Showing posts with label habits. Show all posts
Showing posts with label habits. Show all posts

Sunday, July 22, 2018

You want a better life? Want to avoid a life of quiet desperation? Resignation? Here is your path...

70% of your life is made up of the things you do every day... your habits. The remaining 30% is what you don"t have control over.


Most programs you can buy make up what to teach. Given that the average truth value of programs is around 2%, what they teach must come untried, untested, and altogether not true.

Tai"s approach (Tai Lopez, 67 steps) was different. He looked at, primarily, billionaires, secondarily at famous scientists or other authors.

The truths he gleaned from billionaires: 30% truth value, the truths he gleaned from authors: 10% truth value. Hm, interesting.

Where does the difference come from?

Most people speak from their minds, test their theories using test subjects instead of themselves. So their published results are rarely any good.


On the other hand, billionaires test their theories in action, and if the theory proves itself to be very useful, they make it a habit.

Most people, whether they are in my 67 steps coaching program or not, consider the course a learning experience. But learning is all mind-stuff, and I really don"t care what you know unless your actions become different.

You need to make the learning instinctual... Instinctual is another word for habit.

So the 67 steps coaching can be called a habit building program.


In this youtube video the dude represents the most important element:
it takes time to install a habit.

Weeks, sometimes months. A new habit performed with flaws is s flawed habit, worse than useless: it is harmful.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tZw8tnz-uv8

The second principle, in changing or installing habits is
leaving no backdoor open.

Most people are wishy washy, and their word is worth nothing.
Often, the difference between a successful installation of a habit and an unsuccessful one is the words themselves.

Dr. Glenn Livingston, in the video I show in a previous article says it best: the words need to show definite intention.

Another example is the 12 steps programs, where the principle is "one day at a time".
Building habits will show you your mettle, will really show you who you are.

If you are an addict with weak personality, you need to, probably stick with the one day at a time. Glenn Livingston method woks for me best: Never... ever! or "so help me god"... and then I very rarely fall off the wagon, if ever.

There is a science to changing habits.

All new habits replace some old habits... And old habits are strong... You are a click-whirr machine... and you need to build yourself to create a new "whirr", so to say.

But before we get to how to do that, let me point out, that the dude in the youtube video did something that he didn"t say:
He first stopped leaks of energy.

The new habits, each, was designed to plug in leaks and instead of leaking energy, give you energy. The energy you feel when you start your day early is not new energy: it is energy that you have been leaking.

Same with your sedentary lifestyle, chasing some agenda every single moment, not having time for building relationships, exhausting your glycogen (your will power) early in the day, and being jerked by your desires ((Learn the secrets of success from those who built their own empires from scratch. You can try adopting the habits of super rich people and see how it will help you save money.
  • Successful people are rarely night owls; they go to bed and wake up quite early.


So this was the first habit I decided to take on. By the end of the first week, I noticed that I was able to do way more before noon than I could ever do during the whole day. One more week into the experiment I started waking up completely well-rested and excited to start a new day.
  • Self-made successes swear by exercising every day for at least 30 minutes. After just 10 days, it already became a habit. I became more concentrated and calmer.

  • If meditating helps successful people stay on top of their game, it should help me out too.

  • Networking is like currency for successful people.

  • A lot of successful people (like Steve Jobs, for instance) keep a super minimalistic approach to fashion, often wearing the same outfit every day.

  • Truly smart and successful people control their expenses and don’t spend their money on useless things.))


I live with those habits.

There are a lot more habits you can learn from billionaires... so the longer you consider that your 67 steps program is about building habits that build a life you love and live it powerfully, the more powerfully you can live. And I am there for you to do it.

Same, by the way, with The Science of Getting Rich Coaching... thinking and acting in the Certain Way... that program is also a habit building program.

The accountability program: ditto.

T. Harv Eker said, famously, that becoming a multi-millionaire is not about the millions, not about the money.

It is about becoming the kind of person who can become a millionaire.


Hordes of people visit my "The vibration of money" post of mine. Obviously they don"t know that becoming a "match to the vibration of money" means: they need to become a new, different person.
And what makes you who you are today is your habits. Habitual thinking, habitual relating, habitual attitudes, habitual actions. Your habits. All your habits.

The reason you lose every penny when you inherit your money, or win big in the casino or in the lottery, is that who you are is still the guy before you got all that money.
Money doesn"t change who you are, your habits do.

Your character flaws, your clueless and self-centered way to relate to the world will keep you small and the same, or often in a downward spiral.

You are as young as you"ll ever be.

If you want a different future, start changing yourself into a person who will have a different future.

You can. The question is: will you?

