How context can unify a fragmented life and make it a seamless life?

It is time to rewrite the book, Truth versus Falsehood, on muscle testing, measuring for truth, and other practices that most everybody uses to cover up that they don"t know. To cover up that they are amateurs out to get your money.

So who has to write it? Me... and I don"t like to write long things: I am a really short article type person.

People tell me that you write long things the way you write short things... but I don"t know if this is true.

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What is health?

A German who escaped just before all the Jews were hoarded into concentration camps in Germany, came to the United States.

His name was Robert Hartman.

His experience with evil uniquely qualified him to set out to deal with the age long question: what is evil, what is good?

He took on himself to define good... the strait and narrow. Many philosophers failed in that: after all the strait and narrow is delineated by the land that encloses it, not by itself...

But he succeeded.

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Yesterday I sent out a request to my subscribers asking for

a health question that you have answered to yourself and you live that way
one or more actual health questions that concern you, with regards to your health or your loved ones" health
Please let me know if you go to the doctor regularly... it will let me know something about you, that I"d like to know.

It is a holiday weekend and I got surprisingly quite a few answers to my request.

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That which does not kill us, makes us stronger

A few years ago I lost my sense of smell.

Then I changed my diet and the sense of smell came back.

Surprisingly I often smell things that didn"t seem to be there... Bringing up memories of the times I smelled the same... good smell, bad smell, neutral smell.

It"s hot here, unseasonably hot, and to accommodate it I am taking cold showers and I am eating differently.
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Attachments are like snakes you have hanging from you

I am trying to organize the information I provide people when they ask for their vibration, or whether they have attachments or not.

On a lark I measured if the student in the previous article had attachments. She felt so imprisoned... there must be a reason.

To my surprise she has 10 attachments.

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What does a robin and you have in common?

I am watching a robin trying to pull a string loose on my third story deck. He is persistent.

He was here yesterday, and he was here the day before.

The thread is long. I used it to pull up stuff from the ground, and left it there.

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Build your house on rock: Starting from what is, instead of a delusion

My disastrous conversation with the zealous Christian on the other end of the phone opened my eye to something I could not see clearly before.

What I saw is where religion, the popularized version, and where modern spiritual teacherdom overlap and join forces to dupe you.

Before I start:

does your experience of yourself match these principles:
--you are already perfect.
--You are already divine, you just don"t know it.

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Against self criticism and the 4-day weekend

One of the rarest and most functional capacities is the capacity to allow... without resistance.

Resistance uses a lot of energy, mostly the energy that you need to become successful, to do the right thing, to be well, and to treat people, including yourself, right.

Resistance is normal, but harmful. Just like self-criticism: normal but harmful, with no upside.

Upside is the benefit you gain from a harmful or painful action or experience.

Neither resistance, nor self-criticism, self-judgment have any upside, only downside.

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Why is rape so traumatic, while sex is so commonplace?

Why is rape so traumatic, while sex is so commonplace?
Why is slave labor so traumatic, while working is so natural to us.

If you have ever been pinned down, not able to free yourself...
If you have ever been forced to do something you didn"t want to do... anything...

...your trust of life, your trust in people, your confidence has dealt a big blow.

Recovering is not guaranteed, and the wound can be torn open again quite easily.

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What is the vibration of being right?

One of the most desired possibilities, one of the most desired life anyone can have is a life where you are free to be yourself, warts and all.

It is human nature to be self-critical, it is because of our ambivalent nature of feeling everything and the opposite.

There is no one on the planet who is all good. It is not possible. It is a physical impossibility. It"s unnatural.

You have to be good and you have to be bad, and you have to have high thoughts and you have to have low thoughts. Actions: you have a choice about. But feelings, thoughts... no choice.

