while I was an architect.

I made a decision based on a temporary emotion early that year, and went to a small firm with a good looking boss. I slept with him, and began a descent to a bad place. Really bad...


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There is no such thing as enlightenment...

There is no such thing as enlightenment. There is moving to and living on the Tree of Life, raising your vibration, but enlightenment: it is a concept to dupe the gullible to strive for enlightenment, believe in instant salvation, and to give up personal growth and learning... all OK on the Tree of Knowledge.

Our civilization, the Tree of Knowledge culture is full of ideas that are just simply not true, but keep you running in place forever, craving, longing, yearning, and never attaining what you yearn for.

I could say that I am a myth buster, but being a myth buster is like being a revolutionary: just stirring up dirt, bringing the bottom to top is not useful: all the revolutions in the world resulted in more of the same.

So that path is not for me.
I prefer to go for the Original Design... going back 7,000 years, going back to the Tree of Life way of living and thinking.
Life comes to people without a manual. In many ways bibles, the Gita, the Koran, scriptures could be manuals to some aspects of life, but they are so full of mysticism, and bull, that they are useless except for the most astute... and their number is in the tens in the world, not even in the hundreds. I know only of one...

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Let"s talk about your TLB, OK? Twitchy Little Bastard score is your TLB...

So, here I am, again, with tears dripping from my chin. Not from sadness, although there is sadness there. Not from happiness, not from grief, although there is grief there.
I have been watching videos of TED talks, all grouped, themed, around practice. Around getting better at something.
All are great, but the one by Carol Dweck ((Carol Dweck Stanford Psychology Professor researches “growth mindset” — the idea that we can grow our brain"s capacity to learn and to solve problems. In this talk, she describes two ways to think about a problem that’s slightly too hard for you to solve. Are you not smart enough to solve it … or have you just not solved it yet? A great introduction to this influential field.

developing_growth_mindset
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)) and her findings is when I started to cry.
I may be smart, I may be an empath, but I am no educational scientist, even though I teach. And I struggle... struggle with what I call TLB and what she calls yes/no mindset, or "now" mindset.

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A piece of the vibration puzzle just fell into place

Today was one of those days where the plenty resulted in only confusion and nothing got finished. ((
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I started four articles, and ran out of steam, or focus, or attention after half a page or 120 words.

I was a lot like you... lol.

Anyway, when nothing goes well, then the best thing to do is to go out for a walk, or in my case, climbing the steps. Some call this "changing the state", or you could call it: changing the field inside which life is happening. So...

67 steps audio on my ears, I merrily walked down the steps, 160 steps, 20 cm high each, 3200 cm, not a high hill, about 10-11 stories high. 110 feet or so...

I turn around at the end at the bottom and start the climb. That"s when I ran into this guy who I see on the steps occasionally. I stopped him to ask how many times he climbs, and found out he climbs the steps 7 times at a clip, 3-4 times a week.

I do it once a day... and it "cripples" me... lol.

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How some questions you ask will determine your whole life, the moment you answer them

This morning I have been experiencing an emotional roller coaster... as I am cycling through tens of people as I accidentally connect to them. Some gurus, Murakami, his wife, a marketing guru, my next door neighbor, my brother, some students, a site visitor from Hungary, my architecture school friend.

I can feel my face, my mouth... and I can recognize the micro expressions and identify them.

And then, of course, the emotions of my own reaction to their internal state... judgment, compassion, pity, sympathy... I don"t with my life to my worst enemy.

I could write an article, a whole article, about each of them, but I"ll write about a word that screwed up countless lives... and probably still is.

As you know, a large period of my life I was an architect. Architecture school, in Hungary, is something you choose after high school, and it"s a five year study, every person takes the exact same classes.

The favorite or dreaded word of an architecture student was "talented" or "not talented".

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Does what you know prevent you from learning anything useful?

It"s Monday. I woke up rested, and sore... I slept 9 hours.

My mail box had coaching stuff and the Monday Morning memo.