And there is a little known secret that I learned from Charles Duhigg"s book: The Power of Habit

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=szgoDIkimNU
To look for the trigger...the trigger right before the habit.

It is not always easy, but you"ll get the hang of it if you stick with it.

Unless you get the trigger, chances that you"ll be able to change the habit are suddenly reduced to 5%. The biggest issue is that you haven"t brought consciousness to the habit... you are vague, wishful, and probably intentionally "approximately". Or convoluted. Or conman-like: deceptive. Or unwilling to take responsibility: a victim.

This is how you live your life, because how you do anything is how you do everything.


This character defect will eat your lunch... so you need to start beating it first. Bring clarity, commitment, precision, simplicity, honesty, and ownership to your intentions.

This will be the linchpin. You do this "taming" work, wrestling your bad habit under you higher self"s control through individual small successes.


You cannot do it alone... unless, of course, your integrity score is already above 30%.

You may not even do it even if you are working with me... because wiggling out of unpleasant is your habit... your TLB is too low.

So as you can see, it is a wholistic job to change your life. It"s challenging... But it"s worth it. At least every student or client who managed to tackle the habits with my help says so.

And so do I... I have changed my habits, and I am much much much better for it.

But make sure you know that it takes time...

Sunday, October 18, 2015

More on stupid/smart


Every success proves nothing. It can be luck, it can be accident, it can be smarts... you can"t be sure.

I am an architect by trade... and all my life as an architect I was wondering if I was talented. I could never say for certain. I could win contests, I could win awards, talent is not proven by them.

Finally I gave it up and sighed a sigh of freedom and relief.

You are the same way about being smart... or whatever is your issue. (Some people have an issue with being liked, loved, valued, respected, etc. But I think everyone has some issue with smarts. I could be wrong...)

My recommendation is that you consider the Forrest Gump saying: Stupid is as the stupid does... i.e. the only stupid thing you can do is not judge accurately what you need to see to make a good decision.

If you rush, or already know... the action is stupid, and that"s that.

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#Raiseyourvibration

Intellect, iq, smarts, intelligence... and the ability to raise your vibration...


We need to have a conversation about intellect, iq, smarts, intelligence... and the ability to raise your vibration...

There IS a connection.

You have what you have... as much or as little as you do.

Just like in everything, how you use what you have that matters.

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#attitudes

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

The cruise ship that got caught in the storm


Sometimes I know what I want to talk to you about, and yet I don"t quite know what to say, I don"t quite know how to say it.

One such thing is your relationship to money.

I have been watching people and their spending habits for 30 years.

Either myself, or my clients have always made a living when you, people, considered your (discretionary?) income sufficiently secure to spend it.

In the middle of the month, when most credit card bills are due: no one spends any money, except a rare individual.

It wouldn"t be an issue if this were the same across the world, but it isn"t.

People in other countries are not living from credit card bill to credit card bill.



So, I didn"t know how to address this, what to teach, what exactly to say. Then I saw this video clip of this cruise ship caught in a storm...

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Tuesday, September 15, 2015

Money... grow it... Part 2... Inventory


Most people start pretty much anything with what they want. That is the starting point, that is also, most of the time, the context. ((The context is a statement of why you are doing what you are doing. ))

But it is a default context, and it is not empowering. ((

When something is empowering, it gives you a sense of real power to do what you intend to do.
When something is not empowering, it is just there, but no assistance is gotten from it.
When something is disempowering, it takes away your power.

))

If you are the alpha and the omega of things, if everything is about you, then you are going to be wretched, or if you already are wretched, you are going to stay that way, unless things start to be NOT about you.

The job is to get out of the default context and into something empowering.
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#Money

Thursday, July 9, 2015

If you have a problem keeping your word... Consistently


I am removing people from the Reclaim program, left and right, for inactivity. If you don"t have at least one written coaching conversation with me a week, you are put on the "to be removed" list. Why? Because if you are not doing the work you shouldn"t be in the program.

If you are not coming for the coaching... then I have a good idea how your life looks.
How you do anything is how you do everything.
This was probably one of the most shocking things I learned in self-development, right up there with "you think you see everything, but you only see what you have already seen".

Both insights were upsetting, and started to break up the world-view, the mythical, magical world view, that "I can do anything I put my mind to."
I realized that everything, for me, meant, maybe, 1% of the things...
Some of us seem to have no ability to sustain any activity without an outside have to, need to, or want to.

I, for example, cannot be trusted as far as eating habits go. There seems to be no correlation between my conscious decisions and my behavior. I may be able to sustain a desirable behavior for a day, a week, a few weeks... maybe.

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Monday, February 16, 2015

NEW: Pursuit of happiness? or Noticing happiness?

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