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Osho on Knowledge and Knowing

ASCENDING TO THE HIGH SEAT, DOGEN ZENJI SAID: "ZEN MASTER HOGEN STUDIED WITH KEISHIN ZENJI.
ONCE KEISHIN ZENJI ASKED HIM, JOZA, WHERE DO YOU GO?"
HOGEN SAID. "I AM MAKING PILGRIMAGE AIMLESSLY."
KEISHIN SAID, "WHAT IS THE MATTER OF YOUR PILGRIMAGE?"
HOGEN SAID, "I DON"T KNOW."
KEISHIN SAID, "NOT KNOWING IS THE MOST INTIMATE."
HOGEN SUDDENLY ATTAINED GREAT ENLIGHTENMENT."
ZEN IS JUST ZEN. There is nothing comparable to it. It is unique -- unique in the sense that it is the most ordinary and yet the most extraordinary phenomenon that has happened to human consciousness. It is the most ordinary because it does not believe in knowledge, it does not believe in mind. It is not a philosophy, not a religion either. It is the acceptance of the ordinary existence with a total heart, with one"s total being, not desiring some other world, supra-mundane, supra-mental.

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When something isn"t working consider that it"s because there is something that you don"t know.

When something isn"t working consider that it"s because there is something that you don"t know.

Whether the something that isn"t working is money, love, health, business, school... the answer is always "there is something you don"t know."

The brilliance of this statement that turned a broke loser, a serial nebbich, Harv Eker into a multimillionaire T. Harv Eker. The brilliance is that because you don"t know what it is that you don"t know... you need to open yourself up to looking. At everything. And a lot... Expose yourself to seeing stuff. He did it, and he is now rich. This one sentence, this one statement, this one habit.

This isn"t what he teaches, because this statement gives you all the power, and you don"t buy stuff when you have the power... He is so rich because no one understand this statement... But why?

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What else... Where else... A spiritual practice

One of my "favorite" practices is this:

I find out that I misunderstood something. It cost me... It always does.

I ask the question: I wonder what else I misunderstand? I wonder what else I misread? I wonder where else I am sure I understand and I don"t.

Or I make a mistake... Where else do I make a mistake like this? Or this same mistake...

Because how you do anything is how you do everything!

I sent out an email last night asking for people who haven"t raised their hand to work with me yet, to raise their hands if they are potentials to work with me.

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Osho: The art of walking the tightrope

In this series of Osho talks he examines stories from different ancient cultures. This is an excellent companion to what I teach. Enjoy!



ONCE, WHEN THE HASIDIM WERE SEATED TOGETHER
IN ALL BROTHERLINESS,
PIPE IN HAND, RABBI ISRAEL JOINED THEM.
BECAUSE HE WAS SO FRIENDLY THEY ASKED HIM,
"TELL US, DEAR RABBI, HOW SHOULD WE SERVE GOD?"



HE WAS SURPRISED AT THE QUESTION,
AND REPLIED, "HOW SHOULD I KNOW?"

BUT THEN HE WENT ON TO TELL THEM THIS STORY..
THERE WERE TWO FRIENDS OF THE KING,
AND BOTH WERE PROVED GUILTY OF A CRIME.

SINCE HE LOVED THEM THE KING WANTED TO SHOW THEM MERCY,
BUT HE COULD NOT ACQUIT THEM BECAUSE EVEN A KING"S WORD
CANNOT PREVAIL OVER THE LAW.

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The importance of knowing what you want

Knowing what you want to achieve, is one thing that is missing in you. Another name for that is called "mental representation" of what you want to achieve.

Mental representation is a detailed picture, so detailed and so tangible, that you can pinpoint where reality is deviating from it... and how.

Mental representation is a spiritual capacity that sits squarely on a lot of other spiritual capacities, so obviously it is not part of the first seven most people have, not even part of the first 13, many professionals have, not even part of the first 20, that doctors have. And, believe it or not, it is not even part of the first 30, that most millionaires, billionaires have.

Bill Gates doesn"t have it. Warren Buffet has it.
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On suppression... the cost of positive thinking

Whoever thought that the well-meaning positive thinking will become a prison and a sentence to a "no joy life" for most who become a "practitioner" of it, about 80% of humanity at this time.

Whether you know it or not, your powers of comprehension depend on your powers of distinguishing.

In the old est training, the trainers came to the room on the first day blasting: "for you everything is the same as everything else..." and they were as accurate as accurate they would be today: you can"t tell your ass from your elbow.