They were all in sync: all the coaching stuff was about letting go... and in a roundabout way, the Monday Morning memo as well. The memo is here with my adjustments to my own wording...
Roy Williams wrote this today in his Monday Morning memo. Crossing out is by me...
Negotiable or Non-negotiable?
What do you value?
Are there things for which you would be willing to suffer humiliation, rejection, and financial loss? These are your deep core values, your non-negotiables. It"s important that you know what they are.

A person without non-negotiables is a person without passion a Self.

But it"s also important to know your negotiables.

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If you don"t know how to be a queen, you don"t know how to be. Anything.

This is a bold statement. After all there are not many queens.

Maybe you say: oh, I am an actress, I can behave like a queen.

But behavior is not being. Being is through and through.

I watched the BBC series, "The Crown" a few months ago. I loved it.

My favorite scene was where the Queen Mother spends some rest and recreation time on a stormy seaside place in Scotland as a guest of a couple. They visit with a castle owner there, and the Queen Mother is interested in buying the castle.

The gentleman doesn"t recognize the Queen Mother, who used to be queen. She doesn"t enlighten him.

A few days later, when a messenger meets up with them on the shore, he realizes who he was dealing with.

The person to watch is the Queen Mother. Not a muscle in her face moved.

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Why your brain doesn"t make you a winner... Or is your brain to blame?

I just had one of the most productive Sunday Rant call ((This call can be bought. It will set you back by 20 bucks, and may move you forward, if you are ready, by thousands. Because it is so good...

I don"t sell it to just anyone. Why? Because the call is totally uncensored... it"s a private call. If you want it, email me, and I"ll send you a payment link, if you are someone I trust enough to have it.

These are the calls where most of my growth begins... and where most of my growth is documented. Without them there would be no articles, and without them I would be angry or depressed: I manage to shift myself out of my justified and justifiable moods in these calls.

Pure genius... most of the calls.)) ever... and I just finished the third book in the Freak series, Think Like a Freak.

Because it is about thinking, and because it is about frames it is right up our alley at this point in time.
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The secret of life is to be alive, feel alive, look alive, act alive...

This life, which had been the tomb of his virtue and of his honour, is but a walking shadow; a poor player, that struts and frets his hour upon the stage, and then is heard no more: it is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.
As you know we are doing an experimental communication course right now. Six participants, as different as they can be.

Experimental course means that I invent what to do from what is developing.

The course happens, seemingly, in the classroom, but really the course happens in the participants" life.

Last night I didn"t sleep, though in bed, lights turned off, until 3 am because I was pondering this. I was pondering talking to an ex teacher of mine, of my favorite courses I have ever done in Landmark in my nearly 30 years of participating there.


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Are you a person or are you a role? Are you a person or are you an ego?

What does it mean about you what you know and what you don"t know? or how much you know...

It means nothing about you. And yet we all pretend to know stuff... stuff we don"t know. Stuff we can"t know.

It is, to me, the most counter intuitive behavior, but I must be a freak, because I would never pretend to know something I don"t know.

There must be a mistaken belief that if you know something you are better. Smarter.

This is one of the detrimental results of living on the Tree of Knowledge, where you don"t enjoy life, where you don"t experience fulfillment, love, happiness, because it is impossible to experience on the Tree of Knowledge.
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How hard can it be? said Father Brown as he was grinding the car"s transmission...

Countries, people, soul corrections, have different attitudes to doing things. ((Note: I do not recommend the books, programs, etc. on the pictures... they are actually illustrate what you don"t want to believe... ok?))

Hungary (country), Finish What you Start (soul correction), England (country, ethnicity), especially, have an attitude of "How hard can it be?"

And they fancy themselves all-knowing, all-expert at everything.

My brother calls this the "do it yourself" culture.

And utter disrespect for people with experience, education, expertise. Or for skills, expertise, experience, and learning.

I worked as an architect in Hungary, for 11 years. Every client knew everything better. They considered me their guy who puts the stamp to their plan so they can get a building permit.

My brother was in a different profession, and his experience was the same: no humility, no sense of what it takes to actually be good at something, to see things fully.
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