This is true for everybody, including yours truly... the difference is only in degrees. No one is exempt from it.

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Time to reinvent yourself as someone you can love

You live in a world of your own design... Time to reinvent yourself as someone you can love

Your own design is like a filter you look through. You can"t see the filter, just like you don"t see the window unless you touch it...
A filter is like a pair of glasses...
A filter is also like a pair of glasses... They can be dark tinted, they can be yellow, green... and the world occurs differently with each pair of glasses. You can"t see that it"s the glasses that make the world look the way the world looks to you... unless you can take it off...

You can see only the ripples. The indication that there is something there...

It"s the ripples that we don"t like... we don"t like the things we do, the things we think, the things we feel. We want to change the ripples. But the ripples are the surface of the iceberg... hidden, invisible...
But you can"t change something that you don"t know. You can"t change something that you don"t see.
We all want to reinvent ourselves, our world. Because what we have now is not working too well, not serving us too well. We can"t have what we want, and we suffer.

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From my correspondence: Astrological Signs, Are they preventing us from changing lanes?

I stumbled on this old post... and it is exactly perfect for the "What"s the truth about you" workshops, so I thought I republish it...

Question:
Hi Sophie, I have a question. I would like to know your advice. I recently found an astrological site with natal chart sun decrees interpretations which are scaringly accurate.

I bought your Effortless Abundance Book, three days ago, I do believe one can get much more. My doubt is, can we change lanes? concerning those astrological imprints for a better life?

All the best,
My Answer:
it all depends on your mindset.

if you are trying to change lanes to fix anything: the answer is no.
if you manage to not make anything wrong in the present or in the past!!! not easy, then yes

astrology and such are the mind"s effort to understand the world so it can control it.

the world can"t be controlled, moreover when you want control for safety etc. you are making something wrong.

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What determines how you and your life turn out?

What is the mechanism of the machine that you are, that is used to define your actions, your moods, your attitude?

As I said in a few previous articles, your actions, your thoughts, your moods, your attitudes will be correlated with what you see.

The two sides:

what you see, or the way the world occurs to you

your actions, your thoughts, your moods, your attitudes: your world




the two sides are like the front of the hand and the back of the hand, connected, inseparable, but yet distinct.
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Can you change your money DNA, your love DNA, your DNA?

I"ve participated in Landmark Education"s programs, on different levels, for 26 years.

In all of those years, there were two sentences that made a difference:

Your actions are correlated to the occurring world. Meaning: your actions depend on what you see. Not your mind... on what you see.

You live in a world of your own design.

The two sentences are intimately connected, though I learned them 19 years apart.

There is a sudden proliferation of programs that claim that they change your DNA... in the area of money, love, or some other concern that you have.

Their truth value is 0%, their attractiveness to you, given that you don"t know how a human machine works, is 100%.
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You live in a world of your own design

You live in a world of your own design. And you create the world with your beingness.

We think that beingness is all good... But beingness is neutral. It doesn"t take sides. There is a beingness for everything, including greed, jealousy, and puniness... if that"s a word.

But whatever that beingess is, when you realize it, when you pinpoint it, you"ll immediately see that it actually created your current reality, and if you don"t do something about it... it will create the rest of your life that same...

But as a human you have access to creating any kind of beingness... you have difficulty in holding onto it. But yet, you can start. Any time, any day, any age. And increase your capacity to hold onto the beingness, honor it as yourself.

One of the beingnesses we are really familiar with is BEING judgmental. Or the flip side of it (they always go together, like the two sides of the coin!) BEING judged.

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The most accurate predictor of success is...

I am quite unflappable...

But enough is enough... and I am a little flapped... lol.

I can feel the corners of my mouth pointing downward, and I am pouting a little.

I screwed up... I did all the things I tell you not to do... lol...

I alternate between laughing out loud and pouting. Actually quite funny. Not dead.

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The natural law that prevents you from growing

What is the natural law that prevents you from having human being capacities while preserving the seed of right and wrong.

Just like the seed needs to die, before the plant can grow, a new version of humanity depends on the seed dying.

The seed level characteristics of the new version of humanity that prevent evolution are all behaviors, attitudes that are based in scarcity.

How do you recognize scarcity?

There are many, all fear based, but one behavior I just recently discovered, that in fact the behavior comes from a scarcity way of being.

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How could you become ready to grow?

I am using Rob Brezsny"s words here... maybe his English communicates better than mine:
ANTI-INSTRUCTIONS

Exaggerate your flaws till they turn into virtues Pretend your wounds are exotic tattoos Refuse the gifts that infringe on your freedom Shun sacred places that fill you with boredom Keep in mind it"s bad luck to be superstitious The official story"s always fictitious Pump up your karma with idiot laughter The promised land"s here, not in some hereafter

We are searching for the answers so we can destroy them and dream up better questions

Here are two attitudes that will be useful, invaluable, and mandatory if you want to grow through my programs

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The poisonous tree that you are... and what you can do about it...

“Nothing in life is to be feared, it is only to be understood. Now is the time to understand more, so that we may fear less.” —Marie Curie, Our Precarious Habitat

The "What"s The Truth About You" workshop series is kicking off this afternoon.

As usual I haven"t done any preparation: I never do. I like my life, my teaching fluid. Freezing it would be to ignore guidance, stop growing, and start becoming a sculpture on a pedestal.

I slept well last night. I had a ton of guiding dreams. All about what I am trying to do in the workshop this afternoon: take you over the threshold between human and human being.

Being human means being a poisonous tree.

You weren"t born that, you became that. You are poisonous in predictable ways, along predictable lines, predicted by your soul correction.

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Atheists are the most spiritual...

I have a friend who I call a few times a year, and then we talk a lot for a few weeks, and then not for months at a clip.

I"ve called him the other day, and now we are talking again.

Today he asked me a question that put me in touch with something I buried deep...

He asked me "What is Energized Water?"

I wanted to find out what he thinks energized water is. And that conversation lead from the pristine spring he got his drinking water from when he was a kid, through the hot springs of Lourdes, the healing waters, to a realization, that because I am an atheist, I have been not allowing myself to be moved.

I wrote notes while we spoke. This is what I wrote...

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What"s the truth about you? Your health

Trace minerals... what do you need to know


I have been doing these 90 essential nutrient evaluations for about a month now.

Yesterday I had some time and tested a few people I know, clients, readers, friends, and emailed them my findings... at least the numbers.

I sent an email to one of my clients, and she wrote back arguing. I had a typo in the email... by mistake I wrote that she had 90 of the 90 essentials missing... obvious typo.

But yet, there is a question that she didn"t ask, and I want to ask it for her, so you can learn something.

Trace minerals are needed in higher quantities when you are under stress.

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You can have anything but not at the same time

Life, happiness, well-being, prosperity is achieved and maintained only on a narrow and hemmed-in path (the strait), the opposite of what you wish it were, the opposite you see others have, the opposite you see on television, on ads.

You have been duped. You have swallowed the lie, hook, line and sinker and you have been paying the price.

Your life is empty, purposeless, meaningless, and you have nothing to look forward to.

Last night I was pondering, instead of sleeping, ((which is quickly becoming my new habit, I mean not sleeping,)) what is the behavioral, emotional age of all humans.

I came up with seven. Seven years old.

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How dead are you? If your life is not a roller coaster, then you are not alive.

What you are, instead alive, is a walking dead, resigned, and settled for the little that, it seems, life has to offer. To you. You see others, seemingly happy, seemingly alive, and you feel regret, shame, and envy.

Your heart, where rain forests and colorful birds, and life used to live, is devastated. The lush rain forests gone, the birds gone, life: gone.

Your ups and downs are tiny, not like a roller coaster. They are about money, or noise, or that you are fat, or skinny, or that you are aging. Irrelevant circumstances.

Maybe it is about someone being sick, maybe dying... but that is also a circumstance. Storm in a teacup.

Your pain is the pain of not having lived.

But...

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Updated: Learning lessons the hard way or the easy way: choose

You can make the same mistake, over and over, expecting different results.
You can eventually learns from your mistakes, but you insist on making them a few times...
You can learn from other people"s mistakes.

I am not talking here about your IQ? About ability?

I am talking about behavior. Behavior that comes from your world view, your self-view, and the number of the capacities you are wielding...

To consider doing things differently needs a modicum of humility. Modicum means: a little bit. Most people have none... Just watch a 3-year old: "Don"t tell me what to do! I know!" yells the little boy... and they freeze into that attitude.

Humility is a capacity. Without some humility there in no curiosity, there is not real learning, there is no experimentation, thought or otherwise, there is not growth.

If you are a fatalist or determinist, ((religious?)) you probably have no humility.
If you find the juice in life in being a victim: you probably want no humility.

Thought experiments are tools for growth, tools for evolution...  ((Occasionally you can do the thought experiment in an illustrated form, like a mind map, or in the case of military: on the war map. You need less intelligence to do it in an illustrated fashion, and the accuracy of the thought experiment is very much in question... You can be seduced by the physical activity of writing and drawing... feeling really smart...))

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Learning lessons the hard way... or the easy way... Part 2

The brilliance in the movie, "It"s a wonderful life" is that the angel creates a thought experiment what the world would be like if our hero hadn"t been born.

Thought experiments are uniquely human: animals don"t do thought experiments.

The minimum intelligence required to create a thought experiment is 70... and I am not talking about IQ measured intelligence, I am talking about overall intelligence.

The average intelligence in the world is 50... But all my site"s visitors qualify.

So let"s look at that movie and see what is a thought experiment:

If X were different, in the movie take out the main character... and then look at different elements that you know how they are... the marriage, the loan bank, etc. The amount of happiness, the amount of difference.

Now let"s look at different examples of thought experiments, all in the area of my work of becoming someone who loves life, and lives it successfully.

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Is Tai Lopez 67 steps a fraud or have you been defrauded? the bad news...

I have been pondering something that has been really bothering me. I have diagnosed it 90% accurately, but I have no idea how to change it.

And that is the cultural shift towards avoiding work.

I first woke up to it when my favorite teacher, Robert Plank, called it a four letter word, and avoided using it.

The weird and disorienting fact was this: Robert loved getting things done. Actually really loved it. So it was the word, somehow, that appalled him. He lives in California... I thought maybe it had something to do with it.

But since then I realized that it is all over the place.

The media teaches us that work is ugly, or not necessary, or if you are smart you don"t have to work... and today any type of work is included. Even school work...
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Are mind movies and vision boards useful? Are they mental representation?

Yes. Mind movies and vision boards are a mental representation of some fancy that you have... creative or not so creative visualization. Low vibration, low consciousness, wishful thinking stuff. ((It is created for people and bought by people who have no business to use it, because it only increases their misery, their sense of inferiority. Why? Because mind movies and vision boards are based on a false theory, that if you really really really want something, then it will move towards you. But as an empath, I can tell you with certainty, that exactly the opposite is true. The really wanting is actually blocking what you want, it is blocking life force, and keeps you unable to act on what you want... mostly because you have no idea what to do, because a mind movie shows you no path to achieve what you want.))

So what is the difference between a blueprint and a vision board/mind movie?
What is the difference between an action plan and a mind movie?

The main difference is how realistic the "dream" is... how much of the groundwork is done and already in place.

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Why do spiritual capacities turn off when they turn off? Do you have the correct answer?

Needing it

I have a student whose company moves earth. That is their business. Parking lots, roads, leveling the ground.

Unless you have a clear picture, a clear and accurate mental representation of what a job entails, you can"t bid successfully on it: you may lose your shirt if your mental representation was off. ((The doctor"s mental representation of the state of my injured ear was neither clear nor accurate, and therefore his suggestions to me were way off the mark. This was the topic of my article yesterday...))

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Living Dangerously: The habits that keep us feling safe, small, bankrupt, and feeling dead UPDATED

I had a one-on-one session with a student yesterday.

Sometimes I notice something "out"... something that doesn"t fit the picture, and just like a good detective, I latch onto it, and watch it, and if I can, I use it to unravel the mystery someone"s life is.

But sometimes it takes a while to really identify what it is that doesn"t fit... it is just a hunch, it is just a feeling... like the faint scent of death for a search dog...

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If you can"t move from A to B... The Too Direct Approach To Anything

I just finished watching a long (2 and a half hour long!) webinar, and one of the phrases that I want to borrow from there, is this: it"s not you, it"s your approach that makes you get less out of life than you could.

One of these approaches I see often that rob you of success is: The Too Direct Approach To Things

One of the mistakes, one of the false beliefs, one of the erroneous ideas your paradigm gives you is to attempt to get from point A to point B through the straight, direct route.

But... No Problem Can Be Solved From The Same Level Of Consciousness That Created It ((What does No Problem Can Be Solved From The Same Level Of Consciousness That Created It mean... It means that the thinking, the vibration, the consciousness, the attitude that cause the problem in the first place cannot find a solution that is not the next, bigger problem. In a way of a metaphor: if you create i.e. see a problem on the pedestrian level, you cannot solve it on the same level, because you will only see from that level what you saw before. You need to elevate yourself at least to the second floor level of consciousness, so you can see more, more of the picture, not just what you saw before. In my programs, with my activators, many people can move to a higher level of observation, so their problems disappear as a problem, or they can find a solution that will not bite them in the rear end.))

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Why you should not trust your doctor, your nutritionist, your muscle testing...

Mental Representation... an incredibly useful distinction and an incredibly rare capacity

I loved the book "Peak, the new science of expertise", until almost the very end. Then I got angry.

Somewhere around 90% of the book I noticed that he uses an expression, a phrase, that means something to him, the author, but meant nothing to me.

Now I know how you feel when you read my articles...

The expression he used was "Mental Representation".

He never quite explained what it was, and my mind was screaming "bloody murder" for a few days.

I felt it was important, I felt that without that the whole book is just letters and lines, and useless words in random order. I knew.

I fired up my hunting dog part, and instructed it to find it... it must be there, even if "I" can"t see it.

Dreams that fell apart the moment I opened my eyes, glimpses that I didn"t quite catch... maddening, if you ask me.

Then a glimpse I could hold onto.

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Life is a lot like traveling by train...

Life is like being in a train: you can look out on the left side, the right side, the back, the front... but it won"t change that you are on a train that will arrive to its destination, no matter where you look.

Most of us live this way most of the time.

We do our jobs, we do our relationships, we do our projects, we do our lives this way.

Fulfilling? No. Enjoyable? It depends...

Ultimately we are plagued by a nagging sense that we are out of control, that no matter what we do won"t change anything. Some of us feel doomed. Some of us fight it tooth and nail... with bloody broken teeth and broken nails to prove it.
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Who or What is calling the shot in your life? Commitment - new thoughts, new experiences

This is a continuation of the c-word article... and the getting ready for a breakthrough article. Read them first or this article won"t make sense completely



Displacement of your commitment:
As I have written before, the "universe" or the aspect of you that conspires and is in kahutz with the Universe, will put up obstacles in your path, so instead of doing stuff that"s consistent with your commitment, you are now on a detour path: handling your obstacles.

Alex, a friend of mine, is dealing with his server and his websites being hacked... a moment after he made a commitment to growth. So he feels forced to deal with that, instead of following the path he set for himself.

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One of the most useful things I have ever done for myself

One of the most useful things I have ever done is this:

I would find a mentor. I offered my services to do whatever needed done. More often than not I learned useful skills through the doing. Skills that I needed for myself. And while I was around the mentor, I could learn from him.

Life needs a lot of skills to do life successfully. The opportunities to learn those skills is sparse... Because skills are not knowledge, even if they are mental, intellectual skills: they are the ability to do, to perform a skill... not to understand it.

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You have to get ready for a breakthrough? WTF? Why? Can"t you just get one any time?

One of my students had a breakthrough on the Monday webinar.

To me it came out of the blue... nothing seemed to be building up to it.

I got intensely curious. After all, when you don"t or can"t acknowledge the "real" source of a breakthrough, then you can"t sustain the result the breakthrough. It looks like divine intervention: you are not causing it, some "entity" does... and all you can do is pray for rain...

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You don"t know what you don"t know and You don"t even know there is something to know

First off: knowledge is grossly overrated.

Why? Because knowledge without application, without skills is useless. It won"t make you money, it won"t make you slim, good company, or a better driver.

We all grew up with the kind of education that emphasizes knowing, and we are all worse off for it.

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Your soul correction and commitment: What is the connection?

As I have said before, soul correction is a set of character defects, specific to your soul correction, that you need to overcome in a lifetime.

Track record through written history shows, that unless someone has guidance, expert guidance, they will not overcome the character defects: it is as if the character defect protects itself.

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More on toughening up... and an exercise

More on toughening up...

When I first did the Landmark Forum (actually it was called The Forum in 1987) I remember, distinctly, experiencing, for the first time, that I am not alone.

There was so much misery shared in that room, that it caused a kind of comradery ((special friendship, or experience of being in battle together, that have experienced the crucible of combat together)), I wasn"t familiar with.

I remember thinking: If I am not alone, then it is not me... then it is something shared...

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Doing your soul correction, shifting your state of being, toughening up

What is the easiest method to shift someone"s state of being?

We already know. Children, when they cry because they hurt themselves, can be brought out of crying by directing their attention to something more interesting, more engaging.

We use it in the Soaring Method.

I use it in almost every coaching conversation I have with people who are stuck in some unproductive state of being, like sadness, despair, maybe even resistance.

State of being, mode of being, beingness... all are outside of what you call self-awareness...

Self-awareness on the level of human is all physical and emotional.

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Don"t Let What You Can"t Do Stop You From Doing What You Can

Another old article revived... Oldie but goodie.

I woke up this morning with despair in my heart. No reason, just the mood. I stepped on the scale, and I put on half a pound yesterday. It was raining cats and dogs, but the temperature will be normal later today.

Must be Dark Side transmission...

I read some emails, answered them, but didn"t feel like working.

I took some Heaven on Earth Remedy.

I watched some videos. One had a comment under it: "Don"t Let What You Can"t Do Stop You From Doing What You Can"

I took some more Heaven on Earth.

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Updated: A Time To Give Thanks. But To Who? For What? Mundane Or Significant? Habit And Duty Or Privilege?

I wrote this article five years ago. Sometimes the way to get ahead is to go back five years and start from there.

Recently the readership of this blog has changed, not to my liking. I"d like to return to how it was five years ago, when people with sincere desire to change visited, and asked for help.

OK, here is the old article... hopefully all typos are corrected.



Thanksgiving: a time to give thanks. But to who? For What? Mundane or Significant? Habit and Duty or Privilege?

In searching what I am really thankful for, I went through all the things I could be thankful for.

The air I breathe? the fact that I woke up this morning? the sunshine on this winter day on my window... hey it"s so strong I had to lower the blinds! lol

Or the roasted beet salad with goat cheese (yumm) I am making as part of Thanksgiving dinner?

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What if you have something blocking you from growing? The Seven Boulders principle

Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what"s blocking the way of getting there.

Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked... Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.

So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can"t see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life... without specifying what it is.

The goal is to see the first boulder that blocks your view, that blocks your path.

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Knowledge, Strategy, Execution, is that enough for success?

I lead a workshop on Sunday. I had knowledge, I had strategy. I executed it. It was sloppy. What was missing?

I didn"t know. But "god" works in mysterious ways, the book I am reading has an answer that shows me what has been missing for me on Sunday and all my life.

The book, Peak, the new science of expertise, calls it Mental Representation.

Mental Representation is being able to see the finished product in your mind"s eye, and also see the process getting there, so you can anticipate missteps, and can correct, given that you know how it is, how it looks when it is perfect.

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Updated: So you want to feel special... how is it going for you?

So you want to feel special?

We are all special, if special means, as special as our thumbprint... But that is not special enough for you, is it?

You want to be SPECIAL... so you can be treated special... a special talent, outstanding, mind boggling, awesome, the best.

In this article I will shed light to an important phenomenon that we are all experiencing... the ITCH, that keeps us miserable, and the HORIZON that keeps us on track, sane, happy and always well.

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